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Break up with your girlfriend and seek therapy for being so attracted to teenage girls.
She deserves better than you by a lot. If you’re a decent person, write her a 10k check on the way out for the therapy she’ll need from being groomed by you.
You need a grip on your life. This guy is bad news and you deserve so much better.
That's great that you emphasize his feelings, you sound like a great girlfriend. With that being said, a relationship goes both ways, it's about give and take. It's time to sit him down and communicate how you feel, don't be afraid to do this.
Better for you to do this now instead of later.
What's with all those parents being religious only when it suits them and then rushing to push their children into the religion before they could even walk?
What, are you afraid that you child will grow up and ditch that religion? Or what?
Is this going to be some kind of an instrument to manipulate your children like you want to manipulate your husband?
Is this some kind of kink to make a decision for someone completely dependent on you?
Adjust the range in your settings! You shouldn’t even been getting matches double your own age. ?♂️
Most people enjoy getting attention and having someone pay attention to them. That doesnt mean they want to date you. People get attention from friends all the time.
What you did was also really unfair and extremely short sighted. Why even ask to date her if you dont really like her? Thats really irresponsible and selfish.
It seems you both are selfish and have been talking to eachother for your own personal gain and nothing else. And now when neither of you can get it its an issue. I suggest you both move on and stop wasting eachothers time.
Umm I'd definitely go for it man. This could be the woman of your dreams, a great fling or friendship or a fuckin nightmare life is to short take the chance
Let us know what happens. Keep us updated
I have the feeling you love the woman you’ve met and you don’t want to let her go. But the moment she heard that you’re assaulted, kept on drinking and then had sex with another guy after her gay friend left tells you why she doesn’t love and care for you.
She doesn’t want to be alone, she wants you for the wrong reasons.
As a SAH spouse and mother, your money is her money (legally and morally). That's the agreement you already made.
If you want her to get a job so she no longer relies exclusively on your money, you will jointly need to make an arrangement for alternative childcare while she's working – it can't be her uncompensated full time job.
There are state specific on-line calculators for alimony, this is likely to align with what the court will decide. You can offer to pay her that amount and insist she moves out ASAP, or you can find childcare and say she's on her own to get a job in order to fund her move-out. Keeping her from accessing any household funds is likely illegal and will not impress the judge.
It sounds like you are stressed, because you know where this is headed. I say take the trip, and have an adult talk. Don’t yell or be accusatory, which will only make the situation more messy.
He told you that he is content with the way things are going. And you are not.
Try to have fun, but take the time during the trip to sort things out in person. Worst case is y’all break up.
You both are at turning points in your own life, and sometimes life takes us in different directions than originally planned. And that’s okay. You might have different needs and wants and boundaries. It’s better to break-up if he isn’t going to put in the effort to meet your needs. You can say hey “this is how it makes me feel when I have to initiate our interactions. Here’s what I need (within reason and a way that works for both of you) to get that met.” If it’s difficult and tiresome and doesn’t seem to come to a happy medium, break up.
Why are you with a 32 year old MAN-CHILD??? He is too selfish and doesn't care about you. You have so much going on for you OP, why waste your younger years with this old LOSER???
I respect you coming back and realizing it was a poor choice of words upon relooking at the info. Not that my opinion really matters, but just wanted to say.
Dude. You're only 26 years old. You have loads of time! Ease off on yourself.
Why not two middle names? It's not unheard of. My nieces have two middle names and last names.
Do yourself a favour and block this man. All he is good for is a headache.
Sorry. It's not your fault. It happens a lot, to a lot of people, and that's really bad. There's nothing you can do about the past but it's OK to cry about it sometimes.
I can see both sides of this issue.
On the one hand, domestic violence is abhorrent and I can understand you wanting to put a stop to it. On the other hand, I also see your friend's point. You never know who's armed these days.
Well he has multiple advanced degrees but in my opinion he settled for a job he is overqualified for, so i don’t think he makes very much considering his resume. But i also dont want to push him. When i say “how this will impact things in the long run” i mean from like a family perspective. We both want to have kids one day, and idk if this will mean i’d have to be the one working while he stays with the kids… I’m also just worried this will make him feel emasculated if he knows i make more…
I don’t think you can sit there and claim that you only have eyes for her, then turn around and text your buddies that her friend would be good in bed… That beyond crosses simply calling her friend attractive.
And then you say that this isn’t the first time that this has come up as an issue? So you were already in a place of building trust back in the relationship (which btw probably contributed to the decrease in your sex life, it’s really naked for some to be sexually attracted to a partner they don’t completely trust or respect) and then you decided, instead of building your relationship back up, you’d turn to porn and ogling her friends with your misogynistic buddies.
