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What on earth Made you fall for This guy?…. Seek therapy
She clearly isn’t ready for it… if she isn’t even mature enough to have a conversation about it then she isn’t mature enough for a healthy sexual relationship. You guys are young, so it may not be a dealbreaker but something to think about
I mean there’s nothing wrong with it since it’s legal but in my opinion I just feel like an 18 is a new sprout if you know what I mean to being an adult. You should take your time and get to know each other and nothing extreme. Besides the age difference, there’s nothing wrong, many people date with age gaps.
Do NOT go after a guy in a relationship. Absolutely not. If you want a fuck buddy, find one who is also unattached and wants something casual. Frankly, your be coming off as a creepy older lady hitting a young guy up for an affair, and that's gross.
Are you just going to copy and paste the same response to every comment? Because it's all in your head! You've been with this dude for 2 years, I've seen your previous posts that said how long you've been together. You flipped out over a hoodie, you flipped out because some girl ghosted him and you think you were his second choice even after he told you that wasn't the case, you flipped out because he was following the same girl you're posting about now. It's been TWO YEARS together-if you can't let these things go by now you never will and there's no point being with him. He doesn't deserve to be given the 3rd degree on a constant basis over stupid baby bullshit. I'm sorry to be harsh but you're posting about the same things over and over, it's not healthy for you and it's not fair to him. So either move past it and get on with your relationship or break up and find someone else. He must love you because not many guys would stay and continue to be accused of things they clearly aren't guilty of…but someone who loves you can only put up with so much before they can't take it anymore, keep that in mind.
He was probably really careful in what he did around you and he didn't show any warning signs for you to pick up on.
The number of “Turns out my partner is a slob who won't cook, clean or pay bills” posts on here should be warning enough.
As others have said, you rely too much on him. You absolutely need to be more independent. And for the love of god, working for him doesn’t count
I think we need some more info on your wife’s side of things. Does she want to lose the weight but doesn’t have the capacity e.g doing all the housework, liking after kids?
Except jokes are meant to be funny and yours really wasn’t
I’m definitely not marrying the entire family ?? I agree – what a load of crap.
You must be one of those “family over everything “ kind of people. You can cut ties with anybody – even blood – if it breaks your boundaries and what you’re comfortable with.
Just tell her he's busy.
Nope
Anyone who ever threatens to sleep with their ex or anyone else, should NOT BE TRUSTED
Right? They were in contact the whole eight years? Did wife know her or know he was in contact with her the past 8 years? I have questions…
Well put analysis, might just be the case. The whole wrestling and cuddling part for me is quite confusing as its something I would never to with a platonic female friend.
Worth to note that there other signs as well which makes me question. In general a lot of touching of both body and hands, hugging. Also noticed during the wrestling that she looked down on my mouth a fair bit.
We can only go by what OP has expressed. I based my comments from that.
When people show (or tell) you who they are, believe them.
OP, please don’t do this lol. Not washing literal waste off of your body is straight up bad for your health.
you can develop a meaningful relationship in that time without marriage. marriage is something that should come way later, there's always time unless you're old and desperate to have kids before your eggs die
Just tell your gf if you can keep them, send them to wash and boom! You’ve got 50 new hoodies and your gf is happy!
To me that is a good thing
You don’t go. How horrible that your father is treating your husband that way and he has no support from you on it. I can see why your husband would say that too, why the hell would he want to be around your father and treated like crap.
You made a vow to stick with your husband through thick and thin, so I suggest you do so and tell your father to stop being an asshole to your husband or you won’t be coming around.
