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Date: January 18, 2023
This is all round nasty and OP, you husband and his friends sound like an insufferable bunch of dicks.
Facts. There's also real potential that her ex could contact the bf and either show him pictures from the night, or tell him all the gritty details with maybe enough twist to make the guy never really trust his gf again.
You stop hanging around and she’ll drop them like a very hot potato- this is all her revenge to hurt you and your friends will get a wake up call when it’s too late
If she wanted invites to these sort of things, perhaps she should change her approach. Shes 25 and needs to put some effort herself to show that she wouldnt mind going, to show that shes approachable, and that she doesnt completely detest the kids.
Do you think it would be fair to the children to take a whiny adult that hates and resents their guts with them?
You cant just act like you hate someone for 6 years and then expect to still be invited to hang out with them.
Same I think he dated barely legal girls because mentally he’s 20 himself.
He's 34. There's a reason women his age don't want him. Please do better for yourself and your child.
Word.
so you couldnt just masturbate, you made the decision that her work is less important than you getting your dick wet?
IMHO they both mean the same thing, not available. Do you really need the validation of a gf label? Isn't it enough to agree with your partner that you're in a commited, monogamous relationship?
What is rs?
What she couldn’t take a day off,
Yeah after he ignored her SHES the problem?
You’re so wrong on this dude
I have depression and it’s enabled me to slack with hygiene/cleaning sometimes but this is wild to me. I’ve never been so depressed that I can’t get up to piss in a toilet. I get it if he’s in a really dark place but there have to be lines drawn in the sand and standards, even if low, to be upheld. I hope that he gets help and snaps out of it and realizes this is really gross and unacceptable. He doesn’t live or sleep alone, so it’s not just his space.
OP, how much do you drink exactly? Just wondering since you say that you black out very easily.
English is not my first language, so things like “baby” sound wrong to my ears. Kind of creepy really. So when I started a relationship with my current partner (with whom I communicate in English), I sort of chose to be descriptive. So, one way would be to find something that describes how you feel about him, what attracts you to him, and so on.
I think we need a picture of the cupcake
Yes we share house hold chores. I actually make dinner 3-4 times a week. We both clean the house and do laundry.
I have done my best at making her life as a wife/ mom as easy and fun as possible.
This is really more a question for r/legaladvice and/or an estate attorney.
Relationship-wise, it's probably going to be a big fight, but you have to have it or your kids are going to get screwed.
I would say that your leverage here is your much larger salary. If he wants to go 50/25/25 on joint assets, that's totally fine. However, you will now only be contributing an amount equal to his contribution to the joint account, and saving the rest in a trust for your kids. You will also be withdrawing a proportional amount of your savings for the same purpose. Now, does he still want to be petty, or not?
Also, you need to talk to a lawyer about how to keep him from disinheriting your kids if you predecease him. There are laws in some states that protect step kids' inheritance rights, but you need to know exactly what the laws are in your jurisdiction so you can plan appropriately.
Thank you ??
You acknowledge you were an absolute shit head and make zero excuses for it, replace or recover anything that can be replaced or recovered, and then consistently over time behave in a manner that is worthy of trust.
It took a few minutes to destroy trust. It will take a LOT longer to rebuild it. And if you push the issue, huff and puff about her not forgiving you, and continue to behave like an ass, it will take longer or simply not happen at all.
Even if she was, that still isn't an excuse or explanation for her reaction. Leaving someone in a soiled diaper is abuse as well. Frankly, I'm insulted that you're framing CSA survivors as psychotics who are okay with someone else being abused because of abuse the survivor has gone through. Please don't speak to me again if you're going to continue down this train of thought.
I mentioned the age because it causes a power inblanace in relationships, how did you meet?
So today it's a picture of someone he hasn't even met in three years that's making her feel insecure. What's it gonna be tomorrow? A female classmate asking for help with an assignment? According to you he shouldn't help if it makes her feel uncomfortable.
Of course you should take your partner's feelings into account, however, if the demands are going into irrational territory there needs to be a talk about it, not just giving in.
