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Date: November 27, 2022
I think you’re 100% right. You are not cut out to be anyone’s husband. Way too selfish. Your wife deserves far better.
Depends what they are. Have you talked to her about this letting her know that you're uncomfortable with it? It's likely she doesn't even realize those pics are still online. I think you're overreacting about the one in the drawer because it's not on display. She's allowed to have pics/items from past relationships and I don't think it's your place to tell her to discard them because they upset you. You can tell her how it makes you feel, but let her decide what to do with them. Also, I think it's a female thing to hold onto stuff like this.
Huh, well that takes me back to college, dropped my whole “friend” group for this reason
Hell no , you deserve better.
I’m sorry she’s being like that. She does sound checked out. You do have a choice.
She didn't even hear them come in, it was literally the music that woke her up. It sounds like the basement is isolated enough to hang out in, aside from the music. The loud music was 100% asshole behavior.
It very well could have been a blackmail situation.
However, he still sent those videos to some internet stranger.
Come on now.
She is cheating on you, and you know this already.
Dump her, evict her, and start focusing on yourself.
This woman is only looking out for herself here.
He’s the new version of PUA artists from my era is my take. It’s exactly as your husband says, it hits insecure people becuase he surrounds generic, legit self-belief stuff, with his gross stuff.
Similarly, the PUA stuff would suck people in because “act confident and take care of yourself” is a message they were missing, they’d get results, then buy into the rest of the package and not realize that getting laid more through manipulative tactics doesn’t translate to a happy life and a good relationship (lol).
I rememeber when TV shows started including the “awkward dude trying to neg” as a joke and noted that whole community dying down, but I see influencers like him as the modern version.
No point to my rant other than just I see him as the newest version of a really old breed of self/help/approach/borderline cult at the core.
What the fuck.
Why have you not left this person?
What made you want to date him in the first place?
If he torments you on purpose he is mentally abusive…
Leave him immediately.
That or sit him down and have the talk with him that this is a boundary he should never cross and if he does he’s done.
Good bye boyfriend
Well I'd recommend 1. Something to do with his hobbies or maybe his music taste 2. Something to do with his childhood/family 3. An inside joke or reference to you/the relationship 4. Something just flat out cute, whatever that may be
I'd have to know you and him to be anymore specific but these are decent starting off points.
One thing at a time. You're meeting up for drinks, if it gets to a point where you're deciding where to go you could say you still online with your parents and they're sleeping/have to get up early for work. I don't think I could argue with that especially if I live alone. I would assume she doesn't really want to sneak around your parents house either lol and I guess you could maybe throw in a joke about that. Just let the night go where it takes the two of you. If you end up deciding you both just want to go home and meet up another time, that might be what happens as well. Most of us mid-twenties peeps live with our parents so the ones who don't usually host.
Text or call him
The gaming issue… I feel like that's a common problem with Millennial and Gen Z men. There has to be a way we can address that issue as a society because I see gaming saps motivation left & right.
I am not interested in him romantically but I feel close to him emotionally and it feels important to me
Oh please shut up, you know you're meeting to fuck c'mon now ahaha
Yes, I've seen the charge. Apparently the police came in as she was attacking him and that's how she got the charge. I saw it online when we first got together and it listed her as the abuser.
There's been nothing else sketchy going on and everything has seemed normal until now, I never got any weird feeling he might be cheating or anything. Yeah, he might go into town and spend a night every few weeks away, but I think that's normal. He also told me to consider the source and seems to get upset that I keep talking to him about this because he says nothing is going on and that I have nothing to worry about. I trust him, this was just sketchy to me.
This.
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Info: how does your mom know about your relationship with your dad and his new family? Via FB or other SM? Do you tell her about it? Do they have friends or family in common who might share?
Then why would you even consider going back with her?
If he has sleep avoidance, he might not want to stay because he'll be stuck awake whether you're there or not. Possible he could have times where he's more prone to nightmares where he moves or talks, night terrors, or similar. Does he tell you about his sleep quality and any problems he has with it in general? Does he think something bad could happen while he's not alert? Just some questions I'd have, but it also could be that he's anxious about sharing a bed, though I'd be curious about that too. If he needs several days, it seems like more than nerves
Unless you share children with this person you're not “stuck”. You're just allowing yourself to be manipulated. You've been in this relationship since you were 18 and that's the only reason you don't think you could find someone who treats you well but also has some motivation and the ability to tell the truth. You've never really experienced the dating world as an adult (because you've been in this relationship the whole time). So stop believing that he and only he is capable of being nice to you. That's just not how it is.