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Do I take it you don't like the word then? ? x
what counts as cheating differs from couple to couple, you should have a calm conversation about it together. these pictures in fact count as porn as long as he had them in that context. not all men want to watch porn but some have their folders, regardless, that does not matter, this is about you, your bf and your relationship. i wouldn’t say he got bored of you or don’t find you attractive anymore but if you have doubts, ask him. people long for new things but that doesn’t mean anything is wrong with the old. i personally think as long as he can provide you with enough sexual attention and preform as usual in bed, there is no issue. if it still makes you feel sick, have a conversation and try meet each other’s need in the middle.
how is your relationship with porn? has he watched earlier in the relationship, have you? has it ever been an issue? have you had a conversation about porn consumption earlier?have you ever set any boundaries about it?
Sounds like you wanna fuck around and find out. Op let me put it to you this way: If your co-worker pursues you despite you being in a relationship, what makes you think that once you two get together she will respect your relationship? She'll be looking for the next guy while she's with you. It's most likely a game to her, a conquest. So sure, break up with your girlfriend and explore it if you want. Once the shit hits the fan and you realize you've been bamboozled live with your decision. Don't try to get your ex back.
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Have you been to his house and/or met his family?
Do you know for a fact that they are sleeping in separate rooms?
Ain’t nothing wrong with you my boy. Can’t say the same about ur girl. Don’t feel inadequate, there’s plenty of girls that love average or even smaller. Keep swinging that hammer and you’ll find a girl that won’t do shit like that.
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You are right. I had an interest in him previously, but it was a short lived thing some time ago. I thought because we were such good friends, when we start going on dates I could maybe reignite that interest, or sometimes you can start finding people who are not your type attractive after developing some kind of relationship. I did not have an intention to lead him on or be deceptive, but I realize that I should have just said no when I was asked. Will not be dating people who I already don't have feelings for from now..
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I agree with you it’s completely unreasonable. You’re a grown adult man. It’s as if she’s trying to punish you You’re a grown man you should be able to live your life as you want to and and I’m sorry your mother is doing this to you.
Send all the screenshots anonymously. And block him
He definitely used you. Sorry.
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What are the issues you’re being asked to fix?
You aren't being unreasonable, but I am at a loss for advice… Like his parents are allowed to come over at anytime I assume.
So unless
What exactly do they hate about you?
He's telling you not to relax around him, and to always keep your guard up. If you're looking for someone that you can relax and be safe around, this isn't your man.
Danger! Danger! Right now I see it as a bonus that you haven’t fully committed to this guy, because he is some combination of mamma’s boy and “not that into you”, and that’s fine if you want something casual, but you have to know that this guy is not commitment material.
At least you don't have kids with him. You're still very and can find a partner who doesn't lie and then cower when you confront him. This guy sounds like he may have committed too early in life and now wants to sow some oats.
I'm not sure if I even plan on being in anything serious, but I've been planning to tell him that. Thank you.
If you're miserable you probably should end the relationship. If you talked about it and nothing has changed it shows you what your relationship will be like in the future.
There has been studies on relationships and if you're in a unhappy relationship now it likely will stay that way unless big changes are made. Statistically unhappy relationships stay unhappy.
P.s. that would drive any one nuts.
Birds of a feather is a real thing, and he told you he would pick her over you. Tell the boyfriend and tell your boyfriend to get lost.
From reading your responses to some of the comments he's either cross dressing or banging a big ol girl on the side aka cheating,
So you're not a human? lol. Ugh. Honestly, though, you sound unhappy and incompatible. Why stay married?
it makes a lot of sense when you put it like that. the other guy was talking to girls too, so the fact that my bf was telling me that he was so dedicated- and only dedicated- to me made me not think twice about dropping the other guy. it was like there was no competition, one was clearly making me his choice while to the other i was just an option.
i didn’t see it as guilt tripping in the moment, but having this all come out at once is definitely overwhelming.
There must be more than this one drunken event 5 years ago to make you feel this way. Are there other issues with other women?
He's still mad at me for not having sex
Block on social media, block his number, run for the hills
That’s rape imo
you consented to different sexual terms than his
“All his guy friends agree”
Then they can give each other head.
And he’s right, it’s not a necessity, but then again neither is he. So… look at that. Perfectly balanced.
