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Date: December 22, 2022
Have you tried having a very blunt, up front conversation with your wife about your relationship and what you're thinking and feeling? Have you actually said “I am ready to divorce because I can't keep living like this?”
Something is going on with your wife that caused her to check out so completely. If she knows that you are ready to leave, that might get her to actually talk to you about what is going on, and it might push her to start trying to fix her issues. Granted, that doesn't mean you can't decide it's already too late, but if there is any desire in you to try and save your marriage, having a frank, honest conversation about where your head is at is the best place to start.
It's not really your business ?♀️
Why are women like this? If it were reversed he would’ve kicked you out by now. I get not liking smoke. I actually hate it, but it’s their house. He’s rude and won’t even try to connect with your parents giving him a free place to stay. Kick him out already. He doesn’t even care enough about you to value your parents. He’s not a good person. If he was he would get to know them, and when comfortable express to them his smoking concerns. After he leaves their house he plans on never interacting with them again. These are your parents have some dignity. It’s time to break up. He isn’t the one.
ASYMPTOMATIC IS NOT DORMANCY. JEEZUS PEOPLE! Take a health class!!
FIL- dark hair and dark eyes. MIL- dark blonde and brown eyes. Husband and SIL 1 are both blue eyed blondes and SIL 2 has FIL's coloring.
Me- blonde hair went brown with brown eyes. Me and Husband have a blue eyed blonde son. Genetics are crazy and your husband is a jerk who needs a biology class refresher.
I'm wouldn't say anything until the results came back then let him have it. How he embarrassed you, how he ruined your Christmas and he's on the couch and taking care of himself until he gets some therapy to figure out why he did it and gives you an on his knees (figuratively) apology.
it's not babysitting, its called raising a family fucktard
Rehome the wife
You're a wealth of information! Thank you for the well wishes. I feel much better about the situation now that I can get a better understanding of what she's struggling with. You're doing a great service for oblivious folks like me. ?
What does his wife say to all that?
Seven years. Nothing has changed – I’ve felt this way for a long time but I’ve never felt able/like I want to break up with her. But simultaneously I do want to be with other girls but would obviously never cheat, which I think is creating some sort of buildup of sexual frustration on my part.
Pull the other one, it's got bells on it
Yes it's stupid. Also, give her 1 ply. And tell her she needs to actually be considerate.
Truthfully. Show her this. Maybe she will take it seriously.
Also, make he pray for the plumber
Y'all slamming OP with criticism but had genders been reversed y'all would be like “leave the drug addict bum queen”
True very true. And yes most definitely. It's a blessing and curse this ability I have to see the good in people I can remove all the black dark pain and see a good person always even when they are not. You're so right. Thank you.
He's moving too fast. You're annoyed because you want him to slow down. It's reasonable annoyance.
But you have to have a backbone. If you're not ready for the L word, tell him so and don't use it in response to him saying it. If you don't want to be sexual with him, tell him to stop pushing the issue. One of the biggest things you can do to protect yourself from shitty people and shitty relationships is to learn to set boundaries and hold firm on them.
You are a piece of trash for pretending you've never made a mistake. And you are not fit to give advice on this sub.
JFC, the martyrs on here are more annoying than anyone else.
My point is that there are things that cause the increased risks with cosleeping, if you understand those risks you can mitigate them.
You have a lot of maturing to do. Start by apologizing
Yeah that is one hell of a coincidence. Either he's really creepy, or she is returning his feelings, whatever those may be. They could just be really good friends with no sexual motivation, so tread lightly, man. Remember though: This is only one relationship and doesnt mean anything unless you let it. Dont let the relationship control you if it ends up turning sour. Keep on keeping on dude
Ya…no. she's fucking 30 years old. If she can't take care of her toys, she doesn't get new ones. These are lessons you teach a 3 year old.
If she wants to smash her laptop, she can get a part time job to buy herself a new one.
What does she bring to the table? I wouldn't trust her with children if this is how she handles anger and stress.
She needs serious help with her anger issues.
You probably need a new wife.
In some states, you can't get divorced while one partner is pregnant.
I can't help but feel sorry for people like OP's gf. Imagine what kind of awful childhood experiences she must've had to make her view shit like this as predatory.
These things can happen to a man. And assuming this was the first time you experienced that with him, it makes sense it gets you to overthink things.
