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Stand up and turn around [Multi Goal]
Date: October 17, 2022
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I'm generally against getting back with an ex. The same problems that caused you to end things are more than likely going to come back up.
However, lay your cards on the table. Tell her things have been going well and you want to be exclusive again. Regardless of her response, you'll have the answer you need to move forward.
Best of luck!
My partner and I are both poor and 100% if their family invited me to something, they would not expect me to pay my way ? my MIL to be literally sent me an R2D2 pillow bc our nephew got one and I said I loved it and needed one.
Your first paragraph. You’re a lousy husband.
So for me new years is the most important romantic day for me so I always make plans, but if he did not tell you he wanted to be with you for that then you did nothing wrong.
And if someone threatened to break up with me over something so small I'd let them do it, don't hold the relationship hostage over something to trite.
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Thanks for this I'm starting to understand from her side. I'll try my best to understand how she grew up and adjust on how I feel things should be, whether that has us hiring a cleaner every week or just picking up slack. We're fresh at this stage and I just want us to work out.
My advice is not to enter relationships with people who play games. In general, it saves you a lot of headaches.
Projection is a defense mechanism in psychology, yes. Defense mechanisms differ and are not all equal: some are mature and generally beneficial, while others are immature. There's a division. Projection is an immature one. It means she is unable to face the reality of having feelings for you, so she pretends in front of herself YOU are the one with the feelings.
It's the same when someone is obviously angry at you, and then tells you YOU are angry with them. Or someone is overly controlling, or tells you YOU are controlling. Sounds like a nightmare, right? This is her defense mechanism of choice, and she will be using it not just for crushes, but conflicts. You don't wanna deal with that.
So stop thinking about whether she is truthful, or not, or what the heck she wants – my rule is that is someone is not upfront and I have to think long and hard about their motivations, they are playing games. So their motivation no longer matters, no to people who play games. Just my advice, of course.
Quick P.S. In the time we’ve been dating, she lost HER car. First the battery went out (it was Hybrid) and was out for 3 months. She got it back. Then she started experiencing early symptoms of blindness (I forget the correct medical term) so she couldn’t drive. Then after laser eye surgery her car finally died, and she’s yet to replace it. Never once did I tell her get over it. I just gave her rides to and from work, doctors appointments, etc. when I could.
Hey, I really appreciate your perspective. We’re not married, but he’s the love of my life and I consider this a “through sickness and health” situation. I have recently told him that it’s been stressful for me too, mainly because it’s every day of watching your loved one suffer without being able to make it better. I’m more of a “doing” person, so I can’t seem to say the right things to talk about it. When you want to talk through it, what kinds of things do you like your partner to say? When you say you’re in pain, or worried about the future, what kinds of things help keep you talking about it? For instance if he says he feels terrible, and I say “is there anything I can do to make it better?” And he says “no, it’s ok” what else do I say? Should I ask if he wants to talk about it? I don’t want to shut down his feelings by being too optimistic, but I want him to feel better and not follow a negative train of thought. Or is it better to let him talk about how negative he feels, how do I do that? If he says “x hurts, it’s always gonna hurt” how do I even respond to that? I just end up staying silent and giving him a hug, but I feel like that’s not enough? Saying “im sorry you feel that way, I wish I could help” every day is repetitive and starts sounding empty 🙁
I'm so sorry. Do you have family or friends that would let you couch surf until you get a new job?
Why does it matter if he’s jealous or possessive at this point? I’m more concerned with WHY YOU ARE STAYING WITH THIS MAN CHILD!?? Are you okay?! He lied about having a family- he won’t leave that family and you will be the other woman until he’s sick of dealing with you.
I notice you don’t write ex anywhere in this clusterfuck of a tale!! Girl wake up! Break up and block. I would personally even send all correspondence to his wife, say your sorry you just found out about her and you cut contact with him, but feel she deserves to know the truth (she does)… then walk away and find yourself someone who is actually interested in being in a relationship with you.
Serve him divorce papers.
I don't think you've explained the situation well enough.
!remindme 2 days
Yes I am resonating with him. I'm a recovered limerent. So i know what the delusions of limerence can make you do. its a horrible illness. He deserves the chance to get healthy. Not judgment for being mentally ill
Your EX wife isn’t your emotional support animal.
