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That's up to you. If you can get over it then great… She mentioned this before you dated and a year into dating you're still thinking about it. I wouldn't be able to get over it either.
What I have learned being in a relationship for 8+ years is that there’s no such thing as a ‘normal’ relationship or specific rules. It’s all about respecting each other. My bf doesn’t hang out with my friends and it doesn’t bother me. I don’t hang out with his either. My friend’s relationship consist of her hanging out with his husband’s friends but her husband doesn’t hang out with hers. They have been together for 13+ years. It works out. If there is something that bothers you… something that conflicts your values and beliefs as an individual… have a talk with your partner. I’m sorry, my values consist of that family comes first so in your case, I would have to ditch him and his friends to spend time with my family. I will have to do that. Hope that helps.
PLEASE re-home this puppy. I'm so distraught about this poor dog's situation.
Yeah, she’s attaching way too quickly. I would slow that down. Don’t take calls you don’t want in fact you really want a second date?
It’s okay for this to be a boundary. And it’s not a stupid reason to walk away from a relationship. You can grow incompatible throughout a relationship and this might be the case for you.
“Partner, I love you very much, and I really hope you will take into consideration how I feel. I’m not telling you what to do. But I strongly feel that this is going to impact me as it already has, and so I feel like you should hear me out.”
If he doesn’t care, that’s the dealbreaker. Not the tattoos, but the lack of care for how you feel.
They're doing it.
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He drinks to the point where he behaves inexcusably and then when sober he denies he did anything wrong. This is problem drinking. He may think it's not interfering with his life but it's messing up yours. You can't change him. You can only change your reaction. Accept that this is how he is, or just don't pay any attention to what he says/ does when drunk, or get out.
Anyone who showed up drunk at my work function would be gone before the end of the evening.
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Another one ☝? (dj Khalid voice)
Why would you expect an invitation to your SO’s party non specific themed/gendered party that was mentions to a group chat? Aren’t you automatically invited? If not, then this relationship won’t last. But it also won’t last because you 2 seem incompatible.
My advice is to grow a pair and be honest with her. If weed is that important, end things and move on. If you are willing to give up weed, do it and stop being a dishonest partner.
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If she suffered a miscarriage, there might be some more trauma, especially because you got the vasectomy after a miscarriage. Sex drives are also a different beast. I vote couples counseling.
There’s info missing here.
If it’s a libido difference that’s been discussed than You pestering her for sex should illicit such a response. You said you wanted it on nye. You never even said if she agreed. If you aren’t having sex regularly why would you think you could do it on demand?
Have you talked about it when you aren’t horny? What is your understanding of the reasons why she doesn’t want to be with you sexually? Why things are so strained? Has there been cheating? Does she have trauma? Have you been able to talk about it?? Have you seen a therapist?
No sex is not a reason to cheat. That’s just stupid. If it’s not working it’s not working and you should leave. If you two have never been on the same page sexually and it’s two years in then there is a problem worth leaving for. If you cannot communicate in order to understand what’s going on then you should leave.
Well, ask yourself if you think so little of yourself that you're okay with being cheated on. Once you answer that question then go from there.
On the one hand, I applaud you for trying to make it work. On the other hand… is your husband worth it? Truly worth it? If he's bamboozled that easily by someone outside of your marriage, how can you trust him when some kind of emergency comes up?
As someone who was raised in a broken home (divorced parents, just like about every 2nd kid born in the late 70s or early 80s it seems), yes it's naked on the single parent who's trying to raise a kid by themselves. But it's a lot harder to raise mentally healthy children by staying in an abusive marriage. A marriage without trust is emotionally abusive to everyone involved.
I'd do a couple of things in your shoes.
