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I am so confused where you’re going with this…a cat I could understand because of the spines, but duck penises are really just weird looking. At least I’ve never heard of them causing bleeding and I never SAW it when I had ducks.
Definitely not a deal breaker for me
Thanks so much. He has only been having a cigarette here and there so I wouldn't say it's a regular habit again. The main issues for me are the lying and the smell. He quit with patches last time and has been thinking about going back on them, which is frustrating for me because he's going to be putting himself on a constant flow of nicotine again.
I’m going to offer a completely different view on this.
I (F20) met my partner (M22) in February 2022. He moved in April 2022, and we found out we were expecting in June.
I, like you, am pro choice however I personally couldn’t go through with an abortion. I am now 31 weeks with our precious baby boy. We have had immense support from family and friends, his nursery is all completed, he has everything he needs.
I saw myself being a parent one day, but not this young. I was halfway through my 3 year degree. I completed my second year and have taken a year out, I’m returning in September to complete it and carry on with my dream career.
Our finances aren’t ideal, we rent and make enough to get by with the odd luxuries here and there. But we know we have enough to support our baby. We also know we have so much love for him and he will grow up in a caring home.
I’m in a lucky position to have an amazing partner who is potentially even more excited than me about this. He has always wanted to be a father.
Good luck with whatever you choose, this is simply my story which I thought you might appreciate hearing.
You need to talk to a professional for two reasons: 1. You went through a divorce. 2. You were abused.
You will not be able to fully function in a relationship or hook up without addressing these two things. AKA, you won’t be able to give your full self.
So please try to see if there is a way that your mother can help you talk to a professional.
You’re young. Do not take this baggage with you your life. You only get one life.
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Being appreciated is not being told I love you, he's grateful to you for being there and helping him, you are very good for him because you help him. It's not the same thing as love.
Tell everyone and drop her.
Don't do it to only please your partner, it will end badly. In general it's easier for women to find a hookup partner than men, unless your gf is “ugly” you'd start at a disadvantage. Say your around average in looks, it's gonna be very hot for you to find good enough hookups, so you will always be behind her and at some point stop while she's getting it. Only do it if you both are really into it. People who are monogamous and respect their partner don't want to share their partners with others.
Oh man I feel you on this.
I ended my 10 year relationship 5 months ago. We did not share finances at all, but the house we have a partnership agreement on. We both shared the down payment and split the mortgage 50/50. And we have a dog.
House is fully in my name. However I left, he didn't have anywhere to go. I made more money than him (although he got a new job now and makes about the same as me now, but my earning potential is a lot higher) Rent is astronomical in the Seattle/Tacoma area. He now pays the mortgage and we are working on getting the house in his name. It took me a while to move out, and he is still finding things that are mine. I didn't want anything in the house except my personal items and some knick knacks.
As for the break up. You need to do what is best for you.
I think you're going to be happier not having this albatross around your neck. It took me a few attempts at breaking up. He didn't want it, still doesn't want it, but I think we are both happier apart even if he doesn't see it fully yet.
You need to start with separating finances and cut off any of his access to your shared accounts. Most likely you will be stuck paying the debt so your credit doesn't suffer. The cars need to be split up and each have your own separate titles (if there is more than one car) if he's in an at fault accident they can come after you if you own the car too.
I had also decided I wanted more from life and while I love him our schedules, life and priorities were different. He did make some changes but in the end he went back to his same old ways and I had had enough.
Not sure if this is helpful. But since I went through a similar situation I thought my perspective could help a little.
LOL, how insecure do you have to be to believe this? What does her self image have anything to do with it? Or the length of their relationship?
HE ASKED, SHE ANSWERED, plain and simple. If you don't want to hear an honest answer to something, then you shouldn't ask the question, period.
Yea, fuck him. Like others have pointed out, he has sexually assaulted you multiple times. Once was bad enough. He doesn't respect you, leave his ass. You've talked to him about it and he still acts like you owe it to him. Once again, fuck him.
To give you an idea of what a respecting partner would do, I only had to tell my partner ONCE that the taste of it unfortunately wasn't good for me and I had to gag and immediately run out to the bathroom to spit it out. He told me there and then that I didn't have to swallow it. He was super considerate about it. Ever since, he would always pull me up when I was giving head and he was getting close. He always changes it to a different position from there.