He said his brother asked the friend in question 3 weeks ago for the ticket and that he got… I told him again and again that I know about the conversation he had on speaker with his friend so he needs to stop with this issue and honestly I am mainly expecting an apology for the way he dropped me off at his mom place and expect me to wait there for him with the laundry. It felt disrespectful 🙂 he also insisted that he told me he was gonna go watch the game before asking me to go with him and do laundry and that there is nothing wrong with me chillin there for a few hours at his mom house. I am so mad at his words and it feels to much to end everything just for this issue I wanted to talk things out and put some work to make this relationship work but he lies then he insist that he did not lie and that I make things up which is what made me so confused and tired
Do not stay with someone who showing you no respect … your value is much important, move on with your life , you deserve better.
Wow if you take her back you are the fool she thinks you are. She already thought you were the beta doormat that would take her back, and now she is right. Grow a backbone. Of course she has cheated and repeatedly. She just didn’t have any respect for you or she would have been honest. Clueless much?
Fuck AI art.
Yep. You just have to decide if you’re willing to live with his hypocrisy.
I gotta tell you, I don’t really believe he will draw boundaries with her. When a woman is flirting with my boyfriend, he pulls me in for a hug and starts talking about us whether it’s relevant to the conversation or not lol. You deserve someone who behaves like that.
You may have screwed yourself over. It is very hard to get people out once they move in. It doesn't sound like he would ever want her out. You are setting yourself up for financial abuse.
It would be a good idea to think of what your options are if things become unbearable. I have seen so many stories of roommates who refuse to contribute anything and also refuse to leave. You essentially become a hostage having to pay all the bills in a home you live in but have no control over. I hope this doesn't happen to you because it is a terrible thing to go through.
Therapy. Try to get to the core why you think this person is someone for you. You’ve acknowledged he’s put you through hell. It’s not about you not being good enough it’s about him being shit. He’s young and immature on top of it. Don’t chase after little boys playing games. Get yourself right understand what you deserve and don’t settle for less.
Thank you, I am too. We had a play-argument one time and it got uncomfortable fast cause he threatened to hurt me if I ever tried to walk away from him during an argument. I don’t know why I stayed..
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Move on. You got lovebombed. Don’t let somebody tell you they’re your future husband or that they love you before dating you for at least a couple months. He barely knew you after 2 hours of texting, how could he know you’d last forever?
He sounds like a real piece of shit, girl. You deserve loving support, not toxicity and judgment.
If I had waited a few more hours or one more day maybe I would have gotten that next date.
I mean, maybe? Maybe not. Surely he could have texted or emailed you if he wanted to make plans – he didn't need to wait until he was back to do that.
LOL this is the stupidest shit I heard, well rather than Elon naming his kids using symbols.
TBH, I see a few red flags in your bf’s behavior.
One, I am always a bit skeptical of people who are like ‘I am not like other girls’ or ‘I don’t get along with other guys.’ Well, why don’t you get along with your own gender?
Second, his approach is kinda creepy. DMing random women on insta feels pretty close to just ‘befriending’ pretty women. Which is different from befriending people through hobbies or mutual friends. Does he have anything in common with these women beyond liking their looks? Does he have any idea what ‘friendship’ actually means? Have the women given any indication that they want his friendship? Randos sliding into my DMs annoy me.
IF she grows up.
My high school teacher here in the US was floored that the students were acting exclusive immediately because when she was dating in the 80s (also in the US) it was apparently very normal to go on dates with a lot of people and only stop once you were boyfriend/girlfriend. From her perspective we were wasting a lot of time being too serious trying to jump into relationships when instead we should be getting to know as many people as possible so you know what you do/don't like
I have been seeing the same, including some one referring to her as an “overreactor” Another said she is “a nightmare” then others describing her as exhausting or that the relationship is toxic. Nothing really glowing and supportive of her at all. These are in multiple past posts. There is one from about 65 days ago where it reveals she is an ex that he got back together with. Sometimes people are exes for a reason.
