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Brother and I love each other very much. But he is the only boy, the baby, and the golden child of the family and so I'm used to kinda standing in his shade. But I've worked my ass off in med school and I would really like to attend my own graduation, but when I expressed that to my family (brother included), everyone got very upset for even considering attending my graduation in lieu of his wedding. And now I really don't know what to do..
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Date: March 9, 2023
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Jesus. That didn't even cross my mind!! That poor child.
How much sex could they have been having??
Is that your business? Move on.
To be honest I don't remember much of that night because I was pissed, all I remember is that I woke up with my best friend's sister, Abc, in my bed.
That doesn't sound like you were able to consent. If anything did happen you were raped. IANAL but you might want to look into that.
3 weeks later, on Christmas Day, Abc told me that she was pregnant.
Was she though?
As I said… what are you looking for here besides affirmation of a choice you have made. You want 100% agreement, get a puppy. YOu want a little bit of objective opinion, ask a human. You have made up your mind and that is fine. I don't envy you. All I'm saying is life is long and relationships evolve. It is easy to step away and just no deal with one another. Gives you options. But anyway. You know what to do. Have a nice day.
Probably was a life lesson for the brother though.
Sorry to hear that happened, but I think you handled it really well! This is great practice for having tough conversations in the future, and you did a great job!!
I’m working on it! I am just taking forever and the pressure to hurry up and do it is naked too. Idk why I take forever to do a simple thing.
Then why does a women talking to him make you so insecure you post about it. Why does a prostitute living at his old job make you assume he slept with them? Why did you give the mouse the cookie?
she’s 37 years old why does she have a snapchat at all? that’s a red flag in the first place.
Me too. Thank you.
Whatever is going on, this is not the person you want to be with. It's a massive incompatibility at best and lots of weird game-playing and manipulation at worst. It's time to move on and find someone that you can actually be happy with.
I've been treating it like that but I've seen that some men really enjoy it seemingly. Imma do it either way tho trust I care about her getting off more than my discomfort
It's not your friends place to have an opinion on this.
and I'll be over here praying he never touches anyone I love with a scalpel.
Nah, actually you should be praying he's the surgeon who operates on your loved ones. He's an ass, but he's an excellent surg resident and he'll be an excellent surgeon. That I am 100 percent sure of!
It sounds like a switch has flicked for her and now she sees you in a different way. The only thing to do is to discuss the situation and decide what the future holds for the two of you – while at it, discuss communication, since showing contempt because you don't get your own way isn't great.
Why the hell do you expect her to have an invasive procedure but you can’t have a simple one? That and you already have 3 kids. Why wouldn’t you get it done. You have more than enough kids.
OP Reading your updates I can tell you took the right decision, once again you tried to be yhe bigger person and offer her advice buy she is so focused into justifying her behavior that she is hurting herself and your family is only enabling this behavior.
You can took a horse to the water buy can't force it to drink, there is no more you can do to improve this situation and I better to remove yourself because they decided to turn you into the scapegoat instead of seeing who is the real POS here (your ex).
Time to focus on your own mental health and move on from them, purge your social media removing all the unverified contact and set your social.media to private, block them all except your brother and focus on your own happiness, ask your brother to please do not give you or give them updates about you or about them, you don't need this level of negativity in your life.
Hmmmm if you couldn’t take care of your first daughter, why did you have another one? And at 41?!?
What are you talking about?? THis is just like the episode of the Brady Bunch where Bobby had two dates on the same night and had to keep changing outfits. It ended hilariously.
He needs to be there to make decisions.
I hope you bought new locks. He’s a dick. Choose better next time.
Yes, it was miscellaneous talk. Honestly think it could have waited till the following morning. It was industry/work related.
Unless I'm missing something this guy just said he's an ass guy right? And that's made you insecure? If there's more then please clarify.
Honestly you gotta toughen up a bit, my gf has said she likes body types that aren't mine, it's no big deal. People are allowed to have preferences, he's obviously attracted to you or wouldn't be in a relationship with you.
If this is some consistent thing that he brings up to try make you feel shitty then he's a total dick. If he's just expressed an attraction to a specific trait on an offhand then I think you gotta chill
Ask if he will talk to his doctor about it. Google is just not a medical provider.