Let her go
When I had my son I did not expect my mum or my in-laws to drop everything to provide childcare. He is my son, not theirs.
I find it appalling that so many people having children expect their parents to help with childcare. I actually had words with my friend’s parents as one of them is disabled and looking after the children under 5 a lot and complaining about the pain!
It is lovely if grandparents want to help and I don’t usually say no if they offer but I do not expect it.
Tell her no and explain why.
You can offer meals on wheels when she gives birth. You can pop in for a few hours to let mum catch up sleep if you want. But you get to pick and choose as you are grandma.
Why are you dating a 34 year old creep? Tbh any 34 dating a 24 year old has issues. That alone is a red flag. The “terms of endearment” should be a dealbreaker though.
Absolutely. 100%
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If this is something that is just how you are as a person and haven’t tried to change it/ don’t want to change it, then you guys probably don’t match up good.
I think there’s no reason to discuss specifics of money this early, especially if it’s a larger amount. Definitely something to discuss when you’re looking to move in together.
Men already can opt out of fatherhood, that's why single mothers exist.
Yeah honestly to help support him if you still want to be together you have to start with small steps, like no smoking until xyz is done so it's more of a reward rather than a necessity.
This even took me years, the fact that I had a job meant I couldn't smoke until the evenings either so that's what helped me but as soon as I got home I was craving it because of habit.
My next stage was finding a replacement of things to do in the evening which was the gym. Now by the time I got home it was like 8/9 pm and I'd be tired from the gym and I'd cut down from 3 to 1.
But I did slip up and start smoking before the gym even when I didn't want to. It's very hot.
However be aware if you push too hard it can lead to resentment. Weed also numbs pain stress and emotions – do you know why he is smoking? Could it be anxiety or depression or just leisure? There could also be like a can of worms you might not be able to deal with. Just don't give ultimatums
Maybe start with that? Talk about it together
That's the painful truth. I needed to hear it plainly. The messed up part is I rejected a genuinely nice guy who has shown me interest and a willingness to commit for the guy I'm with now.
I'm not sure you can, to be honest. My mom snooped on my phone once, and I never trusted her the same way again. Trust takes years to build, and can be destroyed in a second.
She might have seen you as a safe space before – someone she could come to about her toxic partner, her issues with her major – but I doubt that anymore. Give her space, as much as she needs. Hopefully her friends can be her (trusted and not invasive) support system.
Not really ghost her since we are still in that group chat (I “liked” a few of her texts but I’m strategically avoiding her and usually liking only the others’ texts) but I guess telling her that I would let her know and then not writing her back is a hint that’s good enough?
Of course not, this guy is all about dumbshit toxic masculinity. He'd probably just tell him to walk off the panic attack and grow some balls.
Huh? If anything, I think it’s sort of flattering because he assumes that whoever he’s talking to knows you’re the most important woman in his life, the only ‘she’ he’s likely to be referring to. You’re overthinking it.
This is the first time I’ve hit back. He’s hit me before and I didn’t do anything, and last time he strangled me. I’ve seen my mum get abused – the abuse stopped when started fighting back. I don’t think it’s fair to say we’re both abusive
So accept the underwear she likes. Stop trying to change her.
The point here is whether its rude (yes?) to get a similar tattoo without asking if its cool. Whats wrong with people, do yall just copy whatever meaningful tattoos your friends have?
I get what you mean, the thought has slipped my mind too many times.
Hope your love Re blooms ?
Again, I never said he owed me anything you're just making assumptions that are wrong. What you're saying has nothing to do with the question that I have asked. I don't understand why you are explaining what fwb means when I never asked that in the question. I simply asked why didn't he just say he no longer wants to be fwb anymore. You're talking about him getting a girlfriend (assuming again) like you know him personally. Yeah ok, thanks.
Yeah, it is weird that he is upset by that. I have flirted with men in my life but I’ve literally never approached a man or “hit on” them in the way men hit on me.
I'm talking about this specific case. Perfect example of why a 27 year old shouldn't marry a 19 year old Not sure where you think I said that a 23 year old dating a 19 year old is a creep? I didn't even say this case was creepy, I said it will never work, because one of them is already an adult and the other is a teen and hasn't learnt to adult yet. It doesn't work. And personally I think that 19 and 23 is OK, but don't rush into getting married at 19, not sure why you have an issue with that?
Thank you, I agree with what you have said 100%.
