My (35f) husband (30m) and I are no longer together, but it seems like he’s not interested in a divorce, despite having a new partner. Is he stringing me along?

I (35f) need some advice on a tricky situation with my ex-husband (30m). We've been married for 5 years and were best friends until things went sour a while back. I made a huge mistake and cheated on him, which led us to separate for a bit. We tried patching things up and living together again, but it didn't last. He started seeing someone else from work, and it seems like they're serious.

Now, we're still living together due to some legal stuff that's tying us down. He's mostly with his new girlfriend, but he still pops by our place now and then. Initially, I was devastated by the turn of events and made desperate attempts to win him back, even to the point of embarrassing myself in front of his mother, who offered harsh but perhaps warranted words of judgment. Eventually, I accepted the reality of our situation and threw myself into my work, resigning myself to the idea of moving on while he pursued his newfound romance.

But now, as we're getting closer to sorting out the legal stuff and us going our separate ways, I brought up the idea of divorce. Surprisingly, he didn't seem keen on it. He talked about our legal situation and said he wants to 'keep me safe'. He also mentioned he never wants to get married again.

This conflicting behavior has left me questioning his true intentions. Is he genuinely considering a separation or am I being strung along while he explores other options? I'm at a loss for what to do next and would appreciate any counsel or insights on how to navigate this delicate situation.

TLDR: Despite my ex-husband having a new girlfriend, he's hesitant about getting a divorce, citing our legal ties and his aversion to marriage. I'm not sure what he wants and need some guidance.