Update/edit: hi everyone, thank you so much for all the advice and comments! After sleeping it off, coming back and reading through I really do think that it was abusive. He did text me this morning (just a “hi”) but I haven’t responded. I think I am going to break up with him, this has personally changed my view on oral pleasure and I really can’t even think about him right now without getting upset. Thank you for everything and all the comments, I seriously appreciate it!!!
Throwaway account because I don’t want it on my main, but basically what the title says. My boyfriend likes to hold my hair when I give him head, he likes to pull sometimes do and move my head (I know he does this because I’m not fast enough sometimes. I get that). However, I have told him multiple times before that he needs to be careful because I have thin hair and sometimes he gives me major headaches from banging my head around too much. He’s always been fairly understanding of this but last night it seems like he got a little too carried away since he pulled too naked on my head and ripped a chunk of my hair out. I stopped and cried my eyes out because it’s my hair!! And now it’s gone and I told him so!!! He told me he couldn’t help it because he got too “carried away in the moment” so he “couldn’t control the force he was going at”. I ended up going home and I haven’t heard from him since last night.
Luckily my stylist is willing to stay late tomorrow to help fix the spot, but I’m still feeling extremely emotional over what happened. I want to talk about it with him when I’m less upset but I honestly don’t know what to say other than “I fucking told you so”. Any advice on how to approach this?
TLDR; boyfriend ripped out my hair during blowjob. Hasn’t fully apologized and haven’t heard from him in 24 hours. How do I talk about it with him?