Because hospitals want to know how trauma happens. Even shitty hospitals will ask how an arm got broken. Especially when the guy also has a bloody nose and obviously looks beaten up. Even a shitty hospital would call the police and tell them that they have a 52 yr old male in the ed who looks really beat up. Source: I work in a hospital. And being from an honor culture isnβt going to compel a Muslim to be silent about being violently attacked by someone. If this story was true, the mother would be shaken up and likely nearly in hysterics, and the two brothers would be pissed. No one would cover for this guy.
his mom told me she was manipulated and unaware of the situation
So either her son told her about the abuse and she chose not to believe him, or he felt that he couldn't tell her about the abuse because he knew it would do no good. And she couldn't see the abuse for herself.
Also you say “technically” he was abused, as if he's exaggerating or this particular brand of abuse doesn't count.
And now he's in exactly the same situation with you – First his mother told the child “Okay if it did happen, it wasn't that bad, and you're just over-reacting.” Now his fiancee is belittling the experience and denying him a voice all over again.
I'm amazed he even bothered to tell you he's considering breaking up. In his situation I would have just dropped contact with you as well. On the positive side, you seem to value your relationship with his mother more, so you can keep her in your life.
Because hospitals want to know how trauma happens. Even shitty hospitals will ask how an arm got broken. Especially when the guy also has a bloody nose and obviously looks beaten up. Even a shitty hospital would call the police and tell them that they have a 52 yr old male in the ed who looks really beat up. Source: I work in a hospital. And being from an honor culture isnβt going to compel a Muslim to be silent about being violently attacked by someone. If this story was true, the mother would be shaken up and likely nearly in hysterics, and the two brothers would be pissed. No one would cover for this guy.
This this this OP! The house is on fire, get out! Don't stay because the curtains are nice!
his mom told me she was manipulated and unaware of the situation
So either her son told her about the abuse and she chose not to believe him, or he felt that he couldn't tell her about the abuse because he knew it would do no good. And she couldn't see the abuse for herself.
Also you say “technically” he was abused, as if he's exaggerating or this particular brand of abuse doesn't count.
And now he's in exactly the same situation with you – First his mother told the child “Okay if it did happen, it wasn't that bad, and you're just over-reacting.” Now his fiancee is belittling the experience and denying him a voice all over again.
I'm amazed he even bothered to tell you he's considering breaking up. In his situation I would have just dropped contact with you as well. On the positive side, you seem to value your relationship with his mother more, so you can keep her in your life.