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Not really, the people in my life are kind. I cut out and spend as little time as possible with the people in my life who aren’t. My life is and has been a lot easier that way.
I think people like you use phrases like that to justify being a douche. “It’s people who walk away that are the problem” like no. You’re the problem. You’re just an asshole who’s choosing to not take it or engage
I have a bad habit of always explaining my day in intense detail to him when he's not around. Been together for a few years and recently married and he gets to know what I eat, who I saw, what I wore, what I thought and felt, if I had fun or if I have a complaint, if I did something embarrassing or literally anything.
I love to blurt it out to him and he loves to listen. I 'hide' things from my parents not my husband you're a team and ideally shouldn't be doing anything they wouldn't agree with or would be mad over. And if they're mad over innocent things you should be weary.
Well you shouldn't have asked what his goal was, because he already told you. His goal was to figure out whether he should tell the BF, there was no reason to inquire further.
No joke, often when I mention I’m on my period and the cramps are really bad my husband gets “a stomach bug” or something else and goes around like “uuugh ohhh uuuu”.
He said she's always late. It's selfish and disrespectful to waste someone's time. Not to expect an adult will act like an adult. You have it backwards dude.
Thank you, friend. The tree metaphor is absolutely perfect; it captures my sentiments exactly. Thing is, he *has* been harvesting a lot of fruit from this relationship whilst essentially refusing to water it, which has left me really depleted. But it's a good way of framing things; I might steal this image!
TBH it’s none of your wife’s business what your mother and brother do with their money. No wonder they don’t like her if she went storming over there and demanded that they leave it to her daughter. Her smarmily saying that she’ll have you split your son’s inheritance really didn’t help with their opinion that she’s after their money.
Putting your son’s money into a college fund for your daughter was not cool. I hope your mother and brother put any future inheritance into a trust fund for your son for when he becomes an adult so it can’t be taken away from him.
Sounds like it's past time that you break up. She is not showing any respect for you as an individual. It seems to be all her way in your relationship, and as you are an introvert who needs alone time to refresh yourself, recharge your batteries so to speak, and to stay mentally healthy this can't go on much longer. I am an introvert, the relationship would not have lasted this long if my partner was like yours. You are just too incompatible.
This may not be the best advice, but this is what I would do…..
I'd text her one last time. Explain that you are concerned and that you want to make sure she's ok (not making it sound as dramatic as I just made it). That you care about her and that if she wants to talk/whatever you'll be there. I'd also mention that you don't want to bother her, so you won't reach out anymore unless she initiates first (obviously stated nicer than that).
In my mind, if she's talking to everyone but me, I'd be wondering what (if anything) I did wrong. I'd make one last attempt, and then if I got nothing back, cut my losses. I have severe mental health issues as well, and even during bad episodes, you still need to communicate with people.
I don't know if that's exactly the best advice/thing to do but that's how I'd handle it.
None of this is on you OP. Your ex needs professional help. It is not you to manage his emotions or treat his mental health issues. I'd make it clear to anyone and everyone, the relationship is over, and it is not up for discussion.
Yes and the general consensus is that site refers to a place of employment. Plus also, why does she need another man? Surely if she can train her toes to manoeuvre a selfie stick shell have a great USP in an otherwise flooded market.
I am. I always check on him even when he's busy, and I invite him to dinner when we're both free. I also offer to do stuff for him (e.g., buy stuff to save him a trip to the mall) to lessen his burden
Exactly. Imagine the arrogance and hatred or dislike you have to have towards a young girl to keep that anger up for 15 years! Considering that she! The SM, helped break up that young girls family!
It’s like an earworm, I just can’t get the thought of her with this other guy out of my head. Then I start getting annoyed with myself for letting it happen in the first place. Whenever I’m doing nothing it’s the first things that pops into my head and I don’t know how to stop it.