I am not currently. I am planning to start NP school next fall. And now we do a more proportional split of our expenses. I pay about 40% of the rent, no utilities, and 50% of household expenses. For now we have a shared credit card for all household expenses so it’s easier to split the costs correctly. (I make around 80k and he makes around 120k so that works out as a pretty decent split for us).
For sure, I think I’m just gonna ask for his help, then do the stuff according to my timetable if it still isn’t done and I’m annoyed. Then, if he doesn’t want to help, we are simply incompatible. When I moved in his house was gross and there was mold and dust everywhere. I spent 2 weeks deep cleaning and doing every chore, but was exhausted and in agony from the resulting pain/muscle spasms, so he agreed to do certain chores (like recycling) and to the timetable we made, but like you said, what he says and what he does are two different things. Such is life.
Do you actively wash your ass in the shower or no?
Still weird to me, as a 24 year old, I'd never date a 30 year old. I wouldn't date someone whose had way more experiences than me and who is in a different point in their life than me. I would think it's odd for a 30 year old to be interested in me
I feel bad calling his behavior “hysterical” because I know it was a common way to put down women when they have seemingly “over the top” but also possibly appropriate emotional responses. It isn't something I relate to since I don't have too much up and down. Should I be worried I'm making him have panic attacks? I've never had one so I have no idea what is going on
I've been nauseous for the past 36 hours. Can't eat or drink. She's apologized multiple times but then always follows it up with some bullshit justification, which then I call her out for doing.
Now she is mad because she chose me over everyone for 5 years. When this year is supposed to be our 6th year anniversary. And saying things like that last 5 years doesn't mean anything? It does, but it feels completely tainted now. I love my daughter, but she wouldn't be here if I knew about this sooner. Now I'm a soon to be single father again with 2 baby mamas, you know the family I've always dreamed about.
Would this be more of an issue the friends in question were male
I'd try to see this in the best possible light, giving her the benefit of the doubt. Rather than telling you to F off, she was concerned about your need for sexual release and wanted to help.
I didn’t tell her about that kink.
His comment was fine, your apology comment is the weird one.
Also I just don’t want to personally speak on the effectiveness for a person with allergies this severe. My cat tolerated the waterless shampoo (TropiClean) but I don’t know exactly how effective it was at reducing the dander
“Deserved” its her choice, she doesn't need you permission. Things change ea especially I why I ssked
It’s only the show that they’re playing for that’s for everyone. If anyone wants more that’ll have to pony up. I’ve never had a stripper only stay for the time of the show, she makes her money on the private dances after.
I 100% agree with you that’s why i said idk what to do
I know, I want to apologize and I'm gonna. Is it the wrong idea to text him now and say that I wanna talk? Or should I wait until tomorrow?
Nope! The iud will do NOTHING to protect from STDs. Also, I would never leave protection of my body and unwanted pregnancy on anyone else.
Wear condoms. The iud is irrelevant. If she insists, end it.
This! She constantly posts like her relationship is the model of healthy and her post history is ????
Good for you. Getting him out is your first step, talk to your lawyer about what to do. You may have to evict him
This would be a dealbreaker in a relationship for me. He clearly hasn’t tried to stop his addiction, so why waste any more time on a man whose not willing to do the work on themselves.
This could be right out of the song trusted by Ben Folds.
You asked him to tell you his dream and he did then you got upset when he did.
Everyone has weird sex dreams about strangers even when they're in happy committed relationships.
If you don't trust him that's fine but a bit intense to break up with him for a dream.
Everything you’ve listed here are reasons you shouldn’t loan him this money. I come from a wealthy family as well so I get what your thought process is but this just isn’t a good idea. He already owes you $450 from nine months ago and you all have a constantly rocky relationship. Why isn’t he working and saving this money himself for his car? If you are hellbent on helping him financially then I would only do half and make him find a way to come up with the other half. If he balks at that then that’s everything you need to know.
