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use this — and if you can't say these words, then write them in a letter.
At a minimum she’s being incredibly immature and disrespectful of you and your relationship. “Joking” about sleeping with the right person if given the chance isn’t funny, and certainly wouldn’t be funny to her if you said it.
When it comes to the flashing, you are absolutely within your right to have boundaries and behavior that is unacceptable to you and what you’ll put up with in a relationship. As is she – I’m sure there’s things she’d be uncomfortable about you doing.
Bottom line is, is this a big enough deal for you to be able to get past? Like you said, she’s going to do it, so you’ll either need to be able to a) get past it or b) end the relationship. Other than that, it’ll continue to hang over and linger as an issue moving forward.
Talking to her about it, just calmly say that it’s disrespectful to you and your relationship, that you don’t feel comfortable with the flashing or how she throws in your face she would cheat if given the opportunity. Remind her that she wouldn’t like it if the situation were reversed. Tell her that you didn’t think she was that kind of girl and a girl that does that and talks like that isn’t someone who you think is right for you to be in a committed relationship with. She’ll either change her behavior or you can find someone who you don’t have to do this with. You’re 18, you have forever.
Does he have a reason to white lie? Does he realize he is even white lieing? What are his white lies?
More info needed
Dump him. He sees you as an object for his sexual gratification not as a person.
Seriously, he’s nasty. This may escalate to him actually sexually abusing you in real life. He’s verbalising his fantasies now, this will probably escalate because it turns him on host thinking about it he won’t be able to stop himself acting it out.
First of all, it's important to remember that you have a partner and that you need to be respectful of that relationship. It's also important to be honest with yourself and your partner about your feelings. If you have developed a crush on A, it's important to talk to your partner about it and be honest about your feelings. You should also talk to A about how you feel and make sure that they are comfortable with the situation. It's important to make sure that everyone involved is on the same page and that no one is feeling pressured or uncomfortable. Lastly, it's important to take things slow and be mindful of your partner's feelings.
My wife suggested you take more photos and hand them out to them. Let them hang them on their walls, then months later you reveal that it's you and you all laugh, and laugh.
What do you mean by that?
With all due respect based off your post about “bad days” etc your not someone I would take advice from. You spoke on faithfulness and then ended with trying to say it has no relevance. I read your post about you bad days spiraling going on 10 years now and my advice to you is seek professional help before choosing a word on someone’s post to describe your belief or views on. Especially when you seem to be viewing life pretty negatively. Take care get help and thanks for stopping by.
He said he would make it up to you?!?! How does one make it up to you when they have cheated on you, this isn't like he had to cancel plans with you. He lied to you and cheated in a club bathroom with another guy, but he is going to make it up to you. I'm completely baffled how someone makes that up to you. He has completely broken your trust and caused so much pain that there is nothing in this world that he can do to make it up to you.
Leave him and let everyone know it was because of him cheating on you in a bathroom at a club. If he is lying to you now how many other times has he lied to you.
Speak to a lawyer about prenups. You could always make her feel included by allowing her to decorate; choosing curtains, what colour to paint the walls, etc. Shared furniture you buy together will make her feel like it's her home too, even if she's not on the title
Seriously, you don’t trust your girlfriend? Just because another guys junk is in her face doesn’t mean she wants to do anything more than look and have a laugh.
If you’re that insecure that you think seeing someone’s balls will turn her off you, you’ve got bigger problems in your relationship.
Ahh honey come on. If he loved you more than anything and wanted to spend his life with you, he’d marry you and you’d work on those issues together. But he doesn’t and he isn’t. Instead he’s wanting the ‘perfect you’ before he’d consider committing – imagine if you told him he needed another £30,00 a year, 3 inches off his waistline and to be fluent in French before you’d accept a proposal. It’s basically the same. If he’s never mentioned these communication issues and he’s not doing anything to work on them then they clearly aren’t that big of an issue. He’s just putting you off for now. And if he doesn’t want to marry you after 8 years, then he doesn’t want to marry you. You’re just comfortable and ‘good enough’ for now.
So obviously you talk to E about this right? Like you can’t just take his word for that. Then you tell your other friends what he told you because that’s fucked up on 12 levels. Then you cut him, and anyone who’s fine with him off because again, 12 levels of fucked up?
It sounds like you’re really trying to be there when you can with how much you have to work. It’s tough when it feels like the relationship is a bit a one sided.
