We’ve been dating for about a year. The other day, I showed up to his apartment exhausted because of work. I fell asleep on the couch when we were watching a movie. I woke up to him lifting me up—not roughly, just like you might with a really drunk person. He pushed me out the door without a word and locked it. I knocked on his door for about 5 minutes because I didn’t have my keys, wallet, or phone. He opened the door finally and said something like, “oh you’re awake now huh?” He was very upset because in his mind the falling asleep meant I didn’t respect him or his time. He’s very busy like me so we have little free time together which is true.
It’s a very silly small thing. He’s never acted like this before. But I still feel like he was over the line. I have tried to ask friends for advice but they don’t seem to really get why I found his behavior almost scary. All of them at the very least think he was having a bad day and that was the last straw. I was acting comfortable with him in my opinion, how long do I have to date someone before I’m allowed to take a nap around them?
Am I overreacting here for wanting an apology and for reconsidering things? If I were to bring this up to him what’s a way to do it without sounding petty?