Get therapy for yourself in addition to group therapy. Hard boundaries for your husband moving forward with that 'friend' Ali. No Contact. She's your worst nightmare. If husband has proof that she lied about you cheating, he needs to give that up. Go to HR and let them know. She may have been doing this to other colleague's or their partners too. Get an STD panel check. If husband dearest is so quick to believe a cheater AND he has been with other women even before the ink on the divorce papers was dry, you really don't know where he's been during your marriage. Don't risk your health or your baby's. If they're hooked, unhook your finances and make sure you only have accounts and credit cards etc. in your own name. Have a shared account only for shared household expenses. Oh and this one's petty: after the kid is born: DNA test to proof it's his kid. If he asks why tell him that since he was so ready to believe you cheated you want absolutely no doubt in his mind that the kid is his.
The idea is that while you may want to reconcile and try to work things out, you need to have something to fall back on if it doesn't. You need to look out for your number 1 and 2: you and your kid.
It’s the way it goes sometimes. Honestly, we would be better off if we listened to each other better. She said the sparks gone and you want to know why. She probably doesn’t know why herself. You really need to accept that as a full and complete answer and move on with your life. Don’t put it on hold hoping she comes back. Just keep moving forward and if the two of you circle back to each other down the road, great. If not, at least you weren’t on pause and kept trekking onward.
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Yeah for now I am.
Look, this guy is trouble, not more. Block him, move on.
Perfectly said. I bet the dsughter doesnt expect the same from male relatives. This whole thing mske me need a nap.
about younger generations these days
There the first generation where both parents had to work, even in middle class. I've found young people believe more in “villages” where they both receive and give help. Unfortunately, everyone who thinks like them is too poor to help. Everyone your age has the money and the property, but they think like you – every person for themselves. Let me be clear – the problem isn't with young people. It's with old people who say “fuck you, I got mine.”
but I’m afraid to let him go and never find someone I like
Better to be single than put up with this. Have some self-respect.
Plus, any good partner is not going to pursue you if you’re not single.
It sounds like he is considering to reconcile with his wife. Right now he is keeping both options open. He is not going to end it with you, because he doesn’t want to have nothing if the reconciliation doesn’t work out.
So this is less about how much he makes, and more about your gender stereotypes.
If you think your boyfriend would feel “emasculated” if you make more than him, the problem isn't money, it's misogyny. It also sounds like you have some pretty antiquated views on gender roles as well.
Look, it's right to step in but it's also wrong of you to decide for someone else that they need to step in. You don't own him.
He does not owe it to everyone else to interfere because of his body is intimidating. He doesn't owe others his body.
It's the right thing to do, sure, but you shouldn't shame him for making choices about his personal safety.
There’s nothing to be confused about. You agreed to exclusively see each other and he’s already talking to other people. If the idea was to see if he was a fit, he’s shown he’s not. End it and move on.
That's exactly what she wants you to think, it's not her fault she was going to shag a co worker it's all yours…………..crack on with the divorce, she could have talked to you at anytime to say she felt neglected but no, go and sneak around with someone else that'll help things…not
Tell him to grow up and deal with it… does he think he'll get you there by acting like this? What a turn-off.
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He will cry it out, let him. He needs to understand the word no.
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I’m not saying it’s healthy for her to be overweight.
She likely has body dysmorphia. I’m saying that if the only thing stopping you committing suicide was not caring about smoking cigarettes then I wouldn’t be advocating for you to quit smoking. I know that neither are healthy and ideally you work on both. It needs a great deal of care. I hope OP can really support her with that.
I was in a situation very similar to yours but it didn’t go on for so long. I was in high school and crazy about two guys who lived far apart. We moved a lot, so at different times I was in relationships with each of them, but not simultaneously. Then we went on a family trip and spent a day with the old flame. We kissed and held hands and passionately reconnected emotionally… but we were both in relationships with other people and far too young to understand the far-reaching impact of our actions. When we went home, our respective others asked us to never contact each other again. Unfortunately my bf was emotionally abusive and took this concept waaay too far, but for the other couple it was a condition for continuing their relationship. I heard through mutual friends that they got married and had kids.