Have you tried talking to her about it? If there’s something she needs but isn’t getting you can’t fix it if she doesn’t tell you. It’s not like you’re a mind reader.
Tbh OP you should tell him in a way that he understands that you are not teling him in order to criticise him but because you want to improve your sex live! and relationship.
Maybe you could teach him what makes you feel better during sex or something like that.
But be prepared because he is going to feel hurt. Men in particular don't like to know that women are faking orgasms, it makes them feel less of a men because of it.
So be prepared to confort him after you tell him
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Physically hurting someone is abuse
And the same sister who is an alcoholic drug abuser with 3 kids, who is also a gorgeous model who loves strip clubs?
He’s a loser
Can you buy more time with your kids?
I’m just wondering how he even remembers the birthdays of 11 kids, nevermind the rest of this.
Not everything is that black and white…if you like both blondes and brunettes, and your gf is blonde, how would you feel is she said “omg I feel so guilty I'm trapping you, you're only dating a blonde when you could be happier dating a brunette.” You'd tell her she's being ridiculous right?
This is a dealbreaker…. Gaslit u saying “you never asked if I was clean or not” it doesn’t matter that OP has to ask it’s HER responsibility to disclose this information to him before acting on any sexual activity. Genital herpes is lifelong, you have to take meds in order to keep it in check, that’s another burden on you OP. Holy shit I’m angry
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Regardless of when or if people come to grips with their sexuality, they are still 100% responsible for their actions and how those actions affect others. In this case, OP’s wife misled him from very early on in their relationship. That doesn’t mean she doesn’t love him, but she has known for some time that it is not the same way he loves her, and for that she is in the wrong and OP is a victim.
This is a really good fucking point. Also I’m curious why OP wasn’t going to the Christmas party with her partner.
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Technically yes, but beware the busybody with a hammer…
I find it troubling that now, while things are going well, and you're both supposedly in love, his prenup is all about protecting him and not at all about protecting you.
In my mind, a prenup should be about both of you taking care of future versions of yourself who no longer love each other or want to be together, with all the love and goodwill you currently feel. (But I'm not wealthy and I understand my view is very hypothetical and naïve…)
Maybe he's being short-sighted and not connecting the idea of the prenup to you being a SAHM. If you suggest changes to the prenup that ensure you will be safe if the marriage breaks down, I'd very carefully watch his reaction to that, and if there's any unreasonable pushback on that, then you'll know you can't trust him enough to let yourself be in a vulnerable position in this relationship.
Good ones do.
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Well maybe that's what he really want pushing marriage on me when he has always known I was never interested in that. So he created being rejected. And he only brings up marriage when it's convenient to him. He's never said, I love you I want to marry you. It's only like, well if you want to be on the house then marry me.
What advice are you looking for exactly?
Your personal way of living can be considered jail by other people standards. My partner can't make me sad, can't disappoint me either so my way of living is good for me
Sounds like it's sexually open but romantically closed
They're both unemployed and planning on marriage? How does that work?
Ross? That you?
I’m sorry you went through that.
He’s the rizzin why she’s always in the mood
Dump him. He's already started.
No i totally understand how you feel i used to be the same way actually…id say with what you think is best to say to her and it'll work out best of luck!
Not really sure. She says she needs to organize things and prep. Doesn't really tell me what though.
I've offered to help her but she says she would feel bad if I had to go in on my off time to help out.
She used to not tell me if she needed to stay late, etc. she wouldn't text saying “Hey going to be late today” or anything. It would be 6 pm, and I wouldn't hear from her. I'd be texting asking if she's ok (I didn't know if she was in a car crash, or something happened to her). I wasn't trying to be controlling or telling her she couldn't stay late. I just wanted communication with what's happening.
I remember one day it was almost 7pm in Dec during a cold snap (-45 celcius, yes I'm canadian) and I was in my car about to drive her route to work looking for her because I was worried she crashed or had car trouble in that cold. I saw her pulling into the neighborhood and went back though.
She's really a great woman. I have my doubts that she is cheating, of course I've worried about that though like any normal human. But I think it's being overwhelmed, or possibly she has gotten complacent in the relationship with time gone by.
But who knows, maybe I'm wrong, and she has me fooled, but I haven't seen very hot evidence she is cheating.
I don't really know how to approach it, though.
This isn't her first full time class. It's her first time teaching this grade but she's had full time classes before.
