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Date: March 26, 2023
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It sounds like this is the sanest way – have a shared account where each contributes relative to their income, and that is the set expense that each party has to calculate with before making any extravagant purchases. Decide on longterm goals you may want to save up for/ get your credit in order to be able to achieve, like buying a house together, or saving up for an extravagant vacation. But as long as those commonly agreed financial obligations are fulfilled, each can spend their money on whatever makes them happy.
That's what I loved learning about in economics at university: you have your own individual utility function, and nobody can argue against what you want to spend your money on. If I buy the Star Trek Enterprise Christmas tree decoration, and anybody tells me that was a stupid way to spend my money, I can just tell them “this purchase optimised my individual marginal utility, so bugger off!”
Zero, that’s the normal amount.
Ok, let's say he is using her to make you jealous. What now?
I mean, if he really does want to make you jealous, how long will this reasonably last? Probably not that long. I mean, they might go out for a month or two and it will fizzle out. So, no warning needed unless he shows you that he is using her to make you jealous.
You don't need to say anything. Just chill out.
Your roommate is a child. She got her wisdom teeth removed, what are you even doing watching over her. Is she making you cook food she can eat too?
The whole point of dating (if you’re marriage minded) is as an audition for marriage. Her timeline seems rushed to me but my bigger issue is how she handled your response.
To cry and not speak to you because she didn’t get the reply she wanted is immature and doesn’t bode well for your future together. So basically she must get her way or she will cry and ignore you till she does?
We’ve had this covered 6 times in the last three years…. I just feel I’m mentally tapped out from it.
Thank you for the helpful advice! I should probably add that we’ve been together for almost 2 years. Actually our very first date she invited ME to a strip club. Her cousins are strippers and she goes to the strip club almost every Friday night for drinks with them. Hell, last week her cousin got too drunk and flashed me right in front of her, funniest thing about it, she asked for permission from my gf and she agreed! I think she just has a problem with me going out without her. But here’s the thing, I’m an extreme introvert, I don’t go out much at all, maybe twice a month if that? So when I do go out I wanna enjoy myself
You’d be surprised. I live! in one of the wealthier parts of my area and am a member of the country club with all that entails. However, my life story is so crazy that it almost sounds fictional. Anyway, the people here love it, and I’ve been welcomed and embraced fully. A story like yours isn’t embarrassing or shameful, it’s interesting and I don’t think anyone would look down on your wife over it.
Yeah I agree total BS. And she already tried to blame shift so gaslighting is next…
My advice is to lose a bit more weight… like 150-250 pounds worth. Byeeeeeeeeee
I'm confused, how would my lifestyle alienate him? And what effort outside of our norm would I be asking him to put in? I just want him to stop being mean to me lol
Yes 100% ego, he wants to be the “dominant/better” part of the couple but your self-improvement journey is ruining this. He sees you as better than him and that bothers him.
is her illness hereditary? Is there any chance she will be able to return to work as a medical doctor of any kind?
There is an element of genetics related to her illness. Whether or not she will be able to return to work is currently up in the air. As a surgeon, it's not impossible but less likely. It's probably more realistic in another capacity, either in the medical field or elsewhere.
Obviously at her age, odds of a difficult pregnancy and complications should be real concerns for both of you.
Absolutely! Her two first pregnancies were full of complications: preeclampsia, gestational hypertension, gestational diabetes and a preemie.
Her clothing doesn't have anything to do with her cheating – her character does.
Travel to another country, maybe military?
He’s stopped reassuring me as much because he says that it’s tiring that no matter what he says, it doesn’t change how I feel or how often I get upset with him, which I understand. I feel bad because switching up my meds has been really nude on both of us, so he definitely has some frustration there. I can’t tell if I’m just being dramatic or it’s because of my struggle with mental health. I’m also fairly inexperienced when it comes to relationships, so it’s hard to know what a relationship is “supposed” to look like. A lot of the time I express I don’t like something, it seems like he thinks my expectations are unrealistic. His therapist thinks so too, so I’m not really sure. It may just be me being young and inexperienced and him being more experienced and realistic. I just feel like I can’t trust my own head because of my past and my struggle with mental health.
You are both wrong. Keep your fists to yourself if you don't want to get hit.
“obesity” is a deal breaker for most people.
He's 100% insecure. Insecurity can bring out the worst in people.
