If the person on the other side of the adultery knows so and continues with the relationship regardless, I would say yes, it's definitely morally wrong. They are effectively benefitting off of something that brings harm to someone else.
As it seems he moved in and then brought his children there. He started crying and shut down the conversation when she finally started speaking up – that’s emotional manipulation. I see enough information.
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Be prepared for full custody, if she doesn’t want to be a mom anymore as much as that’s horrible and may change in the future, the courts can’t force her to have custody.
Simple. Use the room with the rig when he is working. You don’t need to do so on his whim, just up a schedule. 9-5 is for work. During those hours you get priority to the rig room and he to the RMT room. He gets to play after that.
Of course if you don’t have studies and he doesn’t have client he can play there, but if you need to study, you get exclusive priority during work hours.
If the air filter doesn’t work, ask him to smoke outdoors or under the kitchen fan. It’s just simple manners.
We haven’t discussed that option yet. I don’t think it’s a an automatic “no” from her. I believe she doesn’t know where to turn for help. Thank you for the idea!
I’ve had similar experience. I finally asked my husband why if he acting so terrible in the mornings (for years) and we discovered it is b4 he has not had a cigarette yet. I wonder if OP’s wife is a smoker too. And it is not the sofa or coffee but the cigarette she has that goes with it. My husband stopped smoking few years ago and the first few months in cessation were just terrible. So glad this is over.
No, he chose OPs mom and OP over a child he never met. Not the same thing. And now that child has come into his life for the first time and wants a relationship, and clearly the dad does as well.
I’ve been with my partner for only a month less and couldn’t imagine being engaged yet, even though we both believe there’s a strong possibility for a future. Yikes to that timeline.
Second, yeah, he broke your trust. Work or personal, this guy isn’t trustworthy. So now you have to decide if the trust is able to be repaired or not. Good luck to you.
Figure out how you feel about your girlfriend before even thinking about a new person. And end things before you start sleeping with someone. It's a shitty thing to cheat.
Make sure you're searching that state's board with the person's name rather than mixing up the first name and middle name. Make sure they are spelled correctly. Also, they might be doing telemedicine, but probably not with the specialty you state, so they might be licensed in a different state from where they online.
As an anecdote, this one time, I was on a date, drinking wine al fresco, and someone I kinda knew came up to us and told my date that I really wasn't a lawyer because she couldn't find my license live!. I have a bigass latino name, with easy mizpellings, so if she had looked up my real name instead of nickname or shortened name, she would have seen me.
But he finds her boring as fuck??
If the person on the other side of the adultery knows so and continues with the relationship regardless, I would say yes, it's definitely morally wrong. They are effectively benefitting off of something that brings harm to someone else.
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LOL you did this to yourself, I hope he’s happy without you.
As it seems he moved in and then brought his children there. He started crying and shut down the conversation when she finally started speaking up – that’s emotional manipulation. I see enough information.
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Be prepared for full custody, if she doesn’t want to be a mom anymore as much as that’s horrible and may change in the future, the courts can’t force her to have custody.
Let him know that you will do it, but there are only 2 possible outcomes:
Outcome 1: The kid is not his and he leaves you.
Outcome 2: The kid is his, you leave him, and he never meets his child.
Ask if he's prepared for those outcomes.
What’s his Reddit?
Simple. Use the room with the rig when he is working. You don’t need to do so on his whim, just up a schedule. 9-5 is for work. During those hours you get priority to the rig room and he to the RMT room. He gets to play after that.
Of course if you don’t have studies and he doesn’t have client he can play there, but if you need to study, you get exclusive priority during work hours.
If the air filter doesn’t work, ask him to smoke outdoors or under the kitchen fan. It’s just simple manners.
We haven’t discussed that option yet. I don’t think it’s a an automatic “no” from her. I believe she doesn’t know where to turn for help. Thank you for the idea!
I’ve had similar experience. I finally asked my husband why if he acting so terrible in the mornings (for years) and we discovered it is b4 he has not had a cigarette yet. I wonder if OP’s wife is a smoker too. And it is not the sofa or coffee but the cigarette she has that goes with it. My husband stopped smoking few years ago and the first few months in cessation were just terrible. So glad this is over.
We're just not gonna see eye to eye on this.
No, he chose OPs mom and OP over a child he never met. Not the same thing. And now that child has come into his life for the first time and wants a relationship, and clearly the dad does as well.
this mf is LYING SO VERY HOT, hes literally making up stories to farm karma look at the post history
Why the “dear”?
I will definitely bring this up to him. Hopefully it'll be a good wake up call
I stopped reading half way through and now I really wanna slap you.
I hope you are able to terminate the pregnancy so you aren’t stuck with yet another tie to this loser. You deserve better.
Ah good point!
He was on coke.
I’ve been with my partner for only a month less and couldn’t imagine being engaged yet, even though we both believe there’s a strong possibility for a future. Yikes to that timeline.
Second, yeah, he broke your trust. Work or personal, this guy isn’t trustworthy. So now you have to decide if the trust is able to be repaired or not. Good luck to you.
If does if you reject them for race like in the thing I wrote that you replied to.
She would have fucked them in front of you. Braless and only wearing knickers with 2 guys, that's where it was heading.
we online together yes ^ also do home office together
Kick them both down the stairs
Very valid
Oh and It would be interesting to ask in r/Ireland the same question!
it’s not small but i believe it’s pretty tight squeeze with them all in there
Figure out how you feel about your girlfriend before even thinking about a new person. And end things before you start sleeping with someone. It's a shitty thing to cheat.
The plot thickens…
If this includes holidays, he’s married.
Maybe do a background check on him, a professional background check not some fly by night outfit, you can also see if he's on linkd in.
Make sure you're searching that state's board with the person's name rather than mixing up the first name and middle name. Make sure they are spelled correctly. Also, they might be doing telemedicine, but probably not with the specialty you state, so they might be licensed in a different state from where they online.
As an anecdote, this one time, I was on a date, drinking wine al fresco, and someone I kinda knew came up to us and told my date that I really wasn't a lawyer because she couldn't find my license live!. I have a bigass latino name, with easy mizpellings, so if she had looked up my real name instead of nickname or shortened name, she would have seen me.
Spare her feelings? More like spare him from consequences.
Yes, he does