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You have no choice. Don't put your life on hold for somebody who doesn't want to be in a romantic relationship with you. Once he gets a girlfriend it will be even harder (if you're still single), so do yourself a favour and find another guy who actually likes you.
This is not 'typical guy behavior' – it's predatory behavior. Leave him and delete anything he may have of you if you can before you do.
Yup. Creepy af.
Get all your stuff back and let this relationship die. She's not worth it at 9 months and you going on a couple of work trips
It’s weird that she would tell you.
You are all too old for this nonsense. If you can’t find another flat in time, move in and hopefully both of you can act like adults and just share the freaking flat. ??♀️ If you fall in love or whatever, it’s also okay. Fick, if you two were actually mature, you could even be fwb. Just treat each other with respect and talk and make all “rules” clear.
break up!!!!
Thank you for your heartfelt response and honesty. I wish I could be more supportive:) Maybe you should play him at his own game! I understand that maybe sounds hypocritical and you have less moral high ground but ?♂️
It doesn’t have to be anything too full on but enough to focus his attention. Sorry if I’m way out of line .
Serial cheater…. He will cheat on you as well.
Not even marriage is a final commitment, there’s always a way out of that too. And whether they’re married or not she’s not his possession. If she’s unhappy she’s allowed to change that
Read his comments, explains a lot
you're right but she also said it could work out. i'm at fault too because i didn't view the situation realistically and felt like i was owed the relationship. but i just feel like she shouldn't have said there was a possibility especially when we were both being very vulnerable
And that's the key point that everyone seems to be missing, you don't know what happened, you were too drunk to consent to anything. If you're not physically able to consent then whatever happened, happened without consent and is therefore assault.
I presume your underage and that's why you didn't post your age. Break up with her ASAP what your doing is so wrong and can get her in very serious trouble as well as ruining her life and her mental state by letting her carry on being a pedophile
Maybe you’re attracted to the situation more than him
Does your husband have a kink for sleep sex? I’m just hoping it’s not that and he is taking advantage because it’s hard to him. It would be ok if u consented, but you’ve clearly asked him NOT to. I wish I knew more about ambien to answer more, but these comments have answered the medicine side of ur question. Hoping you find a better long term solution for you and you and your husband can communicate better on boundaries
You couldn't have picked a worse place to ask for advice when your story has an age gap and boss/subordinate relationship.
She does not respect you as a person. There is nothing left for you here. She is only giving you small pieces of herself and that shouldn’t be acceptable. The fact that she is so ready to have sex with someone else and not you is only the beginning. She is moving on and you should do the same. She will leave once she has secured another relationship. Please do what’s best for you. Someone needs to look out for your well being also and she is not. You need to take care of you.
If you’re already doubting her ability to make these changes you’re asking her to, why keep going? You’re letting her on-line off of your money and not respecting your boundaries. You should let her know so she is aware because she might not be. Sit down with her and start the conversation nicely and keep it that way. You don’t want to attack the other person, but to let them know how you feel. Here’s an opportunity to tell her about specific things or episodes, but also what you need from her and what you expect from her while living at your place. Like getting a job, paying rent or helping around the house while she is still unemployed.
Either she will work on changing these things you’re asking her to or she will disagree with you. In that case let her know that you don’t want to keep being in the relationship.
Also wanted to add that every human being need reassurance when doing something new or stepping out of their comfort zone. Let her know when she does something good like when you’re done talking you can say “Thank you for having this talk with me. It means a lot.”
In the end you’re the one making the decision, it is your home. You can do whatever you want. I hope you find my comment helpful. Best of luck!
You can be addicted to things that aren't chemically addicting; it is called behavioral addiction.
this is something i’ve dealt with in my relationship and have learned and moved forward from. first of all i think it sucks that everyone is saying leave him or he needs to grow up because not everyone knows how to communicate the same way. that is something that is TAUGHT and if he never learned it, he is not immature or any less of a man for that. the way he communicates is by showing you he’s upset and obviously that’s not ideal but that’s just what he knows. i know you feel completely left out in the dark and you seem to be coming from a place of genuine care. you seem to understand ignorance over malice because i’m sure he’s not doing that to you on purpose he just doesn’t know how else to react to his feelings. i know you don’t want to make the situation about yourself but a relationship is a two person thing, you’re not just with him you guys are together. i think it’s important to express to him how it makes you feel when he acts that way and that it would make it easier for the both of you if he verbally expressed himself. tell him you notice that you’ve upset him but you don’t know why and you’re just trying to make him feel better and he needs to help you with that.
