So I feel like there are a lot of people just telling you to pick up and leave and that it doesn’t get better, which may be the case but I think there’s more to it than that. It sounds to me that he has an unhealthy attachment style. When you got into an argument about things being unfair, he brought up divorce, now this could be because he really wants divorce or it could be because of his own fear of being left. I have no clue which it is but if you love this person and want to be with them, you’re doing the right thing by suggesting counseling. If you love him, you can still be hurt by his statements, acknowledge his hurting you but also accept that it is not about you but his own mental illness trying to preserve himself (provided that’s the situation). Take a beat, breathe, maybe see a therapist yourself and take care of yourself.
Rest assured, each and every time I have an excuse to rat on him, I'm going to without a second of hesitation.
So I feel like there are a lot of people just telling you to pick up and leave and that it doesn’t get better, which may be the case but I think there’s more to it than that. It sounds to me that he has an unhealthy attachment style. When you got into an argument about things being unfair, he brought up divorce, now this could be because he really wants divorce or it could be because of his own fear of being left. I have no clue which it is but if you love this person and want to be with them, you’re doing the right thing by suggesting counseling. If you love him, you can still be hurt by his statements, acknowledge his hurting you but also accept that it is not about you but his own mental illness trying to preserve himself (provided that’s the situation). Take a beat, breathe, maybe see a therapist yourself and take care of yourself.