Please leave her alone. You’re sad that you’re facing the consequences of your actions. But she’s dealing with your betrayal, the insecurities you’ve probably created for her, and the friendship that you’ve very likely strained through no fault of either of the women….
Let Mike propose in Italy don't make things more complicated than it has to be. Mae sure you're comfortable with the engagement before timewise this is a big decision. If you decide to propose (If you guys can afford it) when the newly engaged couple go home surprise your girlfriend with a short trip to a beautiful country nearby like Malta or Croatia. Buy nice champagne, flowers, dinner, and propose there. Share that moment together without taking away the moment from her sister.
It’s easy to crop a picture to cut out a photo. This was absolutely 1000% on purpose. She knew exactly what the fuck she was doing.
First you have to talk with your partner how she want to deal with her mother in the future. Limited contact? Setting bounderies and and if she shows up after a “no”, don't open the door, if she tries to guilt-trip – just hang on the phone and block here for the day. Or even going no contact for some time till your partner can go to therapy and work on what she wants in the future.
You both must also think about your future. What MIL does is harming you both and can even break up your relationship. And what if you get a child? Do you want to deal with this then? Your MIL seems to be a narcist and i don't think reasoning will work very much. Your gf must know it better, she lived with her many years, i guess too many years.
And so many people try the “but fAmiLy…!”-card to get away with every shit and still force themself back in your life, but being family is more then blood and who you gave birth to, it is love, respect, how you treat someone. Not take, walk over someone and hurt people. You can choose your family.
I don't believe anything OP says especially after reading some of her comments.
Hey, I just want to say that I don't think you deserve the absolute roasting you are getting and people are drawing conclusions without enough information.
But I also just want to make sure you're very aware how your codependency has caused you to make poor choices in the past. And being aware of your issues is only step 1. Step 2 is making healthier choices for you and your kids. Often people become aware of their issues but still repeat the pattern a few times before they learn to do better.
The truth is you stayed with an abusive man for far too long and this meant your children witnessed that abuse. I want you to forgive yourself for this. I get it – truly. You didn't deserve it and you were doing your best at the time.
But be very aware that you may make the same mistake again. It probably feels like you won't. But you might. I hope your new partner is an angel but please be ready to end it at the first sign that he is not right for you or abusive or neglectful. There may not be signs yet. It may be impossible to imagine at this point. And if you start seeing signs you won't want to believe it. You will still have feelings for him and hope and it will be very nude to leave. For the sake of your kids, please face your fear of being alone if it comes to that.
I truly hope it goes smoothly for you and the new guy is as great as you hope.
Like, on the couch in a platonic way, like in a way that you’d be comfortable with a guy friend comforting your wife? Or your wife comforting a guy friend of yours? Or was this pants off spooning in bed with more touching than is generally considered platonic?
He won't change. Divorce him.
No I was commenting because the comment above I felt like was putting more of the blame on her, while they're both wrong, the husband has responsibility to his wife to not be a tw@t
I'm 32. I can barely hold a conversation with a 19 year old without feeling awkward. You're in a totally different place in your life from this woman. Break it off and enjoy being young and not having responsibilities!
Hmmm.. I don't see how a handwritten invite out for vday could be creepy. I hope she accepts and you have a great time though.
lmfao your boyfriend is an insecure loser who doesn't know how to please a woman and is only trying to make you feel bad about that bc he knows he's grasping at straws to mee you.
that said if you guys weren't doing sexy talk before and you were just randomly like yo this would fit my bajingo great…….girl. they make actual toys for that.
Probably not, no.
HOW you “explain” it isn't the issue. The issue is you and her twin sister cheated on your gf. And that is what is either going to break up your relationship, or, your gf forgive you for.
HOW you do it? Is immaterial to the outcome.
Kid probably knows her mom very well and mom is afraid if she tells her, kid will get pissed at her, again. Don’t do it, mom needs to do it.
Either tell him to pull his head out of his ass and realize what he has, or divorce him
she needs me to help her stop her addiction
And yet she had you and didn't stop.
He's a smart guy, wants to make sure you aren't just a freeloader…. which appears you are?
You want him to pay for everything?
I don’t think you’re an asshole for not wanting to cut contact with your parents or move states.
However
I do think you’re an asshole for very clearly standing by her and letting her child know that you accept them. If this gf is someone you view as a potential wife, than this is your potential stepchild and you should make it clear to your parents that you love your child. Would you want to raise them in a state that doesn’t acknowledge their existence and in fact punishes them for it?