Choose your husband if you want this marriage to work, or call your dad and tell him this power struggle isn’t going to work and him banning your husband is banning your entire family. Tell him you appreciate the help, and you love him, but the family includes your husband, and your husband does x good things, and either he calls and invites him, and is civil, or you all will have to catch up some other time. No arguing, no listening to him rant to degrade your husband- that’s it. That’s the whole call. Hang up if he changes the subject. Your children have 2 parents. You have a husband. Either fix this or skip.
Yeah she got bored of the sex, probably it wasn’t great + u were also pestering her for it when she clearly wasn’t interested or u hadn’t prepped her
I’m sorry that you’re going through this, but why did you decide to have a baby while your marriage is on the rocks? Adding more stress to a bad situation isn’t a fix. A baby is human being, not a magical way to make your husband notice you again.
Has he even apologized or tried to be a better husband? Do you think raising a child in a loveless marriage is a good way to model a positive environment?
Because you hit the breaks? Like why is it you feel inferior? And if your not feeling secure than I feel like it’s his job to help promote you. Just a helping hand to make you feel comfortable
What a thing to react to. She is attracted to your bf, big deal. I go to the gym and get female attention every now and then, when I bring my significant other, I get triple the attention. It’s the way the game goes. Blow a kiss back at her next time
She did block him. He is now texting her sister and common friends to get it through to her
Stop leaning on her emotionally. She’s not there for you anymore. Get busy finding things that bring you joy, Like your life depends upon it.
Pour energy into other connections – that will fill your emotional tank and help you take the emphasis off Jen.
Take up a pursuit you’re been wanting to do ages – that will give you hope and interest in the future.
Declutter – that’ll help you bring peace and a sense of control to your daily life.
Do something to help others in a worse off position – that will bring you the perspective you lack and stop you from spinning out so much.
Be mindful, do some gentle, meditative activity like yoga or swimming or dancing around your living room. This will ground you in your body, and remind you that you are a seperate being and you are enough. You need to get back to a place we’re you feel centred and stable to remind yourself that your existence and well-being does not have to depend on some external circumstance that you have no control over.
When you are doing all these things, if you get side swiped by a fresh memory of this pain, you will be able to cope with it better.
When those waves of grief do come your way, instead of freaking out and being victimised by the pain, try to observe yourself and the feelings you are experiencing from a slightly detached viewpoint. Breathe deeply as you acknowledge how it hurts, and that you are feeling this grief because you loved her so much. Notice that even though it hurts, you are still breathing, and you will get through it. Be grateful for the strides you are making to become a better person and not be pulled down by another.
I know these strategies help, because I have experienced heartbreak at the loss of a friend too. It happened in my forties, and was someone I had cherished for over a decade. I guess she felt that we had grown apart. I still feel twinges of pain when I think of that loss, but you give love and friendship to people who value you and what you bring to the equation. Unfortunately, people can change and friendships can die out, even when you pictured growing old together.
You do need to let go and stop chasing her. You had an open heart and you gave her opportunities to fix things, but she is snubbing you. Remember you have expectations of her in friendship too. Keep you boundaries and your dignity. Detach a little. Acknowledge to yourself what you would need from her to repair the relationship. Witness that she is not providing that at this stage. If it helps, you can decide that if she reaches out in a genuine and remorseful manner, then you will respond with cautious openness. But until then, you are going to put effort into being happy and busy and well-rounded. And avoid giving her extra thought in the interim.
You know that the hardest way to forget something, is to keep obsessing over it. So you need to crowd out thoughts of her with thoughts of other things.
