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He doesn’t respect you or her. This is not healthy and I recommend moving on. You deserve much better than a half baked relationship and lies.
Don’t ruin a good relationship just because she likes to pleasure herself. A lot of other woman would’ve found another man to sleep with. Hers is just a toy, maybe try incorporating it into your sex life
I think he should stop making generalizations about how “all other married people” feel in order to justify his hurtful behaviors.
What’s his goal in telling you that information? A better sex life? More intimacy? Who the fuck does he think he’s talking to when having conversations like this with you? Sharing every dumb thought that comes into his head is destroying your marriage.
What he’s accomplished with this conversation: Feeling of safety and comfort with him is dwindling. Your excitement for the future is all but gone. You’re feeling unwanted by him. Trust is shaky.
Or… and hear me out here… you just block him?
He probably signed a ND and discovered something he found he couldn't bring himself to do.
As a former property and casualty insurance agent absolutely yes. Take photos of absolutely everything you own and keep anything that proves you have it and when you got it. If the worst happens you'll always have a record for the police or insurance.
Do you also get to go find your own sexual partner? This happened to a friend of mine, her bf wanted to sleep around and she was heart broken. His “sleeping around” phase dried up quickly while she ended up living her best life with a few other partners who adored her and treated her like a queen.
I have noticed that you lost the NNN challenge. Or is it the after effect of NNN challenge?
The giggle reads as though he’s delighted with himself
It's called “Duping delight” and it's a known phenomenon in predatory behaviour. You can find all kinds of articles on it but the most thoughtful treatment I found was in Dr. Anna C. Salter's book, Predators.
What do you mean it’s a fantasy of his? He’s done it.
You mean ex girlfriend, right?
My ex gf did this to me too. In fact, she was way worse. I had very bad case of performance anxiety which started when we first tried having sex, she was also the first woman I ever had sex with at 29.
I got nervous and went soft that first time, beginning the cycle of emotional abuse and coercion over sex to the point that I ended up getting cold sweats and really bad anxiety anytime I tried having sex with her. Almost always ended with her guilt tripping me for losing my mojo during sex and just made things so bad.
She broke up with me many times over it until I just went no contact after she broke up with me during a family trip (with her family) over the same issue.
I am proving you wrong on this.
I met my husband, within three days he proposed to me, three weeks later we married, and are very happily still married 24 years later.
Sometimes you just know within minutes of meeting someone.
As Dan Savage says, there are lots of 0.6’s out there that we can convince ourselves into rounding up to “the one”
This is actually so terrible.
Your idea of being a good boyfriend and future husband is cheating on your girlfriend as ‘one last hurrah’?!?!
This is immature, deceitful, and shady af. If you already feel the need to cheat, then you should not have bought that ring.
How would you know?
You haven't had a relationship.
If you had, maybe your opinion about them would have some weight.
But you don't. Because you're like this.
This the dumbest advice I have read on here. And the fact that he/she has upvotes blows my mind.
Lose her.
this ironically displays a severe lack of understand of mental health issues
So based on that logic can her girlfriend go down on you and it is no big deal? Honestly I am not telling not to forgive but that is gaslighting. She had sex with someone else and if she does not see that it is a big deal you have big problems. Plus I am confused why she does not want to just cut ties with the friend and does not want to know that it caused problems. So it more important to protect her than to protect you? Unfortunately you wife needs a serious reality check. Good luck and so sorry this happened to you.
Wow. May I suggest some therapy for you? I don't know anyone who hasnt had to readjust their life because of a divorce – downsizing, readjusting spending on a lower income, renting instead of owning, the whole gamut of changes occur after a divorce. And yet here you are feeling sorry for someone that apparently abused you because they're going to have to adjust their lifestyle?
Cowboy up, OP. You told her. She can sell and downsize until things are manageable. Like any other person would have to do.
she admitted that she was diagnosed with depression and an eating disorder
You rightfully called out that she is blame shifting here. It doesn't matter. She should go to you with this.
“emotionally dump” on random strangers through “role play”(?) and then ditch said strangers when she feels better about her mental state.
Maybe, but still the main issue is her communication. If she does rp for distressing then you should be in the known for it. Think of it like spicy novels women like to read. Only this is her way of doing it. If she is honest then this behavior needs work. But many times it is straight sexting. Possible solution for the future, is a shared discord account you can see what else she is talking about.