So you have a LOT of really good replies here. I particularly appreciated u/kamjam16 and u/PeetSquared41 as they seem the most pointedly helpful. However I also want to add, not many people actively appreciate how much being in a relaxed state helps us with enjoying sex. If you are tense, it is going to be more difficult to enjoy sex, and take longer to orgasm. Particularly, men seem to totally forget to support spouses and significant others towards being able to have time and space to just relax. You seem to be supportive of your spouse in this and I commend you for that. But I think you could take this information you have learned and turn it towards helping yourself and your wife enjoy life a little bit more. Maybe by adding a bit of relaxed touching with no expectations to your days? I think you would both enjoy that. Once a week perhaps, trading turns? I really think that just the fact she was feeling relaxed in her whole body is what sent her into this state, and you can both benefit from that knowledge of her body and system. If you view it right.
For me, i see it as there are other legal ways to handle those things.Your security should come from him without needing to involve the government in your love.
Have you tried approaching it with compromise like a prenup or other binding document so he feels secure that he wont lose everything?
your wife is abusive and doesn’t have respect for you, please leave this woman and find your happiness
So why are you with her, exactly?
Smoking weed is more harmless than drinking alcohol. Would much rather someone smoke.
If you've accepted the risk and potential for drama that comes with sleeping with a coworker (one that is likely sleeping with other coworkers as well), then by all means go ahead and throw your dick in the mix.
If you've accepted the risk and potential for drama that comes with sleeping with a coworker (one that is likely sleeping with other coworkers as well), then by all means go ahead and throw your dick in the mix.
Holy shit. I need to be slow for you don’t I
You assumed she had a phone and was on tinder too
Buttttt if you read the fucking story. She said she CHECKED HIS FUCKING PHONE. To me it just sounds like you are a lonely lonely guy who probably thinks they will be alone until They die so your mad about that and side with guy in stories that are similar to this
I mean, this isn't about your friends at this point, this is a sign of your character as a person and helps show your immaturity and unreliability. You seem to be incredibly upset at your friend for sharing a not-so-important piece of info with your other friend, but you can't honestly say you've never done the same with these friends, too? Talked about one to the other? It's kind of normal that it happens sometimes and doesn't make anyone a good or bad friend.
What DOES make you seem like a bad partner, though, is lying directly to your bf. You definitely did lie blatantly to him. What if you found out something similar about a friend in his circle that you all hang out with? I bet you'd be REALLY upset.
And it sounds like you're unhappy with how he speaks to his ex flings. Have you talked to him about it? What does he think? If you guys can't agree, maybe you aren't a great match. Does he get overly jealous? Are you AFRAID to tell him you hooked up with this guy you were talking to for awhile? Then you definitely aren't a good match. It sounds unhealthy.
Yeah, your friends shouldn't have shared this with your bf. Every step of this story sounds pretty immature and poorly handled by you and your “friends”. But the direct lies are a concern and show you aren't an honest partner.
ANOTHER QUESTION: You said your bf communicates badly. How exactly did he respond to what your friends said? Yelling, insults, etc.?
There's some people that have secrets like that and never tell anyone. If you want to chance it them go ahead but just be ready for some backlash.
Now I see. You live in bubble. There is a real world up there.
Shes cheating on you. Dump her
You're doing yourself and Sally no favors by not asserting yourself. Your resentment is palpable. Don't agree to drive her to a horse auction if it means you'll seethe about missing the air show. You don't want to move into the house. You don't need a litany of good reasons, although you have them, you just need to be HONEST with her. Start saying “no” to her when it's important to you. If she doesn't understand, so be it. If it creates an argument, so be it. You need to be able to live authentically. If doing so reveals more incompatibilities with Sally, SO BE IT. Better to move forward with that information than continue to be agreeable on the surface just to avoid strife. It sounds like this isn't the relationship for you. Time to find out.