You’re a grown-up now you have a 10-year-old marriage and you’re wanting to be 20 or 23. That ship has sailed. Marriage is just a lot of things to a lot of people. You can do anything you want right now you can go to college you can start a business you could become wealthy you can do whatever you want because you have a partner that loves you and will be there for you no matter what. I’m thinking you don’t understand what real love is and you’re taking him for granted and I feel really bad for him.
Separation is the worse cure for this! Don’t do that. Stay in counseling and address your feelings and anger. All the things you’re doing sound like the right path. The fact that she confessed these feelings and are taking steps to separate herself from the situation is a good sign. Sometimes things happen but she was honest with you, you both are in therapy together, separation is a step towards divorce and invites more conflict than it cures. Don’t do that! Stay together keep doing the work! Don’t get separated
That’s crazy.
Ah yes, the old FAAFO….
No. She doesn't respect you. I promise you, she will step out on you again.
I’ve never understood it. Any fleeting feelings people may have are usually just a result of feeling neglected or in a rut at home. Can be easily solved by just talking to their partners, making an effort to hang out more, and/or trying something new and exciting together. Really no need to implode their lives and negatively affect so many in the process too
Co sleeping is always a risk. Why is it worth the risk instead of just having a bassinet next to your bed? What % of risk are you willing to add to your baby’s death
Yeah, respecting your partners decisions and respecting them enough to make their own decisions in life regarding who they want to be friends with. Not CONTROLING them, due to your own insecurities.
Having controls over who your partner can or can't be friends with is 100% an insecurity driven boundary.
I have a partner, she still has contact with her ex, I still have contact with my own.
Oh honey… This is not a case of ambiguous communication, he intentionally and maliciously violated you sexually. He's a predator and you need to protect yourself by distancing yourself. A man that is willing to harm you sexually does not love you, does not respect you, and does not care if he hurts you.
Sidebar, his 26 year old ass probably pursued you because he has no luck with women his own age because they all know he's bad news.
Thank you, I really appreciate your empathy. I have a few therapists on my list that I've been meaning to contact to get an appointment, but I just haven't done it yet. I'll make it a priority.
My husband and I started dating in early 2020 before the world fell off a cliff. I guess during the pandemic our relationship got accelerated and we moved in together within a few months. Holiday 2021 was the first time we all gathered in person, before that we mostly facetimed/called my family. I think he's always been money-conscious and careful about spending, and at the time I took that as a positive and thought he was responsible with money. But now that I think about it, ever since our trip to my brother's house he's said some not-so-nice things about my brother like his taste in rugs or places my brother goes for work and/or vacation. Sometimes I shrugged it off and sometimes I called him out on it, and he would stop when I call him out.
As for whether my husband has been there for me, honestly, not really. He was very sympathetic for the day or two right after the accident, but since my mom's passing, he's been somewhat cold towards me and instead has been hyperfocused on the potential inheritance. Aside from the house, his treatment of me the last few weeks is a big reason why I'm upset and questioning my marriage.
Yeah I'm definitely not planning to have a kid with him right now.
My brother and I have been talking and giving each other emotional support, but we haven't talked about the estate. My parents didn't have a will and my brother said he'll get a lawyer and take care of everything so I thanked him and we moved on. I didn't want to bring it up because my brother is so busy with work he barely has any free time. I feel bad my husband keeps pressing this issue and I don't want to bother my brother with it. Especially because I don't see the point, I don't want my brother to think I'm trying to take half the house.
There is no way he should have told you that. Cancel the dinner plans, you can always say you're ill while you decide what to do next but I would have only supervised contact and limit it if I saw him at all again. Whether to tell your mum is your own choice as I can't imagine that would be an enjoyable process for anyone but don't be held back because you think he can't on-line on his own – he can, just maybe not in the way he is used to.
If it’s a one time thing, you’re overthinking. Honestly.
