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Date: November 3, 2022
Don't let your highschool love go, he is the real one.
Tell him to get some damn soundproofing, it's not THAT expensive for an up and coming streamer.
it's super crazy bc she has older posts that kind of give away her age on here, but chooses to lie specifically on this one probably for attention idk but it's super weird. like the one where she mentions Christmas decorations not being the same way they used to be back in her day, actually sounds like something someone in their thirties would say, but this post is completely different
Not anymore. I did that once and got my ass beat because this person was insecure and had abandonment issues. They won’t change unless they want to. Your not his therapist it’s not your job to fix him if anything he will just drain you.
Answer is in the title, I think. ?
It's probably not allowed.
You must not have read the whole thing, she said she was interested but currently could not do it. Get off my thread
Sounds like your husband has it figured out! Ignore what everyone else thinks; they will always have their own opinions on the world. But those opinions don't change you, your husband, or your child, or your value in the world. You have valid concerns, though it is entirely possible that you both had that dominant gene somewhere that mixed up and gave the darker eyes, for example. But at the end of the day? All that matters is how you feel. Block out the noise and focus on you; you deserve it.
Title doesn’t make sense
She sounds super codependent, so she’s not going to be receptive to what you say no matter how tactfully you phrase it.
Hey babe, I wanted to talk to you about something. I love chatting with you in my free time, but the frequency of our FaceTiming is becoming difficult for me to keep up with. I’d prefer to be present with you in person and share about our days that way rather than being on the phone constantly. I love you and my feelings for you haven’t changed in any way, our communication needs are just different and I haven’t been transparent with you about my needs. How do you feel about what I just said? Can we come up with a compromise that works for both of us?
It’s painfully long winded, but you’ll know that if she doesn’t respond reasonably to a script like that, she has issues that are going to make a healthy relationship extremely difficult to maintain.
It could definitely have something to do with childhood trauma (especially the bathing together being encouraged either by parents or by, like you said, him not stopping it) but regardless. The signs are there.
Even if it is related to trauma you do not have to stay with him. He probably won't want therapy. He doesn't want to address it.
Yeah that’s fair, I need to be more direct not bother explaining why it needs to be done but just flat out THIS item donate or throw away? He would say keep it and he will find a place for it… like the two bikes, which he now jokingly calls decor.
What's the age of consent in his country?
NOBODY has the right to assault nor batter you. Period. You have every right to feel the way you do, given what you've gone through recently.
Odd. He knows how they feel and what they are going through yet he is sickened by it? Usually people develop a higher, more developed empathetic state after experiencing suffering. I guess your boyfriend is a rare case. Too bad for him.
Ive tried to ask him why he doesn’t like me drinking if maybe he has some trauma or if he just doesn’t like alcohol.
He say’s because its unhealthy. I totally get that! You naturally want a healthy partner but this man eats chocolates, cakes for breakfast, drowns his coffee in sugar and drinks soda. I’d say I’m more healthier than him
Bingo. Could be Xanax mixed in.
Ok well I’m into fairly alternative sexual stuff as well but I don’t rub it in people’s faces who I know would obviously be uncomfortable with it, particularly my parents
Yeah I have not made this very clear, we have seen each other irl a few times but not as lovers yet. I don’t know if that makes sense
It sounds like a trauma bond more than anything else. You will not enjoy life if you feel you can never neasure up to ever increasing standards and expectations from her. You're young. You deserve to have a less stressful life
Like I mentioned, I went to the store & he asked me to pick him up. The store is very close to that club, and when I was outside waiting for him, he told me that he couldn't find his wallet, so I went in and helped him look for it.
She asked you for space, you need to give it to her. If you want, you can write/voicemail her one final message but then give her space. Apologize to her, and tell her that you will put this time to good use. Tell her you want to work things out, and you will reflect on the past few months. Tell her that you will give her the space she’s asked for, and ask her to reach out to you once she’s ready to talk.
Then leave her alone, let her reflect, and you also reflect.
