hey thanks a lot, sometimes it’s really helpful to hear practical advice from someone that has been in a similar situation (and actually i’m very curious about your book, even if i’m a guy I feel you, I really believe that exiting from the perspective of getting married is a good and strong conquer) Thanks again for your words, i will read it sometimes when i’ll feel bad, it’s really helpful for me.
Oh dear lord – this is utter bull ?…… You have no obligation to look after her children – irrespective of you only recently being child free..
I have a young child – I also have no village. It’s do’able without a village let me tell you – you plan for your child’s care – what in the heck is your daughter thinking???????
Please take the time for YOU. You have been looking after people for a long long time – its time for you to look after YOU.
Be the fun Granny and take the kid to the zoo and the park – when it suits YOU – but not a full time carer role – stuff that ?
Good luck to you and your grandkids. I’m sure, once all this palava is sorted, you will have a fabulous grandparent relationship with them ?
As I'd said, it was on its own on the bottom shelf, so pretty naked to miss from where I was lay with my head right next to it. He is a writer, and it just looked like any other of his writing projects, which he has no problems showing me and letting me read. I wouldn't have considered it snooping.
Don’t be shocked when your relationship hits a rough patch, he decides that you’re “just like the rest” and turns that vitriol on you. It’s only a matter of time.
Posts okay but please explain to me in this comment u made.
My bf gets mad at me that I don’t send enough pictures showing my body and tells me that I should be more understanding of his needs. I told him several times that I don’t feel comfortable sending such pictures when we have such problems in our relationship (he cheated on me, getting nudes from another girl or even more and confused his feelings with someone else). I also just can’t become horny at instant when he’s horny. Idk how to act when he gets horny and wants pictures from me. Rn he told me he was looking at my pictures that I sent in the past, and he wanted me to send him bikini pictures but I told him that I deleted them. I was also curious which pictures he was looking at. He didn’t want to send me at first (it felt like he was taking time or I don’t really understand) but he sent me some eventually and just look at the dialogue: Can I know about your thoughts on this situation?
Is this a different dude? This was literally a month ago? Or did u meet a different guy within a months span?
Please explain what in this comment is worth fighting for in a relationship?
What makes him worth all this bullshit? Because he seems like a horrible sex obsessed dude that only cares about your body not you as a person AT ALL!
what makes you deal with shit like this? Also pressuing you into sex would've been my exit to tell him to fuck off long ago. None of his behavior is okay…yet… u stay?
Op, you need to take a step back and look at your relationship. You're very quick to defend red flags that look like the beginning of emotional manipulation which eventually leads to emotional abuse. The slowly changing rules are huge, how other tiny things has he said something about or encouraged to change.
The irony of this comment and your first… Your double standards only increase. Maybe that’s why “all guys” tell you they wanna move slow and let the bullet dodge them ?
Some couples are meant to be and others aren’t. It had nothing to do with you. You two were just not meant to be together. Accept that and move on. Please go to therapy to resolve this.
When it comes to spending a large sum of money I don't really see either side of this in the wrong necessarily. Just one person doesn't see the value or have interest in the purchase. I'd love to have solar panels myself but I can't fault anyone for being worried or skeptical of the investment.
At the end of the day if its your own money, you can do what you want with it. If its shared. you should both be comfortable with where it goes. If you can if you haven't already. show him cost projections in your area and what amount of money would be saved per month and show exactly when they might eventually pay themselves off if thats a possibility.
After 7 years and this is still his mindset? He's a piece of work isn't he?
I've had cold sores my entire life (thanks mom!) and I have never had a partner in my 32 years of life treat me this way. It sounds to me that he is more concerned about contracting it himself than you possibly having it. Which says a lot about him.
To be responsible, I would get tested just to have your own peace of mind. But I would definitely rethink your future with this guy.
Oh, Jesus.
hey thanks a lot, sometimes it’s really helpful to hear practical advice from someone that has been in a similar situation (and actually i’m very curious about your book, even if i’m a guy I feel you, I really believe that exiting from the perspective of getting married is a good and strong conquer) Thanks again for your words, i will read it sometimes when i’ll feel bad, it’s really helpful for me.
If you were friends with your neighbors and the husband told you this what do you think he meant?
