You don't like her perfume and the way she dresses and the way she speaks…so then what do you like about her? Those things that you don't like is what makes her be herself. I don't think that you love her because If you did you would love everything about her.
Assuming for a moment that his reddit post reflected real issues for him, what did you think about the advice he got? Stop and read it again.
You “don’t care” what he does or with who, and yet you get worried and you want to be informed about it. In other words: you DO care.
You “don’t judge” people for drinking, but when he does it “that just feels icky.” In other words, you DO judge.
If he’s not engaging in behaviors that are causing actual problems, you should strongly consider backing off.
You don't like her perfume and the way she dresses and the way she speaks…so then what do you like about her? Those things that you don't like is what makes her be herself. I don't think that you love her because If you did you would love everything about her.