Umm. No. Separate right when you are leaving town. No. A little too convenient. Keep the marriage but give me freedom when you leave. Nope. I would consider having counseling as a deal breaker. This isn’t fair to you. You must be at the end of your tether.
why does she care what her parents think when she's a grown adult? that's the strangest thing about this post. if you feel like a second option, dump her, especially if you miss your ex? also she doesn't have to talk to you 24/7. she's allowed to have space.
I would still send the present and a nice note. Then call and see if she'll have coffee with you.
Either he don't knows “how to be a good boyfriend” or he can't be a “good boyfriend” because he is not able to. Tell him what your expectations are and if nothing changes you have a deep talk about the reasons. It could be that he isn't used to give compliments, because he never saw a necessaryty to give them. It could be that he just has another love language than you expect him to have. I know a few “nerds” who struggle with those things, because of their lack of experience with people. But you have to talk with him to find out. Only the chair thing makes it a bit strange. Is he showing autistic behavior for any chance or is he always selfish?
Not love bombing, Daddy/child support leech more like it!!
This is also true… it’s nude letting go when I can see how naked he is trying. But this is definitely something I need to think about. Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it a lot.
So now it’s six kids with four guys. Congratulations, you get Idiot Of The Year Award. Those poor children are doomed, including yours. When you date Fertile Myrtle, you take every precaution you can. And be prepared for a seventh baby either with you or the next boyfriend. This woman is so irresponsible, it’a tragic.
My advice would be to run for the hills as you deserve better than that.
remindme!
A lot of American women feel respected when their boyfriend let’s them pay for half.
Let him do what he wants. As long as he loves you and treats you right it's fine.
Guys need more than one woman. Stop busting his balls.
He says there shouldn't be any secrets between us
They're not secrets, it's client confidentiality
and is calling me names
This is troublesome. NO ONE should be calling their partners names EVEN WHEN MAD. He has zero respect for you.
Is it unfair though? If we can't acknowledge that bringing random men home is a little different then bringing random women home, then we also can't say that women walking home alone at 3am is more dangerous than it is for men.
“Last time” lmao
Ok but why is it morally wrong? It has 0 effect on him.
Your husband sounds super freaking weird imo
Your husband sounds super freaking weird imo
Friends don’t do that to friends, she’ll get her karma but I recommend not living with her.
He was not angry, he was concerned. She blew it out of proportion during the 415 call. Called him controlling i believe. You remind me of someone that called everything a confrontation every time they were called on their shit. It’s a deflection technique. If you can’t ask your wife what the hell she was doing between 130am and 415 am when you thought she was leaving at 130 then you have a BIG problem.
Not having anyone to pay my bills was a very strong motivator to work harder to get a better career. I know you are trying to help but as long as you are subsidizing his lifestyle, he won’t be as motivated as he could be, so it’s just enabling him to not try harder and whine about it like it’s your fault. And, in a way, you do have some fault on this by enabling him to maintain a lifestyle he can’t afford. The motivation will be when he needs to come up with the money for the things he wants.
Stop paying his credit card bills for a start.
Dental issues can be extremely serious – people have died from untreated dental infections. He needs to adjust his priorities pronto.
Agreed! What a buzzkill!
My new boyfriend lives in a different state, he’s told me he wouldn’t mind but money wise it’s a bad move right now. My ex has offered to go to his grandparents house or his moms house until I leave but I know he’ll just hold it over me and whine the entire time he can’t be in the apartment.
That shit sounds abusive. You don’t owe sex to anyone. Also, sex should never be painful unless that’s your thing.
So he's always been a slob. Did he eat off dirty dishes and expect you to as well then? You're only 19. There are better men out there who won't make you do everything and on-line like that.
thank you. I explained it to him like since he took so long to pay me back and he missed the deadline I gave him, I wasn't sure if he could be reliable making payments if we moved in together.
Major red flag ????
She’s running through your friend group man.
I can tell you from experience that committing to her is a disaster waiting to happen.
Do you see this relationship going anywhere?
You did say you just met his son and are not close with him so if you think it has a shot at lasting then I’d go with relationship over friendship.
I mean odds are even if you break things off with the dad the son and you are not going to be super close for a while so you stand to lose both if you go that way.
I know it’s terrible to say but why lose everything if you can avoid it?