?? whatever you say.
Being Bi doesn't mean you cant be in a monogamous relationship.
You very clearly are a monogamous person.
Wether he knows it or not, he's using his sexuality to manipulate you into something you're not comfortable with.
Being interested in someone romantically doesn't give a man the right to act like a creepy stalker, like this dude. He's a mega creep, OP. You are not over reacting. You need to start setting up a safety plan.
He is abusive and there doesn't appear to be any love here. Don't go back.
It’s not “angry feminists” it’s toxic feminism. As a feminist, I agree that people need to Gtfo shit and acknowledge that women are just as bad as men. Saying it is angry feminists just makes it worse though dude. Women abuse. Men abuse. Cycles need to be broken. Period.
Police can't do anything because most of these scammers are in other countries. I have a buddy who went thru this and they could do nothing
Sooo many red flags.. HE manages your time? Let me guess, you ALWAYS do what HE wants to do, right? Has he been distancing you from your friends? And what do you mean by “budgets my money”? Does he take your money and give you what you need only for stuff he approves of? all of this is abusive behavior. Please tell me you don't online together. My advice? Cut your losses NOW while you're not bound to him..
I’ve always been of the mind that whoever brings out an ultimatum, better sure as he’ll be ready to get an answer they don’t like.
I missed my 40th because of Covid. And normally I couldn’t care less about birthdays, as they are just another day at work. But some birthdays are meant to be celebrated, of course depending on culture/religious beliefs the birthdays might change, but the 1st, 5th, 13th, 21st, 40th and 65th are milestones that should be celebrated.
And of course as you get older and closer to 90/100 years old, you celebrate as many as possible.
And it isn’t so much as the birthday, it’s the bringing together of your loved ones, the family and friends who you care for, and care for you, that is the celebration.
So see if you can un-cancel what you cancelled, and have your celebration. And if he gets in a grump tell him he’s not welcome to attend, and can leave for the evening/weekend somewhere else.
Finding other people attracting and acting on it are 2 different things.
Yes men can be loyal. No relationship has only happy moments, dealing with is just part of life.
I recommend Dave Ramsey. I'm not from the United States, but watching his YouTube videos has saved me from deep debt and made me better at financial management.
But back to your problem: before you are on the same page with your wife about money, forget about getting a credit card or personal loan, etc. All the best.
Never sec but we argue about if that’s “cheating”
The simple answer is that you’ll either need to choose between having your own biological child (or children) and your romantic relationship. This is a common choice and either direction is fine. It sucks that you had to wait 3 years to reach this conclusion.
The complex answer— well more question that I have is: why the change of heart? If you clearly expressed your desire to have your own children and she was always adamantly on board with that— then why did she now change her mind?
Shock, anger, fear, disgust: this post generates powerful knee-jerk reactions which hijack readers’ emotions. We can use this as an opportunity to practice being objective observers and active problem solvers.
Take a moment to pause; notice your feelings and then let them go. Once you are calm you can re-read the story—but this time, avoid making assumptions about the situation. This post has several characteristics that suggest OP is pretending to be pregnant. The motive for withholding the truth from her partner doesn’t matter: OP is refusing to take accountability for an uncomfortable situation she created and this post represents an attempt to shift all the blame onto him.
OP begins the post shaming her partner for his reaction to her pregnancy. She describes the situation as ambiguous while simultaneously dropping hints that elicit strong suspicion from readers. OP knows she isn’t pregnant. She has led her partner to believe she is, and encourages us to ignore this fact. OP vaguely alleges that her partner broke a condom on purpose—this invites her audience to picture the partner in a negative light.
By the end of the post, there is an enormous hole in the story: the OP is not pregnant and she has been withholding this vital fact from her partner and his family for weeks. This is not something you simply let your partner “figure it out by themselves” because you’re “too stressed to handle the conversation”.