She has stated that this is extremely shitty as a person (as well as to me overall) and that being caught was the best thing for her, was a wake up so to speak
Actions will speak louder than words if you decide to stay with her.
But what doesn’t track is the heavy flirting and sometimes sexual nature of the conversations. You don’t need to talk about your “kinks” if you are venting, that’s bullshit.
As I said before, it is used as a substitute for spicy novels and sexting. I think one of the subreddits for this is r/roleplaybuddy something like that. Take a look and know what she was doing.
This is different for me emotionally, maybe as it very mild on the ‘cheating spectrum’. I am more disappointed, not angry. For everyone saying I should break up with her, I am reluctant too
Emotional can be worse in some ways. I think you should factor in what she was doing though. Was she being honest once caught? Not deleting anything, letting you read it all. Is it sexual rp with strangers? Is she talking about you in any negative fashion? Did she send pictures of herself and receive any in kind?
I dont know if you should or shouldn't break up over this. It is to what level of betrayal and disrespect did she show you. Was it sexting in the form of rp? Did she do as she said and only dropped Emotional baggage on some strangers? If she ever got to the real personal level and disparaged you in a deeming way. (Outside of typical argument in the moment or don't know how to tell you thing)
You also have to factor in that it was 7 years, did she get bored and does rp because of that? My suggestion is not to break up yet. But split your living arrangement. Have her sleep in a guest room. Space for one. Then you need to work on your communication skills with her. She is so severely lacking that this all started because she didn't know how to talk with you. She needs to get over that insecurity. Talk real with her, tell her that you were thinking of proposing, and this killed your ability to trust her now. I would say that you need to somehow get the trust back and unfortunately once shattered, it is extremely hard to rebuild
This is a missing person's case waiting to happen. You should have seen the red flags and walked away after the first few weeks.
My recommendation is to report him for stalking and get a restraining order etc
Read this again and ask yourself what the hell you are settling for
I'm assuming he's not in the USA? Everyone else has already stated the obvious. His actions are selfish and immature. It also illegal here in the USA. I'm sure there are legal ramifications in other countries as well. I hope he is aware of them. Giving him “permission” is one of the dumbest things I've heard.
I haven't been affected like some people on here have, with the loss of someone, and my heart goes put to all of you. But I do have a parent who was a drunk driver and she still doesn't have a driver's license 30 years later.
Is it worth it to drink and drive, potentially hurt or kill someone else, and lose the freedom to drive ever again?
Comments often get a downvote or two early on before the upvotes start coming. I don't know why; maybe some people who sort by new are salty. For everyone else we end up reading “why is this downvoted” on a comment with hundreds of upvotes, because we're reading it a few hours later.
You’re right
Real question: Why am I getting downvoted for this?
You said dating, how many dates? Try to meet a woman IRL
she could have left out the spanish speaking part and most of would have rightly assumed they're hispanic. My wife's family is too, her grandmother just died and some of the heartwarming stories people told would sound extremely invasive to people who don't know the culture.
Maybe he wanted to be more than friends and he felt bad cause your note was a bit indirect?
Ahh okay here are my thoughts
1) your boyfriend cannot gatekeep his country, especially if it is a large/ popular one that is east to access. However, did you plan this trip with your friend and choose that place? And did you plan this while you were dating your boyfriend? If you didn't tell him you were at least visiting, then that would be slightly an asshole move
2) traveling before the holidays isn't really smart, he's right about that. If you were traveling ~for~ the holidays, that would be a different story. But going on a trip to several countries with a friend before scheduled time with your family is a bit ehh in my opinion. It's overall fairly safe to travel but ultimately he's right, it wasn't smart.
3) for the fridge thing – he's being dramatic. Considering the fact that you cannot isolate, you do what most couples do, live together and just hope you don't get it. My bet is he's just projecting and looking for ways to be irritated. Unless you moved out while symptomatic (which is unrealistic and unsafe), he needs to cope.
