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Thank you for this reply. About the mutual respect–she can be jealous when it comes to me admiring other women or vice versa unless it's under her watch. I simply wouldn't put myself in a position where she would feel weird or worry about anything, and I want the same.
And you're completely right about me not actually setting boundaries. But that's my dilemma. My boundaries would be not being somewhere like that in the first place. It's not that I don't want her to not be friends with these people, but I don't want her alone in a situation where things could escalate. It just feels nude to communicate that because it's loosely asking to not be around them as much I guess?
I wish, so much, that I just didn't give a shit and that creeping thoughts didn't get to me. I know it stems from insecurity but it feels like I'll never outgrow it.
What was the problem and how did it help?
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Two things:
I’ve discussed this with both my grandmother (who I’m renting the house I’m moving into, it’s a long story), and my therapist (who agrees I need to set nude boundaries with my father).
I gave each of them a list of maybe…4 ideas each? And of course offhand I mentioned some stuff here and there like, “oh yeah that looks nice,” or, “I could use some glasses for the house.”
I'd just mention that she talks about her ex a lot and it comes across like he's still a big part of her life.
Are you and your wife tracking her ovulation cycle and taking ovulation tests ? That was a game changer for my wife and I when we struggled to conceive our daughter.
The goal of this sub is to resolve relationship issues so here is my 2p (2.47¢ for those in America).
You say you were a prison guard for a while so you should know that this sort of thing is what arises from families with a lot of trauma. There is a bond between these people that transcends the idea of people doing good or bad things. Yeah this guy is a sex offender and if you have children you are well within your rights to demand he not be around them and you are also within your rights to not want to be around him, have him near you, hear about him etc etc. You know that and I don't think anyone would disagree if you tried to assert those rights.
As far as the family is concerned though there is going to be a significant trauma bond and if you try to force breaking that, I don't think you're going to win. The things you've mentioned in your post are very extreme, in sure there's things you haven't mentioned and I'm just certain there are other things you don't know about. This is a family that has been under prolonged and violent attack from the rest of the world for a very long time, trying to force an issue like this will trigger a defensive reaction.
As far as things you can do to rectify this situation are concerned you can speak to your wife and try to get her to open up about some of these things and what has gone on. If she doesn't have a therapist maybe she can get one. You also have one advantage here: this guy has been in prison for a while. They have not had a huge amount of contact and he's going to become an even bigger burden to the family. Trying to stop your wife seeing him will only make her want to do it more, but if you play the long game and give him enough rope, he's going to hang himself with it (just an expression!). I think you'll see, especially if he goes back to old behaviour, that your wife will turn against him on her own and the best thing you can do to speed that process along is be the supportive husband and to calmly and without confrontation put down whatever boundaries you think are required to ensure the safety of your family (without dictating to your wife what she can and can't do)
It seems like they are looking for more than a 1-off so you need to find out whether they are looking for you to be a regular FWB or whether they are thinking throuple.
You should, I think, try it once. You'll get a far clearer picture of the dynamic and whether this is something you'd do again and at that point you can say 'not again, thanks' or 'yeah, that was fun'. There's always the chance that it'll implode their relationship and you're 1 and done anyway.
It's funny, you're living someone's dream but don't really want it.
Looking at her post history, this is kind of par for the course with the boyfriend. He's a chronic weed user who mostly wants to eat junk food and fried food, and who never exercises. After they found out about his fertility issues, he promised he'd change since chronic weed use is linked to lower sperm counts (not just a little difference, a significantly lower sperm count). Then he promptly went back on that, said he wasn't going to change and was just going to pay for in vitro. She's already on medications to help with her own fertility issues and he'd rather make her go through even more (hormones, egg harvest, etc…) because he doesn't want to cut back on weed or exercise.
She's been posting about him for a year. He struggles with depression, refuses to seek any sort of treatment, tells her she's making it worse when she brings getting treatment up. He refused to go on vacation with her last year, said she could go on her own, then promptly lashed out at her when she planned a trip on her own to see a friend. Honestly, this guy is awful and I'm worried that OP has fallen into the Sunken Cost fallacy thinking she's spent so much time on this relationship, she has to proceed, especially as she wants kids. This guy will never give her kids or marry her.