OP, it doesn’t matter if you were upfront in the past about your stance: you owe your partner the truth. You may be uncomfortable with his reaction because it triggers relationship insecurity; you and your partner may realize you are incompatible with each other. It sounds like he believes you want kids, since you told him you could be pregnant and “left him to deal with it on his own”. Ultimately as unpleasant as this situation might be, you are responsible for telling him the truth.
Something else you may want to consider, the effect of alcohol on people differs greatly with sex, weight, tolerance. A few glasses of wine will get some small women completely drunk, and for some larger men they won't even notice the slightest effects. A glass of wine in the morning might be really nothing to him.
He seems to have listened to your concern and agreed to not drink in the mornings, so he's clearly receptive to you and to change.
All of this!!!!!
And yet he keeps delaying it.
I’ll be blunt: the trauma caused by the manner in which you were learned you were adopted has affected you far more badly than you realise. As a result, you have a desperate need to be wanted, and that’s what’s keeping you in the relationship.
You need to see a counsellor. You’ve not done anything wrong, but this is too much for you to process alone, and you need an independent person to help you deal with it.
Right now you shouldn’t be making serious decisions because your judgment is extremely clouded and you’re not making good long-term choices, just good short-term ones. You’re basically doing whatever you need to do to survive right now, but there are some unscrupulous people out there who will take advantage. A therapist will help you see this, and to help you find your way forward.
She broke up with you but she's giving you breadcrumbs in case your potential replacement doesn't work out. And in the meantime you provide attention, validation and emotional support. Block and move on. Love has nothing to do with it.
You don’t know the half of it brother.
Isn’t harder an more painful to stay in Limbo in this half-life OP
Absolute fucking nobody watches porn for the intimacy. They’re looking to bust a nut. Intimacy is IRL sex is for.
Someone actually said this is norma|
You said you don't know if you can trust her. Did she cheat on you? It seems she was honest and said she developed feelings but isn't going to act on it and is willing to quit. Most people would not even tell the other person, but she's being honest with you.
Might be , that’s why I’m making this post
you said life or death and she said “just die then” to show u you’re being dramatic. DONT act like she just confessed she wants you to die. ridiculous and dramatic that ur trying to play the victim like this?
what she said was nasty so go tell her she was nasty and get an apology, dont even try to come here acting like “help my wife wants to murder me” so ridiculous
Well yeah i can see that the trust has fallen out of our relationship. I want it to be a partnership. Thats why I came to outside of friends and family to understand if i am putting to much into nothing. Thanks for bringing your side of things.
She’s toxic. She’s trying to control you and when she doesn’t get her own way (you staying in her prison) so punishes you by creating problems.
Why do you think you should be with someone that treats you so badly?
You’re too young to waste your life like this.
Yeah I expected it. I wonder how many of them consider themselves progressive (so long as it's groups men can be found in of course).
Ehh whatever you decide to do is fine as long as you are ready to acceot the consequences.
She sounds like she has zero concept or boundaries and what being disrespectful is. She sounds super needy and unhinged too. While all of this could stem from trauma on her end, it’s still no excuse for behaving like this with other people. She needs to grow up and learn how to act bc that’s not how friends act at all. She sounds like she‘a overly sexual with all these guys too. I would tell her to stop and find another guy to act that way with but she will get slapped and lose you as a friend if she keeps this little routine up.
People do… crazy things for love. Toxic, embarrassing, hurtful and self destructive things for love.
You’re allowed to be hurt and confused and verbalize that. That’s not even unhealthy!
You’re okay. And this will all be okay (eventually), too.
Take care of yourself op
The court won't care much whether she is cheating when it comes to assigning custody. They will care about whether she is a fit parent.
You need to be sure of whether she is cheating so that you can be sure of your decision to break up with her or not. It might be nice to have something to show that you aren't just walking away from a relationship that involves a kid, but, really, collecting evidence to show to a third party isn't important.
If you do decide to break up with her, you need the best family lawyer that you can get, even if it means borrowing to pay the attorney. Think of it as cutting off a finger to save your head.
You're better off alone. You're living that life now anyway.
Time to move on.
