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Or manipulating OP by saying she will off herself. OP is not being very assertive
Dude you need to leave her. This will only get worse
When I was underweight I didn't get my period often
But literally nothing from OP suggests that this is a fetish. All she knows is that he looked up videos of disabled women, not that he was watching it for a fetish. She has just jumped to a worst case scenario because since she was a teenager she ingrained in herself that she couldn’t be truly loved. For all we and she know her husband could be watching these videos to learn how to better accommodate her. This could very well be OP’s low self esteem warping her view of what is actually happening.
Like people refer to small tits as an insult. People are mean but you have to be happy in your own body and I know most people have hang ups including myself but you know what fuck it..people are mean so I can't let them get inside my head about my body.
But my point was no one should feel insulted about something that is completely normal and natural and everyone should stop pretending that all these men are walking around with huge dicks, they are not. Most are average.
My ex husband is quite large and still had hang ups about the size because of porn, they watch this shit at 16 and feel inadequate when it is not real. Most men are average and shouldn't let society and porn tell them there is something wrong with that.
Sometimes just forgetting about a petty argument isn't the worst thing – there have been silly fights in my relationship where we both knew we've been jerks and decided to just forget about it. 😉
However, if it's a repeat thing, it is worth sitting down and checking what's the reason behind IMHO. We all have our triggers and it's worth knowing our own and the one's of our partners. It won't stop every fight, but it helps.
Maybe you can find a pattern in your arguments or figure out what sets each of you off and the work on a way through that.
People even friends usually do not care about others problems unless they can relate or been thru a similar issue. I wouldnt take it personal. Ive been on bith sides of the fence. I can say that when Ive been on the negative side of the fence I was feeling the same way you feel so that taught me to be a better listener.
Im sorry that you are going through what you are going through…
Have you tried messaging a friend privately as oppose to speaking to all of them on a group chat?
Try talking to one of them privately and ask them to go with you on a walk or go grab lunch. Im sure one of your friends will lend you an ear.
He’s not claiming seeing no signs ! He’s stating everything his wife said and he’s not saying that those things didn’t happen he’s saying he didn’t think they were rape. The actions happened and she was medicated. We don’t know what she was exactly given it varies but he could have well raped her. He needs to be specific. It doesn’t matter if she was saying “yeah fuck me” if she’s also on a good dose Valium.
I don't try to convince OP to do shit apart from throwing his nonsensical “statistics” out of the window.
His views are valid. Childish, uninformed but still valid.
OP is here for advice. My advice is to become more informed what co-living means in legal terms. And what marriage means.
I'm sorry but “statistics says + add some random number and some random fact” sounds a bit… artificial and untrue.
And we are here to try and find out the real reason so we can give some valid advice.
I'd like to clarify that he's done this in the past, when I've not had a crush on anyone. My problem is that I get too emotionally attached to people. I know I know, I'm defending myself, but I feel it needs to be said that he's done this before. Regardless of me liking someone or not.
I think it depends from person to person. Some people are ok with throwing profanities out left and right, and it helps them relieve stress. In his case, it seems like this isn’t the case since he’s always upset/ranting. The profanity isn’t doing him any good, and is bothering you, so this is definitely unhealthy.
They can afford to because you don't know them…
Thank you for replying, I agree she should refrain from talking to him after all of this. And a whole context is missing, it was a pretty big party, so I wasn't spending time with “him”, we were at the same place with different people. I doubt she could feel betrayed by me, she knew we would be at the same place, and I can't have any control over someone else's behaviour. I should have spend the new year's eve with her but she went to her family after he broke up.
Yes he totally sounds like a jackass, and I can only hope for him to grow up and stop hurting others, and himself too, even if he probably can't realise it yet.
I was asking because she can't stop thinking it was her fault, that she can “win him back” if she works on it. I tend to think that if I was in her shoes, I would like to know, and if I was to learn it later, I would probably feel betrayed to learn that a friend knew and kept that information. But that is easy to say as this is not my current situation.
are you stupid
If they don’t have children, yet, they could go for an annulment instead of a divorce.
He’s worried if he does dad might grab them!
I’m not really worried about her leaving me for someone else but it’s how drastic the change has been. Literally within the space of a couple months she’s went from the girl who’d rarely go the club in jeans and a fairly covered top to wanting to go regularly in ultra revealing dresses which nearly have her entire boobs out.
