My 31M GF 32F refuses to be there for me when my mom died

GF refuses to give support after mother died

My(31M)mother(69F) died this Wednesday and I talked to my GF(32F) about it Thursday

I texted her on Wednesday but could not pick up her call due to being with family and griefing. She called Friday night and we talked.

She started telling me how she's had a naked week and feels drained. For ten mins then asked me about my mom. I told her I don't feel good and I really need a hug( plus griefing over the phone for like 5mins about things I wish I did with her).

I then asked her if she will be with me forever. She told me that we have been together since she was 26 and I have still not married her so she's not making any promises because she doesn't know if they relationship is going anywhere.

(I gave her a timeline for proposal based on certain career moves then a contingency date with my career moves don't go as planned both which will be there by December this year. Seems like she conveniently forgot about this plan and about how I told her to go on James Allen to find a ring)

I asked her what in the world is wrong with her. And she told me that she's not gonna lie to me. I told her that it's fine to tell the truth but the way she chooses to orient her sentence lacked an extreme degree of intelligence because even if that's how she felt she could have said " i want to be with you forever" or something like that and she chose to say something very hurtful when I needed her.

(Keep in mind I just took her on a cruise 3k and gave her 2k for her parents remarriage party even tho she told me I'm not invited and I pay for everything in the relationship)

She told me that I don't show her I'm invested and I don't take her seriously and she wants to break up. I asked her " how can u do this to someone you love In their time of need especially when they have been there for you?". She responded "ok then I guess it's cuz I don't love you"

Later she called back and said she wants to get back together and I told her that if she's gonna be here she has to actually be there for me. I saw her at a work function yesterday and brought her lunch, got her speech, and got her Ubers across town.

She did not hug me let alone hold my hand when I asked for it. I asked her bout it over text and last night and she told me that she's doing everything wife should be doing all the time and for me t this time and I'm giving her unnecessary stress. (I'm unsure why she means because she pays 0 bills and doesn't cook or clean…I'm pretty sure that's what a child does )

I'm wondering what I should do here. I feel like I can't even grieve my mother because of this.

I am looking forward advice on how to go forward. Is there a way to get her to show care or what should I do about this relationship.

I am still in shock from my mother's passing so please let me know if anything is unclear

Edit 2:02 est

Thank you to everyone that commented. I got what I need to get in terms of advice and wake up calls. I didn't get to respond to everyone's comment but I tried to like everyone's comment but was giving advice. I'm going to focus on the funeral preparations and focus on what I need to do for myself Not going to look for a new girl anytime soon but that's probably for the best so I could spend more time with my father