We can't always control our erections. Sometimes the body just doesn't want to respond the way we want to. Happens to females as well by the way.
Many factors can be in play. Stress, depression, trauma, exhaustment, you name it.
Will this ever change?
No
Yes, but any info is good info in my book
Have you ever had feelings for more than one person at a time? If you want to continue your relationship and grow your relationship understand your gf is a human who will have feelings and its not unusual to have feelings for more than one person. Its how we deal with these feelings.
You're partner isn't being realistic and honestly is being quite unfair to you. There's no excusing her treatment of you, and even if you were to magically get a job as a lawyer, I suspect she would still find fault in you for some other reason.
In regards to her particular plan: the Bar is designed and intended to be taken by graduates of US law schools. It's not like the medical boards; the US legal system is highly idiosyncratic (like every other legal system) and you really need a grounding in US law to be able to pass. Further, even if you studied your hardest and eked out a pass, the likelihood of an American law firm hiring you with your law degree from another country is incredibly low. The legal job market is already quite saturated and it's unlikely that you will find work. If you were truly interested in a legal career as a lawyer, your only real recourse would be to attend law school, which is both expensive and time consuming. Have you thought about looking into being a paralegal? Paralegals can make good money, and I imagine your country's law degree could be a selling point for the right firm. You wouldn't be a lawyer, but you could still work in to a degree.
Just move on, he's dishonest and that's unlikely to be confined to this one issue.
Yes he did, it was a response to a person
Look again
You sure are looking for any reason to side against him
I'm so sorry to hear that. The only good news is that you dodged a bullet– she sounds like a shit human being. I hope that you will find a much kinder and more empathetic partner in the future
Just move on. He asked for sex. You turned him down. Good job. Now he's not interested. You dodged a bullet.
Seriously ffs OP ?
He thinks tasks should be done when needed , and not follow a schedule. The problem is he doesnt think the house is disorganized, he also doesnt think its dirty. So it will just become dirty and unorganized. Unless i point it out. However this is so weird to me because he has ocd and germophobia, but he is disorganized and not used to cleaning a house at all because his mom used to do that. Its so strange because when we lived separate, i lived alone and my house was ok, but not super clean or organized and his was. Now i know his room was clean because of his mom, because now he is messy, it was the mom despite he always assuring me he is the one who kept his room clean. So we both moved in with the expectation that i am the messy one and that he is the clean freak. Turns out he is the messy one and he doesn’t clean, even though he is the one with the ocd and germophobia. We have been dating 5 years, and just now getting to know this man.
Find a way to contact co-worker's wife, as well. She deserves to know he's a cheater so she can make an informed decision about whether to continue in a marriage with him.
Exactly this! OP's girlfriend listed almost every baggage that she needs to work on internally. These are not good excuses to be toxic.
Also how dare ur wife look good for her age!!
IT'S NOT UR WIFE'S FAULT SHE HAS GOOD GENES!
Tf are u blaming her for her looks?! Do u want her to get plastic surgery and fuck up her face? Or what?
Go get skin cancer by tanning in beds all day to age her skin?
Do u see where I'm going with this?
Ur making it sound like it's her fault she has her face! People will always gossip and find some shit to say! Ur wife is trying to do the best with the situation. She moved for work not for fun!
U definitely need therapy for resenting her because trust me another man will find value in a good woman!
Don't lose ur wife over something so utterly fucking stupid as gossipy Karen's.
Do u think ur wife enjoys being talked about too? Or knowing it's about her gossipy shit that's hurting her family?
I bet u she doesn't! Don't make this all about urself.
but eventually say something maybe asking if she'd rather talk about it in person or just keep dating and give it mor
Its been 5 days so far. What would be a good text to send and for when?
Currently on reading week so should i wait for uni to start again or do it this week?
Apart from friends and family I mainly just follow outdoors adventure accounts, and don't follow any beauty influencers, yet for some reason my Discover page is mostly full of beautiful couples, beautiful young women flaunting their beautiful bodies, and babies babies babies.
That doesn't seem very likely.
More likely is that you are suffering from paranoia. People don't generally keep up a pattern of harassment like that.
You don't provide much information, regardless. Consider therapy.
This friend isn’t the reason the Op is divorced. The OPs SO decided to end the marriage. Any third party involved is a jerk, but you can’t end a marriage of both people want to be married. The OPs ex is an adult and made the decision to end the marriage.