I think he’s making his intentions/feelings clear. You shouldn’t have to beg someone to be with you. It should be an equal enthusiasm between both of you. People need to have a sense of self worth and know when to give up a cause.
You’ll find someone much better who you don’t have to basically “guilt” into going out with you. Best of luck OP
So you put up a boundary but don't actually make it stick? Then this is on you. The solution is pretty simple — either he uses a condom and practices good hygiene or you stop having sex with him. (Actually stop, not just complain then give in ). STOP HAVING SEX WITH HIM.
Exactly why I’m upset.
She de-aged quick
Sounds like he lacks actual direction in life.
Rushing into a new relationship when there aren’t even divorce papers was an answer for her.
She wants out of the relationship, more than fair enough even if half of what OP has said is true – so get out. Don’t stay in contact with OPs mom.
Hi there, I do mortgage lending and have helped many early 20's work towards independent homeownership. It's both possible, more accessible than ever, and much more common than you'd think.
OP, what would you advise a friend if they said this exact situation to you. Would you say “makes sense” or would you say he’s off his f*¥ing rocker?
Here’s a simple solution. If you feel it’s unfair (because it takes 2) here’s how you control the birth control situation. 1- no sex aka abstinence since he’s saying only you are responsible (which is so damn lazy) or 2- use a condom. No exceptions.
Or, better yet, get a BF that respects you and your boundaries with BC and takes it equally responsible. I would not be letting some douche canoe stick their dick in me if they were claiming they aren’t responsible for BC.
Malicious compliance would be the answer me _(“~)_/
Have you told him exactly how you’re feeling and how he’s damaged trust?
To start, you can confide in your best friend and ask her if she’s still in contact with your BF about his surprise, if she can kind of ‘chat’ with him about how you might not be ready, and that he needs to hold off until at least the fall or winter, and then bring it up with your friend again.
He’s likely afraid you’re close to walking, so he thinks proposing will magically fix things. If he’s determined to propose, get your friend to make sure he does it in private, so if you’re not ready, you can decline without making a big scene.
Or… if you don’t want to deal with all of that, then I also do think it’s appropriate for you to bring up how you’re not ready. You don’t even have to say your friend blabbed. You can bring up the argument again and just say how thankful you are that you both were able to work through it, but that it showed you how you are not yet ready for marriage. Perhaps explaining it that way will help him hold off.
You don't just try to kiss someone like that. He's used to being platonic with you (even if it includes flirting).
And you just without consent in a vulnerable position, after drinking? Think you should kiss him? He'd definitely feel shocked and even attacked.
Which activates fight or flight response, add in some culture toxic masculinity and so a slur comes out. It's not right to use slurs, but I wouldn't take it so personally in a situation like that. I feel like the slur can be forgiven.
“Hey @Steve gonna game, you free to join for a bit?” It took me all of 7 seconds to type that out.
i've been seeking treatment for about a year now nothing has really helped but thank you
Your edit sounds a bit unrelated, but just on that basis you should break up with her. Why would you want to be with somebody who doesn't respect you and is constantly making fun of you in front of other people? Wtf?
I love feeling clean and shower daily in regular life, but I also enjoy multi-day backpacking trips. Regular old unscented baby wipes for the armpits and the undercarriage are the answer.
what a long post over nothing. You guys have broken up. Him viewing your stories super fast doesn’t mean shit. Move on.
Thank you, in all honesty…you had a reaction I really hoped from my husband after that birth. I had almost expected and hoped for him to encourage me not to have another after to seeing me go through that. I felt so distant from him the instant he didn’t seem to have the empathy and understanding i thought he would.
My body feels like a shell of what it once was…i know it’s fresh from battle essentially but I can’t imagine doing that again. I felt like I wouldn’t survive it mentally or physically.
I wish you and you family the best, and I hope you teach your son the empathy you clearly have
a month is no time do it now before you really waste both of your time
Do you still love him? Cause it sounds from the cons list that your honeymoon phase has ended a while ago and it might not continue in real “love” as people tend to say.
Perhaps the rose-tinted glasses fell off and he didn't seem that good of a partner anymore. Which is fine, that happens.
However if you have fallen out of love with him, you shouldn't stay with him because you don't want to be alone. Both you AND him deserve to be with someone that actually loves you romantically.. Not just because they don't want to leave.