There’s your answer. Ex-boyfriend.
It's literally none of your business and you should absolutely not ask about it unless she brings him up and you say 'if you'd ever like to share more about him I am here to listen' period. It's beyond rude to ask how a loved one died. Wtf
Absolutely don’t have another baby with him unless you go back to being 100% happy in the relationship.
I can’t not eyeroll at the thought of a grown-ass adult using the word “poser” in earnest.
Like, honestly though, why wouldn’t you want to see the artists you love have their work appreciated and continue to grow their fan base, and therefore, their success?
But more importantly, why wouldn’t you want your partner to appreciate and enjoy the things you love? Wouldn’t you want to share that with them? Some of my favorite moments with my partner are when we’re watching a movie or listening to a song that we’re both equally into. It’s especially fun when you’re the one who introduced it to the other, because then you get to be like SEE?
This opinion of his is absolutely immature. This music gatekeeping is juvenile and he should be well past it by his age. I would reflect on whether this is connected to a larger immaturity problem on his part, and consider your options from there.
And continue listening to whatever music you damn well please.
I shouldn’t have to ask him to “help”,
Definitely not. This isn't the 50s where one person stays home completely and the other person works outside the home and earns money. You both work full-time, you're also at school….hence, it's completely normal to split chores equally.
I just don’t think he will listen to me if I tell him this, he’ll treat it as an attack on his character and assume that I’m telling him that he’s not doing enough
So? Learn to set healthier boundaries for yourself, stop letting him getting away with his shitty behaviour. He isn't doing enough, he's not carrying his load.
Furthermore, he's extremely dismissive and has zero respect for what you actually do for him.
He feels like he’s doing enough and I’m just being extra.
Might be worth for you to not do anything for a month, let him manage the household, and then get back to him. But yeah, he most likely won't care.
So yeah….you're married, what about couple's counseling? This is a very common issue among hetereosexual couples.
>>This is the first time I've felt this strongly about her.
This is competition at work, not love for one who got away? Tell yourself that whenever you are inclined to perseverate about her. You left her, and now she has perhaps done better than you (not to sound harsh)? And that is a blow to your ego.
That sense of relief you feel when you’re not spending time together? That’s your sign it’s time to leave for good.
I think it's the last part, though the dialogue is creepy. I don't know why a woman would go for someone so young to baby trap.
Yeah I've never met my father nor do I have kids but even thinking of this situation makes me feel some kinda despair for the dad, that would ruin me.
I am sorry this happened to you. Please go and get an STD test. Also reach out to a RAINN it is a sexual assault hotline. They can provide support and direct you to mental health services. Please consider going to your local law enforcement and reporting this sexual assault and rape. I hope you find healing.
Na I’m not put on this planet to please anyone let alone you. I’m glad you didn’t waste your time providing me with your advice because I would have cared about it as much as I do these comments. Thanks though.
Is this just for the sake of her parents? How does she feel about a fake conversion, because people do actually do that – and sometimes at the behest of their partner, since the point is not to be a real believer for the partner's sake but to get the parents onboard.
She’s literally trying to control what you can think about. That’s nuts.
She is upset because another (somewhat) crazy woman is partially controlling her life. She isn’t wrong. That doesn’t make her bad or selfish. The truth is, it does suck. Right? To have to consider another person the two of you want nothing to do with? Validate her frustration in mourning a life she can’t have but desperately wants and wishes for in some “fantasy” world. It sounds like she knows the reality and is being responsible and rational in choices (not having another child). The more she feels like you hear her and understand she chose a life with you because it’s all worth it, the more it’ll diffuse.
In these situations it’s easy for people to say “you knew what you were getting into”. Of course she knew facts. But she didn’t know what her feelings would be because she’d never gone through those things. It sounds like she’s actually doing a great job. She’s just sad she can’t live! her life between herself and her husband and their children (step and biological). It’s not bad to be sad about it or frustrated about it. That’s a really reasonable reaction if you take all the emotionally charged opinions and views on blended families away. Having to deal with your husband’s mentally ill ex is absolutely not ideal. For anyone. It’s just the truth. Validate her feelings, it doesn’t make her bad or you bad. They just exist. She wants to know her husband sees her. And gets her. And appreciates what she brings into their union.