OP also paid for her education. At this point OP's biggest mistake might be spoiling her financially.
I wouldn’t be surprised if the daughter only wants to go with the dad. That still leads back to the fact that the parent should be involving her more with her siblings. Built up resentment doesn’t just happen you know
I'm not trying to defend him, not even sure I believe him but… Apparently when they got in that fight Joe was the one to put a stop to things. He said he didn't like how that “new” aspect of the friendship was making him feel about her, as he has trouble separating love from intimacy.
In Natalie's defense I don't think that's what she's doing tbh. She was pretty supportive of our relationship and offered to talk to me about things a few times and I should have taken her up on it, maybe she would have been more honest and things would have come to light sooner. It's like they're addicted to each other though. Idk if she even realizes what she's doing to him, but she's as bad as he is with the codependency. She's tossed men aside, very good ones, for him as well. I think they're both in denial.
It sounds like your ex made a smart choice in blocking you. All of this sounds really really unhealthy Dude.
I think it’s better to do it face to face at the beginning of your date. If he’s understanding (which he should be) everything will be fine. I think this is an excellent way to gauge his reaction. The expectation is that he handles this gracefully.
It is okay to end your engagement and break up with her. You got engaged very quickly, before you realized that she is both jealous and unsupportive of you when you're going through stress related to your career.
Breakups are hurtful, so there isn't really any way to do it where her feelings will be totally spared. It can feel like you're being cruel, especially if your family likes her. But it will hurt so much less to call of the engagement now and go your separate ways, rather than getting divorced years down the line after you ignored these warning signs. I think you should listen to your intuition that is telling you that you aren't in love and that this would be a bad match.
Tbh i think the other commenter nailed it. Why not just clarify? I’m being self critical and said i also don’t remember exactly by this point. But truly why not just ask?
I re-read the post- you should like Sheldon Cooper who doesn't understand how his actions impact other people. You're only caring about your perspective and expecting your girlfriend to accommodate you. The difference between you and Sheldon is Sheldon actually learned other people have feelings and learned when people were upset. You let your girlfriend cry all night, instead of actually trying to understand, apologize, and figure out how to change your behaviour.
You should break up because you're incapable of understanding other people's human emotions.
I think you need to talk to her about how to fix this. Not to us. She’s made it sound like it’s too late and that she’s lost interest. You’ve already offered to cut contact with (20f) and she said it’s too late. I think it’s over
And for your future relationships, yea a lot of people are not gonna like that you’re friends with somebody you slept with. Consider what your friendship really means and how important is it to you, and then you can decide what to do.
Therapy could help. If not an option, consider this. It sounds like her coping mechanism for stress/uncertainty is avoidance. Google “avoidance coping” to learn more. One thing that could maybe help is googling rejection therapy and trying that herself. It helps to normalize taking action even when stressed/uncomfortable so that avoidance isn’t used as much to cope.
I mean, coke of Coca Cola or coke as the white powder? If you are to be a doctor, yeah, I don’t know who would wanna see you if you are jacked up with ‘coke’? … right?
You’re not going to get over it man.
Break up with her, keep both of them out of your life, work on yourself and find someone else.
What they did was shitty and you are under no obligation to forgive them. Why stay with her and put yourself through that pain? You’re so young and there are much better women out there. Don’t stay with one who makes your life miserable
That’s what I’m worried about I don’t want to leave her but this has been going on for a while now and it’s like fuck when do I say enough and with this, family drama, and work stress I’m on the verge of killing myself I hate waking up but if she called me for sex I’d rush over and it’s annoying she could be in a good mood have a great day and still say no. I talked to her about it again recently so ig now we wait. I always told her I want to make it past forever with her but it feels like we’re just friends I need more than that
i mean beyond it not being her business, it just sounds like classic projection to me. i wouldn’t pay too much stock in what she had to say about your relationship.
Wait, so you do know the reasons she’s feeling disconnected. Yet you’re at the bar with no ring while she’s home??