Thank you for your response though. It’s kind of what I need to be hear
The little things mean a lot. You've been with her a long time, how often do you go on dates and spend time one on one? Work can cause a lot of stress and anxiety and women are emotional when it comes to intimacy. Ask her how she feels you're doing in the department of making time for you both. Ask her what she needs. Something is clearly missing, but instead of assuming She's interested in someone else, start with your own relationship. She works full time, is she also carrying a lot of the weight of tasks around the house and with the kids? Does she ever have time to herself? Have candid conversations with her about how she is doing and how she feels your relationship could improve. Start there. If she hasn't given you a reason to believe she's actually cheating, give her a chance to communicate about why she may be feeling disconnected from your relationship right now. What would help? A house cleaner once a week? A babysitter to help so you can get some time together? And maybe some marriage counseling is in order, if for nothing else, to teach you both how to communicate more effectively.
Second this, especially the part about project manager. The mental load is a huge part of it.
I saw an interesting video once about a man and his wife and she was going away and he explains all the things he has to think about and how much effort goes into it. For example, planning outfits for the children involving activities, time away from the house, what the weather will be doing etc.
A lot of men don't understand the workload and are so quick to jump to “she's not having sex with me”.
Also, fun fact, women often struggle with libido when they don't feel safe/loved and aren't being appreciated (as evolution-wise sex is for procreation and you don't wanna bring babies into an unsafe environment!)
As an employer, NO, do not quit, this is not your fault, document everything, I mean everything, dates, times, anything having to do with the situation, remarks, “jokes” , any type of sabotage of your work if thats possible. What he did was absolutely wrong and they were correct in terminating him. Make any type of retaliation, hostility is reported immediately.
Not really, the people in my life are kind. I cut out and spend as little time as possible with the people in my life who aren’t. My life is and has been a lot easier that way.
I think people like you use phrases like that to justify being a douche. “It’s people who walk away that are the problem” like no. You’re the problem. You’re just an asshole who’s choosing to not take it or engage
I have a bad habit of always explaining my day in intense detail to him when he's not around. Been together for a few years and recently married and he gets to know what I eat, who I saw, what I wore, what I thought and felt, if I had fun or if I have a complaint, if I did something embarrassing or literally anything.
I love to blurt it out to him and he loves to listen. I 'hide' things from my parents not my husband you're a team and ideally shouldn't be doing anything they wouldn't agree with or would be mad over. And if they're mad over innocent things you should be weary.
Then what are you arguing for? Or what point are you trying to make?
Well you shouldn't have asked what his goal was, because he already told you. His goal was to figure out whether he should tell the BF, there was no reason to inquire further.
No joke, often when I mention I’m on my period and the cramps are really bad my husband gets “a stomach bug” or something else and goes around like “uuugh ohhh uuuu”.
He said she's always late. It's selfish and disrespectful to waste someone's time. Not to expect an adult will act like an adult. You have it backwards dude.
Thank you, friend. The tree metaphor is absolutely perfect; it captures my sentiments exactly. Thing is, he *has* been harvesting a lot of fruit from this relationship whilst essentially refusing to water it, which has left me really depleted. But it's a good way of framing things; I might steal this image!
“Having feelings for my best friend”?
TBH it’s none of your wife’s business what your mother and brother do with their money. No wonder they don’t like her if she went storming over there and demanded that they leave it to her daughter. Her smarmily saying that she’ll have you split your son’s inheritance really didn’t help with their opinion that she’s after their money.
Putting your son’s money into a college fund for your daughter was not cool. I hope your mother and brother put any future inheritance into a trust fund for your son for when he becomes an adult so it can’t be taken away from him.
Sounds like it's past time that you break up. She is not showing any respect for you as an individual. It seems to be all her way in your relationship, and as you are an introvert who needs alone time to refresh yourself, recharge your batteries so to speak, and to stay mentally healthy this can't go on much longer. I am an introvert, the relationship would not have lasted this long if my partner was like yours. You are just too incompatible.
This may not be the best advice, but this is what I would do…..
I'd text her one last time. Explain that you are concerned and that you want to make sure she's ok (not making it sound as dramatic as I just made it). That you care about her and that if she wants to talk/whatever you'll be there. I'd also mention that you don't want to bother her, so you won't reach out anymore unless she initiates first (obviously stated nicer than that).