Twenty years later I reached out to both of them to see how they were, out of curiosity. No surprise, abuser was thrilled to hear from me and it quickly became apparent that he was still manipulative. Other guy didn’t respond and immediately blocked me. I realized that was the right thing – to them I was the other woman and there was no upside to us reconnecting.
Let sleeping dogs lie. Move on.
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Get a lawyer to look over it
So it’s for your best interest
Yea and say you're like 57 and 35, ya know? It's on a sliding scale. I just know some couples like that or like my dad's second wife was something like 30 and he was 45 when they got married, and while I don't particularly enjoy her as a person, I'm not sure my father's done anything especially immoral by marrying her.
I hooked up with a 24 year old when I was 31, and it was fine until afterwards, riding in her car, she started playing music by the band Big Time Rush. I felt suddenly and immediately pedophilic and ashamed and never saw her again.
On the other hand, I hooked up with a 23 year old around that same time in my life, that had an unusually tragic past. Her dad had died suddenly outside their house, they just found him dead in the car from a heart attack. She was the one who found him. A few years later she was off finishing college living on her own, and her mother died in her bed reading. Apparently she had gotten involved with a guy who dealt drugs.
This intense sadness seemed to make her much more mature, much more like me in some extremely important way. I did not feel weird at all that I was a bit older than her. Sadly, the circumstances of her parents both dying seemed to drive her a little bit crazy, so I couldn't have pursued a long relationship either way.
At this point I'm just super high tellin stories from the past, lol. I'd feel fucked up if she happened on reddit and saw me talking about her. Yea large age gaps are often strange to American sensibilities, including mine. I think it's because we maybe mature more slowly than our European or Australian counterparts that we have an uncommonly conservative view on romantic relationships with large age discrepancies. Like maybe it just objectively is more predatory to bang an American 20 year old than it is a European 20 year old.
Tl.Dr: just talkin shit at this point
This. Trying to blame it on inexperience? As a 30yo man?
No. No means no. It's as easy as that.
OP told him to stop countless times and he didn't. He can't be trusted alone with women. Period. Women should run from him, including OP.
After I said I can't believe we lost that beautiful thing we had. He sent a message saying 'I am so conflicted in my mind. I know what we have is so amazing, I've been thinking about our memories and looking at our pictures and thinking about what I've done'. This also doesn't mean anything?
I am trying to find at least a small sign he wants me back ?
I agree with you ?.
He is finally showing you who he is. Read everyone else's comments. They are right and give good advice.
No. She is probably healing and bettering herself for someone that actually cares about her. Don’t do that to her.
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I feel like he should've thought about that when recording and sending me the message. It can be copied and shared.
So knowing you would be furious. Is there anything you can think of that would quell your anger if this happened to you?
Instead of calling at a mistake try telling your sister in law that you don't want to hurt her or your children. See what she thinks about the situation. Go slow and try to see both sides of the situation.
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AA is free. I suggest joining and stopping drinking altogether.
You know it is the truth, stop engaging with him!
Your family are enablers!!
Oh. My. God. Fighting about whether someone may have been masterbating or not…… Wth
You should not contemplate. You should end the friendship.
You: Stay away from him. To him: Yikes.
You: Stay away from him. To him: Yikes.
You: Stay away from him. To him: Yikes.
Any way you slice it, that must suck for her. She’s about to have her entire friend group blown up because she questioned someone’s (admittedly questionable, not wrong, but questionable) cosplay costume.
You’re misrepresenting the dynamics we were given by OP. This isn’t happening to Kate because she dared to “question” someone’s costume. She went to the the cosplayer’s SO to enlist his help against her, and when she was correctly (questionable or not) shut down, she condescendingly tells OP that she thought he was better than this.
Reframing this as though Kate is a passive victim of circumstance or her own curiosity is really just denying her agency in how this unfolded.