And you can’t have your old life back.
You should definitely run from this guy.
that guy cares more about op's marriage than her husband does
But don’t allow him to hold the narrative with your children. Get a good therapist to convey the truth
I hear on Reddit so many people who allow the cheater to hold narrative for the kids. Kids are smart and always deserve the truth. So make sure you get a good therapist to let them know the truth without you being blamed for parental alienation.
You’re not going to want to hear it but she just did you a huge favour and it’s time you take the final step and end the relationship
You’re not in a place to be in a successful relationship right now and need to focus on your new work and on whatever issues you’re having.
These aren’t things that are going to be fixed anytime soon so the reality is even if she comes back to you it’s probably going to happen again. A clean break and focus would be my advice
You don't because you did nothing wrong. The one who needs to make things right is your girlfriend by taking a spoon of her own medicine and starting to talk to you. How would you make something right when you don't even know what her problem is?
Is it the bruden of the knowledge? But why did she ask in the first place?
Was it to much at once? Then why didn't she stop you?
Or is it some kind of disgust because you left your father to die alone after all that he did?
This whole situation is yor girlfriends fault and she needs to start talking to you.
More like he isn't relationship material and simply wants you around when he likes.
I mean if you are happy with your allotted time, stick around. Seems totally absurd to me to be in a relationship and have such limited contact. And I'm an introvert that likes my personal time.
Thank you! I hope this is the case for me, I guess I’ll just have to see how it goes
Overthinking huh, I guess that's right. I need to stop this, sometimes distraction work, like I go hangout with my friends or just watch something or play single player games. Is this the only way? Do I have to distract myself everytime this comes up?
I know for the fact, based on my story I should have nothing to worry about, yet the worry is always there.
At this point I just want this jealousy feeling and sick feeling on my stomach whenever I see her play with them just go pack their stuffs, go away, and never come back.
It's not a big deal, shouldn't be a big deal, yet they won't go away and I'm sick of them
You’re in love with a cheater, you should have more respect for yourself.
You need to take care of yourself first before you can care for others. And your family needs someone from outside to help them. All you can do is get them to therapy and support them for that. There are treatment programs for your brother. Ask his doctor. As for your mother, I don't know, but again, she needs to see a doctor to make sure she does not have some other illness that's causing her weight loss.
I wish I could be more supportive of you and your family, but you need to remember the old saying, “don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm”. You look after yourself first and then get help for others. Does your school where you are have psychologists on staff to help students like you? Do not be too proud to go and ask. You are overwhelmed, and also need someone to be supportive. Take care and lots of virtual hugs to you!
This has real British energy that really resonates with me…
You really have to have the convo with her about this because I’m also getting into that “CBA to be a wreckhead” and honestly I’m really thankful that my partner feels the same. It would be a bit of a dealbreaker for me if I had to endure this every weekend because well… it’s boring.
Honesty and transparency are the best options for you and good luck ??
Aight, no reason for you to complain then – everyone profits
I need a lot of alone time, otherwise I get cranky. So I completely get your desire/need to have one weekend away from everything. I think him being upset about your ONE weekend is a “him problem” that HE needs to solve himself. He may never understand why you need/want to have a solo weekend getaway, but he doesn’t need to understand it. He just needs to accept it. I don’t think you need to spend anymore time trying to pacify/placate him about your weekend, he needs to learn how to self-soothe.
Lmao wtf.
Do you even get anything out this relationship or is it all about him?
Yea definitely, great point of view, unfortunately I’d never dated anyone with such viscous trauma and think i handled it a bit too closely and now we’re in this place, any advice on what to do if we split as we live together and have 6 months left on a lease?
That's the funny thing. If you don't want to- you don't.
Dont have sex with drunk people or when you yourself are intoxicated.
Sounds like your MIL is moving in.
OP, you really need to back the fuck up where this break up is concerned. It's not your business until your daughter is ready to talk about it. Stop interfering or be prepared for a smack on the nose with a rolled up newspaper.
Lmaoooo my brother they are fucking, move on with your life.