You paint a picture of emotional availability and only being connected to your work/kids, so she’s been married to herself. She was holding on to and consistently wearing a symbol of love and commitment, while you weren’t. She’s likely been saying many things that you simply don’t see as big, like you didn’t see it as big that you didn’t always wear your ring.
I would look into counseling if you actually want to help your marriage. Because you’re stating the reasons she has, then downplaying or making excuses for how you left her unsupported while simultaneously admitting to doing so.
How would you feel if you uncovered she felt this way about you?
Change it naked. To respect her is to be honest with her.
You owe that to one another and have the adult, painful conversation. It will be painful but that is part of growth.
Maybe you will find a way back to one another or maybe you were only right for one another during this past time.
Respecting when she feels more stable may be nice but I think you know what you need to do.
The great irony is when you cave and she’s not gonna be child bearing. -that’s a made for movie situation I made up, but being off page this much with a partner that has “set up” goals even she can’t predict.
Is he always this unpleasant? You sleep apart out of consideration for him. And when caught out for something less than ideal on his phone, he goes on the attack? Oh, honey 🙁 Who knows what his motivation is here, but blame shifting and getting all up on his high horse about your wrongs and flaws sounds like he wants to be the victim, you to be at fault. It's either immature as eff or manipulative as eff, and neither is good.
And yet, I assume he makes time for sex.
First of all, DO NOT sleep with your girlfriend knowing you are positive. And if you do, I hope she sues you for assault. Second, you cheated once under the influence so there is no reason to believe you wouldn’t do it again. So come clean before she finds out from someone else and let her decide what she wants to do. Also, don’t worry too much about breaking her heart now. The deed has been done. That should have been your concern before you slept with Stacie.
“I was acquited of two rapes” isn’t anything anyone wants to hear.. especially when you are starting to date someone.
If the records show he is highly highly likely to be innocent (essentially set up) I wouldn’t worry as much. But I would talk about it with him. He’s likely telling you now because he sees a future with you.
BUT
if you think there’s a reasonable possibility he’s actually lying and the rapes happened over a larger time frame… then you need to decide if he is someone you trust or if he is not the person you thought he was.
I don’t see this as cut and dry and I think the devil is in the details. Good luck
Why don’t you…idk… stop giving her money/ your credit card? Seems like it’s pretty straightforward
Why don’t you…idk… stop giving her money/ your credit card? Seems like it’s pretty straightforward
So when he rapes you it will be your fault because you shouldn’t have done whatever you did to make him hate you. That’s basically what he’s saying. I’m willing to bet he has raped previous girlfriends and they are all ‘crazy’. JFC get away now!
and yet yours doesn't seem to be one of them. a 30 and a 35 year old dating is not the same as an 18 and 23 year old dating
You mean your ex-boyfriend right?
I'm also trying to figure out what your weight has to do with what he feels. Maybe I could wrap my head around it if you said you were 5 foot and weighed 450 or something but come on. 5 foot 3 and you weigh 155, no girl, that's a him problem.
I'm also a mouthy, sarcastic woman and I would tell him that if he was better in bed then maybe he'd feel something and maybe I would too.
You didn't do anything wrong. You don't need to do anything to fix the situation. It's now up to your girlfriend to decide whether she wants to have a relationship with you or not. She's way out of line to react like this.
I'm sorry but you were lied to and betrayed. Personally I could not continue a relationship with someone who is willing to lie by omission.
Thefe is no way she comes out of this looking good, she is still a cheater, if she didn't find you enough she should have said something or communicated with you but know, she went on hooking up with randos. Break it off. I hope you find someone who will find you enough.
Definitely seems like a sour grapes situation where they're jealous of you.
Ohh ok, sorry I was misreading that. It would be strange of her to file a police report over something she made up. Did she for sure file a report? Even if she was flirting at the bar with him if she was blacked then she was not able to consent. She didn’t necessarily have to be terrified of him the next morning, she might have been too confused and upset to really process much else. Why did her location say she was at her friend’s apartment still? It’s a little strange how much she has changed the story but I could see her considering not telling you out of shame. It’s odd that it apparently happened once before as well though. Not to say many women aren’t SA’d more than once but it could potentially point to a pattern of cheating or at least being fairly unsafe with her alcohol consumption (not to victim shame). I’m not really sure what to think. But I can see lying to some extent after SA.