A mistake would be sending it once and telling you immediately.
She was repeatedly doing it for a week, and only felt sorry when she got caught.
Just leave her.
Did you put it on the fridge yet?
Bro I read your comments you’re here for validation, just do it already. You aren’t right or wrong. Do what you want and if getting him arrested gives you peace then so be it
There is no resolving this. He hit you.
Leave
Immediately
Get back at her by sucking a dick
You're a good man. Art is extremely very hot as a business and the high majority fail to turn a buck, it's neither of your fault.
fair point
You’re an idiot.
Still, her body her choice. You don't have control over what she posts. You're allowed to be upset about it, but ultimately she makes the decision. On top of that, I wouldn't be with a person who plays games like that by saying “I'm just toxic.” It's a weird thing to say and it's like she's fishing for your attention.
I can’t believe I had to look this far to find guess culture vs ask culture! That is EXACTLY what’s going on. OP is ask culture, his wife is guess culture. As someone who was raised in a guess culture family, got sick of it, and has actively worked to become ask culture, I get why OP is annoyed by the way she communicates. Because it’s not just cooking ingredients – I’m sure it’s every single thing she wants/prefers. It does get exhausting to have to constantly be guessing if someone is trying to imply something or ask for something. OP if you read this, my suggestion is to have a talk with your wife and express how you would prefer direct communication, AND make her feel very very safe directly telling you things.
Fair enough, I would not have thought of that, in all honesty!
Not enough people think of that. But everyone who is sexually active should get regular STD checks. At least once a year during your annual physical checkup (which is another thing not everyone does, but should).
You were naturally drawn to someone who stared at you ? Seems you both are attracted and know it. The solution is to stay away from him (don't be friendly), it won't help.
Even if my mom gives him money he will spend them in a day and come back. He has a gambling problem
What has HE said about the situation, and if the meds are causing that much negative impact, maybe it’s better he stops taking them.
You don’t trust the men, but you trust her? Then you can trust that if they make a move she will reject it.
In regards to the trip, she wants to go. You need to decide is that a boundary you can handle her breaking or not.
If she is refusing to discuss it, consider how you are approaching the conversation. What are you biases that could be unconsciously making her defensive from the get go.
Lol it sounds like it. You should probably prioritize you for now. But it seems like you have a good head on your shoulders and you already know the right answer even if it’s very hot to accept
Why would you give gifts to someone who ghosted you?!?!? Return the ones you can, and either save the others for someone in the future, or donate them to charity/give to someone more deserving now.
Short answer; No. There's no coming back from it. You'll always have that thought of him cheating on you in the back of your head. You're worth more than that.
About the introvert thing, she is an introvert, therefore she’s fixated to me and her mood really depends on my answers/doings.
About listening to feelings, unfortunately I find some of her “feelings” really unreasonable, therefore I’m not willing to step back (forcing me to text her at my lunch time, so she knows what’s up, but as you know, sometimes you don’t feel like typing/calling…by forcing I mean, I can choose not to do, but I know, it would result in her emotional breakdown, therefore I have to).
That's just not very realistic with PE especially severe PE. At best, he could make her cum first with hands/toys and then have his turn. Timing cumming at the same time probably would work maybe 1 out of 100 tries in this case.
He’s not actually a chick he’s a guy, he just wasn’t born biologically male. Trans men take testosterone to look like biological men, op isn’t blind for not noticing. It’s not always obvious.
Continues to be first world problems tbh.
Valid point.
I do want to believe him though. It’s just very hot. I’ll probably have another convo with him about it later, though I expect him to brush it off per usual.
Rape doesn’t have to be traumatic for it to be rape.
Nah. That’s weird.
Hey I'm sorry you're going through it, break ups hurt because you're saying goodbye to a person and a part of your life it's very normal to feel this way. Try to focus on yourself, maybe get back to some hobby's to used to enjoy or something you've always wanted to pick up? Try to see some friends and hang out. You'll slowly start feeling better after a while.