I don’t even believe you at all. You’re a would-be cheater getting what they deserve. You’re not very bright are you?
Yeah it makes sense. He has expressed to me that sometimes he feels less than because of my professional success (even tho we talked about it and I told him he would be just as successful if he tried as very hot as I did, but he has different priorities right now and that's fine). As a result, I basically will try to not talk too much about it and just be proud of his current lifestyle and that he's happy, because I love to see him happy. But yes, I'm still a bit bothered because I look into the future.
I am worried to bring it up again because of that exact reason, I don't want him to feel disrespected. It's a situation where I genuinely do not think I'm “better” than him or that everyone needs to be a capitalist shill like me (though I'm proud of the work I do). I just have basic expectations for a future where I want to travel and have kids. And that's only achievable with a partner who also puts in work toward that, instead of just saying that he would like it vaguely.
He wants closure for being shitty. Hell no
Thanks
I came clean with all 3 of them. And my ex said that he would forgive me and do anything to get back together even if it means giving me sometime to explore my options and decide what is best for me. The 2nd guy said that he understands that we were never exclusive and if i am willing to cut all ties with the other 2 guys he will be more than happy to pursue a relationship with me. The 3rd guy started crying not because I withheld this information but because i told him that i will never be able to connect with him emotionally. He is saying that we should give it a try. But i refused. I am cutting ties with all of them because it's been a little too stressful for me. I am moving to Australia in September and I think this is the best thing i can do for myself right now.
Tell your wife that you are happy to pull your weight around the house, but you would appreciate it if she spoke to as if you were equal partners vs. being treated like another child. Also, tell her that you resent being punished and threatened with no sex every time you speak your mind.
You must’ve also missed where the fiancé said ‘friends’ and OP just jumped to the conclusion that he meant Ashley for no reason
How the fuck is telling her that she's an “8 out of 10” dating advice? It's not.
“partner said he's never seen her as a kind person, just that she is overly polite”… what the fuck?
“she is stubborn and to improve on that”… again, what the fuck?
Your partner is extremely rude, and inappropriate. He should IMPROVE ON THAT. And, you're telling him it's okay, because you clearly don't see anything wrong with his comments or behavior, so IMPROVE ON THAT.
He's on testosterone now and that seems to be why he's acting this way however we are in the middle of a fight right now and no matter how reasonable I'm being he is continuing to act absolutely hateful and it really seems like it's leading to a breakup
Funny how you just believe him. This is Reddit, ffs.
Absolutely does not happen to all of us. I have drank more than I intended, but never so much that I was not able to take care of myself.
Babes….RUN. As far away as you can
Then tell her u want to break up. You talking to her ex is humiliating. Sharing pics with no permission is humiliating. Break up decently, the fact she’s not a virgin doesn’t mean she’s less worthy of respect.
This is absolutely toxic. Make him disappear from your life before it's to late. Don't think it's gonna change.
Sure, ok, thanks
From context clues it seems OP replied “ok” to this and any other comments that ask for more information/question the narrative in OP’s post
You made the choice to forgive him and stay. You can't do that and then still bring it up. If you couldn't get over it then it's your responsibility to say that, and leave. Either stay and put it behind you, or let him know it was too much and you need out. But regardless of whether what he said was right or wrong, when you made up you told him basically “everything is ok” and it's not fair in that instance to bring it back up. Lets say you borrowed my car, the only thing I have of my deceased mother so there's emotional attachment present, and scratched it. I forgive you, but still bring it up all the time when you thought it was over and done with, forgiven, we made up etc etc etc. You get what I'm trying to say? You don't have to be ok with it, but don't fake it, because yes even he deserves to either be forgiven or let go, not emotionally toyed with whenever you think of what he said. Good luck.
Who suggests having your hair ripped out of your genitals as a date?
I hope so, I think I fell in love too soon too very hot because right now it feels like my body is on fire or I’ve dissociated from my self. It just feels like I’m in a daze.. am I being dramatic? 🙁
I hope so, I think I fell in love too soon too very hot because right now it feels like my body is on fire or I’ve dissociated from my self. It just feels like I’m in a daze.. am I being dramatic? 🙁
You don't need to be very hot for a prostitute suck your dick.
Tell your husband. Frame it as you just don't want him to get caught off guard. See how he reacts and follow his lead on it.
He's using you.