They had a conversation about a show and OP asked the question. That’s why.
That’s exactly how I would feel. From what she did to her hiding it is extremely telling.
Oh dear lord – this is utter bull ?…… You have no obligation to look after her children – irrespective of you only recently being child free..
I have a young child – I also have no village. It’s do’able without a village let me tell you – you plan for your child’s care – what in the heck is your daughter thinking???????
Please take the time for YOU. You have been looking after people for a long long time – its time for you to look after YOU.
Be the fun Granny and take the kid to the zoo and the park – when it suits YOU – but not a full time carer role – stuff that ?
Good luck to you and your grandkids. I’m sure, once all this palava is sorted, you will have a fabulous grandparent relationship with them ?
Just because someone is enormous doesnt mean that they are willing to walk into a potential knife fight
Imo, tell her that he has a new girlfriend and that they should work with her to support him.
Yeah reading back through this is a little cliche haha.
That’s a very important set of conversations that will need to be had before we agree to anything. Thanks for the comment
As I'd said, it was on its own on the bottom shelf, so pretty naked to miss from where I was lay with my head right next to it. He is a writer, and it just looked like any other of his writing projects, which he has no problems showing me and letting me read. I wouldn't have considered it snooping.
Don’t be shocked when your relationship hits a rough patch, he decides that you’re “just like the rest” and turns that vitriol on you. It’s only a matter of time.
Well, after a long, honest conversation with him he still says we have a future thanks so much
Posts okay but please explain to me in this comment u made.
My bf gets mad at me that I don’t send enough pictures showing my body and tells me that I should be more understanding of his needs. I told him several times that I don’t feel comfortable sending such pictures when we have such problems in our relationship (he cheated on me, getting nudes from another girl or even more and confused his feelings with someone else). I also just can’t become horny at instant when he’s horny. Idk how to act when he gets horny and wants pictures from me. Rn he told me he was looking at my pictures that I sent in the past, and he wanted me to send him bikini pictures but I told him that I deleted them. I was also curious which pictures he was looking at. He didn’t want to send me at first (it felt like he was taking time or I don’t really understand) but he sent me some eventually and just look at the dialogue: Can I know about your thoughts on this situation?
Is this a different dude? This was literally a month ago? Or did u meet a different guy within a months span?
Please explain what in this comment is worth fighting for in a relationship?
What makes him worth all this bullshit? Because he seems like a horrible sex obsessed dude that only cares about your body not you as a person AT ALL!
what makes you deal with shit like this? Also pressuing you into sex would've been my exit to tell him to fuck off long ago. None of his behavior is okay…yet… u stay?
Read my other comment where I explained my stance further.
Copy Houston! I can see a Red Flag from ISS.
Op, you need to take a step back and look at your relationship. You're very quick to defend red flags that look like the beginning of emotional manipulation which eventually leads to emotional abuse. The slowly changing rules are huge, how other tiny things has he said something about or encouraged to change.
Ok, I was never for big weddings but now I'm definitely convincing my gf that we need Irish step dancers in forest if we get married
The irony of this comment and your first… Your double standards only increase. Maybe that’s why “all guys” tell you they wanna move slow and let the bullet dodge them ?
Some couples are meant to be and others aren’t. It had nothing to do with you. You two were just not meant to be together. Accept that and move on. Please go to therapy to resolve this.
When it comes to spending a large sum of money I don't really see either side of this in the wrong necessarily. Just one person doesn't see the value or have interest in the purchase. I'd love to have solar panels myself but I can't fault anyone for being worried or skeptical of the investment.
At the end of the day if its your own money, you can do what you want with it. If its shared. you should both be comfortable with where it goes. If you can if you haven't already. show him cost projections in your area and what amount of money would be saved per month and show exactly when they might eventually pay themselves off if thats a possibility.
After 7 years and this is still his mindset? He's a piece of work isn't he?
I've had cold sores my entire life (thanks mom!) and I have never had a partner in my 32 years of life treat me this way. It sounds to me that he is more concerned about contracting it himself than you possibly having it. Which says a lot about him.
To be responsible, I would get tested just to have your own peace of mind. But I would definitely rethink your future with this guy.