Is this subreddit all 19 year olds with no life experience?
Leaving is always an option. The only thing removing it leads to is a toxic dynamic intensifying to the point of outright abuse.
If they are struggling they need to seek professional help. Currently communication has completely broken down, with them relying on aggression and harsh language then dismissive language to throw situations back in your face, deflect and derail any actual reflection. The more they reinforce that tactic the less likely they will meaningfully improve. A therapist should be able to give them healthier emotional regulation strategies or perhaps help them interpret and deal with the core issue driving the symptoms.
Reality is it should only take pointing out to them that even if you were somehow being unreasonable that doesn't change that their inclination towards aggression and reactiveness would be reasonable to get them to reflect. I worry that you're aware that will fall on deaf ears, though.
But if this continues, if it just cycles over and over it will become a feedback loop especially if and when you break. You'll either stop resisting, and they will just use you as a punching pillow or you'll react aggressively and become the kind of person you don't want to be. Do not underestimate this or the potential for it to become a trauma bond.
you are the worst kind of friend. somehow it's all about you. it's almost like when you find someone you like more, the crush you had immediately before disappears. get over yourself. ?
I don't necessarily think it's a him or them situation…feels more like it's just a deal breaker for her. Which if that's the case I'm sorry you're going through this, I have no wisdom to give to you op. Perhaps ask her that if she wants you to do the divorce proceedings then she must first disclose as to why she wants the divorce in the first place. Perhaps once that's known you can go from there.
The former you didn’t threaten your husband. Some men are terrified of successful women, in particular when those women earn more and are on an upward career trajectory. Try marriage counseling to try to realign the marriage, but don’t sacrifice your career or better you, your husband must make some changes.
I am going to be dead honest with you: this marital ship has sailed
He is jealous, insecure, demeaning, and non-supportive. And he is not going to change
You are on an upward trajectory and he’s on quite the opposite. His belittling commentary about you cheating/about how easy you have it as a woman/wanting you to quit that class etc., etc.; show his true character and it is awful
Get your finances in order, quietly consult an attorney, and get out now. Staying will only prolong the inevitable
He is beneath you
I wish you all the best
That’s true. I feel like I need to start expressing my thoughts more to her.
*Cuntessa
Do not go into debt for your wedding, especially if you have limited/potentially unstable financials due to your parents being financially controlling.
Work out with your fiance any of the religious considerations, if you are converting, how will your kids be raised, right now. So you are on the same page.
I would suggest you do not give in to your parents now, or they will attempt to finanancially control you over anything they don't like.
But is your life so work out what is most important to you.
Good luck.
If you are dating someone where it seems like a relationship has clearly been established, since she has a key and all, then you have an obligation to build trust. If your decision making leads to you have one on one quality time with a girl, where you willingly allow that person to spend the night at your place then it sounds like you aren't being responsible. Sure, nothing could have happened but that would be besides the point. Having a friend spend the night is one thing but sounds like your gf was already uncomfortable with even just the drinks.
Yes it does make her one. She just leaves when she has no more use from him. Who is she going to abandon next when things get too nude?
I feel like this post is fake.
Idk why you’re getting so hysterical about it. You don’t know these people and their lives, or where they live! and how much money they make. It’s not the 1950s, kids are raised in single parents households by single moms. And sometimes even by single dads.
And the way op has explained it she has made a proportion, she’s not leaving tomorrow. And she has also proposed a way for him to see his kids. Op can contest that in court, which i believe he will. That doesn’t make her a bad person.
None of the things you’ve said here supports that she’s a bad person or is doing anything that’s harmful for her kids. If anything she’s probably trying to avoid op and his constant badgering about getting back together. She also probably trying to save herself some pain by not having to see op and his son.
And I am gonna come out and say it – op doesn’t have the best track record. He has a 13yo who already suffered a lot. He should be OP’s priority Instead he’s worried about his wife and kids who already have a willing and able parent. Good luck arguing that in front of a judge.
No defined relationship but you two are exclusive? How is this not dating? What is the difference? I’m genuinely confused how people say this stuff and don’t second guess themselves.
I just assumed all this time that we've had similar thoughts behind it but it seems more like the house is in the major thoughts at the moment for him. I do see it as progression for us, but I would like a bit more to feel more secure.
I'm not really sure why you're acting like every woman wants the same thing. And there is definitely a large gap between clingy and aloof.