Remind yourself if he felt that way he simply wasn't the one for you even though it seemed perfect for a while, he actually wasn't. Now you can move on, work on being who you want to be and maybe someone that loves you for you will come your way eventually. Take care!
You should text or call him and see what's up….naturally farting on the first date is a turn off and believe it or not a man may not desire a woman that rips a fart on the first impression (no matter the reason), yes farting is natural but people need to be serious nobody is going to love the idea that their S/O will fart a storm for all he knows. For 12JGC3 to say if the guy doesn't accept a coffee date to make up for the first that he's not worth keeping, is one of the most delusional statements I've read in a while…as if the guy doesn't want to take a chance on being on the receiving end of another blowout something is wrong with him an isnt worth being with….SMH
So you’re willing to risk your life bc you’re afraid you will disappoint them? What about disappointing yourself?
You don't. A proposal should never be a surprise.
You can't truly be this gullible? Girl what about this seems normal to you? Sorry for being harsh but I'm shocked
I respect your opinion and thanks for sharing. Just for my own benefit why do I need professional help? Was there something I said that makes you think I am wrong about the narcissistic behavior? I assure you this is not an argument this is really me trying to better myself.
Too true?
We had a huge fight over it because obviously I want to visit my parents. I don’t know what to do. I want to spend a few nights at my parents’ place but my husband can’t keep the baby by himself for a few nights so I don’t think I can go by myself.
Why can't you start out by simply inviting your parents over to your place or in a public place? That way you and the baby are safe for sure.
This actually happens a lot. Had a buddy who was dating a girl for almost a year, he was 22 she was “18.” They broke up because he eventually found out she was actually 16 about to turn 17 and was in college because she dropped out, got a GED, and went to community college early. And he literally didn’t find out until one of her friends texted her about “her 17th birthday party” and he saw the text.
That makes sense. Talk to him about it. Opening the relationship requires lots of open communication.
So you're saying it's accepted by society that women are supposed to say no but it's not accepted by men that they should hear the word no?
I don’t like surprises, especially when they take the place of something I was looking forward to. What she should have done is given him his sandwich then invited him to the bedroom for “dessert”, then he gets to eat and unwind and feel heard while she also gets to give him a surprise and to feel wanted.
Just here about the networking aspect of this situation. Knowing some extra contacts in the company is always helpful. In the world we live in, it’s not what you know it’s who you know.
I would encourage you two to mix your work groups sometimes. Networking is a huge aspect in large corporations.
In fact, medication won't change him more than self-medication with alcohol already has. He is already being changed through his unwillingness to address the problem.
This is such a well thought out and reasonable post full of growth and introspection on the OP's part; I have to think that the husband is already checked out if he is truly satisfied with living like this. Life can be so much more than survival, but you don't see that when you're drowning. Maybe he just needs a wakeup call; maybe if OP sat him down and told him explicitly that she is developing and growing away from him and can't languish in this unhappy environment devoid of meaning and connection anymore, that she is going to leave him if he doesn't make changes to himself.
Every day I feel so lucky that when I told my partner that his mental illness was affecting me badly and making me very unhappy, that he immediately went to therapy and got on meds. Because my unhappiness was unacceptable to him. I don't get the sense that OP's unhappiness is unacceptable to her husband, because for her husband unhappiness is the normal state of affairs.
Ultimately though, his childhood was ruined because of things beyond his control. He now has agency though to save the relationships that are important to him as an adult – he just needs to seek help.
I'm afraid a whole generation+ of people, especially women will regret not having kids when they could have, only to realize at 40+ that they can't. It's not wrong to not have or want kids. I just think people are leaning/choosing not to for all the wrong reasons, namely living lives and making decisions based on a foundation of fear. I think it's by design but that's a different topic (look at the local news, fear/sensationalism sells).
