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You may need to cut off the finances until he shows actual promise of applying for real jobs and showing a real effort to support himself. Set the boundary gently, come from a place of tough love. He needs it. Even though it may not look like that from the outside he is likely in a lot of pain right now.
Stop doing his laundry, stop cooking for him, stop buying his groceries, and stop cleaning up after him as much as you can. You are not the maid. If he can’t pull it together, then it’s time to split.
A 30 year old sleeping with girls who are barely adults. Of course he's a scumbag.
Absofuckinglutely you should tell her. Would you want to know if you were her?
WHAT? what did Vic do? i'm workin go nhis new movie
I have done nothing but absolutely devote everything I have to him
Well one, might want to google speaking in absolutes, as that’s not a great communication habit. But second, people struggling often become or worsen their energy vampire tendencies around people who have codependency tendencies and that statement right there sort of shows you struggle with that. Maybe google codependency, solutions for it, and also google loving detachment. You want a partner not a project. Addressing your codependent tendencies is a good way to start working towards that.
Because breaks are rarely totally clean. Look me in the eyes and tell me that if your gf had totally unfettered access to every thought you had every day for the last two years she'd be happy about each and every one of them. All social media, media records etc has done is make a lot more of that otherwise random, private crap a matter of public record. If it's a pattern of behaviour (which it doesn't appear to be) then you'd have reason to be angry. So, ask yourself if it's worth destroying the relationship over.
My best advice would be to connect with the ace community. In my nearest city they have fantastic asexual meet-ups and I know some of the people who attend are trans and non-binary too.
Finding a safe place where you feel like you can be yourself will help with those feelings of hopelessness. You can connect with others, make friends who understand your experience, and, who knows, maybe develop a romantic relationship with someone.
We’ve only been together a year, what do you mean?
No. It isn't working for a reason. That reason will never change.
Move on.
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I thought his question was if she had sex with the guy or not. And I'd say yes 100% oral sex at least and she might not count it as sex as it's not penetration, some people are stupid lol
Go for at least 3 sessions before potentially giving it up for whatever reason. And its ok to be a little uneasy or hesitant at first.
If you're not ready then dont waste either of your times until summer and just tell her.
And this is less of an ultimatum and more of a deadline. If you're not sure by summer then she'll leave – is what she means. That's not a gun to your head to propose. Women waste way too much time waiting around for the guy to propose who essentially doesn't want to get married or isn't ready. Good for your gf for taking the initiative for both of you!
This is an extremely common question for your age group. I think you should send her a text…
Hey, I'm not sure if you are on the same page as me or not but I've started developing feelings for you that are more than just friends. Would you like to go on a real date with me? Are you free Friday?
Keep it short and to the point. Be prepared, she might very well say she doesn't want to complicate the friendship.
Do not wimp out!! That is really the only bad outcome to this. Even the negative outcome is positive in its own way. It frees you to move on and think about other people. If you don't do it, you will always regret it.
Good luck!!
Honestly when someone puts themselves in a vulnerable position like this it's often best to give a smooth let down. A two minute make out and then saying “Babe this is awesome, but I'm really exhausted and I need that BLT. I appreciate it, but I honestly dont have the energy for sex now”
She may technically be out of line, but your life will likely be easier if you apologise for how you worded it.
No shit, Sherlock. The fact that it’s all around us isn’t an excuse for lacking empathy – quite the opposite.
First off, it’s ok to not be ok with a partner watching porn, but just know that it’s a dealbreaker for many people.
Second, yeah you shouldn’t be strictly telling him what he can and can’t do. Therapy is probably the best option for insecurity like this, but in the meantime try to figure out why you feel the way you do about his solo time. He chose you over all those other girls and you said that he will choose you over porn when you’re available.
You know, I read these types of posts and I often think to myself; it’s the 21st Century, men and women are supposed to be equal. Why doesn’t she propose?
Well I'm not a man, but I know some. Depending on your line of work you might be okay with a long weekend, some anti-inflammatories, and a couple bags of frozen peas. 🙂
No you said seven, not four nights of sex. You ARE FORCING HER! She either had to give you sex every night or you don’t stop masturbating. Do you not know how crazy that sounds???? You are holding her hostage to your sex drive! That’s psychotic!
