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you deserve someone who sees and values you as a man and a boyfriend
besides the point what I did for years, with no prior knowledge, I could've been an angle and still get feet wiped on me
It’s jealousy that you get more attention than she does. Dismiss the comment.
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He could equally ask, why is the idea of a quick marriage more important to you than the person you’re marrying? If you’re willing to dump me because I’m not giving you what you want, when you want it, where does it end? Are you going to threaten me the next time you want something and I’m not ready?
Personally, I’d walk away and find someone that loves me more than they love the way our relationship is perceived by others.
That's like, therapy bad? You do realize this sounds like a porn plot right?
You can ask your gf to be submissive if you like that, but don't tell her that you want her to do it just because it's what you like with her sister…that's just sick and downright shameful and will not go well.
I have a very very hot time admitting this outloud but i won't try depressed meds cause I'm scared to gain weight.
It went from “He said he had no idea who she was” to “they follow each other on Instagram”. Come on now.
Thank you. Tbh I don’t believe in marriage as a ultimate goal and neither does he. There is no happy forever after. Nevertheless, I still want to build something with someone to whom I am enough and from the beginning I always felt that I needed to change something about myself. I even talked to his ex once and she told me she felt he was constantly trying to change her.? but at least he envisioned living with her .
I am fed up of feeling like I’m not perfect enough.
Pack your shit and go! Call the police on the way out!!
Ok. Why does that mean you can’t break up ?
The divorce would be for his sake, not yours.
You are supporting him getting abused by his mother
That's the general std test for men.
why what do you mean? lol
Honestly OP, there comes a time when you have to admit defeat and you did. It was in your best interest. You cannot fix this woman, but you can do what needs to be done for yourself, which was removing yourself from the situation. You tried to work things out and she didn't want to. You're doing what's best for you, which a lot of people won't do because it can be very hot. I think you did the right thing in blocking her. At this point, just stand your ground if she tries to get in contact with you again.
well I already said that english is not my main language and I thought hooking up means going on dates and getting to know each other (no sex involve)
Also you don’t really have a say, if your in the US I’m pretty sure she can fill out the birth certificate without you. I’m sorry this is happening but you guys should have had this discussion a long time before she got pregnant
I think she felt like we were rushing because we never went through an engagement, we just were sitting on the couch talking about finances and insurance and we’re like “huh, maybe we should just get married to make all of this easier and save a bunch of money every year”, so the realization to time we got married was less than a month. We had faced so much adversity together over the past few years and took it in hand in hand, so it just kind of felt like no big deal at that point.
Thank you for this. I was in an abusive relationship and I’m gonna be honest, I’m not sure if all these answers are gonna get through to OP. I had lots of friends tell me I was in danger and I just didn’t want to believe it so I didn’t until it was too late and he had drunkenly SA’ed me. I stayed with him after that. For awhile. Abuse is very hot. Being in an abusive relationship is like that old saying about boiling a frog– the water gets turned up hotter and hotter and you don’t realize you’re in danger until it’s too late. OP I’m sorry you’re having to confront this. If you ever want to talk, DM me, okay? Just please know that none of this is your fault and there’s nothing wrong with you and while you should absolutely leave, do it when you’re ready. But please do it before it’s too late. He’s gonna keep violating you, doing things without your consent. He’s gonna keep putting you down and degrading and using you. He will not stop. It will get worse. That’s how abusers operate. You are in danger. That’s the fact of the matter. You’re in danger, OP, and I wish you weren’t, and I wish the person you loved wasn’t putting you in danger, but he is.
Same. If I had a penny for every time some idiot used a list of shit I have as an excuse for why they should continue to let their partner abuse them/their kid/their animal, I’d be able to pay for my therapy with those funds. Just…ugh. I get that abusive relationship dynamics are tricky, but I will never understand people who allow someone to hurt their kids or pets. My self-preservation drops below very hot rage, then. Fuck this. Fuck this so much.
Lol you want to just throw him away instead of dealing with the issue. Yeah of course he’s acting out he’s a teen. Maybe it will be better for him cause you don’t seem to care about him at all
I can tell that you are the problem here
should I wait for him to date around and then come back in a few months or years
Hell no. You don't even seem to realize how much LIFE is out there that you would never have experienced if you'd stayed with him. Get yourself together and start making plans.
So obviously bullshit
You are the mother of his child, and yes, he should be honoring that. You should make plans to end the marriage and get out as you don't deserve to be treated like that.