Sorry to tell you this buddy but she might have gotten the ick. You did nothing wrong she's just not equipped to handle you
He’s coming across as a supercilious pedant (with a touch of mansplainer) but the true issue is that he’s afraid he’s pronouncing words wrong. He’s worried about himself and how others perceive him. Tell him to snap out of it and stop framing this as if YOU are automatically the wrong one. He can quietly take note of the word and later go look it up for his own edification.
You’re not going to get it. She cheated. She’ll do it again. Sorry.
I’m truly sorry about the loss of your baby. Words can’t describe how much I wish mere words could help.
With that being said, your happiness comes first. You just went through a traumatic loss, have you been going to therapy to help?
This dude does not value you. I knows it’s scary but nothing worth doing is going to be easy. You deserve happiness and healing.
Like you said, you’re still young. You have so much time to be able to figure things out and “restart”.
Put yourself first because you’re worth it.
You're in WAY over your head. She's disconnected from you emotionally.
Is the mobile in just your name? Either way, you may want to consult a lawyer over tenancy issues.
Sadly the children are not at fault in all of this but they will get dragged along with her. She seriously needs counselling and you need to let her go.
This is not normal or ok and it definitely isn't a “guy thing”.No guy who truly cares for you would disrespect you like this. Be clear about your feelings and if he keeps disregarding them, you should decide if your ok with how he treats you and take it from there…
The only part of that I will defend is the dressing up part – it is totally possible/probably that “dressing as her” has nothing to do with the fetish. It is more likely that dressing up itself is the fetish, and her clothes were the only ones he had access to.
But yeah, buy your own clothes
Go read my comment on the main post. Already said he was wrong for assuming she was I to that and she was justified in punching him.
You are completely insane if you think pointing a gun at someone or pistol whipping them with said gun is in any way comparable to making the mistake this guy made.
Hope you don't make similar mistakes in real life because that will 100% get you imprisoned or killed.
That’s good you never had to suffer at the hands of your family and loved ones like me. Be grateful you’re so sheltered you feel comfortable making these comments.
Then why lie about it !? What was he hiding?? He is the one to blame not your DIL.
I hate staying negative about it, but I'm at the stage where I'm a little resentful. So, yeah, kinda maybe is.
You would encourage this at the age of 4 & 6 or do you mean when they are older?
It's been 9 months and he already told you to get a tummy tuck & you actually went to make an appointment. Wtf lmao
Nar-anon is a good resource.
Absolutely not. It’s up to each couple. I’ve been married 25 years and it’s never come up.
If she is willing to get on injection-based antipsychotics, you will know whether she has her treatment. There is one injection that lasts six months now, two injections a year and she’s solid.
I don’t know why you’re bringing race into this. You’re in a relationship. Lift each other up. Fuck whatever standards the company has- you owe them nothing.
I see no problem with either of you helping the other solve code challenges because we all know it doesn’t really matter once you have the job.
Please break up with this horrible and cruel person?-
One last try here … you literally assaulted your boyfriend. Like “hot damn, am I really going to jail?” assault. And you did it because he was keeping a commitment to his grandmother. This is really really bad behaviour. Your boyfriend has literally nothing to apologize or compromise about. You are very young but you really need to look in the mirror and make a choice … am I going to be that person who hurts my partners and makes them a lesser version of themselves or do I need to learn and grow to be a better partner. Be better … you can do it.
One last try here … you literally assaulted your boyfriend. Like “hot damn, am I really going to jail?” assault. And you did it because he was keeping a commitment to his grandmother. This is really really bad behaviour. Your boyfriend has literally nothing to apologize or compromise about. You are very young but you really need to look in the mirror and make a choice … am I going to be that person who hurts my partners and makes them a lesser version of themselves or do I need to learn and grow to be a better partner. Be better … you can do it.
One last try here … you literally assaulted your boyfriend. Like “hot damn, am I really going to jail?” assault. And you did it because he was keeping a commitment to his grandmother. This is really really bad behaviour. Your boyfriend has literally nothing to apologize or compromise about. You are very young but you really need to look in the mirror and make a choice … am I going to be that person who hurts my partners and makes them a lesser version of themselves or do I need to learn and grow to be a better partner. Be better … you can do it.
BPD.
He can believe whatever he wants about drinking alone, he doesn't have to agree with your feelings on it, but he also shouldn't get to tell you what you are or are not “allowed” to do. He's not your owner.