I view sacrificing my education in the small ways I prioritised his over mine. During our IGCSE’s, he took some classes and complete the exams a year in advance, so I did his english and spanish coursework to counter the workload for him. At the same time, I didn’t study as very hot for my own classes.
He also repeated a year of his IGCSEs when he moved country, something to do with his birthday not aligning with the new schools system, so I helped him out by doing his homework.
This change meant that I was doing his work during my IB years (an extremely demanding diploma in international schools), which significantly reduced the amount of time I put into my own work. On top of that, i found out about the cheating around that time too, which spiralled me into depression and I slacked off on an extremely important essay that nearly got me kicked off the course (lawyers got involved). I was on track for oxford, but that quickly went up in the air when that whole incident happened. In the end, I still got the grades to get in, but I had to put a year aside to complete the course which he convinced me was not worth the time for reapplying to uni, so I accepted an offer from a university that would be close to where he would be studying.
During my free time, I also did a lot of art for his company (it is my job) for free, sometimes I would not do my own job so that I could finish something for his website. I also wrote all of his university applications as he was busy with his company and he got offers from every one of them (MIT, Imperial, Kings, etc)
This isn’t his fault though, and I don’t resent him or my decisions to prioritise his education over my own. He is also the smartest person I know, so my efforts weren’t the leading contributor for his success. But I am scared of what this might mean for me in the future if we were to break up, as I feel like my own potential has disappeared.
As to why, I guess for love? He never forced me to do any of it, I volunteered my time because I knew I could be helpful.
OP you went from an abusive partner to another abusive partner. That’s why u should take time to heal and not date, because it’s a critical time to build boundaries and get an understanding of what goes wrong. Quickly bonding and alchool issues scream stay the f away. Alchool is associated to NPD, look at how shallow, at how he surrounds himself and people he perceives to be influential and how he sees that as a social ladder. Run. He has probably already cheated on you. He’s telling you I need a doll by my side so I can look good.
OP took him to her first family event and she caught him kissing her sister and broke up with him straight away. He tried and tried to get her back, 3 months later sister was pregnant and the family forgave them because of the child.
I wouldn’t leave your daughter out of it and when you’re in front of your young daughter, just have her be polite like the babysitter. And for the first few months until you guys know whether you like each other or it’s going to be a thing, I would keep it a secret from your little daughter. That means no PDA.
This is not normal or healthy. And I'm not the most suspicious person in the world, but even I have to wonder if you're the side piece. By 2 years, you should have met most of his friends and his family. If not, it's a very red flag.
I would leave. Sex is a huge part of a real auto ship and if the sex is bad the relationship will suffer. No sex is a deal breaker for me. But more than that- I WOULD NEVER EVER, EVER MARRY SOMEONE WITHOUT MAKING SURE WE ARE SEXUALLY COMPATIBLE. I am not going to promise myself to bad sex for the rest of my life. No way. No way, not worth it. Nope.
She doesn’t wanna bang just be friends.
Appreciate this! I don't think some guys realise quite how bad it can be and assume women are making it up/being too sensitive. You also managed to pick out my profession with the first one listed, I'm not sure if it's impressive you did so or depressing that it has such a reputation!
You can look up the case of Lydia Fairchild who gave birth to a child with DNA different from hers. I believe it's called chemerism.
Tbh, I agree with a lot of people here saying that she could've been raped. In which it's highly possible she didn't know that your dad isn't your biological father and hence didn't really care much when you first got the DNA test done.
She can’t discuss these things with you? You sound toxic as hell. Leave prison culture where it belongs prison.
When you say “none of us played before”, are you talking about just you and your boyfriend?
midwife has advised me to not put him onto the birth certificate
I'd think well qualified midwife would well know the situation and options. 🙂
he only recently found out through me that babies can’t drink water which could be lethally dangerous, he hasn’t done any research into how to care for a baby
Yeah, … he won't get unsupervised visitation rights anytime soon … if ever.
If your husband can't relish in the last few minutes of peace he will have, then I don't know what to say. Either ask him to let you go on the trip or remove every thought about this trip out of your head, 'cause thinking about it will make you miserable.
This is like adopting a dog and crying because it barks. At no point has anyone including you thought for a moment he would change. Live! with it or break up.
This moment – “I was more clear in making sure there were boundaries, whilst he was/is quite adamant on being heavily involved in their lives etc. ” – is when you should have known you and this person were incompatible. When you ignore things that you find to be red flags you'll always end up in the position you find yourself in now.