At what stage are you being ghosted? Also, if you are getting ghosted, how do you even know if either of those are the reasons they are ghosting you?
More couples therapy.
This is the most concise answer I can give, haven been in your shoes; not for the same subject matter (kids/eggs/legacy). In the end, perhaps this could all be a smokescreen for deeper problems in the relationship while it might just be a dealbreaker that you’re both ignoring because you both know that it could mean the end of a relationship you both cherish. Either way, it sounds like everyone needs to be as brutally honest with each other as possible and a third-part could help with that.
That’s a little…..intimate…..
You need counseling
The fact he stayed friends with her after she shit talks you and actively tried to get him to cheat says enough. Run.
Amy…agreed that if I was the father I needed to be in my sons life in every way possible.
But she doesn't think you need to be in your other 4 children's lives?!!? WTF am I even reading here???
Amy needs to get into individual counseling IMMEDIATELY! Has not being the first or only vagina to birth your children ruined her self-image?
You also need marriage counseling, but if Amy is not amenable, then please get a shark divorce attorney because Amy is acting incredibly unstable! If she proceeds with the divorce, then your lawyer should push to have her evaluated because this thought process of hers makes ZERO SENSE!
Drop them all. They aren't friends.
If you adopt resting bitch face and a slight mean streak, no one will ever accuse you of being flirty again
You have no idea where his ex and the son live!, why are you assuming it's where OP lives?
Breaking up with someone who called you terrible names and not feeling sorry about the breakup is perfectly normal. Also, you're an adult. Your parents shouldn't be controlling who or how often you see someone.
What do you do? You ditch her and find someone that makes you a priority and not a place holder. She's literally announced her feelings and intentions. I don't see how this is a challenge to understand. We're not planning the mars missions here.
Sorry for my bad English as it’s not my mother tongue.
You really sure that there aren’t any problem before this fiasco? You appear really certain that everything with her was perfect. That’s everything from your point of view. Are you really sure that you aren’t too focussed on assuming that everything was perfect from your perspective? Are there accumulations of assumptions that let things rot between you? But have you thought about seeing the marriage from her perspective, what she has to put in for this marriage and how her efforts are treated?
I saw a documentary about 4 divorcing couples. One couple in their early 80’s divorced after many decades of marriage. The woman brought up the divorce. And the husband was totally stumped. Reason: she got fed up shouldering all the responsibility of the marriage herself while her husband just put in minimal effort like chores, kids, marriage, holiday planning etc. She said:“I’ve taken care of responsibilities for the marriage, responsibilities for the kids, and tending to his needs my whole life. There never was room to take responsibility for myself and do things I wanted or make decisions only for myself. I‘ve always put back my needs for him and the family. I was completely neglected as an individual with my own needs. There‘s only max. 1,5 decade left so I want to start live! my life now.“
A younger couple featured in that documentation separated for the same reason. In that case, the woman initiated the divorce too, but the husband started a legal war with her. When the divorce was finished, she studied to become a teacher and started to work gaining knowledge a man usually takes care of in a marriage.
Those are some longwinded informations but hope they help you to think of things you didn’t consider.
In both cases, the husbands were surprised by their wife pushing for divorce. But what made those women leave was the neglect of their needs to develop themselves and how their husbands took them for granted as someone to take over the work to take care of themselves so they don’t have to themselves. OP, im not blaming you for being neglectful or such since I don’t know you. But it never hurts to think through every possibilities.
And as for the rest of the 4 couples, the women divorced a long-Term marriage because husband was either an abusive narcissist who beats his wife or cheated. So that’s not relevant info here.
Happy cake day!
Read a book on communication skills or watch live! materials. Maybe also see a therapist on how to improve and for your overall well being
Ok but I can’t think of one reason that would invalidate her story.
I don't loathe her at all, she was a nice girl, at least the times I met her. She had a few issues though that don't need to get into.
And the quotes were because my buddy was child free and obviously isn't now. No need to project. I get words can be “triggering” even from some random stranger. And yes kids aren't for everyone, and parenting isn't for everyone as well. And for the record i have no kids and could care less if people choose to be child free or not.
Let her employer worry about her work ethic. How is her behavior in a relationship? Does she put in equal effort?
Bear in mind that being a workaholic is as much pathological as being lazy.
