My (22F) bf (32M) didn’t let me pick up my family, how to proceed now?

TL;DR my boyfriend didn’t let me pick up my family from a party, because he claims I’m unfit for driving with 3hrs of sleep.

I think I need a reality check. Everyone has a different opinion on this. I’m not sure if I should continuing being angry at him or apologize.

My cousin and her husbands family were going to a party on Saturday night. On Friday evening they asked me if I could pick them up on Sunday morning at 4:30-5:00am. The club is 80km away and one way drive would’ve taken approximately 1:30hrs.

I talked with my bf about it, since I would be driving with his car (it’s practically mine, I’m the only one who drives it, but he bought it and pays tax), and he gave green light.

I also asked if I could maybe join them, to this question he got very angry. He said no, because we just moved and practically nothing is done in our new flat and he wanted me to unpack our stuff on Sunday, and that he needs to sleep because he has to drive 7hrs to work on Sunday(he always stays awake when I go out at night till I’m back). I said fine I’ll just pick em up. At this point the air between us was already tight (I hope you understand what I mean).

On Saturday I had to work til 9:30pm. I was home at 10pm, took a shower, ate and at 12pm I was ready for bed.

He then asked me when I was planning to wake up, I said 3:00am. He then said he changed his mind and he won’t let me pick them up with only 3 hours of sleep. I was shocked and asked why and tried to convince him, and told him they’re stuck and he can’t keep me from helping my family. He said he will never let me drive drunk, high or tired and that I should’ve gone to sleep right away after I came home. Also to tell them that they have to look for someone else, and that I would put their lives at risk by driving tired. We argued back and forth, he hid the car keys for me. I told him I’ll get a taxi to their place and use one of their cars. He answered if I do this, I’m only coming back once, to pack my things and leave.

He gave me the option to get into the car right now (it was approximately 12:40pm at this point) and pick them up. I mocked him a little bit and he said, alright if you’re disrespecting me like this it seems like you don’t value me nor what I’m providing for you, you won’t be driving my car, end of discussion. (Now I know mocking him was REALLY dumb an disrespectful) Luckily my family managed to find someone else to pick them up.

It was a very horrible fight and very traumatic for me. I feel like I failed my family but also my bf. But I also am angry of my bf because I think how he acted wasn’t fair at all towards me. I’m so heartbroken because my cousin said he isn’t welcome at their house anymore wich makes me so goddamn sad, because family is very important for me and my bf should be included.

Sorry for any bad grammar and mistakes, not a native speaker.

Thanks