Just move forward. Understand that the relationship may never be what it was, but you keep communicating as normal & see what happens.
It definitely is.
My boyfriend is THERE. One time he was not and I shared what happened. I don’t think I’m painting a great picture. When he begins to touch that subject or even mentions my boyfriend I tell him that there’s nothing he’s going to receive from from me. I’m telling you it’s like he thinks it’s a game and I’m trying to respond differently. If you think I need to be a bitch to him because he’s bashing my boyfriend I think there are more affective ways. He isn’t getting a reaction out of me like my boyfriend. I’ll just continue to tell him that there’s nothing anyone can do to help him. I really don’t respond nor entertain it but yeah maybe I need to be mean? I’m honestly cared this guy is THAT petty he might fucking with me at work politically and it’s just not worth it.
What you are describing could be my exact relationship with my ex husband. It started out much the same, and progressed to much worse. The thing with untreated personality disorders is that they know how to manipulate and twist everything around. The self harm and threats of suicide are another form of manipulation. He knows you care, and knows these things will hurt you to your very soul, so he threatens and and puts the blame on your feet. He will never follow through with it because his ego won’t let him. However, if he does something dumb that results in his injury or demise that’s his own stupidity, not at all your fault.
My best advice is to get everything you need together to leave him. Don’t let on so that he can try to stand in your way. Set everything up to get away then disappear from his life. Block him everywhere, tell friends and family to do the same, and leave no trace behind. Contact a domestic violence shelter for help if you need to, mine was immensely helpful and I know for a fact they saved my life. What he does after that is purely on his shoulders. You can’t fix him, you can’t save him, and you can’t reason with him. He. Doesn’t. Care. If you need help finding resources, or need more advice please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. If what I lived through can help one other person not subject themselves to this torture then it wasn’t for nothing.
Yes! Yes to the necklace. Much better choice.
Yes because it’s a relationship and OP is the side chick… why else is he spending every night there?
He is a good man, I just want to salvage the relationship and I am unsure if he does
I expect he’ll do the same thing too with their kids. “I don’t want anything to do with them but you’re wrong!!”
Good lord. Give him everything and walk away. If he wants that stupid wedding so bad let him plan it.
Yes. I was unhappy, lied to, she pushed my physicsl and sexual boundaries, she manipulated me and made me think im crazy for not believing her lies. I truly wasnt happy , i am depressed now diagnosed by a psychiatrist and suffer from anxiety and ptsd too
This is interesting to read. I've been in a relationship with my gf for about 2 years now, her native language is English, which I speak fluently. I however speak a different language. She is now learning my language to communicate with my family, not because I wanted her to, but because she wanted to. I would have no problems translating her words to my family.
If I were you I would do something because you want to. If you do not want to learn something you should not be forced to do so. If your boyfriend then says you 'Don't like his family' that is his problem. Make sure what is important to you, in life, in a relationship, in your family. If your boyfriend does not want to keep that balance, then decide on what you want to do.
How can you not be in a relationship but exclusive? The label is : we are talking
Just send the fucking very hot already but you better damn well post an update about how you actually got fired instead of your fantasy. Are looking for permission? From Reddit? We couldn't give two fucks about you and yet you drag us into your raunchy imagination. I feel sorry for the kid your babysitting but you don't think about the kid do you.
Yeah it was accidentally deleted when I was trying to edit the post and I didn’t know how to retrieve that part
He’s not a spontaneous , shower you with love kind of guy. It sounds like he gives what he can, and is uncomfortable giving more.
It also sounds like you need extra attention sometimes. You need outside support and attention, beyond what this guy gives you.
Strange suggestion: but have you considered getting a cuddly pet? If you have the money and time pets can be great. See if there is a cuddly rescue who you click with.
Fr. Online a little! (Still think it's fake af but it's a lovely daydream)
“Here’s the thing tho….”
Girl, fckn BYE. Lol every guy on planet earth does that same exact thing once he gets caught, and as soon as he gets back he’ll be back to embarrassing you and himself to get back to the love of his life… His ex.
Either allow it or leave, but please don’t sit here thinking you’re convincing us that he actually loves you or is sorry.
“Here’s the thing tho….”