Your entire argument revolved around claiming the boyfriend randomly freaked out over nothing when I've made it clear repeatedly that to him it was something. Even if you, I, and everyone else here thinks it was dumb to freak out about. To him it was a red flag, meaning this was not random. It was a reaction. An overreaction from our perspective, but still a reaction.
Do you think if you asked girl that she would be honest?
Either way you should leave him. He cheated in the past and doesn’t seem to try and prioritise building back the trust. Do you genuinely see this working in the future?
Look out for yourself and don’t settle for less. You deserve to feel loved. Please take care ❤️
Typical Woke Woman !
I don't know if you have a say in it unfortunately. This is a shared home, with people independent of you.
If one of these roommates were a romantic partner of yours, sure, your argument will hold more weight.
And assuming these are more roommates rather long term friends, people are likely to make decisions regardless of your opinion.
So, I think the only thing you can do, is talk to your land lord.
Tell him/her that you originally signed the lease under the impression that it was going to be a pet free environment. And that you think it would only be fair if there is a lease adjustment, that should be done during renewal.
Also, it may be worth to mention to the land-lord that you hate feeling like the 'bad-person' in the situation… So, if him/her is going to decline a new pet until a new lease adjustment, you'd prefer that it comes from them being the stern one, not you.
Second this, neither of you are ready for a kid. Use some protection ??
Take it as a blessing, because you should have broken up with him ages ago
You were dumped
Yep. In that context it probably is.
That does clarify. I am very specific regarding love or caring, so I’m sorry if I came off as harsh there.
We’ve never really had the relationship discussion we started as friends then we were fwb but it’s really developed into more (which he’s mentioned before) and he’s referred to me as his girlfriend to friends and family for a few months now and I’ve done the same. I haven’t brought it up to him yet because I’m not sure if it’s my place to yet or honestly at all so I’m not sure if he’s like toying with my emotions or just thinks it’s not that big of a deal to do that stuff. I guess it’s just because I don’t want him thinking unsure of myself or like even crazy because he liked pictures of another girl but I feel like that’s just because of the things I heard in my past relationship. He’s never really said anything about my maturity honestly but lots of other people have said those things to me before including my parents but I’m gonna keep that in mind in case he does end up saying that later on, I guess I just don’t really know what to look for or if it’s normal to feel this way or not which is probably silly. I’ve told him it’s a bit too early to move in together and he’s been very accepting and patient or at least that’s what I thought. I’m anxious to move in with any person at this point because of the things that happened when I moved in with my ex but I haven’t really told him much about that because it’s a very hot topic to talk about. Is the age gap really bad? I’ve never really thought about it much because I just genuinely enjoy his company I never really thought about it that way I’m just nervous that something bad might come out of this or I’ll just wind up hurt again. I really appreciate your comment though it’s very helpful so thank you!!
It's a peer-reviewed, double-blind study from the University of Assitania
I have good friends who live! in Bristol and trust me, they have lots to do that isn't drugs. Do you think London doesn't have “weirdos and drugs”? You'd be hard-pressed to find somewhere that doesn't.
I'm saying, there's lots to do in Bristol and how do you think you will build a more fulfilling life there if all you do is work, go to the gym, and go back to your parents on weekends? Ask your friend and his girlfriend to go with you. Invite a friend from your hometown to visit you for the weekend and do stuff! Take the dog for a weekend and take it on walks around the city! If you're dating, any of these would be great date activities. Or do it on your own and see where it leads! Take a class! Look for a fitness activity that's also group-based like hiking, cycling, or rock-climbing. Or, like I said, strongman competitions, etc. Find one near you and see if they need event volunteers.
(And I recommend you find a therapist to address your anxiety and general dis-satisfaction with yourself and with life. But I recommended therapy over a year ago – yes, I remember you, even if that account is suspended – and here you are, still miserable. Like I said, everywhere you go, there you are. It isn't your location that is making you miserable, dude.)
1) I honestly don't think anything is actually wrong I just think your brains have hit that point in the cycle of a relationship where its a little drier. Just keep choosing each other and you can get back there. Yes effort is involved but you can be fine especially with an active bedroom. You are not alone and you will not feel exactly as you have about your partner at all times.
2) Some people have no kinks. There is no “shell” she's just not into what you're into and thats fine.
