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There are also different ways to create intimacy. Some people get intimacy from sex, others need intimacy before they feel sexual. If you have someone who can only feel intimacy from sex and cannot be intimate without it leading to sex, it can be too much pressure and no fun especially from a partner who has the opposite approach to sex.
Eventually it feels like any touch leads to the expectation of sex, so they might be shutting down all forms of physical intimacy.
Trying to be physical (handholding, cuddling etc) and making it clear there is no expectation of sex could build that base back up.
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There are also different ways to create intimacy. Some people get intimacy from sex, others need intimacy before they feel sexual. If you have someone who can only feel intimacy from sex and cannot be intimate without it leading to sex, it can be too much pressure and no fun especially from a partner who has the opposite approach to sex.
Eventually it feels like any touch leads to the expectation of sex, so they might be shutting down all forms of physical intimacy.
Trying to be physical (handholding, cuddling etc) and making it clear there is no expectation of sex could build that base back up.