Don't be too very hot on yourself. He'll get over it and you both can learn from this
You should edit that second paragraph
oh yeah Ben is up to no good. I'm a woman and I'll admit that I've often not picked up on red flags that my former partner was able to see instantly and let me know (learned a lot from him tbh), but this one is glaringly obvious and I kinda don't blame you for nipping it in the bud.
Weren’t you on FaceTime? Would you not see? Why would she have sex with someone with you on FaceTime?
You were completely manipulated and still allowing it, but to each their own.
People who reveal they're trans are taking a risk each and every time, though. They never fully know who's going to accept them.. or shun them.. or literally beat them to death.
Under most circumstances, I encourage honesty, but with this, I understand why a person might want to build some trust first.
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Call the cops wtf?! She choked you and assaulted you. File a report
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well they certainly weren't going to measure em flaccid
You don’t trust her and rightly so, and she doesn’t respect you. Call it quits.
No need for responses. Just know how it feels to feel like you’re stuck in your head for Christmas. Hope you have a wonderful day!
I would pass. You already have trepidation and it is like she is putting you on an emotional reservation.
Almost like it was an item in her to do list to secure someone for after. Great she wants to experiment, but it just gives a jinky tinge imo.
Dude, are you serious? ?♀️
He really is a project because Ive been telling myself hes got everything else and we agree on SO many other aspects of life. Being with him has been easy and encouraging– except for this topic. I am willing to put in the work if its accepted. If not I have to be realistic and leave. Ill give it one more shot!
But doesn’t it seem wrong to be paying child support for one child and actually spending time with the other one?
I have a long story to go with this but the bottom line is:
You can have romantic fun with a lazy selfish slacker in the short term. Just invite him to spend the night at your place occasionally.
But it doesn’t work in the long run. Don’t consider moving in with him unless he becomes competent at being self sufficient. If you think his hygiene is gross- don’t live together. Don’t enable him by fixing things or you will be doing it the rest of his life. People who are comfortable don’t have the motivation to change.
I have seen my good friend deal with a little of this now that she is married. Let’s call the couple Ann and Jeff (not their real names). Ann has to do all the work of keeping the house from being completely disgusting even though she is a developer and earns significantly more than Jeff does.
Jeff likes to cook a lot but leaves food to rot in the sink. The food he cooks is not healthy for Ann. He is unwilling to cook anything low in calorie or that has vegetables. So Ann still cooks for herself or eats what he eats, feels bad and gains weight. He’s lazy about doing jobs in the house that he has agreed to do. He won’t do them on his own. She’s left either doing all the work herself, being forced into the role of a nagging mother or hiring help. They are still young and she wants to save money for buying a house or a car someday, so hiring help is not something they should be splurging on.
His selfishness has ruined her attraction to him- even though he is very handsome and fit. Nothing is less sexy than a man you have to treat like a child and makes you feel used.
She’s trying to make it work because she loves him- but his completely selfish slacking is killing her admiration for him. She hired a maid service so she wouldn’t go completely insane with resentment. It doesn’t fix the fact that he cares so little about her wellbeing or their shared goals that he was unwilling to help take care of anything.
Jeff has a better life because they live together but ANN definitely DOESN’T.
Maybe Jeff looked at how he was raised and didn’t notice what his dad was doing to contribute to improving his mom’s life. Jeff assumes he can do as little around the house as his dad did. But dynamics are very different. Jeff’s dad was the only or main earner and made enough to have a nicer place and to hire help fixing things etc.
And his dad still sometimes did his wife’s chores for her just because he wanted to make her life easier. That kind of thoughtfulness and giving spirit keeps the attraction going long term
That's what I was going to ask
It’s pretty obvious she’s not comfortable sharing things. Listen, sharing trauma over the internet is not the same as doing it in person. I’ve had people in discord tell me all about their traumatic backstory on day one. It’s cheap therapy , I guess. Or maybe it’s unresolved and the internet is a safe place to unload because it’s easier to ditch people who are unsympathetic. I honestly don’t know.
Anyway, it sounds like she’s just using you for the sympathy. I’d just untangle myself from it all, man. It doesn’t sound like she should be in a relationship and I’m not sure you should be either if you’re settling for this level of insanity.
Take some time and learn to be happy and comfortable with yourself.