3) Its probably part biology. The drive to procreate can't be discounted and your body isn't aware how long it will live!. So if you don't currently have kids it wants you to get on with that if you have kids it still wants to spread its DNA as that is the primal drive that got humanity through millions of years.
The fact that he casually left the cup in the dresser tells me this is not the first cup he’s pissed in. I would break up with him.
Too drunk to go to the bathroom but not too drunk to put the lid back on the cup. Also, how big was the cup? Because men, especially drunk men, piss a large amount. I think he pissed in your cup passive aggressively over something he was angry about, and then forgot to empty it before you got there.
In that case it’s not germaphobia it’s him trying to subjugate you.
Considering how unpredictable body odours, looks, and weight over the years it doesnt bode well for your sanity to have your partner treat you this way. This isnt normal or okay. He cant claim its cultutral and then be the biggest misogynistic dill weed and accept you to lump it. Like Hell no. You’ll want a partner who’s there to love and accept you no matter how messy shit gets. (Metaphorically or literally) Life isnt perfect. Shit will happen. Say you walk out the door tomorrow get hit by a car. Youre in a full body cast. Your boyfriend has to watch you at home and care for you. How willing / able do you think hed be?
If you got really sick and vommitted all over yourself and the bathroom and passed out, would he clean you off and bring you to bed and clean up the mess, or would he complain its disgusting and unhygienic? Hes looking at you like an object and not a person. And after 3 years? Run. People aren’t perfect. They smell, have bad breath, get bloated, have that extra 20lbs etc.
And girl. EVERYONE is like that. You cannot keep up this facade for his benefit. Hes expecting you to be something thats impossible. And when you fail, what will happen? If he cant handle body odour now and wants you to smell like a field or fresh flowers at all times no matter what, what happens when you have a child with him? Postpartum recovery?
Actually you know what i am gonna admit now that it is cultural that he asks you to smell and look like that all the time, but its not Nigerian, its from the culture of pompous misogynistic men.
Fucking hell… yeah… him using his depression as an excuse to have an inappropriate relationship with some chick pales in comparison to that…
OP this doesn't seem like a very healthy marriage..
This
She's not contributing to anything?
I would suggest a sit down and conversation with her. Be honest about it.
If it's okay with you then maybe make a compromise but Op just curious what does she bring in the table for your relationship?
That's probably just another lie.
To clarify, I’m agreeing with you that her parents should be told. Just pointing out that the language you used sounds judgmental and may not be super helpful
So basically it just feels good and hopefully she'll seriously leave her relationship now?
Her husband and her shouldn't be married, cheating aside, but I still don't see these actions as rational or justifiable. I feel it's like trying to argue that someone is justified in turning to very hot drugs because they're having a tough time in life. Sure, it may temporarily reignite some of that missing spark in their life, but ultimately they're just hurting themselves and those around them, especially by involving the children.
Girl, he is hiding something from you, nothing wrong to go into his room, but honestly sniffing the pillow is creepy, you might be obsessed with him.
I saw a similar post not long ago with the same thing in it. A supposedly platonic friend who “used to” have feelings for OP’s partner but doesn’t anymore so hanging out should be fine…except they still can’t stand to meet, see, or talk about OP because it’s “too painful” for them.
Translation: the woman in that post and Rachel in this one haven’t gotten over a thing. She still has feelings for your girlfriend.
Should you trust your GF? Probably. Should you trust Rachel? Definitely not.
It sounds like you have an irreconcilable difference in that your sex drives are not in sync. You have to ask yourself “Can I live! with this for the rest of my life?”. If not, you are in a dead end relationship. Bottom line, he has to fix this or you should leave.
Regularly my boyfriend will go into my phone when I’m driving to change the song or respond to a message. It’s a non-issue.
When did we switch from talking about emergencies to changing the song on the radio? lol
If I was traveling I can understand my husband would tracking me. The only thing that would bother me if he started questioning my locations. “I saw you didn’t get back to your hotel until midnight, why were you at a bar until midnight?” When he knows that I’m at a work conference and networking.
Unless this behavior is something recent, I would not expect a change. It’s only going to lead to further resentment and disappointment. It is very rude and inconsiderate, and he knows that. He knows, and does it anyway.
If you insist, do the ultimatum but you have to be willing to pull the plug when he doesn’t come through or else there’s no point.
Unless this behavior is something recent, I would not expect a change. It’s only going to lead to further resentment and disappointment. It is very rude and inconsiderate, and he knows that. He knows, and does it anyway.