You could speak to her about how you feel Anna is treating your fiance but without saying I don't want you to hang out with her or that you don't like her. Just sorta say hey I've noticed you doing all this stuff for her is she helping you out with xyz or I'm worried she's not quite treating you right but she's your friend and I just don't want you to be used etc. There's nothing wrong with speaking to your fiance about Anna just don't be all she's a biatch and I hate her
If you think it is bad now it WILL get worse when you get married. My husband was the same when we first got married. We dated in high school and married at 19. His mom always did all the cleaning. He only mowed and took out the trash. That made me start resenting him. His excuse was he was tired from work. He worked overnight. I was a full time student and also worked part time and during the summers I even worked 2 jobs. We had a small 1 bedroom apartment.
One thing he did regularly when I asked him to do the dishes was “well I was planning on doing them today but now I don’t want to since you said something”. We were supposed to take turns. Like you, I decided to not do the dishes or say anything and see how long it took for him to do them. He didn’t. It got to the point where there was mold growing on the food. I was pissed. So he really didn’t want to wash them so he decided to just throw all the dishes away. Yes. He threw them away. Decided to buy a new set of dishes.
This was a long time ago. I put my foot down because I got tired of it. Especially when we moved into a townhouse that was twice as big which meant twice as much to clean. He does contribute now without me having to say anything although I will occasionally point things out. I was ready to leave him over it. We’ve been married 19 years now
I dated this guy. He will not change. Like you, I tried to leave the chores until he did them and I ended up with a pile of socks in my living room, piles of empty beer cans in the kitchen and a bathroom that wasn't cleaned for 3+ months.
Just get out. No amount of good behaviour will make up for the resentment you feel about this. I promise.
Did you tell him what you wanted from him?
Sure, give her lots of time to hide all evidence, and pretend you're crazy, so you can lose everything to her in the divorce.
::sighs::
It's weird to assume he can't date women his own age lol
Thank you so much, your comment got me emotional. Guess it's time to focus on being good to myself.
Uh, no she hasn't. Your spouse dead-ass lied to your face about many things, by the way, what else has she lied about?
I will preface and say she has always been very devoted to me.
I've read this whole post. It seems like you're married to an extroverted, gaslighting liar. See more below.
At the time all this happened last year, our marriage was in a bad place. We weren’t getting along and I withdrew intimately because of how I felt emotionally.
So, when did this change and she stop lying?
She’d always have some excuse about why it happened and some made sense but a lot of it was spending extra time chatting with the employees there, especially Emma . . . In the beginning of our relationship she lied a lot, but things got better and as far as I know she has always told me everything
WHY WOULD YOU TRY TO MOVE PAST THIS? Your wife sounds like she sucks.
I have tried to move past thing but I just can’t.
Oh, shut up, OP's wife. OP, you can take your kid to daycare. Or, if you want, you can take your kid to a different one. She's not going to be with Emma forever. Kids grow up, go to different schools, go to different grades, different babysitters. Hell, Emma may be gone next year. Honestly, not to be a dick, I'd say go to couples counseling or drop your spouse. She's a habitual liar. You're kind of a doormat. :\
She expresses that she’s disgusted with herself and could never look at Emma as anything but a child now. But she still brings her up in conversations a lot and it makes it all feel strange again.
Also, your spouse is still nasty for still talking about Emma because she should be mortified, it's squicky, and even if she wasn't 17 it'd be squicky. Not blaming you, your spouse… ugh.
Imagine she went to a hens night and got fingered. Would you want to know?
OP, you are pretty clearly experiencing a mental health crisis. Can you reach out to your therapist and tell them you need an emergency session?
You have ample facts in front of you to demonstrate that you did not cheat. You literally looked at your own messages, you had other people confirm, this isn't even remotely in your character from what I can tell. If you know this is irrational but still cannot help spiraling, you need intervention from your therapist to give you some tools so you can manage your anxiety spirals. I have GAD as well and I know how painful it is. A support team is vital to deal with anxiety, that's why your therapist is there.
Even if hundreds of people here tell you that you clearly didn't do anything, I don't think you will believe it. And it's actually not helpful to validate your attempts to get external confirmation since this is an internal issue that you need to deal with internally.
You do realize the deep emotional connection was because she was a child and you're an emotional immature/stunted adult, right?
You clicked well because she was a kid. And you're a guy who hasn't grown up. The connection wasn't real in a romantic, sustainable adult way.
That's my biggest worry. That he is there every day and talks to her every day. I can't ask her to avoid him, it would be pretty much impossible without asking her to change her job. I don't feel it would be justifiable at this point.
Broooo just leave this is disgusting
Tell him that your pregnant and keep the baby. The baby don't make decisions whenever they are born it's not fair in that child! Please do not kill the baby.
This is so cute.
Thank you ??