Yup she wanted to be able to show her boyfriend and say see everyone agrees with me
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Dude. Your 30 year old boyfriend is a fucking groomer and he is sexually ASSAULTING YOU. Please, please, PLEASE do not stay with him, and consider pressing charges!
You should go to an OB chemical pregnancies don’t cause pain like that. I’ve had one.
especially when the two parties are lockstep in agreement on most issues
You weren’t petty you were unnecessarily vengeful fo no reason. Instead of explaining why you were upset like a grown adult you decided to get revenge when there was no revenge to be had. Even if you open your mouth and explain now the damage is done and it will take time for him to trust you. You embarrassed and shamed your own partner for no reason. I wouldn’t eat your food either after that. Gods know what you would do to it.
Very succinct appraisal.
If she reacts that way to such a simple comment, imagine what she does to things that are even more meaningful. Sounds exhausting.
Block him so you don't get the texts later when he's trying to get you back under his control. You are so young and have so much potential! Take a couple of months to regroup and then go have fun and live your young life!!
She hasn’t bought anything for this. We didn’t even know we were going until yesterday.
i’m also a homebody and enjoy staying at home. however, it’s not good that he is the center of your life. it’s important to have friends to at least talk to. not saying you need to have some big social life, but it is healthy to have someone else, anyone else, to talk to besides just your husband. i wouldn’t be sad hanging out in the house all day either BUT i also have plenty of people to talk to throughout the day.
His friends aren’t his friends
This is effectively where I’m at. Making plans to leave the house, the parenting plan is done and divorce would take another 6 months. I’m just uncertain of pulling the trigger for the finality of it, if I should have done more
Lies…
Well, step 1 would be to seek therapy.
I think context is important. If you were harassing and humiliating him in some way, calling him a liar, accusing him of something he didn’t do, trying to take his kid away from him, it might be understandable to drive a normally healthy person to acting frustrated on an inanimate object.
However, in this case no. This guy is messed up and you need to run from him.
Leave him. You aren’t his slave. You deserve more than an alcoholic who can’t be bothered to cook.
If you think one night in an adjacent bed in the same room sleeping and unconscious after spending the rest of the day together is wanting “distance” then I hope you’ve found a relationship with someone equally as needy. There’s someone for everyone I suppose but it is what it is. We can at least agree they shouldn’t continue the relationship.
I wouldn't expect close friendship or driving hours for a hospital visit, but to me it's more than a casual acquaintance. My child has always had regular daycare teachers and I would have been upset if one got in a crash, but also they are vetted by the school ok advance. A personal babysitter is different, to me at least I'm not leaving my child in my home with someone I know nothing about. I would have a few conversations at least. I don't know, it just seems weird, I'd be upset if anyone I knew drove away from me and got in a crash. Maybe it's just how OP writes it. And I find it weird to make the leap to cheating.
Some people are strict one or the other, some people like both, some people prefer one and sometimes go to the other side. It’s not like it’s universal. You don’t flip a coin to decide your sexual preference lol, if you prefer topping, you’re going to mostly or entirely date people who prefer bottoming
If I didn’t invite her over to all of these things they wouldn’t have been around each other or alone together
Then “the hurt of cheating can take center”?? Like, after the mutherfugger's dead?? Nah, he deserves to experience the genuine consequences of his own actions. We all die, amd no one is special based on that fact alone. You want a kind and special death day? Then be a kind and special person. Otherwise don't be surprised when you shit on someone's life and they decide not to give a fuck about yours.
This. Your bf's patents need to know immediately. Your father has known this boy since he was a minor and has been having him over to his house alone for some time. He's a freaking predator and the boy's parents need to know.
I'm so sorry OP xx
Kind of unprofessional, tho.
I don’t need people questioning me on why this or why that.
Any chance your wedding vows went something like “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health”…
Or were your wedding vows more along the lines as long as your the best I can do at the moment and if your dying f*** off.
Why did you get married and what did you think it was about?
Why is she still your friend? You can block her and have boyfriend block her.
Tell rest of friends what she is doing and ban her from there lists.
If you don't then she knows you do not care if she throws herself at any guy you like.
???
Time to let this one go. Get away from him for your safety.
Follow your instinct and trust your gut. Tell the wife before he finds someone else to date.
You do realize “this tat is not the best and needs improvement” is not the same as “your ex made it so I don’t like it”?