I think that's a question you should ask yourself.. Whether you're okay with putting the effort in for him because you love him, or are you just staying with him because you're scared to be alone.
If the first one is the case then good! Y'all should sit down together and have an adult conversation about what your missing or would like to change. Perhaps make it a monthly/bi-monthly thing.. Like a relationship check up to make sure everythings still going right for the both of you.
If it's the latter then.. Well you should leave if you don't love him anymore.. You should get therapy to help with your fear of being alone, because staying in a relationship because of it is toxic to both yourself and your partner.
I wish you the best of luck of course 🙂
I mean you’re definitely not over reacting. As someone who’s been sexually assaulted by multiple people I would leave too. Consent is everything and not to be ignored
Priceless!
Are you talking about in app purchases? If I pay with card it’s just my regular PIN code to simply unlock the phone, then I just hover over the machine. In app purchases do need your Google account passwords and the PIN and the CVV, not the card tho, at least that’s my case
THIS!!! thank you for making this point, so many people have been jumping to this conclusion haha
Set up another “trap” a fake positive pregnancy test.
She is a racist. Dump her.
Hell yeah, that was out of line.
Ask her when she is going to pay you back.
If they were disrespectful to my partner and actively tried to sabotage my relationship and the friend group didn’t kick that person out, yes of course. Any mature adult who respects their partner would.
Shes 35 yo. You already told her how you feel. She ignored you.
There's no misunderstanding. There's nothing left to discuss.
Ultimatums don't work long term.
She is who she is.
What OP wants will come through lawyer and therapy not stay with him so she can het 100% of the inheritance. How is that wrong?
Your partner is totally jerking you around.
You need to find a new boyfriend that’s obvious.
You are absolutely not! Sadly, too many of us have experience dealing with people who just want to put their partner down. They are really, really sick people.
You need to find a new boyfriend that’s obvious.
Ok, one of the issues is that he did that in front of you. So to onlookers, it looks like you condone this behaviour. So he’s pretty crude to do that to you and clearly has not considered it. It is a small action but it speaks volumes about him.
Yikes. It definitely makes sense why you don’t trust her. I don’t like the idea of going through her phone although I know I’d be tempted to do it. Tell her you want to reconnect with said friend and invite him over. First off, she might come clean right then. But if not, at least you can see how they interact with each other first hand. If he was an old friend and nothing happened, they should both be excited to all get together.
You don’t know what mutual respect looks like. You think codependency is respect and control is love.
subside* (unless you allow NZ government to pay you to calm down)
you mean how to calm down when he is right and you are wrong? accept it and move on would be my advice.
“if you need to use my phone my passcode is 1234”
Feels like a bait to me.
So you're sort of in the situation where she either baited you and will throw it in your face, in which case you ought to leave because that's just games for the sake of it.
Or she wasn't, and she has a sketchy update that coincides with a night of opportunity.
Either way you need to have the conversation. As you note, it is eating at you and she will notice it soon enough. If it turns out it is nothing and you can talk through it then that is nice, but as it stands this will likely be the big test that determines if you go any further.
Or you could say no to something and they could just decide to violate that.
She can be excited for you as a person or individual and it not be related to their sexual we attraction, present or future, to you.
Aka, I think y'all need individual therapy and couples therapy if you want to make this work.
No problem. Doesn't sound like anyone did anything wrong here, just a learning experience about what you're comfortable with.
There won’t be an argument if you tell him that you won’t argue with him about it and leave the house if he insists on trying.
Exactly he needs to be analed into some prostatic orgasms.
It’s over. This was his way of breaking up with you. Unless you want a relationship where he’s actively trying to fuck other people, has, and or is gonna start to plan too. Buying porn is one thing. Talking to them is like wtf.
You’re not losing it, your boyfriend is just a selfish child and you’ve reached your limit. Dump him.
It is not an addiction. His therapists are not telling him he has a porn addiction because that isn't a thing.
They are agreeing that he may NOW have a problem with porn because she made him go underground with it and in the process made his porn use problematic. That's why they are blaming her zero tolerance attitude for it.
Having a problem with porn is like any other kind of issue that creates problems in your life.
Actual addiction is another thing entirely, a biochemical process, and should be only used in those situations where it is implicated.