Ok so here’s exactly what I’m gonna send him do correct me if I’m wrong or irrelevant anywhere:
“On the basis of your behavior last night which made me rethink my decisions the way you just pushed all my efforts and affections away and the kind of bond we have and like nothing mattered yo you, it put my whole future In front of my that this is you’re going to respond and react in the future as well I’d like to take a step back as we already aren’t on the same pages cuz you want all this marriage thing within this year and you’re not even cooperating in this and want me to put my 100% as a wife regarding you your family and household while I’m just 18, don’t get me wrong but it was kinda selfish of you too. You’ll find someone who’s compatible for you and on the same page ,tell your mother she’ll start her searching soon and find someone as pretty. I don’t know maybe I wasn’t worth waiting for or something. There are plethora of other things to which lead me to this decision. Consider yourself single Now. GOODLUCK!”
Me: “NEXT!…”
My girl cheated on me…
[Pause, don’t need to read more]
The relationship is over
Me: “NEXT!…”
Swe? Single white entrepreneur?
Damn that's alot for anyone. You shouldn't be doing all that smh
I mean, do I ask him why he lied?
You have opposite sex drives.
You aren’t kinky and he is.
Ick…
“…always had some new fetish for me to discover and comply. Gross. That doesn’t seem like enthusiastic consent.
A fetish that made you feel subhuman…and you cried a lot, and tried to break up with him but he told you to “trust him and he’ll give up eventually.” He’s manipulated you.
He only cares about his own pleasure. Normal and healthy people aren’t turned on or want to have sex when their partner doesn’t like something, let alone hate it. Aftercare is great, but it’s irrelevant because you shouldn’t need it for something you don’t like doing.
What do you do? Block him on everything and never talk to him again.
Absolutely a hill worth dying on. Reading this made me furious. You don't want kids. Bottom line. He doesn't get to make that decision for you. Stick to your guns on this.
Nope. He removed you from his friends on social media.
You could tell him and then immediately block him. But honestly you’re probably better off just moving on and forgetting this loser altogether. You don’t owe him anything.
Ah, I see now. Lol
Amy does have other friends, not as many but she still does.
And a good example of Amy derailing a plan because Alex wants her there is when we went out a month ago. We had made and agreed on a plan beforehand in a group chat without Amy. Me and another friend had come to Amy's house because Alex was there to pick him up, and then Alex came outside with Amy and was like “wellll Amy needs to be at work in the morning, so we have to be back by this time. That's cool right?” and it put me on the spot where I had to say it was fine because other people were waiting on us and Amy was right outside with him.
Show your wife and that will tell you everything you need to know.
We’ll threats are a huge dealbreaker. Full stop
Although we’ve been long distance the entire time, we’ve been together for about three years, and known each other for 5 years. This has never come up until this past year. I understand that he wants to make sure we are financially compatible, but he’s making it seem that I’m just spending away. I just want to be able to enjoy my money and ever since he’s been trying to tell me what I can and can’t do with my money, I end up feeling guilty and I feel even more guilty when I don’t tell him about something I bought but I also don’t want to have to hear him nagging to me about why I shouldn’t have bought what I bought.
He got out of a 10-year relationship less than two years ago, so I understand his hesitance to jump into another serious relationship.
However, I think it's important that you set expectations now. Even if you're not picky about labels, you should be wary of anyone who wants all the benefits of exclusivity without needing to formally recognize themselves as your partner. It's a slippery slope.
Don't add her to the deed even if you do get married. It's a per-marital asset. You'd lose everything for no reason. She didn't pay anything for the house, so there's no money she would need to recoup. In the event of a divorce you both would just part ways.
I know its cynical to think about, but this isn't a situation where you guys split the down payment and spent years paying a mortgage. You shouldn't add her to the deed even if you do get married. And someone who pushes that as a condition should set off red flags.
So many ways. Lol
way too early for him to ask you for that amount of money
It is not reasonable for most people (have you honestly heard of it before now?) and she should realize that and get away from him. For her own good because he is not going to accept it and neither is she. It has and is poisoning their relationship. She needs to find someone who is willing to accept this as a basic deal breaker.
Anyone who needs to completely get away from everything every month is on the extreme edge.
To clarify yes I’ve got trust issues that I told him about when we got together and the women who were going after him knew all about me
We're going to need more details on the situation. What was the issue you were arguing about? Has this happened before?
Seek grief counseling. It is a long process, but will help tremendously. Sorry for your loss. Sending you prayers.