She did tried to fight for it, but they gaslighted her and say things like saving the business and sacrificing for the family is top priority and the greater good. They threatened to kick her out of the family if she refused knowing that all she ever had is this famiy since her parents (Dad is Belgium, Mom is Thai) were divorced when she was young, and her mom passed away. They told her bluntly that they raised her up just so that she can help out in the family business.
I think I should be more specific in that she went radio silence on everyone and not to push me away. She told me just needed time alone as she couldnt handle the stress. Even her own sister could not contact her.
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NO NO NO NO NO. Do not trust this man with condoms as your only form of birth control. No fucking way. That man will baby trap you in an instant. Don’t get another IUD if you don’t want it, but also don’t trust this guy.
I’m childfree too (I literally thought I wrote your first bullet because I have said those exact words). Get sterilized yourself. You are most definitely old enough to not get much, if any, push back. I’m 25 and got my tubes removed last year with no more than a signature saying I was sure. Take matters into your own hands. Ensure that no matter who you are with, this guy or the next, that you will be protected.
I had a bilateral salpingectomy and was 100% fine 24 hours after surgery. I took 4 days off work and most definitely could have taken less. Take a look back on my profile for a full write up of my experience back in September.
I seriously think he needs to freeze sperm and get the procedure done to restore any kind of trust. If he isn’t willing to do that, I would leave him. Not to be harsh, but if he refuses a vasectomy he will inevitably leave you when he’s ready to have kids so you need to get ahead of it.
You've known him 6 months.
You're barely an adult (and by that, I mean you have so much time and opportunity) but he is 22. Not the biggest age gap, but it is still glaring.
You'll be 7 hours away from your safety net.
What are the job/school options in his hometown? Would you be better off staying home/saving money or going to college elsewhere? Or just getting an apartment on your own and discovering life.
Did you read what I wrote?
Go back to your family and your friends. He is not going to change.
Not knowing, but judging other for not is classist, and classism has roots in racism
Living with someone you just ended things can be awkward and dangerous. It can also be perfectly fine.. id suggest you take into account your partners personality and feelings.
Make his life hell in private and not let him walk all over you with his cheating self. Don’t pretend you are happy and that he’s a great guy in public for appearances. Remind your family that you aren’t happy because they forced you to marry him. She is not a past fuck buddy but a current one. Don’t keep that quiet either. He will cheat when you are in postpartum. Will your mom let you stay with her or help?
I think this is ok. You have been very available and can still be like hey we are friends and I like being your friend and supporting you but you can support me by having some outside interest beyond your current self inflicted trauma and limiting rants to 1 hr and sending cute emojis/max of 5 texts a day unless you having a real conversation. Text walk doesn’t count. Reading the room is a great skill to learn. I’m still working on it. I wish I had honest friends like you.
Just wait until she’s out to get YOU. This is a major red flag.
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I agree with this, and I would elaborate to suggest that you learn to compartmentalize fantasy and real life. There's a time and a place to be submissive, but someone who doesn't know what they're doing can screw up your actual life if you let them.
OMG, this man is manipulative and very abusive. Let him go find someone else, you don't need this kind of BS. You deserve better than this POS.
By definition, this is sexual assault. Point yourself to a dictionary. It seems like you have both a hard time with language and nuance. Your last point is ridiculous and I don't recall saying she should call the cops, but go off.
It's not a competition. Of course there are worse types of assault. But nice to see you're so invested in the safety of women and that you care so much that people should be willing to completely dismiss shit that their partners do in bed, like this. Letting dudes think stuff like is OK is a whole other problem that needs to be tackled. You seem to not grasp that either though. But thanks for telling women what is and isn't OK! We all are better for your sagely wisdom. Brush it under the rug, ladies! Could always be worse! Honest mistake to be a huge creep, and all that.
Good luck with your incredibly limited understanding of consent in relationships. Peace ✌️
I know, it’s bad, I’m going to a therapist Feb 2, I hope they will be able to help me.
So yeah, you already know you shouldn't give him any more of your savings.
Times are very hot for lots of people right now and it's very possible that he's struggling with his finances (rent and so on are more expensive depending on where you live too). Tax can be a killer too.
