I'm usually all about trying to salvage stuff but this is a nope. She can't even be honest and it's always some bs reason. Not the truth. He and her have good sexual chemistry or whatever.
While I do think that, eventually, a serial cheater can find someone they love and will not cheat on- I think once someone cheats on you, specifically, they will continue to do so. And while I’m sure there are exceptions, they are truly exceptions- and that’s if they cheat once. Certainly not twice.
Therapy for your wife and I would block “Mary” on all platforms so she doesn’t have access to you and encourage your wife to establish some boundaries.
Thanks. I think I've been viewing us as compatible because we have similar likes, interests, values and goals. But maybe there's an incompatibility in how we relate to each other and what we want from a relationship in terms of attention and reassurance.
He doesn’t want to bring you over because his wife and kids won’t approve of you.
Also I have no idea what is doing on in the post. Did he say the first two quotations and you said the last? If so then no you didn’t go too far. Also don’t sleep with him until you know what he’s hiding
To be honest this happens to me a lot but LOL at the day I have the guts to cheat and use this bullshit as an excuse to make some dude feel bad for me ffs
He’s being ridiculous and that part isn’t really up for debate. You’ve now gotten a million answers about his selfish, resentful behavior about you telling the truth about your own pain and pleasure.
I will add that positively encouraging behavior that you don’t want to continue sends the opposite message. It’s not that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks – it’s just that the metaphorical dog WILL have a reaction to feeling like something was going well but has actually been going badly. I would argue all of his drama was to make sure you don’t ever ask to be fully sexually satisfied again, but it really might be his own dramatic response to not being the sex god he thought he was.
Either way, telling people the truth about their affect on you will almost always help you. It would be naive to think that blunt honesty is ALWAYS the best policy on every single issue, but reinforcing bad (or otherwise undesirable) behavior will produce that behavior over and over again.
So I will assume you were honest and not being manipulative. But can't you see what a heavy burden this is to put on someone else? You need to find another emotional support system when you are that bad. Too much to put on an 18 year old.
I know it doesn't seem that way, but 3 years at this stage in life is a pretty big age gap, at least in terms of maturity.
You cannot use your moods or even diagnosed illnesses as a reason to be a dick. Like, not bathing for a week is fine if that's where you are, but you still need to treat people with respect.
Girl, he's cheating. That's the tea. He's cheating. Anything else he's lying.
Did you read the post? I don’t let him drive me so what do we do?
I'm usually all about trying to salvage stuff but this is a nope. She can't even be honest and it's always some bs reason. Not the truth. He and her have good sexual chemistry or whatever.
How do you mean boundaries?
This is a waste of his time snd energy
While I do think that, eventually, a serial cheater can find someone they love and will not cheat on- I think once someone cheats on you, specifically, they will continue to do so. And while I’m sure there are exceptions, they are truly exceptions- and that’s if they cheat once. Certainly not twice.
He isn’t changing.
Therapy for your wife and I would block “Mary” on all platforms so she doesn’t have access to you and encourage your wife to establish some boundaries.
I'm not “anti” anything. OK, not many poly arrangements I know have lasted.
I certainly did not come here to upset you.
But this was toxic from day one.
He just wants sex with you.
The problem isn’t him realizing because he knows and gets what he wants. He is 100% fine with the games.
The problem is you realizing that the fantasy isn’t happening. You can’t wish yourself you a happy relationship.
You want attention at any cost. He knows that. It’s time to end it.
At least he has one lol
Thanks. I think I've been viewing us as compatible because we have similar likes, interests, values and goals. But maybe there's an incompatibility in how we relate to each other and what we want from a relationship in terms of attention and reassurance.
Def my first thought
Sounds like she got bored or whatever and was looking for way to make breaking up your fault. Sounds like you dodged a bullet.
He doesn’t want to bring you over because his wife and kids won’t approve of you.
Also I have no idea what is doing on in the post. Did he say the first two quotations and you said the last? If so then no you didn’t go too far. Also don’t sleep with him until you know what he’s hiding
Likely what she pays in a week for groceries he pays in a month for phone and internet..
To be honest this happens to me a lot but LOL at the day I have the guts to cheat and use this bullshit as an excuse to make some dude feel bad for me ffs
He’s being ridiculous and that part isn’t really up for debate. You’ve now gotten a million answers about his selfish, resentful behavior about you telling the truth about your own pain and pleasure.
I will add that positively encouraging behavior that you don’t want to continue sends the opposite message. It’s not that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks – it’s just that the metaphorical dog WILL have a reaction to feeling like something was going well but has actually been going badly. I would argue all of his drama was to make sure you don’t ever ask to be fully sexually satisfied again, but it really might be his own dramatic response to not being the sex god he thought he was.
Either way, telling people the truth about their affect on you will almost always help you. It would be naive to think that blunt honesty is ALWAYS the best policy on every single issue, but reinforcing bad (or otherwise undesirable) behavior will produce that behavior over and over again.
So I will assume you were honest and not being manipulative. But can't you see what a heavy burden this is to put on someone else? You need to find another emotional support system when you are that bad. Too much to put on an 18 year old.
How do you know the username from his screenshot is his? Might it be someone else entirely?
I know it doesn't seem that way, but 3 years at this stage in life is a pretty big age gap, at least in terms of maturity.
You cannot use your moods or even diagnosed illnesses as a reason to be a dick. Like, not bathing for a week is fine if that's where you are, but you still need to treat people with respect.