Maybe you are just not a good guy
Is that some sort of shaming tactic
I'm so curious, how were you using them? You just stick it in and pump, right?
You know the answer you don’t need us to tell you. lm sorry.
i mean sex is scary i get it just try to learn how to verbalize what ur feeling!
Maybe he’s got a big dick too.
Habits take time to build and I'm willing to do what I can to make building this habit easier for him, but I do know that I tend to want things done 50/50 and I do need to be better about understanding when that is realistic and when it's not. For cleaning though, I think it is a realistic goal
Nope, sounds like you made the right choice. I mean, it would be frustrating to not feel trusted but wtf are you supposed to do. Her reaction is super sus to me.
Time for a serious talk. Keep it kind. Keep it clear.
If the truth is so dark it would destroy you and your dad, then perhaps that’s why she’s reacting like this and not spilling the beans. Have you considered that? Have you considered how harsh it is that you are criticising her for saying nothing when actually she could be protecting you from something far worse even though it means destroying her life.
Perhaps she is so traumatised from what happened she can’t even begin to speak about it. Mental health conditions such as split personality disorder have a link with trauma and so you shouldn’t judge her inability to speak about this as meaning she is guilty.
You describe her as such a happily married woman, do you really think an affair is really the likely scenario?
I would ask her gently in a way that indicates that you would believe her – because many assault victims are terrified of not being believed.
Maybe you could say:
“Mum, I have been thinking about this and how happy you have always seemed with Dad and how much you are struggling with this. It seems so unlikely that you had an affair… we’re you assaulted mum? Please tell me and maybe we can work through this together. Or you can speak to someone else, a counsellor or something if you don’t want to speak to me but I’m just desperate to know what is going on with you. I love you.”
He has told me in the past that it’s selfish if I have him to stop watching porn because he needs a release and we can go months without having sex
Don't waste your time this is a troll account. Look at the profile, they posted 4 days ago about losing their 42 year old husband
That’s rent money ??
Honestly, I think you’ve got bigger problems than this dinner. Your gf has no concept of $$, and is at risk to make bad financial decisions or run up a bunch of debt.
Well it wasn’t great but it wasn’t that bad either. You were frustrated….. what else would you have preferred to have done? We’re only human and we can tolerate so much
It wasn’t a trap to then get offended. She meant it and wants me to do what I consider best.
You both messed up. You slept with someone and so did she. So why you feel hurt? You shouldn't have told her you slept with someone…people just love to over share and then wonder what happened???
Why they fuck are you asking for advice since you clearly aren't going to change anything. You said you're staying with her no matter what, so why are you posting?
I will not keep him from the child but I will also not beg him to be in her life… I can only do so much on my end and if he wants to be around for her cool, if he doesn’t well that’s on him.
Those examples make me think the other examples are probably a bit suspect too. He got rear-ended four times? Has OP actually been with him when this happened? I'd be suspicious that maybe he's reverse parking into poles or some nonsense and telling her he's been rear-ended out of embarrassment.
I would also like to point out that getting rear-ended, while it's almost always the fault of the person who rear-ended the other, is not always just plain bad luck for the one being rear-ended.
My wife was rear-ended three times in the first 3 years of our relationship. None of them were technically “her fault”, but she's an extremely timid driver, and that tends to result in her doing things that other drivers aren't expecting.
I was only in the car for one of those, and I completely understand why the person hit her. We were waiting to make an unprotected left turn. Traffic was clear for quite a ways, and she started to go, but then changed her mind because of a car like a half mile down the road, and stopped again. It was a turn that was more than 90°, so it was difficult to keep an eye on the vehicle in front of you, and the traffic that you needed to watch for when making the turn, and I imagine when she started moving with mostly clear traffic, he assumed she was going to complete the turn.
It was still clearly the other driver's fault, but it definitely helped me to understand why she was getting in so many accidents that weren't her fault.
We take turns in the kitchen. Today is his schedule
Someone who loves you won't make threats like this about your body. Do you, and if she doesn't like it then she can fuck right off.
Your microwave burritos are the best microwave burritos
I like your butt
You smell good
If anyone ever says I’m not in love with you, say “toe socks” because you should say something ridiculous too
I love you a latte [draw a picture of a coffee mug]
Ewe complete me [draw a picture of a sheep. Include “baa” speech bubble.]