I have had individual therapy but he hasn’t, I couldn’t afford for the couples therapy to continue which is why it stopped!
You don't need anybody but yourself.
Figure out why you love yourself and learn to enjoy your own company.
Then, find someone who compliments the life you love and want to live..
If he only influences you in ways that benefit him, run. He’s using your openness for his benefit only. It’s that part that makes it manipulative rather than influencing. Your openness is a powerful relationship strength, and something to be proud of, you just have to recognize when someone is taking advantage of it, and cut them off. Only continue to allow influence from those who have both peoples best interests at heart, not just theirs.
I’m gonna push against the tide here, and say I don’t see anything wrong here. It doesn’t sound like you’re stopping her from doing things her age; on the contrary, she’s trying to actively involve you. It doesn’t sound like you’re forcing her to take on a role in your child’s life, or trying to trap her with a baby or something like that. If you feel young enough to do the things she wants you both to do together, I say live it for as long as it goes my dude! If it’s a short thing, so be it. If you guys end up spending the rest of your lives together, then more for you both!
Don’t listen to her friend (singular, it sounds like her other friends weren’t trying to meddle in your girlfriends business), she’s had one too many, is probably feeling a bit jealous if she’s single herself, and wanted to vocalise how she felt (which she has every right to do). Please don’t take it to heart, and make it come between you and your girlfriend. Be honest with her how that comment made you feel, and accept any reassurance she has that she’s happy in yours relationship. The trust her and move on!
Good luck to you both, I hope it all works out!
You have gotten into a bad situation with no equity in anything. I realize you have gotten attached but this is total abuse without the bruises. Please rethink this relationship. And stop paying for his vises and phone. Make him walk everywhere as well. He needs to up his game or go. Sorry.
Stacking up arguments in an elaborated style. Pretty good.
Every sentence in itself is reason enough to leave that man.
But the final one is the final blow.
Twice a week ?? I couldn’t, I’d feel disgusting
RUN
Who the fuck cares? You can give your male or female partner HPV warts even if you were wearing a condom when you cheated on them. Even if you get tested right after, you don't know you're good on HIV for 6 months. Someone cheats on you and doesn't tell you before they have sex with you again? get them the fuck out of your life
He's having a breakdown.
“For better or worse”, well this is one of the “worse” times.
Be there with and for him. Talk. He needs you now more than ever.
Or start building a cot
You've had no success with that so far. Nothing has changed. It's her life, her responsibility to live it. Your feelings for her dilemma speak well for you, but are insufficient to justify any action on your part. Be happy.
You’re just realizing he doesn’t want to marry you now? I’m sad for you that you’ve wasted this much time with this guy when you don’t want the same things. Break up and find someone who does. I promise it isn’t too late.
Yes. Also don't lend him money
I am starting to see that. Thank you guys.
He can’t get a woman his age to control like he does with you. Women his age won’t put up with the abuse he does. You shouldn’t be putting up with the abuse he does either. He isn’t sweet or gentle or anything good. He is terrible and nothing good. You need to wise up and have some self respect and not be with someone who treats you like this. Making you weigh yourself in front of him is abusive behaviors. Him using your fear as a reason to do it is ridiculous. You can lose 215 lbs easily if you finally accept he isn’t good for you.
“Her biggest fear is that some random person will start kissing me and I will just walk off with them.”
Well… This is a new level of insecurity I haven't yet seen before. And this is worrying me a lot. I'm sure she doesn't mean to be this way… but you can't even walk out on the street basically?
“I tried to help by having us stay with family so she could have other people to talk to, but she continuously told me how much she hated them and that she didn't want them talking to her.”
This sounds like a very narccicistic person. They can be very hateful as they don't feel emotions like you do. They project them.
