Some people are bad at thoughtful gift giving. I'm one of them, it was just how i grew up. If i was your lady, and I heard you say “I want this thing, I will buy it for myself”
I would think “oh! He told me wants this thing, and I can get it for him and he can use his dough for something else; perfect!” And think I did good. Sounds like your lady as well.
Some people are bad at thoughtful gift giving. I'm one of them, it was just how i grew up. If i was your lady, and I heard you say “I want this thing, I will buy it for myself”
I would think “oh! He told me wants this thing, and I can get it for him and he can use his dough for something else; perfect!” And think I did good. Sounds like your lady as well.