Today I have loved you for [number] days. (Count up the number of days it’s been since the two of you started dating.)
When I think of you I can’t help but smile.
You’re the love of my life.
You make me laugh
I love you more than I hate your farts
You are my favourite
That isn't fair towards Chris you don't know him only I do he doesn't represent anyone else but himself
Wasn’t going to comment, but there’s something important that I haven’t seen anyone mention, so I’d like to point it out.
Your boyfriend probably feels very guilty for the way that T’s life has gone. They did drugs TOGETHER (and we don’t know the circumstances surrounding how they got into them, for all we know it could’ve been his idea which would add even more guilt), they went through addiction TOGETHER, and then he got better and moved on without her. Now he’s happy and living a great life, meanwhile she’s still actively addicted, stuck in an abusive home, and has repeatedly told him she’s suicidal. He’s probably feeling IMMENSELY guilty for getting better and leaving her behind. That’s probably why he’s so desperate to help her, because he blames himself for her still being addicted because he got better and left her behind. Stuff like that REALLY fucks you up. I don’t know if survivors guilt is quite the right term, but it’s basically the same thing. He very likely feels guilty for getting better without her. A lot of people are jumping straight to breaking up, but I think that before you even think about that, you should try and get your boyfriend to consider going to therapy to deal with the guilt he probably feels about T, as well as the trauma he most likely suffered while in active addiction, and to work through whatever pushed him to become an addict in the first place (nobody becomes an addict because their life is great and they just felt like blowing it up, there’s always a reason).
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. He deserves to know what you did and make his own decision about the future of the relationship.
This, this is best. If she wants to explore so badly she can do it single and no word about how sad she is about giving up her affair partner.
She chose this! You are absolutely right.
OP needs to do whatever is best for himself. She doesn't give a shit! He needs to think of himself not of her feelings, wants or needs rn.
You'll have to explore this together and see what works for you.
He’s definitely got some side chicks. No way he’s going without sex..
Not everyone you are attracted to is going to be attracted to you. You're a big boy and should know that by now. Dating is crap, you have to go through lots of people who aren't right before you find the one person who is.
The melodrama isn't going to help your chances.
You need therapy. Desperately. You’re being horrific to to him. He has to check in every 15 fucking minutes? You accuse him of what—screwing grocery store workers?
I’m amazed he stays for this crap. Please get therapy. Immediately.
I don't mind pictures. I just don't like them on social media.
Again, not at all. You’re erroneously drawing conclusions by cherry picking statements.
His entire goal is to lay out what his boundaries are, understand his partners, and work on a compromise. Nowhere does he even remotely imply he doesn’t trust her. People have different beliefs and conceptions of emotional intimacy, and this is a great step towards understanding one another.
Why did you edit your post history, hun? I already spotted your virtual sex dolls dude. ???
She sounds really immature to be honest and it must be exhausting constantly trying to please her. How much does she compromise for you?
have u been sleeping with her?
she's paying for stuff right not you?
The real problem is at 29 , you're gullible enough to swallow a line of shit
So, your fiancé is putting an antiquated custom ahead of your feelings. Please do not marry him. You are facing a life of misery
Bolt is a ride hailing app, like Uber.
I get what you’re saying, however I do notice her texting with other people ever so often. I once asked her what would happen if she texted with me that much and she said I’m trying to start a fight.
Break up with him, this is just a taste of what a hell being married to him will be. He sides with your abuser because he is one too
Sure ,no problem
I'm not calling him a perv. I'm saying that OP implied that he is a perv. By saying the she was “judging him heavily” by the average age of girls at a Taylor Swift concert, she's implying that a grown man has no place at a concert predominantly patronized by young underage women.
The use of the word “judging” can be viewed as particularly harsh; the only people who await judgment are in court. Judging also implies finality.
Most men(myself included) won't go near or talk to a child that is not his in fear of being arrested over a misunderstanding, carrying a stigma that never goes away.
Judging(court). 15 year old girls(underage). Is it really that much of a reach in your mind?
He threatened to kill you? Definitely file a police report.
Then give him back the ring (with a witness), and be done with him.
You deserve better.
Put your fingers in your ears and say “la la la la I can’t hear any of this.” Seriously. Do not get involved.
Put your fingers in your ears and say “la la la la I can’t hear any of this.” Seriously. Do not get involved.
