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Hi guys have my first week happy, ♥ #lovense #skinny #c2c #smalltits [183 tokens remaining]
Date: October 9, 2022
Hi guys have my first week happy, ♥ #lovense #skinny #c2c #smalltits [183 tokens remaining]
So you don't like her going out to party, or is there anything more to this story?
Leave and call the police
Is it mental or physical illness?
Are you receiving treatment? Why did you quit instead of sick leave?
What did he say about quitting your job and your illness?
What is your recovery timeline?
Making jokes about having sex with her in front of you is blatantly disrespectful. Dude doesn't respect your boundaries or you as a person/girlfriend. Might be time for a fresh start. There are men out there who will not do that shit.
Also, to be clear, I’m not looking for medical advice for her – just general relationship advice about how to handle the situation
He is using you. Stop sleeping with him. He doesn't like or respect you. If he got you pregnant or gives you an STI he wouldn't care or help. If he finds someone he thinks is “better” he's going to ghost you.
You deserve more than to be treated so poorly. Stop seeing or talking to him, please.
They weren't expecting the long term parking to be full. They were going to pay for it to be at the airport.
Okay? I'm not sure that makes a difference.
Are we reading the same post? She shared dark thoughts with an anonymous support group, and he wandered into the middle of it.
I posted a memory on Reddit recently involving an ex and an experience we shared on a Pilates ball. To anonymous people with no intention of getting back with the ex, and certainly no intention of hurting my wife (and hearing about it would most likely hurt her.).
My therapist knows just how dark my fantasies got at one point when I was desensitized to porn.
My wife has been spared all that and she knows that while she can trust me to not cheat live she also has to let me have my privacy.
Otherwise she’s going to be the one drinking in her car sorting out her thoughts.
Arent there any laws which legally entitle her to keep the same lifestyle
It depends on the state.
The person who replied to you who has been in your situation had good advice.
Don't rush things with the relationship. Moving in or marriage. It's kind of weird that you started paying all her bills after you'd only dated a couple months. I'm not sure what that says.
Hopefully it doesn't boil down to calling me names and various threats of SH. Its a bit crap because he isn't one to stay friends with exs, and he's great company.
Getting judged for dating an older man wasn’t the advice she was looking for, from what I read. Maybe I misread it.
There are no magic words that are going to make her hear and understand and change her behaviour. She has heard you repeatedly. You’re not speaking Martian; she understands you. She knows you want an equal division of Labour. She doesn’t, or you’d have one. She knows you want her behaviour to change. She only wants to change her behaviour long enough to get you off her back. You have shown her repeatedly that that’s good enough, because she lapses back to her usual ways and you go round the same merry go round again.
You cannot fix behaviour that someone else doesn’t want to fix and is getting something out of that they don’t want to give up. She is incentivised to enjoy her comfortable life where you do all the housework. She doesn’t care enough about how you feel about that to do the housework herself. Why are you putting up with someone who claims to love you telling you, over and over again, that you feeling equally valued and happy is less important to her than the fact she doesn’t want to spend three minutes on taking out the trash or thirty seconds using a toilet brush?
If you are happy to go on like this forever then sure, try another talk, throw in some ultimatums. It won’t matter, but as long as you’re happy with how you’re living you can keep trying the same thing.
If you actually want how you live to change then tell her you’re moving out, and then either that you’ll consider continuing the relationship if she gets into therapy, shows she can pull her weight at living as an independent adult, and works to regain your trust; or that it’s over because you don’t believe she has the desire to change and it has ended your wish for a relationship. The latter is the sensible option.
He’s setting boundaries because he wants to give you some wiggle room but he’s stating what he can’t cope with. It’s not because he doesn’t care, it’s because he does.
Just because he’d be ok with you making out with another woman doesn’t mean you have to. But no kissing boys….
You need to pick yourself up. Go out with your friends. Go have fun. Celebrate being single and free. DO not think about your loser ex. He is no longer wasting your time. You now have room for someone who will love and cherish. One door closes another opens. Onward to new experiences and friendships.
Sounds like you are not a match.
But note that to be in a balanced relationship you need to “make space” for the other person. It could be that he’s a tool, but it could also be that you are not allowing him some space to grow more into the partnership and assume more responsibilities.
When I moved in with my partner I gave up some tasks (gladly) like shoveling snow and cutting the grass, and he happily took them over. I want a partnership and to share household tasks. Not dominate and do everything. If I had kept doing everything, our relationship would not have worked.
So this is how it is..
She cheats because you absolutely neglected her for years and she comes clean and works on it. ONS or short fling ranging from 1 to 2 months max.
It's fixable.
She neglects you despite your efforts, gaslights you then you find out by yourself..
Not fixable..usually.
Why are you accepting this as what you deserve?
Do you want your daughter to think it's normal for her partner to abuse her this way? Do you think she should have no privacy? That her partner should go through her phone and hurt her when they think she's done something wrong?
If you won't accept it for your child, why are you accepting it for yourself?
She could have killed your child. The lamp could have struck her in the skull and then where would you be? Would it still be your fault?
Honey, a good therapist can help you value yourself enough to believe you deserve better. Her love should not cost you so much.
It's time for an ultimatum- She gets therapy or you are done. You and your child deserve a soft life full of love. Stand up for yourself. Love doesn't have to be like this.
I'm so sorry. Lean on someone you love honey, let them support you. ❤️
Yeah, but like why? What exactly is it about a relationship they don’t feel ready for? Are they interested in a relationship someday?
I don’t know, I would just want to know more if I were in your situation. “ I’m not ready for relationship, but I want to be friends.” Like ok, as your friend, I’d like to know what your issues with relationships are so I can understand you better and be of help.
The whole thing just sounds like it needs more discussion. Maybe it’s an uncomfortable discussion but hey, at least you’ll know if he can handle those ones in case things get serious.
This is a bad situation. I don't know about your financial situation here, but I think it's time to make arrangements. Putting money aside, and as soon as you can, you can move out. If you have friends or family close, maybe move in there?
If you have to stay and keep saving up, I think you should put your foot down and confront him about these games he is playing and tell him you won't be intimate with him anymore. If he is all smiling and loving just to get some puss, you don't want it. If he ain't genuine with you, you don't want him.
You are not a toy for him to play with.
Well there’s never a good time to tell someone you supposedly love that you cheated on them. If you want to have a chance to truly make this right you need to come clean. I would be devastated that all it took for you to ruin our marriage was some attention.
If you are doing everything to keep the relationship going, then you no longer have a relationship, you have a codependency. You aren’t doing yourself any favours by keeping her around.