My (31M) boyfriend says I’m (31F) too masculine and I don’t let him be a “man.”

I admit, I can have a strong personality and like “masculine” things according to him. Things like playing pool, studying engineering, and listening to comedy are some. I do like to voice my thoughts and don’t mind a debate. I’m a “modern woman”.

Anyways, he’s been ranting often about letting him “be a man” and to stop being so dominant. Small things like buying and carrying a 4 gallon water jug up to our apartment was a power move. Or doing things on my own is showing I don’t need him. It’s a bit much.

There’s something that just doesn’t let me be feminine around him because I feel like if I don’t take action, things either don’t get done or fall apart. He’s so fixated that he wants to be a “masculine man” in the relationship yet he’s the more emotionally unstable one, can’t support me financially, and irresponsible at times. If he wants to fulfill that “traditional male” role but doesn’t put the effort then how can I even support his ask?