“She felt that we weren't close enough, and threatened to break up with me a lot because she wanted to do things like travel and hang out with friends while in lockdown, but I wouldn't because it wasn't allowed.”
This is controlling behavior ánd manipulation. By telling you what you can't do or can do, and also threatening to break up to keep you in check.
“Either she gets upset because I am suffering so much and I have to comfort her, or it turns into something about her and she goes into a depressive state.”
Narccicistic people will always turn the negative emotions you feel and experience towards them in reverse towards you. Again, projection.
“I understand that a lot of things that I said are negative, but I haven't been able to find a lot of things that are definite signs of abuse.”
And now you have it all laid out for you 🙂
You should make tangible improvements then meet them and apologize to her father when you meet him.
Yeah your right it just sucks knowing that I looked passed at to still be with her.
Don't think of it as a mindset, it is a deeply engrained believe, that she is not allowed to “cause trouble”.
It is basically like telling you, not to worry about a really basic every day rule, think like “Don't curse at your parents” and now imagine yourself doing that. Picture yourself telling your mom she is a worthless bitch for asking you to borrow her your car. (Or something that applies to you feeling like it is deeply disrespectful and not your place to refuse with a sprinkle of fear she would hurt you physically)
THAT is what it might feel like for your girlfriend. She can work towards letting gonof that feeling, but it probably doesn't help her to just demand boundaries.
Encourage her. Offer her to give you a sign if she needs (silent!) backup. Let her find a way to “not cause a scene” while still making her own position clear. Talk to her “we against the problem, not each other”. The problem isn't her not enforcing boundaries, it's her not feeling comfortable to do so and feeling even more pressured by you.
What can both of you do to make her more comfortable to reject people, to know she has the rightvto do so.
Let her leave. You may never be ready for kids, and it's hell having them run your entire life when you don't want them.
He is cheating on you and projecting. This is a very weir hill to die on on his part
Try to be reasonable here and you're downvoted. People only believe their viewpoint is the correct one.
He's the kind of man who has helped someone rape you. Whether he loved you or if you were dating doesn't matter, he's okay with rape.
I don't think I could ever move past this, and raise a child (of either sex) with someone like that.
Literally just saw that and said the same shit. Like wtf is a grown ass man doing on a college campus and wants her to be at home with no income and no education?
Yeah.. he's gonna wanna babytrap OP real quick and have her be completely dependent on him. Jesus if u were my kid OP i wldve asked u if you were insane getting with a dude that much older than u and as a mother I'd probably think he's a whole creep for wanting to be with my child that's so much younger than him.
I already have an appointment booked
Your husband is trying to deflect, and the marinara flags are waving. He knows about your history. He chose to not disclose to you that he sent almost double the money. If you feel you can’t trust him after he pulled this stunt, definitely move your check to an account only you can have access.
Or it could be all in OP's head and she doesn't understand the difference between friendly and flirting.
He said that my girlfriend asked him out in the past. I confronted her about it, she said she was only joking.
The conversation happened between them, its a fact.
Your friend has no reason to lie to you. Your GF would, back-pedaling/saving face.
You confessed your feelings to her and she:
She asked for time, so I gave her time and waited.
Time for what? She had a crush on your friend and wanted to test it. There was an immediate request that followed.
Didn't work out? Well, now she settles for you.
That's what happened.
Do you people not have others you can date that are outside of your social circles? Might want to start considering that. I have seen so many social circles fall apart because people bring a ton of romance into it and complicate things.
If divorce isn't a valid recommendation, why did you take off your ring?
You're right, people jump to the nuclear option to often here, but the situation you described is already nuclear. She threatened to kill you! You've painted the picture of an unstable and irresponsible woman.
And do you want your daughter growing up with this woman as a primary caregiver, the one whose parenting skills you yourself described as being “lax”?
Go to therapy and hope for the best, but for the sake of your daughter, start planning for the worst. Keep a journal of all the behaviors that a family court judge will be interested in. Please, just in case.