Man go get a gf that doesn’t have a kid with another man
I mean, we need to at least recognize that he is honest about it
A coward, but an honest one
You say you aren’t wrapped around anyone’s finger, yet you want to stick around with someone who is clearly manipulating you. What a bozo.
honestly i think this is just a troll account or something. if you check OP’s post history, there’s one post where she’s nauseated by an overweight woman for existing and what seems to be a bot post or something trying to shill for fiverr. and so many details in this post just dont really reflect actual human behavior. together for 15 years, but she only now gives a fuck about her boyfriend being excluded because she’s jealous of her sister’s boyfriend? no clue whatsoever why her parents would dislike her boyfriend for so long, but she left it without interrogation for 15 years? and no mention of whether or not the boyfriend actually gives a crap about any of it, which seems like it would be relevant enough to include in the initial post
I’m really glad you found it in you to forgive and move on and give her a chance. (I would have also absolutely respected if you heard her apology and refused and rejected her, that trauma cant be undone and you are also right to not accept her in your life.) I hope you find a relationship that fits, whether friends, acquaintances, something more, or something less.
I’ve already sort of interviewed him about their relationship. I was working on being okay with it until I saw her not really respect that he’s in a relationship by posting the heart emojis, knowing I would see it. It felt inappropriate to me and made me question how she feels, what her intentions were for posting that knowing I would see it, and also how they communicate privately.
I don’t think I want to be friends with her. I just want to feel confident knowing their friendship is platonic, but it’s very hot knowing there is so much history and they are clearly intertwined.
It feels like a landline and I’m not sure how many more mines there are in this field, and if I want to stick around to find out. It’s been a beautiful relationship besides this though.
Maybe it would be a good idea to talk about what you each actually mean in the situations you describe in your post?
To use your own examples:
I would say something out of place, or I wouldn't understand something he'd been trying to explain to me, he's like “nevermind, let it go” and just shuts down.
Maybe your boyfriend is indeed deflecting, in which case that is something he needs to work on, but it could also be that he has a valid point and that it really isn't always worth going further into it something, in which case you do need to let it go. He could easily use different words, however, to not make you feel stupid.
If I did something and he'd say 'are you sure that's the way to do it?” and repeats it when I say “yes” once, I'd say yes loudly looking annoyed
Talk to him about why he feels the need to question your judgement like that. Maybe he doesn't mean to, but that's how it comes across, and I think we all get annoyed when someone does that.
he answers “I hate it when you talk like this” and again shuts down.
Ask him why he feels the need to use such harsh language. No, it probably doesn't feel good when you act that way, but he would probably get a more sympathetic response from you if he worded it differently.
One thing he also reproaches me is that I never suggest plans or going out. Although I often ask if he'd like to go to the cinema, or go for a walk I never take “big decisions” like for going on a weekend because I always feel it's something we should both talk and agree on
It sounds like you disagree on what it means to take initiative. That doesn't necessarily mean either of you is right or wrong, but it does mean you're not speaking the same language. He needs to tell you what he actually expects from you and you, in turn, need to be honest about whether those expectations are realistic.
5 years in a bad relationship is gonna leave scars. She won't be ready for a healthy relationship for a while. I have insight.
I was with a really bad person for 6+ years. The 2 nice guys I dated after him, I destroyed. Like really bad. I was fucked up, and I fucked them up. They didn't deserve it. The 3rd guy, I fell in love, ended up marrying.
She's not ready. She thinks she is, but she's not.
You need to decide if you want to cut contact to help you move on in your life or not. Maybe the best thing for you to do is to move on and date others.
If not, then try waiting a couple weeks, or a bit longer, and then drop her a text and tell her that you'd like to keep in contact and go from there. The key is give her time for her to see for herself if she misses seeing and talking to you and if she does keep it slow, platonic and infrequent (i.e. not daily).
Could be meeting for coffee or a meal every few weeks or whatever. But don't push it as a date or hang out at a place where you'll want to get cuddly (i.e. no more being flirty or movie nights on the couch unless she decides she's ready).
If I'm really into someone they'll become my type. I just need one thing, one spark, and as long as the relationship is remotely healthly I'll adore the fuck out of the person.
Uhh… no? I hope not?
Couple of questions:
How long do you usually need to properly recharge?
And what exactly is that he doesn’t like about weed and vape? Is it the smell? Maybe how you are when you smoke?
It’s not unconditional trust. She’s been completely transparent and even allows him access to all her devices, which is a massive level of trust on her part. This person is a platonic friend to her now and has been for two years.