You’re his online in maid while he cheats on you. He doesn’t love you, you’re just a convenience that never goes away. Please get some self respect and stop wasting your time with this.
Well no….. but it does mean she is gonna be single real soon and is an asshole. If she wants to do some that that is a clear boundary set by her partner, she should leave him and be respectful.
You're fiance has been raping you. Think about that.
My wife was 19 when I was 23, we met when she was 20 but I don’t see the Huge difference problem. Almost 13 years later, 10 years of marriage and 4 kids now
If you're not already working with a medical professional that would be the first move. No non trained individual is going to be able to talk you down off the ledge constantly. The average non psychologist cannot offer you “a little more support”. Don't make this her problem unless you've actively taking measures to stabilize your mental illness.
This is such a bs post ? it's a troll
A cousin he had already gone years without seeing. Obviously not very close family.
He's cheating on you, not apologizing for the cheating (or if he is he clearly doesn't mean it), continues to do it and lie about it to you, denies he is in a relationship when he cheats and has literally no plans to ever stop cheating on you and this is the guy you keep defending?
If you want to stay with him, stay with him. No one can make that choice for you but the writing is on the wall.
This current situation is what life with him will always be. He prioritizes cheating on you over “doing life” with you if he's fine ruining dinner to get his rocks off with another woman. He will always cheat on you. He will never commit to you even if you two get married one day. I've seen it happen to others, they swear once a “real” commitment happens they'll be loyal but the goal posts always move.
He doesn't want to change what he's doing. If this is the man you want to be with, one who constantly disrespects your relationship to your face daily, then go for it but it'll be your mistake to make.
Then don't. She needs to sort this out.
He is about a half bottle a day drinker, spread throughout the day. It’s a lot. Although he’s not a mean drunk, it affects his health for sure (sleep apnea, gerd, hangovers, stomach cramping). He obviously also spends a lot of money on alcohol, buying a bottle about every two days. He works in the restaurant industry and is working on getting out of it, as he knows it’s not helping. He is functional, but not necessarily super high functioning. He gets to work every day, pays his bills, does things for us as a couple, but I can see that it obviously is still affecting him and not good for him. I don’t want to sit here and make excuses though because in the end I know it’s just not good, and I do genuinely worry for his health and well being. We have had very serious discussions about it, but I have never flat out said I’m going to walk away if you don’t stop, only that I want to be with him long term and I genuinely worry how his alcoholism could affect his and our future (his health, our finances, possible future kids, etc etc etc) because I love him and love our relationship. I feel like I sound absolutely bonkers for thinking I could wait longer to see if he really does do the things he says he wants to. I genuinely have seen change in him over 5 years, so it makes me think maybe that ball will just keep rolling and I should stick it out and see. Another part of me knows I shouldn’t wait around for someone. It’s just tough. I genuinely believe he wants to change, but he isn’t actively seeking the support to do so.
She agreed to $800. He should’ve made up the rest with his own money if he wanted to give more.
An observation and a thought.
Observation: In your post you frame that the edm and rave scene was your thing and that you introduced your boyfriend to it and that it is now his thing. Do you feel like he has appropriated something that was ‘your’ thing, that made you feel special, and taken that away? The fact that you led with this in your posts suggests that there is something in that framing that is significant for you. From your reaction, it sounds to me like you feel hurt by what your BF is doing and are lashing out … if you can figure out why you feel hurt you can likely figure out why you responded the way that you did. Maybe you resent that he is doing things that you always dreamed of doing?
Thought: you don’t need to fully apologize to a bunch of rando’s on the internet, you need to fully apologize to your BF. Own how your feeling and apologize for hurting him, fully and without reservation. Maybe even show him this post.
Please don't marry him, he's surrounded by cheaters any problem you'll have in your marriage her mom and sister may advise him to just cheat on you.
Then her son should have gone right straight to dad when he took her home from the drive and spilled the beans immediately, he should not have waited for a chance to go through her phone. Going strictly off his post, his mom only told him the guy had been in touch again and dad didn't like him. She didn't say anything about not telling his dad. From his post, he didn't give her a chance to follow up. Instead he blew up at her and went snooping in her phone.
I frequently ask my son's advice on marital issues – usually things like “any idea how I can get your dad to (fill in the blank)” and my son has asked the same types of things of me about his wife. That is not making them an accomplice – it's getting advice from someone who knows both of you and might have a better take on the situation because they share the same gender. If she was looking for advice from her son on how to shut this guy down permanently, he certainly blew the opportunity.
