i only read the title. my boyfriend used to do that to i just had to physically force him to be on top and put in work hes an idiot he will work up too much of a sweat like hes dying lol too bad get used to it thats the way sex is supposed to be
Just so you know, people with anger problems will always turn on their partner eventually.
Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes.
It's easy to be good to your partner and overlook their mistakes when the relationship is new and fresh, it's much harder to be good when you're ten years in and under a lot of stress and your partner is the only nearby target for your ire and you don't have any healthy coping mechanisms to manage anger.
Lol its an anonymous website where complete strangers tell stories and anecdotes with absolutely no proof or sources….and you just a couple days ago decided to not trust some of these stories and not others?
You've known him for a total of two years, and have been living together for six months.
Your bf doesn't have a “drinking problem,” he is a severe alcoholic who has zero desire to change. This is a hot truth, but you need to stop softening your reality by saying things like you think he has a problem or it would be okay if he just didn't drink as much.
This will sound harsh and blunt: End this relationship with a clean sharp break and do it immediately.
He is 29. This is not the drinking behavior of a teenager just starting to drink. He is a hardcore alcoholic who chooses drinking over everything else in his life, including you.
There is absolutely nothing you can do to make him stop drinking. You've tried bargaining with him to drink less, offering to help him get help, hoping your love for him can triumph over alcoholism.
You are making the sad mistake many people who love addicts make. You think your love is stronger than addiction. You are wrong.
If you stay with him, you are saying Yes to being embarrassed and endangered by him, supporting him when he gets fired for unreliability and drinking on the job, bailing him out or visiting him in jail when he gets a DUI, and being his nurse and home health aide when his alcoholism ruins his liver and his brain.
End this. If you need to give him money to afford to move back to his hometown, do it.
Disentangle yourself from him, walk away, and do not look back.
Easy to say that when you're looking at it objectively. Now imagine you fell hot for a guy/girl who was your friend. I bet you wouldn't respond so rationally then.
Yeah I mean that’s rather unlikely unless he’s on anti depressants or some other medical condition, he’d be a somewhat stressed by now with 3 months worth sloshing around. Men lie about this so as not to make their gfs fee inadequate
She says I don't care about her or even try with her. Or that I am lazy or this and that. This is my first serious relationship and she does have a fat fetish which I get but she doesn't separate that from like you know, real life. She has a cracked disk and has had options for it to be fixed so she isn't in so much pain but she always tells me they ignore her and so now I have to make her appointments soon I feel. I told her that is she is having so much problems she should lose weight and she gets mad at me. I have let myself go and feel like I am being dragged down with her. She is on so many medications that I don't even know the names of them. I don't know i guess just hearing for similar advice. I am not happy and neither is she yet she blames it all on me and calls me abusive when I get mad at her being unreasonable or her being mean in the first place. She says if I had these problems she would help me but I really doubt she would as before when I had pain she treated it like it was nothing and I should suck it up. Like my emotions or problems don't matter. I ask her how she is doing in her hobbies or games but I have never gotten that from her, I have to pretty much try and get her to look but she blows me off or gets annoyed but gets mad at me when I don't look right away at stuff she wants to show me. It feels like so many double standards.
Of course he can't, you can't prove a negative. People don't have alibis for every moment of every day. If someone accuses you of cheating there's literally no way you can definitively prove you haven't. That's why in law it's innocence until proven guilty.
But he shouldn't have to. There should be trust, if there isn't, why bother with the relationship.
Gosh i don't know what i'm gonna do, i don't wanna leave him! I'm so sad that i can't have both… I'm sad when i think of all the things that i might not experience if he breaks up with me…
If he's defensive, the conversation should be put on pause. Having a conversation with two defensive people does not end well. It's just full blown attacks against families and that's just messy
Spitting on someone is MAD personal, I would hit someone for that. That's deliberate and gross
Since you're going to stay, yall need to learn how to communicate
He needs to work on how he responds to anger You need to recognize when he's getting angry and pause instead of keep pushing the topic Maybe you need to refrain from talking about family until you both learn how to communicate The hitting and spitting needs to stop ESPECIALLY in front of your kid. Again, that is not okay. Maybe come up with an exit strategy Don't hate yourself, life happens, we sleep with people that we probably should not have. But now it's time to navigate your way through this and do what's best for your baby
Well, see a 40 year old dating a 20 year old is already a red flag but he's also showing that he's an insecure person which is why he's dating a 20 year old all the ladies his age knew better then to date his dumb ass. Pack your bags and find someone closer to your age who can relate with you and actually gives a fuck about you.