No one is addicted to chocolate, tiktok, or porn. Not even mildly, like to caffeine. It is an insult to people who truly are or have been addicted to drugs to medicalize issues with porn.
If she is refusing to address the issue and have an adult conversation, what exactly is it that you're hoping for? Problems don't magically go away. You need to work through them.
If she isn't even willing to talk, nothing will change. Suggest therapy, however I can't see how she could possibly agree to that, her tears aren't going to work there. If she refuses, it's time to go.
I hope you realize this isn't working and move on. Best of luck.
So she's divorcing her current ATM, and looking for her new ATM.
> situationship
That's the second time I heard this word today. What is a situational ship?
I can appreciate that you’re hurt.
Thing is, she wasn’t in the wedding party and you were. So that’s kind of a different level of commitment. (Unless she was? You didn’t mention that she was.)
Also, she’s shown you over and over that she’s not going to be the one making the effort in this friendship. She’s happy to be a passenger but she doesn’t drive.
Lastly, it’s possible that her husband has something to do with this. Won’t let her. Took all their money to put into the business and now she can’t afford it. Or maybe they legit need to be there to get the business going and it’s not a moveable date. A lot of things in Alaska are centered around tourism and that stuff has specific seasons.
I think it’s fair to tell her that you’re hurt. And it’s fair to take a step back if that’s what you want. But I think that as we get older, we have these “cactus” relationships. Like….you don’t water a cactus often but when you do, it blooms. Similarly. Some friendships can just sit dormant for months or a year but when you do pick up a phone or meet in person, you pick up where you left off and have a blast.
My best GF from college (back in the late 90’s) and I are like that. I was hurt when she didn’t come to my wedding also. I was there for hers a decade earlier and did all the things like you did. But honestly? It doesn’t matter much in the long run. That husband is gone now anyway and she is still in my life.
Holy. Bleeping. Crackers. Your partner is unhinged and physically abusive. She could have killed her own daughter. And she's refusing to take responsibility. I'm sorry but this would be a deal-breaker for me. It's one thing to have some insecurities that occasionally bubble up in a relationship, but it's another to interrogate your partner multiple times per month for years.
Unfortunately you can't “get” her to admit that she is abusive. You can only draw boundaries for yourself. If you aren't prepared to leave her (and for the record I think you should – plus hire a lawyer ASAP), then at least start refusing to participate in her weekly infidelity interrogations. If she won't go to therapy, then you should – to figure out why you are putting up with her behavior.
My dad disowned me a little over 4 years ago. haven't seen him since he married a batshit crazy woman who absolutely hated me.
I was thinking I could get a summer job down here in my college town but I don't feel like my parents would have allowed that. Mark has tried to kick me out a few times but my mother never lets him, so there's that as well.
There's a lot to the story that I never added in, so let me go add it really quick
Thank you for your comment ?
Apparently I have understood everything wrong… he isn’t rasist at all, it’s all in my head according to him.
He has an addiction and just like every other addiction, he won’t stop until he decides it’s a problem.
Right now? It’s not a problem to him. Nothing bad has really happened to him in his mind.
Protect your peace lol. There was a post by a guy here who had the same addiction, didn’t stop until he “stumbled” upon his gfs nudes that were posted non consensually
You shouldn't tolerate his behaviour either. That's what you should do.
It was just the drugs your friend is right.
To be sure, you go and date him sober for a while, then you will take your decision
You know why he's sketchy about it. It's because he's using the car excuse to secretly go meet her. He deliberately didn't tell you she would be there. You already know this. His messages are inappropriate and you know that he is planning to meet her and you also know he didn't tell you about it. Deep down you know what is happening here. He is already emotionally cheating on you and I 100% believe he will physically cheat on you if given the opportunity. It's fine to be mad at that woman since she (presumably) knows he is married and is still having these conversations, but you also need to acknowledge your husband is at fault. Majorly. He is the one in the relationship with you, he is the one who chose to reach out to this woman again, and *he is the one keeping secrets from you. I have an anxiety disorder and severe depression and let me tell you, having episodes of either of these has never made me even think about cheating on my partner. It has never made me want to randomly reach out to someone I used to date and start an emotional affair. This is all him, and i think it's as the person above said: he likes the ego boost. He could have chosen literally anyone else. He could have tried to make new friends. He could have chosen strangers on the internet to talk to. He could have gotten a therapist. Instead he reached out to his ex and literally told her that his time with her was the “best time of his life.” Then didn't tell you he's planning to go meet her. You say you don't want to be with somebody who wants to be with someone else. I'm sorry OP, but I think you already have your answer here.