Update! I slept on it. We chatted that morning as usual, and he said “I don’t know why that upset me. It never has before and honestly I think I was just in a bad mood and I was looking for an excuse to get mad.” He then apologized to me and took me out to Crumbl Cookie ??
Um that is what a mistake is.
verb: mistake; 3rd person present: mistakes; past tense: mistook; gerund or present participle: mistaking; past participle: mistaken be wrong about. “because I was inexperienced I mistook the nature of our relationship”
And as OP has a problem with it, does that mean she is not worth dating?
I wonder if your DH got cold feet and made a nothing situation into a big something on purpose?
I would like to second this statement.
This is simply infatuation and lust mixed with a lot of attraction. But that is what it sounds like to me, maybe it is love at first sight I'm no expert. But she let you down very clearly albeit condescendingly if you ask me. I would think someone I just met telling me they did not wanna break my heart pretty audacious. Or maybe she is self aware that she lacks the capacity for anything healthy or stable rn and was being honest. So I believe you need to let this go and not chase her around social media. If she is interested in chatting you up I'm sure she can text you just as easily.
What the actual fuck is a “anxious love avoidant”? Did his “therapist” make this shit up?
Report her to the state board for fucking a patient and have her license to practice taken away and hopefully brought up on charges
You didn't come here looking for advice, you came here looking for people to validate your decision to stay with your GF after you found a video of her being railed by 3 dudes while she was dating you.
That's exactly the type of reason for that to happen, yes. I think my stance is clear but I wish you and your daughter the best going forward.
When someone tells you who the are. Listen
Exactly what ive thought. Her parents set conditions which are to be engaged after graduation and study abroad together. Hence the reason i followed. We both were really crazy for each other. I esentially believed that we both had secured the relationship. My parents was also in it. My ex hated her family for forcing us to break up and will never forgive them. She then told me i should move on. Which i was trying but after seeing her social media post it just broke me. Acting as a different person.
You’re a good person for doing this. Respect
I mean, it totally depends on the subject. But yeah, if I'm into minute 30 of ranting about Dwarf Fortress yeah it sometimes happens lol.
It doesn't happen during important stuff
Well… fuck that bitch. Find someone who will stay by your side when times get tough.
Were you supposed to pick him up at 7 or eat at 7? His response seems unhinged but honestly it makes it seem like there is info you aren't including
You have a lot of growing up to do.
It's the Liberation pledge. That's his choice and his activism. If you two aren't on the same page and you don't want to eat at only at fully vegan restaurants, then you two should break up. This isn't a discussion about him being too strict…etc. If your values don't align, then part ways.
I haven't spoken to him yet, I'm having some time to reflect.
It's nude to work out how to break up with someone. Do you do it via text or do you do it in person? Do you write it in bacon pieces on a nice juicy steak or do you simply tell him whilst eating a meat pie.
So many choices.
It sounds like your SO is have some sort of mental break ?. It's one thing to go vegan, it's another to take it to the extreme that he has.
If he's dead set on this and isn't willing to compromise, then your only asking to be neglected or have things escalate further if you stay together. You need to focus on your future and your happiness, and if he's this determined to totally push you away then that's his choice.
If there is no compromise or any attempt at it then it's an easy decision. You shouldn't bow to his will.
From the very little information you provided, I wouldn't be wasting my time with a man like this. He nagged you into going, refused to drive (despite it being dangerous for you to drive after a 24 hour shift), and then threw a tantrum and called it all off because you were late? I'd be willing to bet money that this man is a control freak and is playing games with you. He has no respect for your time, your health or your feelings. Why the hell would you want to spend time with someone who would do what he did?
I don't know what to say, other than, I am sorry. I don't know what she's feeling towards you right now, but you deserve some level of love and compassion from your partner, even when things are at their worst.
It's hard to say what you should do to move from here. 20 years is a lifetime. But in the end, we all deserve to live! with partners that love and care for us, at any age.
All I'll say is, it may be time to seriously examine and reassess the marriage, but more importantly, your own happiness, and how to bring it back.
It sounds like Desi & Tandace in hbo’s GIRLS. Yikes… I hope you get to set your boundaries!
Right? This “therapist” is clearly just using some psychology buzzwords (but not actual diagnoses) to justify why OP needs to bend over backwards for him. Ugh
I feel your reply minimises how much the “average” guy likes looking at other women. There is no doubt that modern media has provided men of today a literal smorgasbord of titillating eye candy, and there is no doubt that many many men like looking.