Girl, fckn BYE. Lol every guy on planet earth does that same exact thing once he gets caught, and as soon as he gets back he’ll be back to embarrassing you and himself to get back to the love of his life… His ex.
Either allow it or leave, but please don’t sit here thinking you’re convincing us that he actually loves you or is sorry.
Yeah, just leave her alone and move on. If they're not actively displaying interest in you, whether that's engaging in conversation or giving alternatives for plans – there's no reason for you to go the extra mile for someone that isn't matching your effort.
Is it causing a financial problem? Is she gaining weight and complaining about it? While it doesn’t sound healthy per say, it isn’t fully your place. Maybe she’s stressed about something and is eating to cope. Maybe she has a hormone imbalance and the extra sugar is giving her energy that she’s not fueling properly.
Maybe approach this from a household point of view of trying to be more aware of food and health. For instance, buy her a popcorn maker and kernels. It doesn’t need much oil at all to pop and has way less crap than the bags of popcorn. Find a recipient or a high protein high fiber cookie and ask her to try making that instead.
I bet you left our a lot of how this really went down.
However let's start off with the differences here. She called off work to see her best friend for a long weekend trip. You wanted her to call off to meet one of your friends to hang out. Her and her best friend going on a planned trip quite clearly trumps you and your buddy hanging out for a day.
But the part you left out is how your conversation went down… Asking her to take a day off to meet and hang out with a stranger, who is not your best friend should have been phrased as a question, followed by the importance of the request you are making. Something like, “Hey my buddy Timmy is going to be in town on the 25th and I'd really like you to meet him, can you call off that day and hang out with us? It would mean a lot to me because I want you in all aspects of my life, and meeting old friends is part of that.”
Now even if she said no to that… it is reasonable and you were not manipulative.
It's how you responded that I'm betting made her think you are controlling.
AT ANY POINT did you not accept her saying no?
AT ANY POINT did you point out that she's OK calling off work for her friend and not you?
Because your response to her after she said no… that may be why she thinks you want to control her.
Hmmmm ok I guess if he’s usually an insta message reader that’s weird
Yeah I'm not sure he deserves another chance given his awful behaviour. Being drunk is not an excuse – these people are cruel and ridiculous, and alcohol just helped you see their true colours. They are absolutely d*ckheads. You definitely need to dump him for his total lack of empathy and support. What happens when it's much more serious?
Yeah I'm not sure he deserves another chance given his awful behaviour. Being drunk is not an excuse – these people are cruel and ridiculous, and alcohol just helped you see their true colours. They are absolutely d*ckheads. You definitely need to dump him for his total lack of empathy and support. What happens when it's much more serious?
What? Calling someone a shitty person for doing a shitty thing is not abusive.
Doubt it. If mom was smart she never would have had Insta and this never would have happened. Now they are using it to track her and learn about the kids and she just keeps posting giving them more info.
I really want to know, but did you take the cat too? He doesn't deserve them!
Agreed
What type of grown ass person cares this much about worthless social media?
If she was 18 I’d understand but 38?!
Why what?
Question: Are you a POC? Because I'm trying to understand what horse you have in this race.
If you have an iPhone anything you delete will stay in a “recently deleted” folder for 30 days. Please check. If it’s in there, hit restore and make copies (email yourself, whatever you can think of where he can’t get to it). And girl, please RUN. I know it’s very hot, but think of your child and don’t turn back. You’ve gotten a lot of good advise here.
So that when the inevitable realization OP has that their age gap is a little concerning, the girlfriend can turn it around and say “you're just as bad as I am, so you can't leave.”
There's the fringe delusional comment we all come to this subreddit to see.
You should stay with her and periodically go through her phone to crush your own spirit.
Bro come on, it’s been years and she loves someone else. You know what to do you probably just don’t wanna face it.
God damn it
Oh god, yes. I literally said 'I would love it if you talked with me, not at me'. He said that that's just the way he's used to talking.
Drunk driving is foolish, dangerous, and potentially fatal. With that being said, I'd wager that most adults have operated motor vehicles under the influence of alcohol. It's not anyone's proudest moment, but humans do error.
I could get into a bunch of nitty gritties about the law and about the legal limit and about how if you have anything more than one shot/beer/wine within an hour span of time, you are very likely passed the legal limit…but I won't go into those details because there's something else that is more concerning to me and it has to do with your future and your relationships.