It's time to confront him. Maybe couple's counseling could work, depending on his reaction when you confront him, but it's up to you if you want to try.
I don’t know. If you’re both really angry, I could see how taking some time to cool off would be a good idea.
I’m not sure if distancing yourself further is the right approach to solving communication problems, though, in the long run.
A break ultimately didn’t help your girlfriend and your ex, did it? If a break had helped, they’d still be together. But they’re not.
OP by this logic of yours if she doesn't want to it's fine.. because you won't force it. But she now has no real options. It's give u your stupid permission and know you are fucking other people who isn't her.. jesus i bet that would hurt. As a wife myself that's… the kind of pain i never want to experience.
Or!!!! Say no and know that she's not enough for you, would likely every time she has sex with u have that in the back of her mind and constantly think about how utterly miserable you must be because she doesn't want you sleeping with anyone else and you are now just “stuck” with her.
That is absolutely no positive here. She's in a real shit position either way.
Divorce sees like the best thing for both of you.
Couples need to be open and honest about finances. With this age gap it seems like he's treating you like a child and not an equal partner. Are there other situations in this relationship that feel like you aren't an equal partner besides the finances?
When was the party?
friendly reminder that the vast majority of people here are not perfect, do not have all their shit together and are the cause for at least 50% of their relationship issues.
and every single one other only tells one side of a story and embellishes the fuck out of it.
maybe the guy is not for her, but why are you all shitting on him and his choices in life.. this is about OP, there is no reason to denigrate the third party.
Most of you are soulless.
J
Don’t make yourself a martyr. You should have discussed your issues with your birthday after it happened then made a plan for his. Absent the discussion, you should have told him the prep for his party was up to him.
These are all great, thank you
Finally someone willing to bring up the elephant in the room. I 100% do not agree with how the groom and family have handled this, that is fucked up, but this dress and display is not a good way of mourning (why does it have to be so public???) and the bride definitely needs to go to grief counseling.
If she wasn’t invited that’s one thing but not telling them until the night before was incredibly shitty. You don’t invite someone and then take it back at the last minute.
It's really just damn she does, damn if she doesn't. Fuck her if she wants intimacy upfront and fuck her still if she just cashes in on the casual (you becry “she doesn't care enough”). There's no winning with you. You don't even read to comprehen, just to answer.
This is a very “Nice Guy TM” post; i highly doubt your seclusion is the only reason why women don't wanna get with you. Better stay single, bud. Better for women and better for you since you want it so much.
Listen, every long term relationships have ups and downs. It can be stress related, work issues what ever. If a relationship is strong and both parties openly and honestly communicate with each other and meet each other at eye level it works it self out. Sit each other down, have a great meal and talk to each other and make time and effort in meeting each others points of view. Good luck.
True ?
Yeah, I'd never have a relationship with a cop. I often think of those stats saying that cop families have 2 to 4 times more domestic violence than the general population, and they have guns, they know where the shelters for battered victims are, and the cops you'd call for help if you're a victim are your abuser's friends and colleagues. I always used to think that I'd never be in a relationship with a cop but maybe the road cops in my country weren't so bad as the others, and then the road cops caught a guy for not wearing a helmet on a bike, put him in their car's truck, turned the car into a gas chamber and executed him on video, then tried to steal the election by blocking the roads and stopping people from voting in areas that skewed against the far-right.
If you really want to help. I would suggest that you invite her out (just you and her) and get to know her better. Befriend her 🙂 who knows, it could be the start to a good friendship.
You think I wanted a unlicensed fool? Like I said I tried anything I also said “like it counts” cause it don’t
Sometimes it’s very hot to see the forest for the trees when you’re the one lost inside it. There can be a lot of self doubt, sunk cost thinking, false hope, etc, that can keep a person from realizing just how bad the relationship is. Source- my entire goddamn 20s.
I mean after 9 years maybe you have just grown apart ?♀️
You need to have a serious talk with him though and let him know that this is not acceptable.
I have two sons. In the situation you’ve described, it would be very weird to sleep in the same bed as one of them, but not the other.