Put your fingers in your ears and say “la la la la I can’t hear any of this.” Seriously. Do not get involved.
youre same age as me. move on. dont be tied down to a woman like that. she maybe a freak in the sheets but she is NO wifey.
look upwards and onwards, mah boy
I'm not skirting something I don't understand because we can't know the unknown unknowns, all I can do is explain to you my tone and approach (because the whole reason for this post is advice and clarification). I can't tell you how she thinks she is verbally abused because she doesn't have anything but abstract generalization and I speak highly and consistently of her and I've never directly or intentionally insulted her or belittled her or said that I wasn't willing to try to see things another way. Er go, it seems abstract because she has in fact directly insulted me or how I parent my oldest kids and belittled and devalued my opinion by “unfairly weaponizing abuse terms against me for speaking out about problems I have in the relationship, even if it doesn't align with her view of things”.
I do appreciate your time and I do want to understand, in fact I came here specifically for opinions like yours.
Being single is great! You’ve already been married; turn the page and do YOU now.
It’s very hot to believe at your age, I know, but if you like him go for him. It doesn’t matter, a frat boys opinion is right next to dog shit in the chain of importance by the average person. All decent men are slightly dorky.
If she had been honest with you about what happened… maybe… but if not for Tom then you would never have found out.
I like your boundaries. This is ridiculous. The middle of the night calling? If she does not have trust why would she ask both of you to vouch for each other? If she doesn't trust? You're lying anyway. Which you are not. Your boyfriend sounds great. Adults don't act this way. And sometimes our good friends meet and get together with people that we don't click with. She sounds like an extremly problematic version of that. But when it happens sometimes the friendship dwindles or even extinguishes. It's a fact of grown-up life. You might need to let this friendship go. And she's not going to rest until he no longer hustles on the side with you. As ridiculous as that is. The only question is why he's tolerating it and what his bottom line is. Your boundaries are good. Try to keep working with him. I'm sure the extra money helps. And yes, keep it professional. Ridiculous. She's acting like she's 15 years old. And he is getting something out of it. I wonder what? Something. But your refusal to be a party to it is sane and appropriate.
Thank you. I will be discussing it with him tonight.
What’s changed? You are married with a child. Haven’t you already been handling it for months or years?
These comments are certainly ruthless. Ignore them like you should ignore her. Block her and the guy and just focus on your own healing, hangout with friends, go out and party, hit the gym, focus on your work/school and heck even casually date if that makes you feel better. No matter what you do though, never take her back if she ever comes crawling back.
Just focus on yourself and your own happiness while you cutout the trash. Best “revenge” is happiness
“Interesting, the boyfriend's sister is married to a white man and the dad won't speak to her but he's okay with our relationship.”
Probably sexism. In some cultures the boys are raised to have more agency than girls. Which is why your bf is ok choosing a white girl but his sister isnt.
The first part sounds like what my therapist said. And yes, part of it was his coercion, part of it was her being experimental and wanting to try all the things, every which way. Her words. I'm not resentful, as I had my own wild life before her. I'm just bothered that she never wanted that stuff with me. And yes, of course I loved her, we have a whole baby together. I'm just not sure if she ever loved me, or just saw me as a way out of her situation at the time.
Girl. This is all coming from a place of love, and sympathy for your situation. This sounds, word for word, like the beginning of my relationship with my ex. I myself am also someone who has struggles with a turbulent life, and an ex fiancée who was not compassionate/empathetic or even understanding, in any way to that. and you're absolutely right to think that the next step in the progression of your arguments and fights will be a physical one. I unfortunately stayed in my situation for 7 years and we had a child together. There were other more complex and unpredictable aspects of my relationship with him. But what it ultimately comes down to, is that will continue to happen over and over and over. And when things do get ugly, he'll feel bad, and promise he'll do better, and change his behavior for a week, maybe two tops. And then its back to same old same old. Learn from my mistakes, and the mistakes of MANY other women, and make a graceful exit before things get worse. I broke up with my ex about 9 months ago, and I can honestly say it was the smartest and healthiest decision I've made in my entire life and that's not an exaggeration. I am now dating someone who treats me with the respect and love that I deserve. And I think the most important thing I learned from all of it was that it doesn't matter what people (or your partner) say, it all comes down to their actions. They can say they care and that they love you all they want, but what really matters is what they do to show (or not show) it. I hope this helps