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My boyfriend (29m) gently woke me (24f) up with coffee like he always does when I stay over, and I thought to myself, I really love this man. I’m going to tell him that today. Why not. I joined him in the living room after a bit, and we drank another cup of coffee together and shared a few positive exchanges. I hugged him before he left to work, and I looked up at him and said, “I love you.” He said, “Ooohhh… we’re using those words now”. I quickly responded and said, “What, you don’t love me?” He was silent for a second, so I said, “Or are you just uncomfortable saying that?” He said, “No, it’s just that I haven’t said that to someone in a very long time.” I said, “oh…okay”. I nonchalantly broke out of the embrace and started grabbing my clothes out of my overnight bag to start getting ready for work. He started conversing and joking about how I hopefully won’t be late to work because I’m always in a hurry. We kissed goodbye… the end. He texted me this afternoon and told me about something funny that happened to him at work, and I’m just responding as if everything is normal, but I’m very offended.
His last/only relationship was SEVEN years ago. It wasn’t a traumatic experience for him, from what I understand. They were together for only 1/2 a year or so, and he broke up with her because he didn’t want to be with her. He’s a good-looking, smart, charming guy. I still can’t believe that he didn’t have sex for SEVEN years before he met me.
We have been dating since November, and he “made it exclusive” with me a few months ago (I need to make it clear that HE did this). He constantly showers me with affection, brings me around all of his friends, and I honestly thought he loved me.
This makes me see him differently and feel almost disrespected. If he doesn’t love me, why is he in my life? How should I confront this issue?
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Is it really that hard to believe they were both mean to each other?
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below.
My boyfriend (29m) gently woke me (24f) up with coffee like he always does when I stay over, and I thought to myself, I really love this man. I’m going to tell him that today. Why not. I joined him in the living room after a bit, and we drank another cup of coffee together and shared a few positive exchanges. I hugged him before he left to work, and I looked up at him and said, “I love you.” He said, “Ooohhh… we’re using those words now”. I quickly responded and said, “What, you don’t love me?” He was silent for a second, so I said, “Or are you just uncomfortable saying that?” He said, “No, it’s just that I haven’t said that to someone in a very long time.” I said, “oh…okay”. I nonchalantly broke out of the embrace and started grabbing my clothes out of my overnight bag to start getting ready for work. He started conversing and joking about how I hopefully won’t be late to work because I’m always in a hurry. We kissed goodbye… the end. He texted me this afternoon and told me about something funny that happened to him at work, and I’m just responding as if everything is normal, but I’m very offended.
His last/only relationship was SEVEN years ago. It wasn’t a traumatic experience for him, from what I understand. They were together for only 1/2 a year or so, and he broke up with her because he didn’t want to be with her. He’s a good-looking, smart, charming guy. I still can’t believe that he didn’t have sex for SEVEN years before he met me.
We have been dating since November, and he “made it exclusive” with me a few months ago (I need to make it clear that HE did this). He constantly showers me with affection, brings me around all of his friends, and I honestly thought he loved me.
This makes me see him differently and feel almost disrespected. If he doesn’t love me, why is he in my life? How should I confront this issue?