It is a guy thing generally speaking. More men than not will look – as the very existence of this deluge of media demonstrates. The media is there to make money so someone must be looking at it to generate views and currency in one form or another. And there is a lot of it.
The difference is what the average guy does about it. Does he make his partner feel bad about it by ignoring her perception of the whole thing or does he trying limit views, and respect his partner as much as he can? Even without viewing media Mr Average is still going to notice the blonde at the grocery store in yoga pants, or the attractiveness of whatever Hollywood bombshell is current flavour. Youre right. He won't and can't stop but how he deals with it is crucial. And Yes, it may be a deal breaker.
Ask him why he thinks it is ok to talk about his Mom like that. I would be interested in hearing his answer.
My ex was was like this. Always late when we had plans and if I drove and didn’t do 90mph it was my fault we we didn’t get there on time.
So you control him, but don’t like it when he controls you….. You are a hypocrite.
End the relationship.
Well I would hope so but I really don’t know who he is anymore. And you know what? I haven’t even thought about making that point. Thank you for that! That just helped me feel less bad!
I am absolutely LIVID when people are late. I wish I could change this about myself, but it is what it is. I find it so inconsiderate of another person's time. Of course if someone is 10 minutes late I give them grace, but anything beyond that I just can't.
Lying about being willing to participate in a poly relationship is a asshole move just be honest and split from her
Your gf is showing abusive behavior besides just punching you. She stole your car, said awful things about your family, and is continuing trying to keep you estranged from them. So she just said she’d be back without giving you any time frame? Call the police! She probably went to some dudes house.
You’re 18. You don’t need to be dating a 26 year old who cannot communicate and gets irrationally angry. She needs therapy. You need to get out. 100% will only get worse.
There are a lot of nice girls out there, I promise.
Or, you can stop overthinking and realize that based on this post, nothing else needs to be said.
But you’ll probably type five paragraphs to tell me I’m wrong….
I asked because I honestly stayed with someone who cheated with an ex as well and convinced myself I could move past it. I definitely couldn’t, and he wasn’t worth staying with.
What he did is not really acceptable and he obviously knows it. However, check out the literally thousands of posts on here of people who found out their partner was cheating in this way. The next stuff is about whether you really want to keep him as this place wants you to ditch him, it always does. One of your considerations has then got to be not doing something that makes him ditch you! If he really is insecure then denying him access will probably make things worse. Therapy is a better bet. For my relationships I find secrets are a bad thing so I always go for full disclosure from the start (when the relationship is stable) . Could you not go for open access both ways right from now if there is nothing to hide? I get the bit about him reading stuff that friends said in confidence but if I do this with my close friends then the one exception is that I assume their partner will know. If I don't want that I will tell them so and assume they would instantly delete it but also recognise their right to not compromise their relationship for me!
The truth about love is that you don't fall into it. It's work and effort. It's the culmination of shared successes, failures, and growth. It's sacrifice and devotion. Did I mention it's work?
I can't give you advice specific to an arranged marriage because well, it's not something I'm culturally familiar with. But what I can say is if you like him put in the time to get to know him. Water the plant and it'll grow
i meant we spend thursday-sunday
Yes, read on adult attachment styles and specifically avoidant attachment style in the book Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, I think you could really benefit from it alongside the therapy!
Serial breakups and reconciliations with the same person is a hard habit to break. After three of these, you have learned that you can get back together if you can only find the right key.
You should break this habit if you can. Going no contact is a good start. Seeing other people helps, too. I know, your heart wouldn't be in it. But it's quite possible to distract the mind from an obsessive focus on one particular person.
It’s not acceptable for her to take your car and leave you without transportation for several more days.
It’s a good idea to give her an opportunity to return the car before calling the police for two reasons. First, if she does return it voluntarily you get your car back quicker than going through the police who may or may not be able to locate it. Second, if you have a record showing you demanded return of the car and she still doesn’t comply, the police will take you more seriously and any claim by her that she had your permission to take the vehicle would not be credible.
I suggest you text her something saying that she didn’t have your permission to take your car and if it’s not back by (date/time) you will report it stolen to the police. And then do exactly that if she doesn’t comply.