I think once in a blue moon is alright, if it's a regular thing I would find it a bit off putting. It also depends on the level of comfort in your relationship.
Unless it seriously bothers you I would probably leave it. You can possibly talk to him that you don't like when he does that. As long as you don't come at him in an aggressive way he should hopefully be receptive.
TLDR. Once someone cheats it's over. Period. Do yourself a favor and end it.
Im 40 & force myself to go to sleep by 6a. Lol
Yeah this sub is full of people who have no trust in their relationship and are in no position to give advice. Had to scroll way too far to see someone say you shouldn't date someone who admits they would jump at the chance to fuck anyone who asked.
No, if the women is not mature enough then they do not date untill they are. The assessing is to make sure that man's intentions are pure, as if the girl feels they are in love they might over look something. But the over looking and not seeing red flags because of feeling happens in all relationships not just ones with age gaps
Jump hugging your BF? Not great. Her boss letting a female employee hug him and wrap her legs around him is extremely unprofessional and a form of sexual harassment from him to her. Does he work for himself? If not he is completely at fault if she were to ever report him. He is in a position of power and it’s always on him to enforce boundaries. He should never let her be physically with him. Do they not have bosses or HR that would comment that this is inappropriate?
Do you have hobbies? Something you’ve always wanted to try?
Howdy, therapist here! Contacting someone's abuser on their behalf can be incredibly traumatic for the victim, so please don't consider doing this. Trauma generally has roots tied to having no closure or understanding as to why the event occurred to begin with, so you'd definitely be opening up an old wound by even bringing it up. He needs therapy. The offender needs therapy, considering she was ALSO a child (in the eyes of the law) when this event occurred. Also, consider this… if you try and “call someone out” publicly on social media throwing around allegations of sexual assault, you can get sued in civil court for libel. You can also be charged in criminal court with harassment, especially if there is no physical evidence that the crime occurred… which will undoubtedly be incredibly stressful for the victim. Not saying don't do it, but I've had couples come to me – completely up in arms – furious and devastated that THEY were now being legally charged (and not the offender). Thousands in unexpected legal fees and lawyer costs generally aren't a stress-free addition to anyone's day, but if you've got the money, the time, and the victim's permission… you do you, I guess.
Before anyone comes at me with their “UM, ACKSHUALLY….” statements, this has been *MY* experience as a therapist. I'm not devaluing anyone else's experience, I'm not a lawyer, and I'm NOT going to give legal advice on what to do. I'm just sharing.
Lmao
It's crusty. Having an attraction to someone is not really something anyone can control, but she could control her actions and behaviors, and she didn't.
Also, how is 18 any better, really, in this situation- or even 20? The young woman is still really young, in a professional situation where she had to be friendly, and your wife was over-texting her and stalking her AND showing her picture to co-workers. Even if she never overtly flirted or hit on the girl, she took it far in her head.
If she was a guy we'd all say she was grooming Emma.
Your wife has impulse control issues. While she may not be a predator, ahe showed predatory behavior. No advice just your instinct to be put off is right.
first off, why does her being around 22 excuse it? even if she were the same age as you, is it appropriate for your partner to talk up and flirt with someone else? regardless, i also think the age gap between 22 and 32 is large already.
also i want to say that there is something fishy and predatory about this. i have worked in daycare for a long time—the age ranges are very obvious. supervisors are often determined by age, or a facility will often hire high school and college students. and, if your wife really chatted with her so much, it would have become obvious. if she were saying, for example, “teachers” or “classmates” in passing it should have indicated she is not a grown adult.
is she a predator? i dont know, is this a pattern?
should you forgive her? i dont know, but if i were emma i wouldnt.
Maybe. she def knows i wasn't turned off so i feel like she's just not used to seeing me like that
He’s manipulating you to make you feel worthless so that you should feel ‘lucky’ that he is even willing to spend time with you. ???
My question is why would you stay with ANYONE who treats you this way???
Nope. He's her priority.
have you ever thought of maybe exploring queefing with her? it’s not from the same location but maybe it could be a good compromise?