You know you don't have to put up with this right?
A lot of people would be a hot pass on this happening in a relationship:
Boyfriend gets drunk with other women Boyfriend spends nights at other women while drunk Boyfriend calls other women 'relationship pet names' Boyfriend gets angry, yells and calls me names
If your boyfriend cannot see why you may consider it inappropriate to get drunk with other women and spend the night. Maybe he isn't the right one…
Something like this, you shouldn't have to make a case in your defense.. he should know better.
I think your kindness is being taken advantage of…
There's a lot to unpack here. First of all, ED is something that can actually happen to guys a lot younger than people think. It has nothing to do with how sexier or not their partner(s) are. It also can have a huge mental component, so he may feel bad that he's not having sex with you as you want, and that makes it harder for him to be able to have sex. Regardless, you should not make it about you or your appearance.
If he hasn't been to a doctor, he should have a check up to make sure there isn't a serious issue. That being said, he may simply have a much lower sex drive than you do. I know that society pretends that men always have high sex drives and have to convince women to have sex, but this is not actually the case. If this is the case, then you probably should break up. If you are not compatible in your early 20s, it's only going to get worse.
“NFT influencer” is not a real thing. She's just turned herself into a scam-artist and probably a hoe. How the fuck are you guys taking care of your child?
Do you know if he has a good relationship with his family. Encourage him to see a therapist if possible, he needs to make the decision himself to leave.
You are here looking for validation that premature ejaculation indicates strengthening romantic feelings?
With all due respect, no, and that's really silly. I admire your ability to see silver linings. Ejaculating is purely physiological. There's not an emotional component to when or how fast I or any man does it. Speaking from experience, if anything, I will make sure I hold back or go multiple times when I am with someone I care about or want to impress. The times when I came quickly were generally times when I just wanted to get the poison out and go.
I am in a different country and I don't think we'll ever see each other again lol. is that considered a position of safety?
i only read the title. my boyfriend used to do that to i just had to physically force him to be on top and put in work hes an idiot he will work up too much of a sweat like hes dying lol too bad get used to it thats the way sex is supposed to be
Just so you know, people with anger problems will always turn on their partner eventually.
Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes.
It's easy to be good to your partner and overlook their mistakes when the relationship is new and fresh, it's much harder to be good when you're ten years in and under a lot of stress and your partner is the only nearby target for your ire and you don't have any healthy coping mechanisms to manage anger.
Then it would probably have a fake surname and not be a problem
None of this sounds healthy
Oh, the narc husband should not be posting on that sub. But I don’t see why OP can’t ask questions. But If it’s a problem, they’ll let her know.
Lol its an anonymous website where complete strangers tell stories and anecdotes with absolutely no proof or sources….and you just a couple days ago decided to not trust some of these stories and not others?
End it.
You should have ended it after she cheated on you.
Thank you, I appreciate the honesty.
You've known him for a total of two years, and have been living together for six months.
Your bf doesn't have a “drinking problem,” he is a severe alcoholic who has zero desire to change. This is a hot truth, but you need to stop softening your reality by saying things like you think he has a problem or it would be okay if he just didn't drink as much.
This will sound harsh and blunt: End this relationship with a clean sharp break and do it immediately.
He is 29. This is not the drinking behavior of a teenager just starting to drink. He is a hardcore alcoholic who chooses drinking over everything else in his life, including you.
There is absolutely nothing you can do to make him stop drinking. You've tried bargaining with him to drink less, offering to help him get help, hoping your love for him can triumph over alcoholism.
You are making the sad mistake many people who love addicts make. You think your love is stronger than addiction. You are wrong.
If you stay with him, you are saying Yes to being embarrassed and endangered by him, supporting him when he gets fired for unreliability and drinking on the job, bailing him out or visiting him in jail when he gets a DUI, and being his nurse and home health aide when his alcoholism ruins his liver and his brain.
End this. If you need to give him money to afford to move back to his hometown, do it.
Disentangle yourself from him, walk away, and do not look back.
Easy to say that when you're looking at it objectively. Now imagine you fell hot for a guy/girl who was your friend. I bet you wouldn't respond so rationally then.
He can't seem to respect boundaries you set, good on you for enforcing them.
Yeah I mean that’s rather unlikely unless he’s on anti depressants or some other medical condition, he’d be a somewhat stressed by now with 3 months worth sloshing around. Men lie about this so as not to make their gfs fee inadequate
congratulations you just won the house with that picture!!! take her to court.
Lawyer Up and STFU !