And a raise to stay if this is the shit you have to tolerate
This sounds like a familiar story. Will always confuse me how my brain could fall for someone providing the bare minimum affection and effort, yet I genuinely did love the overgrown turd that was my ex – fortunately it only lasted 9 months (and I’m old enough to know better lmao so that’s a poor show by me).
Current boyfriend, whilst it’s still early days, the difference is uncanny. All I wanted of my ex was for him to think of things for us to do, or steer a bloody conversation. Current partner thinks of things I’ll like, gets excited when I suggest silly things (literally wanted to play with goats over Easter, we found some goats) and it’s just.. like you said, is it potentially cheesy from the outside? Sure! But the level he gets me vs the dude I spent night upon night crying over.. what the actual heck is wrong with me for staying as long as I did.
What?
Unless he tried to do an actual stand up and tried to pass it of as his own joke, it's not “taking credit for someone else's work”. It's telling a joke.
I’m also not concerned that she is going to cheat. The relationship is healthy
So what now? Did your father approve of your marriage? If not, can you still get married?
Our communication isn't great.
He is not helpful around the house unless I specifically ask.
He doesn't include me on important conversations that effect my life.
Sex doesn't happen unless I initiate it and it makes me feel unwanted a lot.
He breaks a lot of big and small promises.
Of course there are valuable aspects of our relationship. I worry when I list my grievances I make him look like a terrible person when he's not.
thank you for taking the time to read through and offer support, the world is lucky to have people like you.
I’ve been trying to tell myself this, that our differences as far as views, values, and timeline were too wide. Sadly these issues never came up in our almost 2 years together :/. We had a wonderful understanding and agreed on mostly everything in day to day life :/. I’m still finding out what I believe in and I think it was the same for her, we were just two kind souls learning about the world together.. things were always really really happy. I feel like I was scared to leave my comfy risk free life at home, scared to take the leap and really settle in on a life with her, and now I’m living in regret and sorrow ?
If she's your friend, you have to tell her. If she gets mad, well, you weren't that close anyway.
I stated in the post that I realized it was unfair of me to expect him to not take care of his needs when I don’t. I am trying to change my views on him doing so so that I don’t get bothered by it anymore
Yup, that is exactly what this is, and it's typically a product of an emotionally abusive parent who will not allow their child to develop healthy boundaries.
op, you married your bully.
this guy definitely doesn't love you. THIS IS NOT LOVE. This is contempt, hate and cruelty.
there is zero love here – he just likes having you as a punching bag – likely because as he has some dark hole in himself he cant face up to. but the WHY is irrelevant really. Hes a nasty, cruel bully. YOUR bully.
You dont deserve this. someone who hates you isnt someone you need to try and convince to be “nice to you” or start to show you a smidge of respect.
Please know you are gold. He is a dark hole, stop letting him hurt you because he hates himself. You cant fix him, he is hateful.
Please choose you.
DOnt stay around to be abused and hated and hurt and laughed at daily in your own kitchen. It will emotionally destroy you.
Actually it wouldve been 1 if noone complained
Besides leaving, there isn’t a simple solution. I suggest you start making plans to leave. Make a list of people that can support you and reach out to whatever social services you have in your area. Usually there is something for mothers and children. While you are planning your exit think of a small change you can make, that he might be ok with. The idea is to slowly push back and take back your power. Read about personal boundaries and find small boundaries you can set and uphold.
You are a cheater
you didn't get an answer. . . awkward. I thinkthat means no.
Hey! Thank you for responding! I did think about consent but thought this is how its supposed to be. Your comment clears my doubts. I honestly don't know if I enjoyed that at all. I would give it sometime to start touching him with his consent. I would require few more meetings to gauge that. I realise now that it was bit too fast for me. Should I try to convey these things to him now because this hasn't left my mind since I came back after meeting him. Part of me was happy of how accepting he was of my flaws and let it go but then I always had this in the back of my head.