Thank you so much for your kind reply. I was sat here waiting for more backlash. I feel like reaching out but they were all so angry with me. I wish I could change it all. But if they saw what I see in him they would know its complicated. Thank you again
Thank you so much for your kind reply. I was sat here waiting for more backlash. I feel like reaching out but they were all so angry with me. I wish I could change it all. But if they saw what I see in him they would know its complicated. Thank you again
Yah know, when my wife and I first got together. A threesome came up, she’s been in one, a FFM. I of course was like we should do one, she explained that it wasn’t the greatest experience. She’s not attracted to women. I pushed a little, wanting a FFM. She had mentioned doing a MMF, and was even like well if you did a MMF I’d do FFM. I was like no way dude that seems so awkward and just unsexy for me. Then it was like a duuuuuh/epiphany moment for me.
She. Is. Not. Attracted. To. Women. I. Am. Not. Attracted. To. Men.
A threesome doesn’t come up anymore, and never really did after that conversation. But my thoughts are a threesome for me would be all parties being attracted to each other and having fun. Regardless your bf is insecure, small minded, and just selfish. Good luck.
Yah know, when my wife and I first got together. A threesome came up, she’s been in one, a FFM. I of course was like we should do one, she explained that it wasn’t the greatest experience. She’s not attracted to women. I pushed a little, wanting a FFM. She had mentioned doing a MMF, and was even like well if you did a MMF I’d do FFM. I was like no way dude that seems so awkward and just unsexy for me. Then it was like a duuuuuh/epiphany moment for me.
She. Is. Not. Attracted. To. Women. I. Am. Not. Attracted. To. Men.
A threesome doesn’t come up anymore, and never really did after that conversation. But my thoughts are a threesome for me would be all parties being attracted to each other and having fun. Regardless your bf is insecure, small minded, and just selfish. Good luck.
Drunken words, sober thoughts. She wouldn’t be saying this every time she gets drunk if she didn’t feel it on some level. I know it’s a Reddit cliche but I don’t think this relationship is going to improve if she’s nearing 30 and still can’t drink responsibly. If you didn’t list her age I’d have thought she was a college kid.
She’s also verbally abusive to you even if she claims not to remember it, and she’s gaslighting you when she says you’re controlling when you try and broach the subject. Try and think of your future with her. Is she going to get blackout drunk at your wedding and embarrass you in front of your guests by trying to break up with you? Is she going to do it at your company Christmas party? Is she going to ruin someone else’s wedding? Do you really want to babysit her every time you want to have fun?
She seems immature and like she has impulse control issues, and she’s basically told you she thinks she’s fine. If you really want to try and salvage this is suggest you film her the next time she gets blackout drunk and show her the next day so she can see how much she’s embarrassing herself?
Do people not have the kid talk anymore?
She's not “right” she's also not “wrong.” She suggested something – it is a little weird but she sounds like she was trying to help?
All you have to do is say “no thanks we're not going to do that” and move on. Your husband reassured you. That should be that!
Perhaps you calling off the wedding has created an indicator that this isn't the person for you. Unfortunately you gravely changed your relationship when you called off the wedding and I'm not sure your gf will ever feel that security again and it sounds like she isn't handling it well. Perhaps this isn't the relationship you thought it was/ is
Yikes. That’s a very slippery slope. Are you implying every drunk person who’s had sex has been assaulted?
Drunk girls can’t cheat?
Agree with this. Too soon.
Wow. Nice attitude.
Get evidence of her cheating and then go full lawyer mode.
Good luck with the divorce.
How would the children being involved be a problem?
Wow this is sort of the inverse of the typical. Generally the guy is in the friend zone and quietly dying inside as she dates other guys. Stay strong sister, we got your back. Be patient maybe he will break up eventually, maybe you will find another guy you like better. I respect your conviction not to be “that girl”.
She's an angel. She just sleeps a lot, plays with her toys, and everyone in my life adores her. She has some accidents here and there, but nothing a mop can't fix. I just can't understand how a person can look at her and decide they want to get rid of her
I know, I'm just suggesting why I think people missed it. He is a rapist, no question, but people skim.
O my fucken god just stop. I don't want to be told I'm accountable for being fucked over so very hot. Just shut the fuck up
Yeah once they mention open relationships or swinging, the relationship is already screwed. She already has a guy in mind that she knows will be down. She will only screw him I’m secret now. Time to break up
While we were not together she had a FWB with a stranger, so I didnt care about it as much. But it was shortly before we got back together and she lied to me about removing him when I asked her to.
Also she asked me for a pen at work so she can write her number on a napkin to give it to a customer.
She kinda screwed me mentally before we even got back together.