Stop dragging it out looking for more excuses to leave. You want to leave, that's enough reason. Also it's cruel to continue letting him go on thinking yall are happy and staying together. Call it off for both your sakes.
All the more reason to leave. You don’t want your daughter to think this is the way.
This is weird. I'm old school so the proposal thing gave me the ick! Not much business anyways but very concerned that he may have used this as a way to escape fully and get out of the marriage agreement ? and perhaps end the relationship.
He wouldn't be considering staying in a relationship if she weren't.
You did not ask for advice.
Just admit that you want to leave him because you started to talk to this “flame” of yours and want to explore things with him, just know that your husband might not take you back once you discover that grass is not greener on the other side.
He just likes natural bodies. It's not the look that's a turnoff.
Yep. Tell him how you feel and then see how much he cares how you feel. Be as honest as you can.
I can't fathom how you wrote this without feeling any guilt on how your friend group and yourself treats someone you plan to spend the rest of your life with. You will never defend your finance, you will never be on her side, in her corner.
The best outcome is her dumping you and never looking back at your or your 12 year old friend group.
Grow TF up.
I hope your soon to be ex has a really happy life without you.
It seems strange that you were together for five years and never talked about whether or not you wanted children. Either way, his response is absolutely bizarre.
Is he seeing anyone for his depression?
You made it clear that you’re not comfortable with it and that you consider it cheating. It went in one ear and out the other. She cheated on you bro, sorry to break it to you :/
The details don't matter here. You've not had sex in about 4 years. Your relationship is already over, it's been over for years.
Walk away, the relationship is done. You're too young to live like this.
but is it considered deceptive that I didn't call it out prior to meeting?
Never compromise your aspirations for someone you aren't married to and don't own a house with
You need to talk this out until everything is clear. No other way.
Do you think he is using money as an excuse to control you? If you keep your money separate, why does he care what you spend your money on? I know women who spend well over a hundred dollars getting their hair done or buying makeup. Hell, even shoes and purses are well over that amount. Does he complain about that?
I suggest you tell him that the trip will cost you nothing and see what his response is. You have a right as an adult to decide how to spend the money you earn. Marriage is not a dictatorship; it is supposed to be a partnership and there seems to be a power imbalance going on. Your needs and wants should not be met only when he deems it worthwhile. Do not let yourself become someone who needs permission to spend the money you earn. He is not your dad. Partners are equal. One does not have power over the other.
That's so inconvenient for the “she's manipulating you on purpose brigade!”
I am a stress puker too and these responses are so oversimplified.
Obviously it's more likely to happen with someone very close. Because it's related to deep fears and deep pain. Duh.
Are you the guy who repeatedly holds her down and comes inside of her after she says not to? And you had an argument about it and she got a little heated and spittle was flying and you said “hey don’t spit on me” and she said “oh really? You don’t like body fluids on you when you’ve said no?” And THEN spit on you? Are you that guy?
Cause if you’re that guy then FU rapist.
I'd you need a prenup about your child's education then you shouldn't get married .
If she can’t have calm, adult conversations about important matters in the relationship, then quite frankly she doesn’t sound like she can handle being in a relationship.
Was she like this before you got married?
I guess your relationship is over.
Religious men (or people) tend to have some internal problems. He lost respect for you because you made him feel good ans he hated that, I would totally move on and never speak to him again. You deserve better honestly.
Spitting is really the most disgusting, low class, lack of respect thing anyone can do to another person. I would call it over and break up.
This is wild. If you have time and emotional capacity, I'd live an update.
Sending you good wishes, my dear.
“And you're rude.”
Idk. I think he has a right to have enjoyed it in the moment. He also has the right to regret what he did or that he enjoyed it. I don’t think it’s right for him to blame you for those feelings, though. I won’t call him a dick, but he definitely needs to figure his shit out. And probably needs the space to do so?
Get a divorce, or get her taken off your dependant visa, whichever is faster.
Welcome to the rest of your life.
Or not. Your choice.
Crate training is the best thing I ever did for my dog. It’s for his protection. I had a puppy die from a freak accident while left to roam. I would never not crate train a dog now.
Well – think your gf – is playing two sides. It is very hurtful for guys to accept flowers from other guys. I nearly got divorced due to this – make it clear – it hurts yoy that she is acceping flowers from him as for you it show dhe is allowing him to flirt with her. Beside you should meet him !
RUN!