I am a 37M and I would like you to take a step back and assess your decision. In my view, as I read your post and what has transpired, I believe you dealt quite a harsh judgement. To me it vibes as a militant regime style for tolerance, or perhaps the ethos during the French Revolution…”The penalty for all offenses is death!”
You are an adult and I give you all the respect and credit that is due to a grown person. I also want to point out that when we (humans) are young adults, our “filing cabinet of experience” is pretty light and bare. What I'm saying is, we make judgements based on our life experiences. When we are confronted with a situation that is outside of our experience, the human being struggles to discern the best course of action. We then have to dive into our memory of theoretical advice based on second-hand or third-hand stories, or lessons told. When we're in the space outside experience, we tend to view things very black and white, to the highest degree, and without exception–and that take is not usually how things go when the voice of experience is speaking. Additionally, when we learn second-hand lessons from parents, etc., we are given a version of their story in which they have created a “spark notes” version in order to put a story in a nice and neat little package, otherwise the full story gets kinda lost in translation because a lot peripheral information is involved and by the time the story is told, you wouldn't fucking remember a god damn thing about what is important about it. So, the “youngin's” get a version that will be useful and also keep them safe. Parents would rather have you go atomic on your boyfriend, very hot line, zero leniency; than have you underestimate the situation and get in a car with a drunk driver and die.
Whether or not your boyfriend's actions warrant a breakup is ultimately up to you, but I just want you to make sure you have done your due diligence, for yourself, in terms of investigation and appropriate follow through. I am going to attempt to “pass on” my sense of the situation.
What is concerning: • being flippant about what he did, like: nbd whatever • does not feel remorse or guilt • does not take ownership or responsibility • has no “talk track” about how to not allow himself to do this again • multiple incidents of drunk driving
What is reasonable: • treats the matter seriously • being remorseful and acknowledges his mistake • takes ownership and responsibility • HAS a talk track about how to prevent a future occurrence (designated driver, Uber, being sober for an evening, etc.) • first time drunk driving
As you consider what I've put together here, I want you to understand that you will make plenty of mistakes yourself in your life ahead of you and probably some pretty big ones. Do you want to be judged with equal severity by your future partner(s)?
I think you've got a good moral compass, a good head in your shoulders, and you're interested in doing what is right. All of this is very good. I think you should CONTINUE to be this way, but keep your finger off of the trigger a little bit longer maybe ?, just some food for thought.
I hope you find my message helpful. Take care.
You are being abused.
Being alone sure is better than being verbally mistreated and artificially groomed into being a person you are not.
But that is acvording to his likings.
This is powerplay. Domination. Breaking your will and self-esteem.
Girl … run. This won't get any better! It will get worse.
Listen to that reply OP, it says a LOT about him because he COULD be doing a whole hell of a lot better at trying to impress you.
To some people swinging is not the same as “open.” To me, an open relationship is when you and your partner have sex with others on your own:on the side. Swinging is more like having sex with others when you’re both there. Like a swingers party. Maybe your gf would like to have sex with others with you by her side?
The moral of this story:
The OP was such a great woman, it took two women to replace her.
Run with it, make sure everyone knows your value 😉
I moved out when I was 34 with $150k saved and we paid for our house outright between me and my wife. It’s fine to online at home
Emotional immaturity. It sounds like she had some D on her mind and got fancied up to seduce you and by no fault of hers or yours, it was a bad evening for that, and instead of recognizing this plain fact is the source of her disappointment, she directed her disappointment at you in a needlessly hurtful way.
You said this is a one off thing because you have sex often, but the issue here isn’t that there’s some problem with you or your libido or mismatch libidos. The issue is that your GF didn’t hesitate to deliberately hurt you because she felt bad. If she doesn’t ever give you the benefit of the doubt and apologize for this, that’s really bad. Best case is that she’s just emotionally immature and listens to you when you tell her how hurtful that was and works on giving you the benefit of the doubt and taking your feelings more seriously in the future.
Fuck them all
Probably took day off to go to that place
Tell him I'm tired of being accused take his phone.. say come on we are going to this address I want to know who it is
If you are content with the contact you have, you shouldn't have to change a thing. She is scared and insecure and clearly marking her territory. That is not on you. Maybe her insecurity has grounds, but that is between her and her husband to work out. If she had anything to say about her husbands behaviour, she should tell him, and not play childish games via text