If you insist, do the ultimatum but you have to be willing to pull the plug when he doesn’t come through or else there’s no point.
Have you done it more than 20 times in these 4 months?
that's exactly what he's doing, the bare minimum to keep you around. i promise it can be so much better than this, just most likely not with him. don't settle for breadcrumbs.
This, especially since you kinda know it's breath wasted. They are 19 – if they were smart enough to know this, the issue would not exist. No way our chorus of “he's for you only for sex, dump him” will actually do anything IMO. I guess it's life experiences for the OP, too, she needs to learn this shit the very hot way.
Call er quits-
Don’t waste anymore of your time. He sounds like a serial cheater tbh, messing around on many, with many.
Either cut your losses now, or get ready for trickle truthing from her.
She didn't tell you about the ex going because she's still messing with him. He might not even be an “ex” in the first place.
If he just showed up, she would have told you when it happened.
Man just leave. I'm not sitting here typing out the 8 million reasons you need to go
A very unconventional marriage
Sorry to hear what you're going through. It sounds like you have a keeper. One idea could be to leave origami around the house, and put notes either by them or in them. That way you incorporate your writing skills with something new and effortful.
Also sorry to say this, but please don't eat indoors at restaurants if you're on chemo. You have to take care of yourself, and you can't afford to get covid when you're immunocompromised. This is a form of love and care too, to care for your health so you can be there for her too. Good luck bro. Super sorry about the cancer and everything stacking up, but congratulations on an awesome life partner.
he would be the one driving down to see me and planning ever
Your right. I also believe that people won’t change but I thought maybe he would grow up more at some point. It’s very hot for me to think about ending it as I would be losing the house and stuff Ive worked nude to get.. and he has a great family.. I’m really struggling with this because I want to make it work but will that cost me my financial freedom and sanity? Lol
Well with that logic, so was the “than” comment. It was just the truth if you boil it down.
Ā boundary is like a fence between neighbours. A Rule is that your not allowed to climb over the fence.
UPDATE: I'm finally free and in therapy. I am doing really well with exercising my boundaries. Thank you, my Internet friends. I appreciate you all.
Yes morally you should I (26f) would want to know if my husband was cheating on me
They are people who work better while talking. I'm not one of them either. But this is quite normal.
Not only this but I'm concerned about how her bf views women. He's more worried about censoring OP who's rightfully upset, instead of holding his piece of shit friend accountable. Personally, I couldn't date someone with a low life friend group. It's true you share the values of your friends. Even if he isn't cheating now, knowing that he hangs with ppl who wouldn't hold him accountable or try to deter him would be enough for me.
Sometimes as guys we are screwed if we move too fast ( that's all we want type comments) but at the same time if we move to slow the think oh he isn't in to me. Find a girl that matches your pace patience is not a bad thing.
Which book? I'm sorry, having trouble finding which one you mean.
Yes lol
Okay, thank you!
First of all, I think M was a good friend telling you this information but it was unfair to tell you you couldn’t say anything about it. I really empathise with you there. I understand M would also feel in a difficult position too.
One way you could approach this is talking to B about the situation. You could say that P has been talking to you again and you still really like him, but you always felt that P really enjoys his time with B and ask if she thinks he ever had feelings for her as you don’t want to get hurt? She may then confess to you what happened, which would then make you able to talk to P about it.
Alternatively, you could say the same directly to P, that you see how much he enjoys being around B and you feel that there could be feelings involved there. If there is/was, you would like to know as you really care and don’t want to be hurt again.
Ultimately, you need to give the impression that you know already, but have come to the conclusion yourself rather than being told by M. If neither one of them will be open and honest with you about what happened, then I think that also gives you closure, because they will prove that you can’t trust anyone to be fully honest with you ever – other than M. In that case, remain friends if you can be comfortably platonic with P, but if not you should move away from the group a little, possibly arrange things with M on your own, or focus on other friends.
You absolutely should not just pretend nothing has happened and carry on as normal, in my opinion.
Finally, you are so young. You will meet more friends and more people who are honest with you and don’t have complicated friendships/more than friendships. This may be the main thing in your life right now, but it won’t be, or doesn’t have to be forever. I personally would struggle staying in those friendships knowing no one could be honest with me.
Just a harmless accident.. but he is more at fault for leaving them where they could be knocked over