In my mind, if she's talking to everyone but me, I'd be wondering what (if anything) I did wrong. I'd make one last attempt, and then if I got nothing back, cut my losses. I have severe mental health issues as well, and even during bad episodes, you still need to communicate with people.
I don't know if that's exactly the best advice/thing to do but that's how I'd handle it.
None of this is on you OP. Your ex needs professional help. It is not you to manage his emotions or treat his mental health issues. I'd make it clear to anyone and everyone, the relationship is over, and it is not up for discussion.
Yes and the general consensus is that site refers to a place of employment. Plus also, why does she need another man? Surely if she can train her toes to manoeuvre a selfie stick shell have a great USP in an otherwise flooded market.
Yes you are overreacting.
I am. I always check on him even when he's busy, and I invite him to dinner when we're both free. I also offer to do stuff for him (e.g., buy stuff to save him a trip to the mall) to lessen his burden
I think what is happening is you still have some feelings but she doesn't.
It’s reversible, and has way less of an impact. You gotta ice your nuts for a day or two and that’s it. BC wreaks havoc on a woman’s body.
Exactly. Imagine the arrogance and hatred or dislike you have to have towards a young girl to keep that anger up for 15 years! Considering that she! The SM, helped break up that young girls family!
Your partner is too immature and young to:
A) Get married.
B) Become a parent.
Get some dignity via therapy. You’re too thoughtful and mature for a relationship like this. Upgrade.
It’s like an earworm, I just can’t get the thought of her with this other guy out of my head. Then I start getting annoyed with myself for letting it happen in the first place. Whenever I’m doing nothing it’s the first things that pops into my head and I don’t know how to stop it.
Thank you for your response though. It’s kind of what I need to be hear
As soon as you have an interview and somebody says 'you'll be wearing many hats'.. I take that as my sign to say thanks and NOPE the f out of there.
Usually that's how companies tell you they expect you to be doing multiple jobs. Know your worth and move on.
I mean, just reading your first sentence is enough for me to be honest.
I have a desire for truth. Rotten to the core… but want to compensate. Compensate by living a life of exploration and experience.
A partner who can see both sides – the meaningless and the experiential. And meet in the middle.
Is he one of those Q-nutcases or a MAGA fascist? That seems to be their schtick.
The little things mean a lot. You've been with her a long time, how often do you go on dates and spend time one on one? Work can cause a lot of stress and anxiety and women are emotional when it comes to intimacy. Ask her how she feels you're doing in the department of making time for you both. Ask her what she needs. Something is clearly missing, but instead of assuming She's interested in someone else, start with your own relationship. She works full time, is she also carrying a lot of the weight of tasks around the house and with the kids? Does she ever have time to herself? Have candid conversations with her about how she is doing and how she feels your relationship could improve. Start there. If she hasn't given you a reason to believe she's actually cheating, give her a chance to communicate about why she may be feeling disconnected from your relationship right now. What would help? A house cleaner once a week? A babysitter to help so you can get some time together? And maybe some marriage counseling is in order, if for nothing else, to teach you both how to communicate more effectively.
Second this, especially the part about project manager. The mental load is a huge part of it.
I saw an interesting video once about a man and his wife and she was going away and he explains all the things he has to think about and how much effort goes into it. For example, planning outfits for the children involving activities, time away from the house, what the weather will be doing etc.
A lot of men don't understand the workload and are so quick to jump to “she's not having sex with me”.
Also, fun fact, women often struggle with libido when they don't feel safe/loved and aren't being appreciated (as evolution-wise sex is for procreation and you don't wanna bring babies into an unsafe environment!)
As an employer, NO, do not quit, this is not your fault, document everything, I mean everything, dates, times, anything having to do with the situation, remarks, “jokes” , any type of sabotage of your work if thats possible. What he did was absolutely wrong and they were correct in terminating him. Make any type of retaliation, hostility is reported immediately.
I don’t think this helped in the least. If your partner can’t handle a child at one age then handling them at any other is extremely questionable.