I tried posting to r/sex first, but my post got deleted by the AutoModerator. I'll talk to him about including more toys in the bedroom.
Not everyone has a raging libido. If he is closer to asexual, then you're simply not compatible if frequent sex is a need for you.
Why don't you try talking about how often each of you is interested in having sex?
I'm in the process of growing my hair out right now and it looks… not great. Very “I want to speak to your manager” and my husband jokingly called me Karen. I just asked him to not call me that again and he realized the joke landed poorly, apologized, and said he would never do that again.
Your boyfriend on the other hand, is trying to deliberately hurt you. Why would you keep subjecting yourself to that? He's not joking. He's being a jerk to you. You deserve better.
An apology without changed behavior is manipulation.
I wish I had known that earlier, but it is what it is. Use that information however you feel best.
Honestly given how naked she worked to look innocent, how much she gaslit you about the entire situation – and how she was planning on meeting him one on one I now have really serious doubts that nothing happened.
Oh my god when I first started reading I just kept thinking “please like OP back, please like OP back” and by the end I had a massive grin on my face.
I think it's safe to say she likes you back ?
I get that thanks. Look at any article about “secrets of the porn industry” and you’ll see women in porn are all really small to make the dicks look bigger
They are though. Look at any article about “secrets of the porn industry” and you’ll see women in porn are all really small to make the dicks look bigger.
Why are you with someone you can't talk to? If you can't talk about your expectations and feel safe you're not with the right person.
Yes. There is clearly not enough context. He has known her for approx 4 years as the personal assistant. In what context would she not see him in such a long time, or get to know him personally enough, to warrant such a warm interaction.
The only thing I can think of is a leave of absence or a vacation. And I still have no explanation to that level of warmth between them. The boyfriend is failing to establish boundaries and the assistant likely sees it as a green light for flirting.
GIRL. NO. Do not get back together with this verbally abusive, boundary-disrespecting dumpster fire. YOU DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER. He will not change. The only thing that can change in this situation is your response. This time, don’t accept his apology, because you already know it’s lies.
He previously decided to stay and work it out?? LOL. What he means is he decided to keep his punching bag around because you were willing to stay. YOU DO NOT OWE HIM ANYTHING. You already gave him more than he deserved, first in putting up with his crap, then with being willing to try again. This time, WALK AWAY FOR GOOD.
The fact that she assumes you being there will ruin her night is a major problem. Why does she think that?
It's fine to want some time to socialize with friends without your partner, but after a year and a half there should have been at least ONE night where she brought you along with them because most people want to incorporate their long-term partner into their social circle. Did she not have a birthday celebration for herself at some point with friends?
Yea I paid for her hair, nails, open the door for her, gave her a massage and was taking her to dinner. Totally treat her like crap..
I love your Gram!
He's not struggling with it at all. This is just something that he doesn't want to do. He would do it begrudgingly when you ask, but consider this: when he's doing it, he does not want to. He's just performing and perhaps annoyed inside.
Now, can you stay with a person that absolutely doesn't want to do this for you? Do his other qualities compensate you for this need of yours that is not being met and that he will never meet on his own volition?
You feel sorry, what HELL for she was using your ASS from the start. She made you her HOE, here baby sit while go out and FUCK some who ain't doing SHIT for me.
Your ASS getting played and you feeling sorry for her. HELL MAN , she ain't even trying hide it, she just telling to put on some sunglasses and believe what she telling you.
You need to leave yesterday. Your husband is hsrming your son.
If you're working from home and living together, wouldn't you know if he was looking?
If he actually wants to start working again, he should be applying like it's his full-time job. If you're not even sure whether or not he's looking, that means he's not.