He might also be overstating how much he actually gets paid.
Comedian Mike Birbiglia has a bit where he talks about his issues with sleepwalking and how he has a sleeping bag to sleep in and mittens so he can't get out of the bag.
Sleepwalking and sexsomnia are terrifying.
Like their rectums ripped or something? I figured anything to do with a horse was probably fatal.
Break up. Plenty o fish in the sea.
But lay off the neediness and constant need for validation. That's super annoying.
Yup. Anyone pretending otherwise is probably a child or never married. He owns the place, he pays maintenance and insurance, he pays taxes on it. This is a shitton of money fo put down on an extra place. And that is going to come from their “family” pot.
Yes, given his age it's not all that uncommon. It will fade. I've seen women in their thirties and forties even doing the same thing.
I think the problem more than anything is that OP’s girlfriend has some unresolved issues she needs to take care of on her own.
What else was OP suppose to do in this situation other than protect himself, his property, and his girlfriend?
It sucks she was triggered by this event, but OP also suffered a traumatic experience as well.
It’s most definitely abuse.
What is the problem here?
Sounds like the problem is that your gf is kind of an asshole.
Why are you with someone who does not bring you joy or happiness?
Medicine has come a long way in this. Preventive medicine is proven to work.
Is this parody?
Maybe get the context of the photo from him. 14 year old boys do lots of dumb stuff. He may have been just goofing around with a sharpie.
Good grief ??
This is about him and not anything to do with your worth. He is being blatantly disrespectful to all those around him. Being drunk isn’t an excuse. Would you overlook him beating you for the first time if he apologized after and said it was because he was drunk? What about the third time? Or the tenth? Maybe you’d make excuses for him then too, but he is being manipulative and trying to coerce you into doing something you don’t want to do. He does not have the best interests of you or both of you as a couple at heart, only himself.
I have one parting note… don’t bend this boundary and give into having a threesome. It is a point of no return. You will never be able to unsee your partner fucking another woman.
he's trying at least?
or, he's doing the thing where he acts so unbelievably incompetent that you stop asking him to do those things, which would make him quite a savant at manipulating.
but from what you've said, he just seems so dumb. I'm not a great cook and admittedly my expertise ends at spinach artichoke dip or taco night, but it's not hard to write out a list. OR, use an live shopping service (like Kroger for my area) to just order the correct groceries for pickup.
Lots of guys would be jealous that you have the resources to buy a boat.
Alls fair in love and war. Very romantic btw. Good luck.
I don't know where you're at but if you have a small claims court there then just threaten to take them to small claims in a text and see what they say..If you have zero proof that you loaned it to her than you might be SOL. Let this be a lesson though to never loan money to ANYONE especially since it seems as though you can't really afford to.
This type of thing can turn into a resentment type of problem further down the road. I'd suggest discussing her stance entirely as ace is a spectrum. So, communication is a really vital part. And once you know where she stands then you make the choice, if you don't need sex then sure. But it's a need for a lot of people, and it's not your fault if it's a need for you. But sex can be a big part of a lot of relationships, you could check out deadbedrooms and see what a lack of sex can look like.
But if it's not super important to you, then go for it. But you both need to be extremely clear with your needs to see what the future of your relationship could be.
Nobody is “pushed into cheating”.
I get what you’re saying, but if he has the opportunity to propose and for some reason is choosing not to, I doubt me proposing to him first will actually solve any problems!
ditch her and i’ll happily take her place lol
You're just stringing her along. 5 years you either know or you don't. All the money in the world won't change how you feel. If you don't want to marry her just tell her so she can move on. 3-5 more years. Yeah that will go over real well.
yea i do agree. I completely support her decision cus she should do what she wants, but i dont think i can deal with it as well as i used to think initially which is why im having this dillemma rn
He aint into you.
this guy's an asshole. Why would you listen to his opinion on anything? he is likely projecting his own insecurity and self-hatred onto you.
You block this man and don't talk to him ever again.
I want to side with you but I have an icky feeling you’re doing this for the gram
Stand up for yourself!! She's in the wrong and treating you like her doormat. Spine up, my dude!!! Your description makes her sound like a terribly arrogant, selfish, and pushy person. She CLEARLY puts Jenna above you in importance. Ditch her and find a woman who gives back to you instead of sucking up everything you give, then pulling her #1 person (Jenna) right up ahead of you.