She says I don't care about her or even try with her. Or that I am lazy or this and that. This is my first serious relationship and she does have a fat fetish which I get but she doesn't separate that from like you know, real life. She has a cracked disk and has had options for it to be fixed so she isn't in so much pain but she always tells me they ignore her and so now I have to make her appointments soon I feel. I told her that is she is having so much problems she should lose weight and she gets mad at me. I have let myself go and feel like I am being dragged down with her. She is on so many medications that I don't even know the names of them. I don't know i guess just hearing for similar advice. I am not happy and neither is she yet she blames it all on me and calls me abusive when I get mad at her being unreasonable or her being mean in the first place. She says if I had these problems she would help me but I really doubt she would as before when I had pain she treated it like it was nothing and I should suck it up. Like my emotions or problems don't matter. I ask her how she is doing in her hobbies or games but I have never gotten that from her, I have to pretty much try and get her to look but she blows me off or gets annoyed but gets mad at me when I don't look right away at stuff she wants to show me. It feels like so many double standards.
If there really is less than 0% chance of it working, why bother? Just enjoy your friendship together.
GUYS I JUST DID IT. I SAW THE RECENTLY DELETED MESSAGES. 2,200 FUCKING DELETED TEXTS. SOMEONE GET ME A DAMN LAWYER
Of course he can't, you can't prove a negative. People don't have alibis for every moment of every day. If someone accuses you of cheating there's literally no way you can definitively prove you haven't. That's why in law it's innocence until proven guilty.
But he shouldn't have to. There should be trust, if there isn't, why bother with the relationship.
Gosh i don't know what i'm gonna do, i don't wanna leave him! I'm so sad that i can't have both… I'm sad when i think of all the things that i might not experience if he breaks up with me…
Girl-
Few things….
If he's defensive, the conversation should be put on pause. Having a conversation with two defensive people does not end well. It's just full blown attacks against families and that's just messy
Spitting on someone is MAD personal, I would hit someone for that. That's deliberate and gross
Since you're going to stay, yall need to learn how to communicate
He needs to work on how he responds to anger You need to recognize when he's getting angry and pause instead of keep pushing the topic Maybe you need to refrain from talking about family until you both learn how to communicate The hitting and spitting needs to stop ESPECIALLY in front of your kid. Again, that is not okay. Maybe come up with an exit strategy Don't hate yourself, life happens, we sleep with people that we probably should not have. But now it's time to navigate your way through this and do what's best for your baby
Well, see a 40 year old dating a 20 year old is already a red flag but he's also showing that he's an insecure person which is why he's dating a 20 year old all the ladies his age knew better then to date his dumb ass. Pack your bags and find someone closer to your age who can relate with you and actually gives a fuck about you.
You know you don't have to put up with this right?
A lot of people would be a hot pass on this happening in a relationship:
Boyfriend gets drunk with other women Boyfriend spends nights at other women while drunk Boyfriend calls other women 'relationship pet names' Boyfriend gets angry, yells and calls me names
If your boyfriend cannot see why you may consider it inappropriate to get drunk with other women and spend the night. Maybe he isn't the right one…
Something like this, you shouldn't have to make a case in your defense.. he should know better.
I think your kindness is being taken advantage of…
There's a lot to unpack here. First of all, ED is something that can actually happen to guys a lot younger than people think. It has nothing to do with how sexier or not their partner(s) are. It also can have a huge mental component, so he may feel bad that he's not having sex with you as you want, and that makes it harder for him to be able to have sex. Regardless, you should not make it about you or your appearance.
If he hasn't been to a doctor, he should have a check up to make sure there isn't a serious issue. That being said, he may simply have a much lower sex drive than you do. I know that society pretends that men always have high sex drives and have to convince women to have sex, but this is not actually the case. If this is the case, then you probably should break up. If you are not compatible in your early 20s, it's only going to get worse.
“NFT influencer” is not a real thing. She's just turned herself into a scam-artist and probably a hoe. How the fuck are you guys taking care of your child?
Do you know if he has a good relationship with his family. Encourage him to see a therapist if possible, he needs to make the decision himself to leave.
It’s possible but that is a terrible basis for a relationship.
You are here looking for validation that premature ejaculation indicates strengthening romantic feelings?
With all due respect, no, and that's really silly. I admire your ability to see silver linings. Ejaculating is purely physiological. There's not an emotional component to when or how fast I or any man does it. Speaking from experience, if anything, I will make sure I hold back or go multiple times when I am with someone I care about or want to impress. The times when I came quickly were generally times when I just wanted to get the poison out and go.