You haven't written how long you've been with him I think. And how long he was with his ex girlfriend.
I assume that the liked each other since they were just incompatible with something (I assume what they wanted for the future, sex needs ect).
I wouldn't necessarily think that he's still hung up on her because he opened the door for her and not you. I might just be a response in relation to the trauma, that he felt like he needed a person who either knew something related to the trauma or that knew him better. And she might know him better than you, if they were together for a long time and your relationship is fairly new. That doesn't mean she'll always know him better.
You say you and him have been talking about the trauma for the past 3 weeks so I assume he wants you to be his person since it's you he's talking to and opening up to. I think that it's a good idea next time you talk about his break down to bring up in a non confrontational way what made him want to be with her in that situation.
I mean, sheβs an adult?
You haven't written how long you've been with him I think. And how long he was with his ex girlfriend.
I assume that the liked each other since they were just incompatible with something (I assume what they wanted for the future, sex needs ect).
I wouldn't necessarily think that he's still hung up on her because he opened the door for her and not you. I might just be a response in relation to the trauma, that he felt like he needed a person who either knew something related to the trauma or that knew him better. And she might know him better than you, if they were together for a long time and your relationship is fairly new. That doesn't mean she'll always know him better.
You say you and him have been talking about the trauma for the past 3 weeks so I assume he wants you to be his person since it's you he's talking to and opening up to. I think that it's a good idea next time you talk about his break down to bring up in a non confrontational way what made him want to be with her in that situation.