If OP still doesn’t trust her he is of course free to break up, literally no one said he has to stay.
Absolutely not. Listen to your partner. If he says his partner can't come. Then they do not come.
She’s deleting their conversations because she doesn’t want you to see. I’d be seriously concerned about cheating.
How you get them is how you lose them.
I’ve known him for longer than 3 weeks. We only been together for 3 weeks
Babe, married is married. He's been together with someone long enough to know he wanted to marry them, so it doesn't matter how “newly” the marriage is – he fooled you and was VERY LIKELY lying to his wife about things.
“I have no interest in a relationship with you. Any interactions from here on not-related to work will be ignored.”
I’m laughing at him being charged. That’s a good joke.
Say you live until 70 yo. Are you cool will someone using these types of mechanisms in a relationship?
Are you all planning on kids? If so, what happens when the kids see this behavior modeled?
What is you get sick, is he going to be able to care for you or abandon you? Check the stats of men leaving their wives when they become ill. Or how quickly they remarry when their spouse dies.
For your first marriage…when did you decide to divorce? How long did it take to go from sugar to shit. How much did you spend gaslighting yourself?
I don't think it's quite that black or white. But okay
Your response, “if the genders were reversed…” intrigues me. Tell me more, please.
Why do you even want any form of friendship/relationship with this man? You should not be moving in with him. You should not do a situationship with him. You're wasting your time on a man that wants a f*ck buddy for life.
You know this isn't what you want. Why stay? There is no man shortage. Find someone better.
You are not the first now the last to be in this sort of position. Yes, you did cross a bpundary, but it's no surprise to me that you did.
You've known each other for a decade, at least, been close enough to think of each other as family, he has had a crush on you for awhile, and the living situation has been really great!
Living together can be very intimate if things work out so well. You've seen you two work well together. You already love and care for one another, and his parents are accepting.
Your BFF does feel betrayed, and we hope she can get over those feelings, but she is not her brothers keeper. She is not responsible for his choices. You two are grown adults and are allowed to make your own decisions.
Because of the sheer volume of messages, you don’t have to accuse her of shit to ask about it. Just say something like “I got a call from our provider about billing so I went to check our account live, are you okay? The site shows thousands of messages for this month, that’s not like you” and see what she says.
I'm a complete stranger and i think i care more about your mental well being than your “man” does. I am SO sorry this happened to you. I can't imagine the kind of pain you must be in and i can't imagine a world where you deserve it. I hope you don't forgive him.
6,5 EFFING years!
he started live 2016 in spring
he started irl 2016 in fall
she moved in 2022 in fall
he told her 2023 in spring
Dude does things by seasons.
Also…. 6,5 years without EVER meeting? ? As if!
Have you considered getting a shock collar for him?
Oof. Red flag there. If he quits his job over an unrelated tantrum, move right back out of his place!
Thank you, makes it waaay clearer for me 🙂
Should a therapist even tell you how to feel, instead of helping you figure things out yourself?
Break up with her
Break up with her
Tell her. The dude is a db.
He said it was stupid and he was sorry. After it happened he was remorseful and he took some steps towards transparency. But i guess he couldn't understand my overwhelming need of attention afterwards.
Then, Sis, I mean this bluntly.
I'd take the kids and go back. Do what you need to do from there.
As far as he goes, its couples counseling time and you have every right to kick all of them out. THis is whey YOU set the stage for what you will and will not tolerate. And it comes from you.
Flat out tell them when they show up that while you love them they are only allowed over on X day because you are sick of trying to maintain a house, raise infant twins without any help from the man she bore and that you will not play host right now.
If she wants to live by social media, she should be ready to die by it as well.
You can't really force friendship. If she seems to be avoiding your messages, then I'm afraid she's most likely not interested. She'll get back to you if she wants to talk.
Probably ill-advised, but if you want to give it another shot, ditch the small talk and ask interesting and specific questions about something she likes and enjoys talking about (books, movies, sports, etc.) if you can.
Yea you're gonna regret this.