And when you are ready for retirement around 65 you won't be able to enjoy it as you will be looking after a 90 year old
She didn't want a big celebration, but you still wanted one and you got it. This is not a “compromise”, this is you still getting your way.
He didn't get his. He didn't want a small celebration, and yet he dished it out for her. They didn't even get to the big celebration.
Is this like the normal thinking process for people, if I don't get exactly what I want then I can justify any action at any time?
i will let it go , guess it was never going to work
I think your husband was being creepy and she's distancing herself now. Ick.
Can we get some direct quotes? I mean, what can you even say? “You did something before we met!!!”
Your mistake was getting married with someone who is never going to let this go. Either you live! with or get out.
It sounds fishy. The texts in isolation are fishy, plus him acting weird is fishy.
He “made a joke” which was basically hitting on her if she was into it. She wasn't. You might want to take stock of where your marriage is and whether you are happy. Also, you might want to ask the neighbor if she would level with you and whether he's been acting creepy toward her.
This is why I was never internet in a relationship with anyone from another culture. I know myself well enough to know I would not be able to adapt to stuff like that. Relationships/marriage are tough enough without throwing things like this into them.
You typed this whole thing and still had questions on what to do? He’s 36 and is not leaving home anytime soon. What kind of future do you see with him?
What do you think is the issue?
What do you think is the issue?
You meant to title this ‘My ex-best friend…..
There’s something about some men that think women are complete idiots, that infuriates me ? ain’t no reason to be in a motel room with your ex in any circumstance. Dummy.
I wish I could give this comment to gold. You deserve it for that. I gave her basically the same advice because I remember being her age. I was with this guy that I thought I was going to marry but we were way too young to be thinking about getting married. I turn 40 in May and I wish someone would have given me that advice. She seems like a nice girl and I just want her to do well.
How long have you been together? Is his paranoia with his phone new? Did you ask who the person was?
We fantasize. It’s normal. This says nothing about his feelings for you. But. That’s my point of view. You don’t feel that way. You may be incompatible. You may need to move on and find someone who thinks like you do. I think it’s unrealistic to think anyone would only think about you when imagining sex. It’s really human to fantasize. The problem is that he’s unwilling to stop watching porn even though it hurts you. You need to think about that.
Ya, I think running from him is a good idea.
Since you called me an idiot last time I offered suggestions on this topic, which was only a day or two ago, I think I will not offer any today.
Keep trying, maybe you'll get responses you like. Third time's a charm.
You can also open a regular bank account for your SSI payments. Ally is a good live! bank and you can have them deposit your money there so you don’t have to worry about pausing you SSA. It’s very quick and easy to open an account.
You really think there's no coming back?
I think your marriage is breaking up quite honestly. So much disrespect.
You get to choose whether you get out ahead of this now, or whether you wait until he cheats on you and youre an emotional mess and then he decides to break up anyway.
I think you should start assembling your divorce team now. Lawyer, emotional support, therapist for the children, maybe an accountant.
You have a bof problem not a dog problem.
You have a bof problem not a dog problem.
You have a bof problem not a dog problem.
I know the idea of being alone can be really scary. Try to remind yourself that by staying with him, you are missing out on the opportunity to find a boyfriend who treats you with love and respect.
Don’t focus on the idea that you will be alone, focus on the idea that you are missing out on the opportunities to find someone much better, if that helps motivate you to make a change.
Three years? Really? My only advice is to get used to it. You pointedly say you’re not going to leave him, but he’s showing you who he is. You also knew how he was BEFORE you moved in with him, he proved to be the person you thought he was, and now you’re upset he’s being the person you always knew he was. So yeah, if you’re not ready to leave the gross dude then just get used to it. I can’t imagine living with an intimate partner who didn’t brush his teeth or shower, if I ever had to tell my husband to do those things I think I’d have a nude time being sexually attracted to him, but we’re all different.
It doesn’t matter how much you trust someone, that is just obviously inappropriate.
You are right that this girl needs therapy and she needs to go whether its for your relationship or not. Maybe even book that appointment for her and tell her that you won't speak to her until she has attended.
You may be what she needs to get that push, she can't feel comfortable living this way and she really needs to get help as soon as possible.
yup, he’s not into you at all
You are completely missing the point. I’m not going to convince you so I’m leaving it at this: when someone is sending you a soft no by not replying, it means no. If you ignore that, you are hassling her. If she ever wants to contact you, she has your number. She isn’t using it. Therefore, it’s wise to assume she isn’t interested.