I personally know people who deal with panic attacks and anxiety/depression and their amazing mothers. Is the birth process weird, unbelievable, gross? Definitely, but IMO it's 100x more beautiful. Time will change your body if pregnancy doesn't. There are many athletes competing at the highest levels after becoming moms. If that's your goal/passion, it's not automatically squelched. I understand why people don't feel the least bit empowered toward the thought of having kids and I think self-awareness toward a fear based mindset/perspective is a huge key in unlocking good change here, whether you chose to or not.
Your husband knows you deal with these things and still wants to father your babies right? Should tell you something and give you empowerment/confidence. He knows your body will change and still wants to have kids with you. etc. etc.
Your right that it's a massive change, and significantly more of a change for you than him. Undeniable. Ive experienced it to be and bring very very good change.
Not believing in couples counseling is bullshit btw. 100% with you there, that's dumb. A bad councilor sucks but the right fit can be really fruitful for you two.
I don't know you but feel like you need to hear YOU GOT THIS (if you so choose).
Ok text his wife. Maybe she needs a secret friend too?
“Don’t throw good years after bad.” This really gives me some perspective. Thank you for your thoughtful insight; I am asking myself many of the same questions and now feel validated.
How are you already keeping up with this behaviour for SEVEN years?
Cut them off
She doesn’t want you finding someone else until she does. Sort of a contingency. Yeah you cheated and acknowledge what you did was wrong, but they doesn’t mean you need to stick around if she comes around. If I were you, I’d keep it as just friends and coparenting.
Looks like breaking up is the right choice. A LDR for a person in your age bracket who is in a Uni environment is a recipe for disaster. Focus on gaining your careers.
What do you like about him? You got to do pros as well as cons.
It doesn't sound like she was doing what you think she was doing, it more sounds like she was trying to initiate sex, since that isn't masturbation. That's basically dry humping, if I remember it correctly. She probably felt you two were close enough to do that.
What I can advise though is that since you didn't like that, I think you just need to be open and honest about it, and tell her. She will not know what to do and what not to do if you do not simply tell her. She is your girlfriend after all and you two have sex, it's okay to have boundaries, but those things must be communicated… You should be open to forgiveness and speak to her about it, especially since she didn't push it after realising you were not reciprocating it. I think she would be understanding of you, so try to write down what you feel and what you want to say and talk to her about it.
Or just go home. All this is crazy. It won't kill you to cut an evening short once in awhile.
No they weren’t a minor they were about 23-24, I will add that in though.
I was always happy to pay some child support, it really isn’t a big deal for me. My concern is being responsible for the child’s well-being.
She thought by keeping it off books she could just pass the kid off and get away free and clear with no child support or responsibilities ?
OP has the responsibility and reasoning skills of a 17 year old baby daddy
He is not your friend. He’s a child abuser.
I hope so, for your own sake, but I would take it with a grain of salt…
That's a great idea! Way to play the system!
You learn to get a feel for it, and you only get to start out mediocre-bad.
Go in confident, take it slow when you’re there. Don’t rub teeth, don’t shove a tongue down her throat, don’t cover her in slobber, don’t go limp lips like a guppy, and don’t latch on like a lamprey.
Maybe you suck a bottom lip and bite it as lightly as possible, maybe you pull hair very lightly (Unless she is wearing a weave, do not), you learn as you go and it depends on situation.
Most of it though is going with the flow and avoiding the don’t’s.
Don’t go. Period.
Be aware that communication and comfort is an important part of a relationship. Right now you are walking on eggshells and you are terrified to be honest because you worry she will explode.
And the reality is that whether she means to be or not that shows she is toxic. Her tantrums are getting her what she wants, they are forcing you to constantly humour her. She doesn't mean to manipulate you but she is. If you aren't careful you will also become a straight up enabler of that behaviour.