I feel like you’re reading too deeply into things as far as character traits go. It’s something I created out of self respect. As someone who struggles with self esteem issues, I realized over time that I need clear boundaries in place. It’s not that I use it a lot, it’s just something I have to remind me to strive for relationships that are worth being involved in or lending emotional energy too. I don’t discard people. Matter of fact, I prefer long-term connections platonic and otherwise. I simply want relationships to be a tango. That is, I can’t be the only one putting effort into it emotionally and otherwise. I said no where the amount of times I’ve used this personal rule btw. But to clarify – once or twice and I’ve dated off and on again for about 8 or so years.
I’ll never understand polyamory – in my eyes, it’s basically a form of opening cheating in a relationship.
You need to tell this person how you feel before she takes it too far and hurts you too much.
She might not know the effect of her actions on you.., or how you really feel.
Don't have sex when he hasn't prepared you mentally and physically for sex. Next time he tries to hammer you, refuse.
Did he say he purposely got you pregnant?
Tell him, calmly, how hurt and angry you feel. Tell him you don't feel romantic anymore. Etc.
Doesn’t he want to date you? What is the problem here? If you love him and he loves you why are you on here complaining?
Maybe as a relation to an ER patient and not an inpatient, she doesn't have a longer term relationship, and might view him as just a person she met. No further complications or boundary overlap. But I agree to your warning anyhow.
Just like any friendship I'm assuming. At one point a person must want to meet their friend. Plus I'm not gonna ask her or she'll think I'm being paranoid about it. Plus I'm 100% sure she's not cheating but I'm just afraid if the guy had ulterior motives or is into her. She invited me to come along too as a third person i don't mind that. But i had a ptsd and a cousin of mine got gr4p3 Infront of me whilst not being able to fight back cuz i was w kid and now I'm a bit concerned bout her safety
But the weekend spent with you is probably what help make through the week. You are a stay at home parent?
Once upon a time, people used to meet people in person without EVER texting or chatting on an app, because they didn't exist. And yet, you were born.
I don't have a cock and even I can feel how painful this is!!
You have caregiver burnout. You have to find someone to help take care of her so you can get a break. Ask her parents to help out. Surely they can take one task off your list. Then find a disability lawyer to help your wife get disability benefits. Talk to her doctor about was services are available to help. You have to start taking care of yourself though.
Can you wear one of those medicinal eyepatch especially? Might be easier
Wait till she gives you head, but doesn't tell you she suffers from seizures and lockjaw, CHOP!
You are testing her. Your words. That’s messed up
I always thought it was unwise to have a joint account before marriage, because your protections legally against the other person draining it and leaving you with nothing are almost non-existent. If you divorce, and someone has done that, the judge will order them to return a portion of the money to you. If you're not, unless there is some kind of written contract (or verbal if you can get a recording or messages proving it) you can get the courts to enforce, you're screwed.
It doesn't really sound like he cares about you.
That’s one hell of a weather report
The truth always comes out somehow
Great choice! Keep it up handsome
Un-fuck her than fuck her
Absolutely a deal breaker. Especially if you're a woman dating a Trump supporter. How could there be a future? How could you raise children with him when theres such a chasm between your ideologies.
Why are you trying to build a life with someone who thinks that you're a shitty person who wants them to be unhappy, and ignores your thoughts and feelings because of that?
Wow your entire personality really is just hating one guy isn’t it. And no. I wouldn’t have voted for either of them if I was an American (I am not thankfully)
It kind of started the last month or two, she only ever says I love you after I say it first, been a long time since it was said unprompted
You ARE in danger. You are in denial that you are in danger. I don’t think I’ve ever heard a story where a man threatened to kill his wife and didn’t attempt to follow through with it. GET OUT. If not for yourself, then at least for your daughter! If he’s abusing you now, imagine what he’s going to do to your child. You MUST leave. And TELL EVERYONE he threatened to kill you. That way if you or your daughter go missing, police will know the first place to look.
I am very confused here. Why can't you go alone? What exactly makes her uncomfortable? Are you two super codependent? Are you able to handle the park alone? You need to give more information