It doesn’t matter how well you thought your texts went if she’s not texting you back, and carefully didn’t promise to text you again later.
Why are you with him?? What does he bring to the table? Because it sure ain’t food. Or cleaning. Or household management. Or grocery shopping. Or money. You are the soul provider and doing all of the household management and labor. All he does is watch one child and gets a break whenever he wants. You deserve a partner, not a leech.
I never said you were? I was agreeing with you.
There’s more guys on dating apps than women, so there’s a likely a higher likelihood for OP’s gf to match with someone than for him to.
I was just like ?
I wonder what other little secrets hubby has tucked away for OP? What else could there be?
All this seems very American Psycho. OP should run far and fast and she should tell hubby's mother. The news will spread organically from there. This is one time when there needs to be blaming, shaming and some consequences.
It’s rape by deception. You were not given the ability to consent. The pair of them conspired to rape you three times.
This is an horrific betrayal. I’m usually on the side of reconciliation on this sub but not in this case. I don’t think I’d be able to reestablish any sort of relationship with him or his family. Divorce.
NOPE! That's wrong on many levels. If she can't understand this then she's either thick as fuck or actually wants to do this. Definitely red flags ahoy
From a spiritual perspective the fact that you cannot get pregnant with this man tells that he is not someone suited for you, and the stories you tell is the long answer of why.
5 days ago you commented :”mother nature is a bitch”, now you comment God has her covered.
Which one is it u/kazodex? WHICH ONE IS IT!?
Allowing your children to witness her violence towards you is hurting them. It's already happening now.
Eh, I take a handful of pills and capsules in the morning and a new med I started gave me nausea bad enough to puke up my breakfast and pills within 30-45 minutes sometimes. I never saw anything that looked like the pills, no fragments or colours, I figured they must have fully dissolved by then. It was really annoying because it was harder to work out if I should take extra meds and how much!
I totally think this guy was lying though, no way he had taken enough pills to be a drooling, out-of-it mess then miraculously fully recover so quickly. He's manipulative and OP should leave ASAP for her own sake.
I know what you're saying.. I wonder if he needs to be involved in stuff other than work to make him feel as though he's more than just a joiner
If you want to settle for a sexless “friendship” then stay. If you want a romantic intimate relationship, then leave.
Sometimes I wonder too. Like do they even like us?
But I think you just got a pos one. Run. Fucking run. You are better than this.
It’s taking too long for you? If your wife shagged someone and had feelings for someone for four months, how long do you think it’d take you? You wouldn’t mind her going off with her buddies soon after right? I’m quite surprised she didn’t leave you and it’s not fully off the table. You guys need therapy. IC and MC
Yeah that's probably easiest
I hate to break to you, but I’m sure your wife would absolutely hurt the children if she was angry enough. Take your children and get the hell out of there
You didn't cheat on her.
You were raped.
Choices.
Sorry, English is not my mother tongue. But you understood what I meant.
And yes, it is a separate process and regardless of where you live!, it never is an easy one or a guaranteed one, but I would say it's worth a try? It may not be in some countries. Burning yourself out as a carer is not ideal either.
“I don’t think I could handle that!”
how do i get the confidence and strength to do that. i feel like ill back out because i know i dont want to lose him.
Always get a signed contract before hand, makes it easier to hold them accountable in the future. Not sure what you can do now but maybe inform the authorities of her actions? They wont have the personal attachments you have and can give you some sort of justice.
If you want to bang your ex – then bang your ex, just be a man and break it off with your current person.
He’s your safe space and you just invaded his safe space. He obviously hasn’t said those things TO YOU. What are you doing reading his diary?
In an edit she reveals she did “my birthday is a week from now/tomorrow/ soon and I'd like to cut cake and spend time with you
Thank you!
Twisting the knife really seems like the only way to get them to learn, and even then, they may not. They are both incredibly selfish, shitty individuals who want to make everything about them and how they’re so hurt. And fuck OP, I guess.
Ya know theres such a thing as hackers right?
That’s exactly why I broke up: I wasn’t romantically in love and didn’t want to live! in a companionate relationship.
Now I’m married again, and our sex life has only been getting better and better over nearly a decade.