Reality is that her approach to dealing with her fear of abandonment is dysfunctional. In reality she is slowly burning you out, the fatigue is getting to the point you are already working out how long you can avoid engaging with her. Eventually you will completely crack and at that point you'll either respond in a hostile way, have an emotional breakdown, or run away. At that point her fear she will be abandoned will be fulfilled and she will retroactively justify acting the way she did because she was 'right' or whatever. In the end she will perpetuate her own fears and suffering and destroy you, and anyone else she dates, in the process.
Time to get real. You've let this go on a year. This will never go away, and the longer it drags out the worse it will be and the less energy you will have to deal with it. If your hope is this is helping her then be careful.
They believe I consider myself catholic, but they do know I do not attend a church. This is a really complicated topic in my family due to the long gap of not practicing religion at all so between my parents and siblings, we all just avoid the subject. However, that rule apparently does not apply to wedding ceremonies. I have never specifically told them I reject the religious affiliation because doing that essentially forces them to acknowledge they failed to raise their child Catholic which makes them defensive and upset.
So they know I’m not a true Catholic but they don’t know to what extent.
Y’all aren’t compatible, you are going to resent her,you have every right to have preference and so she does as well. She will need sort of a wake up to get up and make change happen, you’re cutting urself short by tolerating her and she’s also cutting her self short by tolerating you. You deserve to be happy and accepted and she also deserves the same. Part your ways. Don’t even think about proposing to her rn
If you want her back, I would do something that would be interpreted as kind, thoughtful and without pressure.
Eg. A spa day or night away at a hotel or a gift voucher for her to have dinner with friends. You should preface it with a card that you are proud of how very hot she is working on her masters and her dreams and this is for her to relax and have time to unwind – Not a gift for you to invite yourself to or be part of. Offer to have the kids so she can take this time guilt and Organization free.
Thank you for engaging. I agree with you. Generally, when he uses the term “family” he is referring to his parents and sisters specifically EXCLUDING our daughter and me. She is at an age where she observes and asks questions. So essentially, my question ought to be whether I married a boy huh?
Impossible situation. She isn’t mad at you and she is probably super happy for you. She is mad at herself. It’s like when one sibling is super rich and successful and the other isn’t. They aren’t made at the others wins in life they are mad they couldn’t do the same.
Her staying away is mostly for her but I think a good portion of it is for you. She can’t be happy for you and supportive like she wants because of all the sadness she has.
Time heals all wounds so try to be strong
If nothing changes, then nothing changes…yk?
Good lord, go to the damn doctor. She’s right, despite your well intentions. It’s extremely dangerous for you to not only drive like this, but you never know what the true intentions of the girls are. You don’t know what’s going to happen while you’re doing this, you could fall asleep while driving and injure you both, a pissed daddy may be waiting when you pull up to her house, or pissed boyfriend, uncle, brother, etc.
Do you enjoy torturing yourself?
If hes truly afraid of you..nothing you say will change that. He has to work through that himself. That's a him issue if hes not being mistreated by you. I truly hope he gives therapy another shot.
Does your husband know that the said person has a history of making racist and misogynistic comments?
Stop inviting your best friend. She's a terrible wingman.
Find another friend who you like and enjoy hanging with, who you feel equally attractive or a little bit more than. Start hanging out with her around men.
There is no sense in bringing your BFF around when she's single because the GUYS are going to want to try for it. Whynot? How often are they around noticeably beautiful women with a legit reason to talk to them and not be a creep? Not often. SO they are going to.
She's shitty for not chatting with you about who you're interested in and declining invites if she doesn't know how to not flirt.
Thanks, I really needed to hear that
Look at least you know why the friend is still there living with you , probably been assured it's going to happen soon
First off I wouldn't touch a drop of alcohol while this other guy is living with you or in the house with you
If you have to I would tell the husband that you MIGHT consider it if the friend fucks him first.
and yet Jake wants to join that fraternity…
So that can pretty clearly cause the issues you're talking about. Is she getting therapy?