Father of 2 adult children here. Here’s my advice.
Your family and especially infants, babies and toddlers come first. Your kid has a soiled diaper? Change that puppy. Kid needs to eat? Freed them. Kid needs attention? Take care of it.
Your wife also needs help and attention before you get to play. They’re your child too so don’t dump all the work on her.
My hobby is woodworking. I didn’t get a lot of time in the shop when my kids were young. It was a bit frustrating but there are priorities and if you want to stay married you have to get them right.
You can play your games after everything else is done.
The cat legally belongs to you. You have the paper trail with the rescue and the vet. In the eyes of the laws pets are property and your husband had no authority to give yours away. Reclaim your cat and lose your husband. Being irrationally jealous of a pet is delusional behavio.
11 months meaning he did this while he was already 30??? that is no way for a man that age to act. also getting with his student is a raging red flag no matter her age imo.
you should definitely rethink it. if this gets serious, you're either dating a guy who already has a child or is neglecting the child. and its too early in your relationship to be thinking of things like that.
“This has been my only real relationship besides a few not so serious girlfriends while I was in the military”
This is why I tell people over and over again to really get to know who they are with instead of just rushing into a marriage.
I dated a lot of people till I finally got married in my 40's. I didn't settle for anyone who just simply filled the void. Meanwhile I see friends who are pretty much miserable with their spouses, and many who don't even do anything with them. Meanwhile my wife is my best friend, I actually enjoy being with her.
As for the kids… I wish my parents would have divorced. But I grew up in a house where they hated each other, and I had to walk on eggshells till I moved out at 18.
I’d tell all the spouses being cheated on and then run far away from this mess. I’m confused about your relationship as it is but I’m 38yo so maybe I’m just too far removed from todays dating practices. That said, I agree with you. He seems way too comfortable with everyone around him being cheaters and still thinking highly of these people.
I was also the same at that age. I was constantly feeling up my ex and initating because I just loved feeling loved when I could satisfy her. OPs boyfriend really sounds a lot like how I was back then, and it was 100% because I was affection-starved, and that's not something you can just unlearn. It takes a few years and a lot of experience as well as confidence to grow out of it.
You are having trouble with your self esteem, and this is translating to issues in your dating life.
I've been in a similar headspace around your age, and I think my solution was really coming to terms with myself and finding my own identity.
Right now, you are young and you could be anything. Your identity is still forming. Often, in the absence of the emotional stability and confidence that comes with knowing yourself, it's easier to compare your nascent self to other people.
This is a losing battle.
I'm going to give you the advice I wish I could have given to myself when I was your age: don't worry about dating. Focus on finding things you like free from others' influence.
Find things you are good at. Read and watch challenging things. Discover the contours of your knowledge. Get to understand your own mind.
The only way you can feel good about yourself is knowing who this “self” is. Find her and let her free before you let a man decide who she is for you.
Women who play very hot to get are naked to want. You’re 29 and still approaching potential relationships with the attitude of a teenager
Just be there there and support your friend. Everything else isn't your lane to really stray into. If you're not comfortable going to this get-together with your boyfriend, just say so. With your boyfriend being in the military, he'll go to plenty of functions in the future and get togethers with friends and his unit. You don't have to lie or be fake around your friends ex or even carry on a full-blown convention. Hey, how's it going and keep it moving. It would be unrealistic to skip every function or get together with your boyfriend just because your friends ex-boyfriend is going to be there with his new girlfriend. That would be unfair to your boyfriend. Be honest with your friend. You shouldn't have to walk on eggshells or feel like your doing a balancing act. It great that you're to your friend. My advice would be. Dont let what happened in your friends relationship be the cause of ruining yours.
LOL, yeah nah.
My bad dude. I change my answer to “that would be a really awful thing to do to a child”.
I mean as a mathematician, if he eats x amount, he needs to pay x amount. They were not going to charge him some fraction of the cost if you weren't around. Making less money feels like his problem.
This right here.
If I were to be brutally honest, he’s definitely the immature one in this relationship and probably is taking you for granted! He feels that you won’t do anything but you need to call him out and let him know. The ultimatum is he grow up and stop the bickering or face the consequences of you dumping his @ss! I hope that it works out for you and that this is recoverable. Take care and have an awesome weekend. Let us know how you get along.