How The Fuck is this him holding her hostage? She doesn't have to have sex with him 7 nights a he will just jack off if she doesn't feel like fucking. Why does he HAVE to accept her deal of 4 nights a week sex for 3 days of no orgasm and he will find it difficult to go to sleep and that isn't controlling but him not accepting her terms and just saying he will take care of himself if she doesn't is him being controlling?
Comunication in a long-term relationship falters in even the best relationships.
How do 2 “I's” form a “we”? one individual perspective is not more important then the others. One individual's needs don't outweigh the others. Respect goes both ways.
the fact that I have been through periods of severe depression in the past and have generally struggled with my mental health for about half of the period we've spent together.
The best gift is to never bring children into such a mess.
You don't show your commitment via gifts when all that was needed in the first place was therapy.
Okay you are a red flag. Glad she’s seeing that. Have fun being dumped.
I see.
There's nothing we can do to help him unless he wants to come here and ask for advice. But it seems like he's happy with his position.
The “what” being the whole working out with a young woman and not telling his wife “because he knew that she would react badly” thing.
Why would he do that IF HE KNEW HIS WIFE WOULD REACT BADLY?
Not telling your spouse about something that you know will upset them is a lie by omission. This is the sort of communication failure that will RUIN a marriage. Instead of him just telling her “Hey I'm gonna start doing these workouts with whatserface in the morning at the house” and her maybe getting in her feelings about that, now she's confused as fuck wondering WHY he didn't tell her that….and rightfully so. Not only that, now she's REALLY confused as fuck because of his reaction to the question about the perfume. So the issue has become demonstratively WORSE because now instead of her being upset about one thing, now she's upset about TWO things.
This describes my karate sensei perfectly. No matter who he was practicing kumite with, he fought at a level that was just a little better than his opponent. White belts got hit, but were able to hit him some also. I never realized just how good he was until I saw him absolutely demolish a 5th degree black belt instructor who would bring his class to ours to train with us. This guy was 6’5” tall with long arms and legs, freakishly quick. He was being a little rough on us, not a jerk, but making it painfully clear that he was in another league. (I was a brown belt then, getting close to my black belt test, so I could analyze the fights/techniques decently enough.) When James, my instructor and an 8th level black belt (technically a red/white belt) and Rick, the 5th degree black belt, fought, it was a master lesson. James is 5’8” and Rick should have been able to keep him at length with his longer limbs, but he couldn’t touch him. James was always an inch or closer out of reach and would follow him back inside. I’ve never seen anything like that since. Rick would punch or kick, never touching my sensei, and James looked like he just flowed like water around a rock. Just the sheer skill was mind-blowing. I’m still in awe of what I saw. I mean, I KNEW my instructor was good, but I had never seen him fight anywhere close to his full capacity until that night. The whole time they fought, James was still teaching Rick. After getting inside Rick’s reach several times, James would tell him where to move or how to better recover after a punch or kick that didn’t land. I realized and truly appreciated his teaching method after that because he fought everyone on the level they were, pushing them just a little bit harder and teaching the whole time. Sorry for the long reply, but every time I recall that, I get a new sense of respect for my friend. He’s actually who I try to emulate when I teach (not karate, but high school English). I meet my students where they are and bring them up from there.
It sounds staged to me… he “just happened” to leave a laptop and a list of his passwords on it where you'd find it? I'd consider that he was doing damage control, since you'd pushed the issue.
Exactly!
I got pregnant by accident and my partner and I hadn't been together for very long, so the though of getting an abortion crossed my mind.
And it was at that moment I realised how attracted I already felt to the life growing inside me, because I just knew instantly that I wouldn't be able to have an abortion even if it meant loosing a guy I really liked.
I'm typing this while looking over at my partner and our sweet daughter sitting in the sofa watching some weird show on YouTube.
Uhhh, I think it was weird that you would demand that she delete some rando. It’s controlling and possessive. She shouldn’t have lied about it though.