And if she wanted to keep the guy “close” to make herself feel good, she sure as hell would have been in contact a lot more than a “few” times over 30 years.
Well, if that’s the way you roll then seems to me he doesn’t match what you want at face value. But it also doesn’t seem like you actually know what you want and as such also haven’t communicated that.
May I offer an example?
When I started dating my now partner, I was looking for something pretty casual. At the time, I worked long hours at times, traveled half of every month for work, have a time consuming hobby, have volunteer work, have a house and yard to maintain, etc. I had also been previously divorced, didn’t want to marry again, and am child free and do not want kids.
I told him the most I could really commit to at the beginning was a couple of dates a month.
All that before we even met for a first date because that just isn’t a good fit for a lot of people.
And from his side, he has a child, he has a busy hobby, etc. so he was cool with a more low key approach.
We weren’t even exclusive til we dated for 6 mos.
My point being that you can communicate where you’re at and what you’re capable of or what your expectations are but more from a “here is what I can do” NOT “I won’t do this or that and you can’t have any expectations.”
I suppose it’s kind of a fine line but to me, stating what you can do and what you want is different than telling someone that these are all the rules I online by and you don’t get to have any and oh by the way, be sure to make yourself available when I’m ready to grace you with my presence.
I realize your post is just one little snapshot but I (44F) am getting the ick for this guy reading what you’re writing.
I don’t feel like he wants a partner, just a FWB who can accompany him as some arm candy at business dinners.
You’re not that important to him as you think. Your relationship isn’t that healthy if he chose to lie to your face to hang out with his boys.
The thing about this is he has already tried it before so it’s not like you’re fulfilling a fantasy of his. There’s many things that could go wrong in a threesome when in a committed relationship with someone.
Both ask yourself if doing it would actually benefit the relationship in any way. Also, if he’s requesting a FFM threesome ask how he’d feel about MMF and his answer should be pretty telling if he really just enjoys threesome or if it’s for selfish reasons (unless you’re bi/bi-curious ofc that changes things).
How exactly are you an old soul when you can't even see through his excuses?
Your kids and your rent are obviously more important to you than your partner. You've made your choice. What's your question?
What exactly is the issue? Wedding planning is a nightmare, if I was the pregnant person I wouldn't expect the couple to plan their whole wedding around me, even if it was a super close family member.
I'm also wondering what kind of activities you can do at a wedding reception that would exclude pregnant people. Wouldn't it also exclude old people, little kids, people with chronic injuries, etc?
What exactly is the issue? Wedding planning is a nightmare, if I was the pregnant person I wouldn't expect the couple to plan their whole wedding around me, even if it was a super close family member.
I'm also wondering what kind of activities you can do at a wedding reception that would exclude pregnant people. Wouldn't it also exclude old people, little kids, people with chronic injuries, etc?
His response to you calling him out for cheating is literally emotional abuse. I don't even have to read all that to say TAKE THE DIVORCE AND RUN
Also he may or may not be expecting you to agree. If you agree be prepared for the worst but hope for the best.
Explain how it’s a given? I confronted her and she said the boss told me ahead of time that she might try that. But yah she said she’s only interested in men.
He didnt cheat but that's not a habit or something you want your significant other to tell you that they are oing. So yeah you have a right to be upset and then to use you as the reason why isn't acceptable either. Does he have a diagnosed condition? I ask because he can take supplements or maybe take like Viagra or something else
Your mother won't be happy if she finds out you rather be with a man who cheated on you than breaking her happiness.
You are stuck in the middle at this point. I would suggest you talk to him about this matter. IN PRIVATE. Know the entire truth and why he did that if he was going to propose. Marriage asks a lot of commitment and trust. You won't trust him no matter what happened in the future, and you both won't be happy.
But if you think you won't stay together after knowing the truth, tell your mother when she got better. She will understand.
I hate to say it, but if you’ve already asked for your friend to stop and she continues to do so then she has zero respect for you and it may be time to cut ties. I’d give her one more chance and address your concerns in private (a one on one heartfelt convo), and if she still fails to respect your wishes then weed the garden. I’ve had friends like this in the past and nothing seemed to get through. I cannot relate with taking meds, BUT i know how it feels to have a “friend” constantly going out of their way to make you feel AND look bad. I had one “friend” who despite the fact they shared their insecurities and my going out of my way to build them up and make them feel good they went out of their way to make me feel bad. They’d constantly make jokes at my expense & expect me to just suck it up. I ended up cutting them out of my life.