Definitely talk to you mom about this, I know you're worried about your financial troubles, but your mom may have had a very good reason to keep your dad out of your lives. Just because he says he wants you, doesn't mean he's necessarily a good person for you to be around. You should consider that if she had the option to have food and heat, and didn't use it, there must have been a good reason.
this is perfect
All I’m thinking here is girl, give him the dog. The breakup is your fault, don’t you dare take that dog from him.
I think you’re the one that’s misunderstanding. It shouldn’t violate her boundaries for her boyfriend to know she’s been sexually involved with a friend.
And you should be WAY more upset that she trickle truthed you. And I’m dumbfounded your friend hasn’t told you what’s up.
As a woman with only hetero relationships, I have been through something similar insofar as having a partner that wanted an open relationship suddenly in the midst of our monogamous relationship. I think I can an empathize quite a bit.
It's heartbreaking. You feel inadequate, insecure – like you're always waiting for the other shoe to drop and you're walking on eggshells.
Personally, I don't think it's something you can compromise on. She wants the real experience, which means real live men and you can't give that to her without going against your very nature of monogamy. Maybe you'll give in to make her happy, but I can almost guarantee sitting at home and thinking about her out there with other people will create a new hell for you.
Seeing as this is a recurrent issue and it appears nothing you can do outside of giving her a pass to sleep with men will do, I'd suggest it's time for a very difficult conversation. Let her know that leaving you dangling there waiting for her to make a decision on whether or not she needs to act on her urges is tearing you up emotionally and it's high time she decides what she wants.
Based off my experience, though, even at that point what the choice in the end was wasn't really enough, I felt like the damage had been done with the mere implication that I wasn't enough. A relationship that you aren't secure in your position is a really crappy relationship.
I'm sorry this is happening to you, I know how it feels.
Idk anything about OP, other than what was written in his post. However, I do know a young woman is very slightly older than OP & has 4 kids with the oldest not turning 6 until summertime.
I think this borderline middle aged man hanging out with not one but two barely adults is very yucky. She may not know better yet but he should
You are literally projecting baggage by blanketly applying your personal experience to all marriages and women as a whole lol. Therapy could help you unpack that shit in a far healthier, actually constructive way.
Definitely a deal breaker for me. I have my money and you have your money and we have a joint account that we both contribute to equally meaning we both put the same amount or same percentage of our income. The joint account pays household bills and groceries for us both. What's left goes towards dates or vacations or gifts for friends or family from us both. If my car breaks down it's my expense, if a car we both use breaks down we split the expense. This is what I feel comfortable with. Love doesn't mean giving up your beliefs and comfort to make others happy.
Yeah it’s pretty minor… think the “wait and see and then say something if happens” approach is best! Thanks 🙂
OP!!! Don’t marry this overgrown skid mark!!!
Also you've been cheating on her for YEARS. Do the poor lady a favour and end things.
Hope you're willing to float the Therapy bills too… ugh. Thanks for being an awesome stepmom. Her parents suck.
Is he neurodivergent in any way that might mean he didn’t understand that his behaviour might be a problem?
Break up with him and find a lame dude with low self-worth?
Are u sure nothing is going on? While I understand the girls going to a gay nightclub to have peace but the married would probably be hit on. Unless they are curious about it or about the other ladies in the group. Has anything changed on your relationship apart from the going out?
? damn dude
Tell her then stay out of it. Block him in every way possible.
Why do you want to be with her so badly? It sounds like you didn't even want this open relationship thing to begin with. You just agreed to make her happy. Then, she kept on pushing your boundaries to get what she wants. What does SHE do to make YOU happy? Because this whole relationship sounds very uneven. You keep on making compromises that benefit her. What compromises does she make? Are you afraid you won't find another gf again? There are plenty who will respect the boundaries of your relationship and will actually be happy being just with you. Doesn't that sound better?
How does someone brace themself for a break up with someone they are breaking up with?
He’s getting lazy.
You should have stuck to your guns about dating women with guy best friends. While women may have a variety of friends that includes some males, a lot of them do not have male best friends. Your gf have you trickle truth and that was crafty and wrong of her to do; it also manipulated you by thinking this was safe. I also do not believe in staying friends with people who have a romantic interest in me, for their good as well as my own, at least til they get over it. In the future, stick by your rules and don’t bend them like this.
If your father is screaming at you ie verbal abuse, you need to leave now